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Okay, this might sound stupid but here it goes: My friend is obsessed with the fact that I have a lot in common with her boyfriend. Whenever she brings up the subject, she'll call him and ask both of us what things we like, and if we say the same thing she'll scream and say that we're going to fall "madly in love." I've told her hundreds of times that he's going out with HER, and he obviously LIKES her! I've spoken to her b/f once, and I don't like him that way, but she's obsessing that he's going to break up with her for me.. whom he's never even met. She's mad that she has NOTHING in common with this guy, and that I do, and I don't want to lose her as a friend.. and she won't listen to anything I say!
Sorry for the long post, but any ideas on what I should do?
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Her concerns come from her own insecurities and really have nothing to do with you. You may want to point out to her that if she keeps obsessing over this, then she's not investing the time in her relationship like she should. Her boyfriend may get tired of it, and end the relationship. Maybe she should spend more time trying to find the things that they have in common, rather than obsessing over the things that you have in common with him.
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Wow, you're friends taking this stuff way too far. If you've never even met the guy tell her she has nothing to worry about... that you don't even know him and you don't want to go out with him. He likes her and he's going out with her. Maybe your friend and this guy should have a talk about it all. If she keeps this up she IS going to lose her boyfriend soon! Hope I helped! Drop one in my inbox if you need any more help!
Love, RacheL
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tell her opposites attract and this way they have more to learn about each other...two ppl with a whole lot in common are normally just good friends
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Just keep doing what you are doing, reassuring her that you aren't interested and your sure he isn't either. Hopefully if you repeat it often enough, she'll believe you. It might be worth trying to get to the bottom of why she's worrying - does she have low self-esteem and not believe she's worthy of her boyfriend, or does she not trust him to stay with her? Try talking to her about why she's so worried and hopefully this will both help her sort out her own head and take the focus of you and back on to her and her worries. Good luck!
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most guys wouldnt really want to go out with a girl that is exactly like them. your friend really has nothing to worry about jsut tell her that.
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hahah i feel for you its kinda like that with my friend but the opposite see she was goin out with this guy and i became good friends with him *me and her are best friends anyway lol* so yea and we do have a lot in common now see since they broke up she thinks he likes me now its total chaos haha but everyone thinks i like his soooooooooooooooooo yea lol! well all i can say is prove to her that u dont or idk lol
sorry
good luckers!!!
B
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umm... not to be rude... but your friend is a retard? how could her bf possibly want you if he desnt even know you. so what if you guys have the same things in common, alot of total strangers ahve the same things in common. she is over reacting big time. tell her to chill out, your her friend and you would never do that to her and you know how much she likes him. so she can just stop getting pissed about nothing.
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Explain to her that first of all she's being silly because you've never met him and you have no intention of doing so unless she wants you to. Ponit out to her that you've never done anything that would lead to the two of you going out. You value her friendship a lot and you wouldn't do anything to jeopardize it, you're actually trying to save it right now. Though talking to her boyfriend again might not be the best idea, but if you do, you might want to suggest to him to bring up the matter with her. If she needs reassuring maybe it's better if she gets it from both sides.
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well tell ur friend that opposites attract:) andd tell her u've never even met the guy soo she can chill outt! lol
*jesikuh
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tell her you think she's being stupid. or tell her that you two have so much in common cuz she likes people that are like you two or something like that.
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