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Okay-- there is this kid.. who liked me for about a year now. Every time he's signing off. .he says *iloveyou* an if i dont say it back, he gets all pissed and says stuff liek "Wat you dont love me anymore" so then i feel like i have to. Cuz one time, he cut himself because he heard that i had started to like someone else. hes one of my best friends.. but idont want anything more. And i reallly REALLY dont want to hurt him. .. help.
~ dont wanna *love*
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tell him you dont have to say it if you dont want to!!!! kid sounds like a psycho...
*jesikuh
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Hmm... your in a really tough spot here. You know that you do love him for being ur friend, its just u dont *lovelove* him. And thats ok. this is not ur fualt, just try and tell him u only love him as a friend nothing more. And for ur friend, if he is cutting himself because of it, he needs to get some help. *Jennifer*
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Even if you dont "love love" the guy you can always love him for being one of your best friends. You should try explaining to him that when you tell him you love him you mean that you love him as a person and as a dear close friend to you that you would never intentionally try to hurt. If he continues to cut himself then maybe that isn't a relationship that you need to be in because it's quite forceful and putting you in a position you don't want to be in. Also, you need to try and tell someone about it so that he can get help =) it is the best way to look out for his best interest I promise.
-Klepp
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Dear don't wanna,
As you may know you are in a tough position, but if you think about it, you really do love him. But no in a romantically way. If he is one of your best friends so technically you're not lying to him. To answer your question, tell him the truth. Tell him what I just told you. Tell him that one day he will find someone who will lovw him for who he really is and that'll be his true love. Then offer to help him search, but remind him that true love can be found it the weirdest of places!
Good Luck and let me know how it goes!
-Oreo
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ahh this is kinda tough..well if hes guna hurt him self maybe ttrry and tell him u only love him as a friend and u dont want anything between u to change and u never want him to hurt himself..and if he cared for u(which it sounds) then he would understand that he is kinda keeping you from seeing other people...hope i helped..goodluck
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you shouldn't feel guilty for not liking somebody back - it's not your fault that he does this to himself, that is not the normal way for people to deal with disappointment (he needs help) try saying i luv ya or something a little less serious next time
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So dnot love him. You dont have to love him. You are fine. Its that kid who needs help.
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wow thats a toughy. so your saying if you tell him you don't like him he'll cut himself? don't tell him you like don't like him b/c then he might physically hurt himself, but just keep saying i love you b/c you love him as a friend, ask him if he still likes you. one time i made myself look really bad towards someone who liked me, maybe you can do that, but if he's liked you for a year then he might not let go <33 Good Luck! Hope I helped!
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