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i wanna loose some weight or just tone up some areas: thighs, lower stomach/abs, and my butt.

what are some exercises that will tone up these areas?

thanksss

Most people would tell you to do situps, crunches, and that sort of thing. If you want to tone your body, those are great. It'll make your muscles tighter and stronger.
If you're actually looking to lose weight, you need to do aerobic exercises. I'd recommend jump roping. You can't jump rope for two minutes and stop though. During the first few minutes of the exercise, the body is only burning regular calories. After awhile, it'll start burning the fat calories (thighs, abs, butt). You just need to do it long enough, like 25 minutes or so. After a few days you should start seeing results.
You should do this especially if you want to lose weight around your stomach. Still do crunches, because it'll tighten up the muscle. All the fat around your stomach is on TOP of the muscle, which is the reason why it's so hard to lose weight there. And that's where aerobic exercise comes in.
Sorry it's long, but I hope i helped!

Ok so I'm taking a birth control called reclipsen....and so far i took it for a month and a week.....well the first month it made my stomach hurt pretty much the whole time until i got my period...so im guessing thats a side effect....but when it came to the sugar pills i only took three of them...for the week and didnt take the other ones...that doesnt effect the prevention right? I did start on the pill once that week was over... but im kind of bad at remembering to take my pill.....but ive either taken it as soon as i remembered or two the next day...so am i fully protected?

You don't have to take any of the sugar pills. They're just there to remind you to keep taking them. If you don't remember to take your pill, you are NOT fully protected. Even taking it a few hours after the normal time may cause you to get your period.
You have to take your pills at the same time, every day. I used to take them to regulate my period. I would put them on my bathroom sink so I remembered to take them after I brushed my teeth every night.
Hope this helped!

how do you kiss
do you suck as your kissing or what all do you do please detailed
dont say it will come naturally please

It all depends on the person.
Some people will suck the bottom lip or bite it gently, to make it more seductive. Don't hold your breath, breathe gently through your nose.
Also, don't wet your lips too much beforehand. Trust me, they'll get wet lol.
You'll get the hang of it.

I am currently a sophomore, and i'm looking for ways to "bulk up" my college application...b/c i dont really have much for it. Can anyone tell me the name of a good organization or internship kind of program. Does anyone have the name of a good organization that i can intern for? or do volunteer work for? But i would want like a long term kind of program (not one that i only go to for one day and then i'm done).

if anyone has ANY suggestions, i would greatly appreciate them.

Thanks so much!!!

One of the biggest things colleges look for is volunteer work. Right now, I'm raising money to go to Jamaica and Africa this summer to volunteer. You may not be able to travel that far, but if you can just search for teen volunteer programs online. You could also volunteer at a local hospital or medical center. They're always looking for work.
Your school also probably has NHS (National Honors Society). I think you need a 3.5 GPA to get into it, but they also do a lot of volunteer work. NHS is AMAZING for college applications.
Honestly, just joining clubs is a great way to stand out to colleges. If your school has a student run newspaper or magazine they put out, you could try joining that.
Also try to take as many electives as you can. I took Photography and Sociology this year, and next year I'm taking AP Psychology. Colleges look for dedicated students.
As for internships, I'm not sure of any good ones. It just depends on what you're interested in. Try googling internships in your area. For example, "Fashion internships in Orlando," or "Student internships in Boston," etc.
If you want to volunteer, I'd strongly suggest you call the hospital or talk to them in person and find out about volunteer work. Since you'd just be volunteering, they'd give you a flexible schedule.
Hope this helped!

I know it sounds really lame, but I realy do! I don't know if he likes me back, my friends say he does, and he's really protective of me, but I'm too scared to ruin our relationship to do anything! Somebody please help me!

I've been in love with my best friend for three and a half years. I didn't want to tell him because I didn't know if he felt the same way and I didn't want to ruin our friendship. Then about three months ago I just kissed him. Turns out, he likes me too. He has since the day we met but was too afraid to do anything.
My point is, you have to take the chance. You could go years wishing you told him how you felt. If he doesn't like you, but he's really that great of a friend, he'll probably just pretend like you never said anything. So go for it. =] Things might work out between you. It did for me, and I've never been happier.

16/f. my religion tells us not to have sex until we are married, and i plan on sticking to that. im possibly going to a get a boyfriend soon though, and i dont know how to tell him that im waiting. what are some excuses of why i cant have sex with him besides my religion and i dont want to?

I'm 16/f also and I have the same views on sex and religion as you do. If a guy isn't willing to wait, then he's not right for you. He should be accepting of your choice and not try to change your mind. Basically, if he loves you, he'll be willing to wait.
Just tell him you're a virgin and planning to wait until you're married to have sex. If he's OK with that, then great, and if not, then lose him. He's not the guy for you.
Hope I helped!

