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im 15 and a guy...i work out and all..and i dont excaclt yhave a six pack..but im not fat...and im self consious about my moles...i have a lot of them...and my nipples hang out a bit too...do people notice these things a lot?

coming from a girl, if you're not fat then whether or not u have a six pack and whatever isn't a big issue (of course it's an added bonus tho lol) but to be honest, nobody is perfect and girls actually like when guys are flawed because it makes them realize that they don't have to be perfect either!! besides, a good personality can make any guy more attractive!

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Lately i have been sad all the time im never happy anymore im always mad and sreaming or sad aand crying.. why im i like this all of a sudden..

sometimes ppl get in funks and it takes the right thing to get them out...like i know sometimes if i'm in one of those moods, the right person has to say the right thing and then i feel fine again - it helps to write things down in a journal or something, or just tell someone who is close to you how you're feeling ~ they can probably relate!!

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I'm a girl, freshman in highschool- my group of friends at school do all sorts of things almost every weekend- and I've never been invited once. I'm tired of wondering every Friday if thier making plans, and hoping I get invited. I'm sick of everytime it's one of their birthdays having to sneak around to find out wether or not their having a party, because I KNOW I'm not going to get invited.

Here's the thing, though- I go to a very small school, less than 50 students in my intire grade and so it's not like I can just ditch them and find new friends.

What can I do?

be the one to suggest an idea of something fun to do or make your own plans with other people - they might become jealous and want to be included...or they may not even be leaving u out on purpose -- ask them about it upfront (and i doubt they'll say no to ur face even if it was intentional) good luck!

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what are some ways to show your significant other that you really care about them thats not sexual or extreme?

tell them!! tell them why they are important to u and what u appreciate about them

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Hello all,I'm new to this site and I need advice so I'm hoping you guys on here can be helpful. Here is my story..

Me and this girl (I'll call her Mallory) have been talking for about a month now. She asked me to go with her to her homecoming dance next weekend (we attend different schools). Well,I told her yeah until I found out who was gonna be there. This guy I have alot of beef with will be there,and I know all he's gonna do is start mess and try to get me to fight him. I'm not gonna fight him at the Homecoming dance because I don't wanna get arrested plus that'll just make both of us look low life. Besides that,she goes to a private school which means alot of preppy people will be there. All in all,I really don't want to go,but I already told her yes. What should I do?

ask her if she knows the guy you're talking about and explain that you 2 don't get along 2 well...but that shouldn't make you not want to go ~ just avoid him, and if he comes to u then be like : look, all i'm trying to do is enjoy a dance with my date...

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Alright im a guy (16)
Homecoming dance is in two weeks, but this year the girls are suposed to ask the guys.. Soooo this girl who i like a lot hadn't asked me yet, so i said yes to a good friend of mine who didnt have a date. Then the next night on the phone the girl who I really liked asked me, and i had to say no because i didnt want to ditch my friend. What can i do???

explain to the girl why you turned her down, but go with your friend so that you aren't being rude...you can still spend time with the girl you like and dance with her and stuff, just don't completely ignore the girl you are with

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my mom recently found out ive been cutting and now she questions me about it all the time and i just want her to leave me alone along with anyone else who questions cuts on my wrists or me wearing a wristband over them. what should i do??? please help!!

they are just concerned and you should realize that this isn't a healthy habit and try to stop

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This boy has liked me for a while and he asked me out about 2 weeks ago. I told him I'd give him an answer soon because i needed to think about it. And I really did need to think about it. Well I told him I'd give him an answer by his birthday which is in a few days. I really don't know if I like him or not. I love his personality but he doesnt really have good looks and I dont care wat anyone says, you do need physical attraction in a relationship. Plus he smells kinda weird lol and none of my friends like him. But the big think is I just dont know if I have feelings for him like that AND his birthdays coming up... Wat should I say to him? should I go out with him or not ?

don't go out with him just cuz of his birthday because that's completely fake and dishonest and he'll just fall harder when he falls...it doesn't sound to me like you're comfortable being with him, so just tell him that you've decided you aren't ready for a relationship right now or you have someone else in mind

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I am a theater freak. Recently I tried out for the play 'Aladdin'. But, I found out today I didn't get the part I want, and I got a small part instead. All my friends got cool parts like the Genie, Aladdin, Jasmine, the main parts. I feel really rejecting, I've never got rejected from a part I wanted before...

hang in there, there will be other opportunities and maybe the kind of part you play well just wasn't the type that Aladdin features...don't give up, just have fun with your small part -- if it weren't for the small parts, the play wouldn't be half as good ~ they're important 2!

