Member Since: July 29, 2004
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Last Update: January 10, 2005
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if you have oral sex, or your boyfriend/girlfriend has done anything sexual to you besides sex, is it a sin? (link)
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depends.
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Somethimes i feel like my boyfriend is only with me to get booty . I dont know what to do cause I really love him and I dont know if I should tell him how I feel. Please Help!!!!!! (link)
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WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T JUMP INTO CONCLUSIONS! If you like him, don't dump him or anything until you find out that what you think is true. Don't let him do some of the things he wants to do to you or with you and if he really does like you, then he will stay, but if not, then he is a bastard.
Good Luck,
obabisocute
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Okay, well i am 13 years old, and of course i'm a girl. i go out with this boy who is 16 years old, but we really do like each other. it may sound weird ; 3 year difference, but we really do care about each other. He changed my " havent made out yet " thing, cuz now we have like so many times. We care alot about each other, but him and his friend think that i should do more stuff with him. like fingering and all that. i mean i want to, but i dont want to have sex yet and shit. and im kinda scared and all to give him like a blow job and all. they also want me to smoke weed with them . IDK. and then my friends hate the fact that i go out with him, but i really do like him. what should i do ? thanks =] (link)
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I think that it is nice that you two love each other. But is it love really? I mean, if he really does love you, then he wouldn't be trying to make you to smoke weed now would he? Talk to him about it. Since I myself am 13, I know that sex is WAY too far for you. Fingering, I think, is alright, but it also depends where you are touching each other. If he touches you somewhere you feel uncomfortable, tell him. I know this might sound hard, but its for your own protection. Trust me, I know what I am talking about. We don't want him to think that you are bringing him on. Once you talk to him about it, if he doesn't agree with it, then he was just using you. Hopefully, you won't get hurt and he'll understand. Then, and only then, you know whether or not he really does like you. About your friends, try talking to them. Ask them why they don't hate him so much. I'm sure they are just jealous.
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my girlfriend is amazing. i am truely honestly blessed to be with her, she is so perfect. the problem is sometimes we get in arguements over really stupid stupid shit, and when we do i feel so extremely guilty and torn up because she is so nice and sweet, she never deserves to be hurt. i know all relationships have things that need to be overcome, but i just cant take it when i hurt this girl. she is so sweet and great to be with, and she would never hurt anyone. how do i make myself feel less guilty about it? (link)
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I know this may sound corny, but just try avoiding fighting over stupid things. It sounds like you guys have a wonderful relationship and yu should consider yourself lucky.
-obabisocute
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Last yr my bf cheated on me 3 times so i broke up wit him. Yesterday he asked me bak out and i said yes because i have liked him all summer.But i am afraid of him cheating on me again or breaking up wit me way too soon like he used to. Please help me what should i do? (link)
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It is a good thing that you gave him a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance. The way you can tell if he's cheating on you is if he does the following:
1)Spends too much time with the "guys" and not enough time with you.
2)He starts saying he thinks that you are cheating on him (guilty)
3)Never calls,IMs, or emails you.
BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY...
4)If he starts wearing turtlenecks or scarfs even though it's 100 degrees outside (you know what that means.)
Hope he has changed,
-obabisocute
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im in a dilimma right now! ive liked this boy for a long time now, and i was sure we were becoming closer. one day my friend mal was IMing me and said she knew who i liked (even though i never told her)... she was right with her guess. then she said i have some bad news, she liked him too. but she was sure he liked her as more than a friend. it caused a great gap in our friendship and it was a hard time for me. a little while later, mal said she didnt like him anymore and that she liked her old crush again. this made me feel soooo much better! but today, she had told me the boy i had liked was online and asked me if i still liked him... this made me wonder if he had asked her to ask me (if you know what i mean)... well, i guess not because she came out and said that she likes him again. and was being really suspicious by sending me the beginning of their AIM conversation and the end which confused me. it began as just "hey" and "hey" but ended up as .. "best friends forever!" and him saying "you know it". now she's mad at me because she thinks i overreacted for asking her what happened in the conversation. im not sure who is fighting who here, me and mal, or me and my love life. any advice at all would be helpful! (link)
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This is the most common problem that most people have. If you have been friends with this friend of yours for a long time, then it's not worth fighting over a guy like that. But if you're just recently friends then that just proves how much of a friend she really is. To answer your question,that fight has nothing to do with you. Your friend is just trying to compete with you and trying to get to him before you do. Why don't you try asking her why is acting this way. If she keeps giving you that cold shoulder, then I guess you should try making more and better friends. There are plenty girls out there who I bet will be the genuine best friend.