My friend (17) and I (17) want to go to get birth control. I have been reading on here and on plannedparenthood.com about the different kinds and the exam and all that good stuff. But I have found contradictory statements. How much money should my friend and I bring each for the total amount?

I actually didn't get birth control from planned parenthood. I got a prescription for 6 months from my doctor, and I went to a Jewel, and it was only two dollars for my first set of pills. I think it increases as the months go by, but not by that much.

im only 10 but i rely like this guy its not just child love its what i realy think can grow into something big we see eachother almost every day and i know he likes me but how do i get him to say it to me though and how to get him to ask me out.

Well, first off, I'm glad you think you really love this guy. That's rare nowadays, especially at such a young age. Just don't be disappointed if it doesn't turn out how you wanted it to.
Even though he likes you, there's no way that you'll be able to get him to tell you that he likes you or ask you out. That's something he's going to have to do on his own. Maybe you could tell him that you like him and make the first move, because chances are he won't. Some guys are just scared to tell girls how they feel so don't worry too much about it. :) When he's ready, he'll tell you. :) Just be yourself and keep talking to him and if he really does like you, he will ask you out sooner or later.
Hope this helped!

There is this one girl at my school who is basically my shadow. But not in a good way. Her main goal in life is to beat me at everything I do, which also means doing everything I do. I play the cello, and so does she, but I, not to brag, am better, so she gets very competitive about that. And since we met, she has decided to play piano, "volleyball," "guitar," and "sing," all of which I have been doing before we met. The reason I put quotation marks is because she does't do either of those things, but she just says she does. What should I do to make her get her own life?

just ask her to sing for you, and if she does it badly, then tell her off. But, if she's actually really bad at all this other stuff then just ignore her; everyone else will know you're better. :)

i have an emergency question, im going to the pool in 45 minutes with my friend and im on my period. tampons are so uncomfortable for some reason, but my period is extremely light. i was wondering if i could get away with no tampon

probably not. if you're swimming it'll start coming around you and the blood will be in the water so everyone would be able to know you had your period... you probably wouldnt be able to get away with it. :(

Hi um...evertime my period stops i always have this goey white stuff come out of my vagina i dont kno if it is normal or if i should tell a docter.

It's totally normal. Sometimes it happens between your period too. It's annoying having your period. isn't it? I hate it :)

ok...me and this guy broke up like 4 months ago. and scince then i have still been in love with him. but he dosent even think i like him more than a freind. ok newayz...scince we broke up he hasnt shown any signs watsoever of still liking me.but then all of the sudden out of the blue last night hes like i love you so much and he was just gushing about how much he loved me. is this for real? or is he just being stupid and getting my hopes up? wat should i do?

Tell him you've liked him since you've broken up and see what he says. It can't hurt to tell him and maybe he does feel the same way about you. Don't get your hopes up though... guys can be confusing.

What do you do if you find yourself more and more each day, liking a guy who does not believe in God? I am a christian and I have my morals, standards and beliefs and he doesn't meet my number one standard which is believeing in God and having a relationship with him but, on the other hand, I am so drawn to him I can't help it.He's a really great guy but should we just stay friends and nothing more?

I'm in the same boat as you. I really like this guy who doesnt believe in God and I do. We've known each other for almost 2 years and I've liked him since the first day I met him. He's asked me out a couple times but each time I turned him down because he doesn't believe in God. We're still really good friends, and yes I still really like him, but I think it wouldn't work out because I care about God more than anything ... even him and my family and friends and my sole purpose in life is to go to heaven to be with Him eternally. It was painful for me to turn him down but I think you two should just remain friends. He wouldn't understand your beliefs about God. Just pray for him, talk to him about God and all his miracles and show him proof that He is here. And if he asks why God is almighty and powerful but yet lets so much even into the world tell him that everybody has their own free will and he lets us have our own choices. If we love Him so much we will seek him out on our own but He will guide us to him. Everybody has a choice on whether they want to believe in Him or not. If you can, try to get him to read books about God or Mary. You can find these books at a bookstore or even places like Wal-Mart and Target should have them.
Pray for him that he finds the way to God but I would suggest you don't go out with him. It's your decision though :)
Hope I helped!

