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Okay, well i am 13 years old, and of course i'm a girl. i go out with this boy who is 16 years old, but we really do like each other. it may sound weird ; 3 year difference, but we really do care about each other. He changed my " havent made out yet " thing, cuz now we have like so many times. We care alot about each other, but him and his friend think that i should do more stuff with him. like fingering and all that. i mean i want to, but i dont want to have sex yet and shit. and im kinda scared and all to give him like a blow job and all. they also want me to smoke weed with them . IDK. and then my friends hate the fact that i go out with him, but i really do like him. what should i do ? thanks =]
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Well, if he really does care about you like he says he does, he won't make you do anything you don't want to do. If you don't want to do anything sexual with him, he should understand that your not ready. About the hole smoking weed deal, if he doesn't respect your thoughs about it, then he's not a good boyfriend. Maybe you should talk to him about everything and tell him your thoughts about doing sexual stuff and weed. Then, maybe he'll understand. But if he doesn't and he trys to change your thoughts on it and makes you do something you don't want to do, dump him. You can find way better guys out there.
♥ Krissy
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well hes not the kind of person you want to loose those things to, tell him you want to wait, he shouldbe ok with it, if hes not then you need to relise that he wants to do sutff with you and outter feeling arent all there... make sure you keep your eyes open onwhat hes doing becuase he may be using you for other things.. i kno you may think you know himbut be careful!
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You're with him cuz you love him, right? OR at least care about him, right? Do what YOU feel is right to show him that you care. That doesn't meaning sucking him off and blazin with him, though. Do what's in YOUR compfort level (i.e if kissing is as far as you wanna go then stay there, dont be pressured into doing that other shyt...)
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My boyfriend is 2 years older than me. We have a really special bond, so I belive its possible that you two really like eachother. But if he cares about you, he won't pressure you or listen to his friends. These are the types of situations that test your values and morals and strength as a person. Be strong. Don't have sex, or oral sex for that matter because you don't want to and are only 13 years old. He is more mature and at his sexual peak. He chose you, knowing your age, so he has to deal with the consequences of you not being ready. It's up to you but I think you know not do smoke weed or go further sexually. ♥
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Ok first, you aren't obligated to do anything with him if you aren't comfortable. You are completely right to think that you are too young to do anything with this guy. You may think you care for him and for all I know you could actually have something.. But seriously you should think about your priorities and about if you want to waste your life as an underaged mother and a stoner..
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i think that he shouldnt presure you!tell him to stop pressuring you. If you want to do things later that should be both of you's choice!
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Listen. you want to do these things? ok well then do them. when it comes to sex if you arent ready. tell him. he is 16 and knowing a guy of that age he probably has been shot down many times before. just tell him you want to do stuff with him and alla that just not sex. because you arent ready to make such a big risk. and if you WANT to smoke weed with them go ahead and do it. its a decision your going to have to make on your own. nothing we say can help you honestly. if you both care about each other as much as you do then im sure u can talk to him about it. please rate. xoxo not so confused
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its peer presure..i think thats how you spell it, but it sounds like you dont want to do it and that all he wants to do it get in your pants...but thats my opinion..go as far as you want..but dont do it if you dont want to..your friends are nice because they care about you..i also think that your to young to date a 16yr..but its you not me
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He's pressuring you to do things you don't want to do. If he wants you to smoke weed and all that other stuff it'll ruin your life. Sure, you might not think so now but just wait until you get addicted and your grades stop dropping and you lose all your friends. Even if you really like him, if you do these things it'll seriously ruin your life. You can tell him you dont want to do that stuff but if him and his friends keep pressuring you into doing those things then he's not worth your time.
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Honestly, if he is pressuring into that kind of stuff, it sounds like he is only with you for sex. Guys can be pretty decieving sometimes. They can make you feel like the most beautiful, special, best person in the world. They can convince you that they are in love with you and lift you off your feet. Guys are pretty good at making you think all this, even when they don't REALLY mean it. If you don't feel comfortable doing something, DON'T LET HIM PRESSURE YOU INTO ANYTHING!!! If I were you, I would break it off with this guy because he could only mean trouble. I know you may care for him, but in the long run, it will be for the better, and you will be glad you ended it.
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You shouldnt have to do anything you dont want to do...especially if it has to do with sex or smoke weed. My friend is 13 that has a bf thats 15 and if she didnt want to do something...he wouldnt make her. that should apply to you and your bf too...maybe he
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HES USING YOU. Im 16 I know guys minds. I told my bf i dont want to do anything not even make out and hes like okay. (we do do stuff) When I say I dont want to do something he wont even ask why. Now that is love. Notsome guy pressuring you. Your just going to get a reputation as a slut. Your 13 you shouldn't be doing anything but making out. Guys respect you more when you dont do anything. I know i wish all i had done is made out but i have done other stuff and i regret it. You will too. Dont be pressured.
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I think that it is nice that you two love each other. But is it love really? I mean, if he really does love you, then he wouldn't be trying to make you to smoke weed now would he? Talk to him about it. Since I myself am 13, I know that sex is WAY too far for you. Fingering, I think, is alright, but it also depends where you are touching each other. If he touches you somewhere you feel uncomfortable, tell him. I know this might sound hard, but its for your own protection. Trust me, I know what I am talking about. We don't want him to think that you are bringing him on. Once you talk to him about it, if he doesn't agree with it, then he was just using you. Hopefully, you won't get hurt and he'll understand. Then, and only then, you know whether or not he really does like you. About your friends, try talking to them. Ask them why they don't hate him so much. I'm sure they are just jealous.
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I think that you shouldn't do anything you dont want to. If this boy is "prince charming" then he should also have respect for your descisions** and not make you do anything your not sure of. Your still YOUNG and if this boy is gonna force you to make the choices then maybe he's tooo old for you at 13! You have to respect your friends desicions because you know what ususally happens to all these young girls who think they have found their future husband...they get there hearts broken. Its unfortunate but its the truth. Just make the right choices and dont worry about what he thinks... do what you feel is right!!
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I think that your friends dont like him because hes changing you and your changing your ways for him. If you really want to do that stuff for you not just to impress him then do it. If you don't want to do it then tell him you dont if he gets mad or breaks-up with you then he was just using you for a piece of ass. None of us can make the decision for you but thats my opinion and i dont think the 3 year difference matters. GOod LucK!
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okay 3 years difference isn't like totally bizarre i mean i have went out w 16 year olds too but i mean if you wanta take it to the next step like fingering and what not i say its up to you like are you ready. dont feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to do and if your boyfriend cared he'd wait too i mean what more does he want? well wait forget i asked that question lol but why does your friends hate the fact that your going ot w/ him becuase i mean he hasn't done anything to them i think but don't do anything you don't want to just becuase someone else is doing it and think its cool. well good luck and i hope i helped you out a bit!
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