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im 14..female and i weigh 124 lbs...i hav curves definatly...well im nto happy with my body..i want to be size 00 and small...all the guys like small gurls..i look like a cow in a bathing suit and am starting to get cellulate on thighs/butt...i feel fat in anything i wear now...my point is is that im thinkin about going annorexic...bc i have a really pretty face and a ugly body if i go annorexic i will be pretty...maybe not full blown annorexic..but like not alot of food...a little bites here and there...but not alot @ all...and not makeing myself throw up..just not eating....how soon do u think i will lose weight...plz dont say "dont do this blah blah" bc i just want to know how much weight do u think i will lose in 2wks? plz answer that ?!!

try a less severe diet...anorexic is a big term and it describes someone with a DISORDER...it's much healthier to diet safely because if you don't then you're body is missing necessary nutrients - you're hair will fall out and you may faint and stuff like that...i lost 6 pounds on a normal diet in just the first week, so it can be done!! don't resort to an eating disorder!!!!

and if you want to rate me bad for giving you the best advice that i can give then be my guest, but i'm just trying to help

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okay i like this guy and he likes me. well the other day he asked me out and i said yes but 2 days after, were already broken up ! he said he needs to get to know me better and i totally agree no hard feelings there but what i dont get is why cant we get to know each other by going out? i asked y he even bothered to ask me out if he felt like that nd he said "i wanted to at the time, but i think i wanna get to know you better" or does he not want to go out and thats why he said that, but like after that hes like i still like u but i jus wanna get to know u better maybe wen school starts. and the day after i seen him at the movies and i waved and smiled--so did he and i knew i liked him alot. do you think we eventually will go back out ? or do you think he jus doesnt like me even though he said he did ..

since he already knows that you like him and are willing to go out with him, the best thing you can do is be patient and hopefully he'll come around! he may just want going out to be a more gradual thing

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how can i tell if my boyfriends wants to kiss me? also, im a lil scared cause ive never kissed anyone beforE!

he might make a comment or even ask you if it's okay, but just be ready if you're ever sitting/standing close to each other...let him make the move, and don't do nething til you're sure he's gonna kiss you so that you don't look stupid...just go with it and you'll be fine - i mean, you've seen enough movies and ppl kissing to kno how to do it! fake confidance and you'll fool everyone into thinking you're experienced!! good luck mwah ;)

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Okay, this might sound stupid but here it goes: My friend is obsessed with the fact that I have a lot in common with her boyfriend. Whenever she brings up the subject, she'll call him and ask both of us what things we like, and if we say the same thing she'll scream and say that we're going to fall "madly in love." I've told her hundreds of times that he's going out with HER, and he obviously LIKES her! I've spoken to her b/f once, and I don't like him that way, but she's obsessing that he's going to break up with her for me.. whom he's never even met. She's mad that she has NOTHING in common with this guy, and that I do, and I don't want to lose her as a friend.. and she won't listen to anything I say!

Sorry for the long post, but any ideas on what I should do?

tell her opposites attract and this way they have more to learn about each other...two ppl with a whole lot in common are normally just good friends

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does anyone know any good "best friend" songs or like friend songs.. something along the lines of that.. if you do can you give me the singer and title of the song.. thanks

-Stand by me (ben king)
-Lean on me
-That's what friends are for
-With a little help from my friends
-Growing pains theme song: As long as we got each other
-You've got a friend in me
...sorry i don't kno who sings them all

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i want a pet tht is easy 2 take care of nd not 2 much wrk wut should i get?????

a fish - all you do is feed them...anything that stays in a cage so it won't mess up the house ~ hampsters, gerbils, guinea pigs...