Let me know how it works out. GOOD LUCK!
-obabisocute
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I am 18/f...and i have been really confused lately about my ex boyfriend (which is still my best friend). We were best friends for 5 years before we started dating..and we were on and off for about a year and a half. He was my first serious relationship. I am very much in love with him but we had to break up because he moved 2 hours away for college. We both still have feelings for each other and we agreed that when we are located closer together again we will probably get back together. My problem is that he is looking to date other people, and he thinks i should do the same, but i just cant get him out of the picture and i dont want him out of the picture. He is the only person i really want to be with. How am i supposed to handle this? I cant like other people when i am still in love with him, and i know i am just going to be extremely jealous when he starts dating if i dont have any one. Does anyone have suggestions on what i should do to move on or meet new people or whatever! I just need help. (link)
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Why don't you just try telling him what you really think? If he really does love you back like he claims to, then he'll understand. Just remember that distance doesn't make a difference. What makes a difference is love. That is what makes a huge impact in life. LOVE.
Tell me how it works out,
-obabisocute
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I got my first period over a year ago, July 2003. I have gotten 4-6 periods when i should have had 12. i go long periods of time without getting a period. Like I got one in December and my next one was in March. I have one like every 3-4 months and what really sux about it is that when i actually do get them its not the same day of the month. My first one was on the 1st but i've gotten them anytime of the month. Im really skinny and some ppl say if u dont have alot of body fat it messes up ur periods.. is that true?
thanx... kt (link)
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Dear KT,
It is true that being overweight or being too skinny can affect that way your monthly period works. Try speaking to a doctor about your problems. Or you can try eating a bit more, but make sure it is healthy. If that doesn't work, then find out if it maybe runs in your family.
Best of wishes,
-obabisocute
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Hi i have a gf and her 16th birthday is coming up soon and i have no clue what to get her.. I was thinking like a necklace with a heart on it... Do u have any suggestions? (link)
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I think that a necklace with a heart would be wonderful. But just remember that as long as she knows that you really do love her, it doesn't matter what you give her. You know better than I do (in fact, I don't know her at all) so you'll know what kind of stuff she likes. If you are still unsure, try asking her parents or friends. Considering that I am a girl myself, I know that she must have told her friends what she wants you to give her for her 16th birthday.
Good Luck!!
-obabisocute
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What do i do...theres this guy whos one yr older than me and he is the most gorgeaus guy ever! but he likes this grl who doesn't like him (i've talked to her about it) and i rlly like him...b/c theres more to him other than his good looks...i want him to be mine rlly badly but i dun know how to tell him b/c he might think im stupid...how do i tell him how i feel...help me!! i rlly like him (link)
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Dear this guy,
Just go and ask him! If he really is as gorgeous as you say, he's probably used to having girls asking him out. Either he'll mumble something stupid (in which case you'll know he's not attracted to you) or he'll say something like "I didn't think you'd be intersted!" and then you'll know your answer either way.
Good Luck!
-obabisocute
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Okay-- there is this kid.. who liked me for about a year now. Every time he's signing off. .he says *iloveyou* an if i dont say it back, he gets all pissed and says stuff liek "Wat you dont love me anymore" so then i feel like i have to. Cuz one time, he cut himself because he heard that i had started to like someone else. hes one of my best friends.. but idont want anything more. And i reallly REALLY dont want to hurt him. .. help.
~ dont wanna *love* (link)
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Dear don't wanna,
As you may know you are in a tough position, but if you think about it, you really do love him. But no in a romantically way. If he is one of your best friends so technically you're not lying to him. To answer your question, tell him the truth. Tell him what I just told you. Tell him that one day he will find someone who will lovw him for who he really is and that'll be his true love. Then offer to help him search, but remind him that true love can be found it the weirdest of places!
Good Luck and let me know how it goes!
-Oreo
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