Rachel

Ok well im 16/f and i cut my self . On my wrist and dont tell me to use a rubber band cause it dosent work ive tryed or write in a jurnal cause ive done that to.. IT DOSENT WORK. my friend always asks why i have cuts on my wrists and i say oh my cat cut it. and if he finds out he will think im doing it for attention but im really not my mom passed away 3 weeks ago. and my dad abuses me. I have no relatives. so i have no one to talk to . so i turned to cuting . It really helps me but i need to stop . Because of what i tryed to do. Commit suicide but i stoped because my one and only friend caught me and grabbed me and took me home. I have had a really screwed up past . i was raped at the age of 13 and took drugs at 14 so now all of that made me really depressed . I really am loseing faith so someone please tell me what i could do to help i dont have enough money to go to a theropist so dont tell me that. im really scared of my dad so please help..

If you're scared of your dad go to the police. They should be able to help you and get you a free therapist if you explain them your problem. To help stop cutting try cutting into a block of wood or just get an axe and chop at wood. It can let out your feelings and it will hopefully help. Surround yourself with friends, talk to teachers, anybody who will listen and you can trust. Hope I helped!

rachel

p.s. I'm sorry about your mom and i hope everything gets better!

I really need advice rite now. I have been going out with This guy for about 8 months (on and off) and I really love him. But all that I end up getting out pf this relationship is MORE drama and Hurt. I really like him but sometimes it seems like it wasnt meant to be. Ever since I met him and His buddies ITs all been He** and drama and HatE. I haven't cried sooo much in the last 5 years than I have these several months with him. He already cheated on me twice...and there is also this girl that likes him and He has Liked her Forever and I'm scared that he will go out wit her....she is such a bit** too...is it because I'm jelous of her...of what she can have or do?? i really dont know..MY LIFE IS jUST ALL Drama and I want it all to go away. please help me..

dump him. if he cheats on you and likes another girl he's not right for you. Trust me, you'll get over him. It might take time but it'll all be better in the end.

so this guy... i didnt really like him... at 1st he was sorda creepy, always lookin at me. But now i see him and i like him. He seems really sweet but shy. I dont think he has the courage to come up to me and ask me out or talk for that matter... and im not known to go up to a guy and talk to him right away. I sorda get nervous around guys... but i really want to get to know him more... what can i do ... so im not so nervous around him... and wat are some signs i can show him?? (turnabout is coming up and i want to ask him but i dont know any good ways or if he'll say yes... bc i dont know if he likes me)

Smile at him or say hi to him every once in awhile to show him that you like him. Ask him how his weekend was or if u have any of the same classes ask him if he understood the homework. You could have one of your friends let him know that you're interested in him. As for tournabout, you won't know what he'll say and the only way to find out is to ask him. Just say something like so... who are you going to tournabout with? If he says nobody say, would you like to go with me? or "we should go together" Just have little conversations a few times a week or something and soon you should come out of your shyness and so should he. Hope I helped! =c)

I cut myself. When i feel super bad i cut myself. And i know it's a horrible thing to do. I need to stop. Does anybody have any suggestions about how to stop? Going to an adult is not an option. Please help.

Whenever you feel like you need to cut then instead of cutting your wrists, cut into a block of wood. It should help =c)

rachel

Hey! I love ur site!! anywho... how do i get this guy to notice/like me. We aare both in the same religion class (but sit no where near eachother) and we are both in track but never practice by each other. I try to smile at him and before it seemed like he was liking me (he would always look at me and stuff) I want to get to know him and hang out with him and stuff (see movies and stuff) So how can i get him to notice me??? Let me know!! Thanksss!

Well if you say he's already been looking at you I think he's noticed you =c). After track practice or religion practice just go up to him and talk to him about what you guys did that day and when you're saying goodbye ask for his number and say you'll call him that night. Or ask him if he wants to go to a movie sometime. That should get his attention more. Be yourself around him and don't try to act like anybody else because guys don't like that. To get him to notice you though you have to talk to him and once you get that down everything should start to work out. Be outgoing and nice but don't try to be something you're not. I hope everything works out between you two! =c)

How can you get rid of split ends without cutting each one of them off? Also, how can you prevent them? Thanks.

Straightening your hair causes split ends so if you do it then don't do it as often. Also after you take a shower COMB your hair don't brush it or you'll get split ends faster. You'll get split ends anyway so there's nothing you can do to totally prevent it. if you use garniea fructis shampoo and conditioner or whatever it's called, it helps you stop getting split ends as quickly. Hope I helped!

My twin sister and I argue about 40% of the day. I don't like fighting with her, and lately I've been getting so mad at her I get destructive. I used to cut myself- (embarrassing, but true)- and I can't help but think that may be problem- destruction makes me feel better. I'm not sure. Can anyone give me ideas on how to channel my anger differently?

When you feel the need to start cutting instead of cutting your wrists, cut at a block of wood. That way you'll feel better. Listen to music write poems watch tv. Try to ignore your sister. I had the same problem with my brother so eventually I just started ignoring him if he would argue with me for something. It works =c). Hope I helped!

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