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Hey I have to get braces in about a month and Im really scared cause I cant imagine having metal on my teeth lol. I just wanted to know from 1-10 how bad it hurts and how long about do people have them on?

when i first got my braces the doctor didn't tighten them so maybe ask if your dentist will do that so u can just get used to having the metal on your teeth...you'll get used to them - if they hurt you can take tyenol and stuff and eat mushy foods; they'll give you wax to cover the metal in case it bothers the inside of your mouth, and they'll tell you what not to eat and stuff.....i had mine on for only a year and a half but i kno 2 ppl who had them taken off and then put back on cuz their teeth moved! eekk lol but i doubt that will happen to you!...have fun pickin the colors lol

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Alright well first of all.. I'm 16/female.. if you needed that info to help me out or whatever

Well.. last night I was over at my friend caitlin's house and we got bored so we walked around the corner and met up with some friends(rachel,chrus,anthony,katie) and we were hangin out talkin and what not.. and then we decided to walk back to rachels house.. so we're walkin and talkin and I'm a smart ass.. and someone said somethin stupid so i made a remark about it.. ya know? but chris stares at me and laughs.. like nto staring bad way.. just staring.. but yeah.. then we're back at rachels and chris wanted to swim so he strips down to his boxers and jumps in.. hah it was cute.. but anywhos.. the whole time when we're all sittin out there talkin I would look over and catch chris lookin at me.. I mean it feels like there's somethin there.. but I don't know.. I mean.. he's an awesome kid.. I'd like for there to be somethin there but I don't know.. I mean he's a grade younger than me.. but he's not immature and sldflk I don't know.. I wanna get to know him better to see if there is something there and everything.. but he's not one of the people that I hang out with all the time.. so what do i do?

Thanks a bunch

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Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:

I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." That day I came home and started crying. I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer.

it seems to me that it might not be an easy habit for him to break and u'll really have to use your own judgment on whether he's sincere or not but i'd suggest that in order to find out maybe you can be like "if you like me so much, then let's start out as friends but you can't be with other girls if you really want something to happen between us" and move slow - let him kno that if he blows it, it's over!! if he's really into you then he'll be willing to put aside the other girls in order to get you!! good luck

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idk if this is the rite category but there really isnt one for it.. i have a trampoline and i was wondering how to do like a flip a back flip and other tricks so pretty much..
1) how do u do a backflip?
2) how do u do a front flip?
3) any other fun tricks to do on it?
thanks! aim: takemeaway032

you can do brannies(spelling?) = no handed roundoffs
also, it's fun to just jump high and drop onto your back and bounce back and when you do that at the same time as someone else somebody normally steals the bounce and goes really high!! lol but be careful ;)...on learning how to do it all, i suggest starting with a backhandspring first for back flips and then getting more height and not touching your hands...try not to twist in the air by accident cuz u can hurt yourself that way by becoming lost in the air and stuff......go up and not out! good luck and have fun...don't get hurt!

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my name is carly and im 13. i really like my friend "bob". over the summer we were like best friends we hung out a lot.. and we went out twice. the first time we were going out he broke up with me cause he thought i liked another guy. so i told him i never liked any other boys a few days after we broke up and we went out again. but the second time we went out things were getting too serious, like he said he was in love with me? and i wasnt ready for that.. i was really scared. so i broke up with him. but now i think i made a mistake. i've hinted around that i like him again and he doesnt even seem to care.. i think i really hurt his feelings. now he doesnt even say hi to me at school or anything.. we even walked out of the door at the same time and neither of us said a word to each other! i havent told very many people but im like crazy about him! im like missing him all the time and i never talk to him cause hes never online anymore. everything reminds me of him too! what should i do? i really need advice so if you could help me out that'd be great!! (sorry this is so long) xoxo -*carlycakes!!

sry this took so long to answer - i was away!!

i understand how him saying he loved you on the second date could be a little much, especially since you're only thirteen!! try tellin him why you reacted the way you did and tell him that you're new to this whole thing...you shouldn't be completely committed to each other at such a young age! move slow ~ start by being friends again...

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