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Ok well im 16/f and i cut my self . On my wrist and dont tell me to use a rubber band cause it dosent work ive tryed or write in a jurnal cause ive done that to.. IT DOSENT WORK. my friend always asks why i have cuts on my wrists and i say oh my cat cut it. and if he finds out he will think im doing it for attention but im really not my mom passed away 3 weeks ago. and my dad abuses me. I have no relatives. so i have no one to talk to . so i turned to cuting . It really helps me but i need to stop . Because of what i tryed to do. Commit suicide but i stoped because my one and only friend caught me and grabbed me and took me home. I have had a really screwed up past . i was raped at the age of 13 and took drugs at 14 so now all of that made me really depressed . I really am loseing faith so someone please tell me what i could do to help i dont have enough money to go to a theropist so dont tell me that. im really scared of my dad so please help..
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I am so sorry that you have had to endure all that has happened to you in your young life. There is no worse feeling than the one that no one knows what I am going through or no one cares. I have read all the other answers to your question and I agree 100% with the advice you have already received. You need to work this out with someone who has the experience to help you get through all of this. you have several things that are going on all at once, and each one is reason to get help. The fact that you lost your mom, I'm so sorry, I'm sure has thrown you into a depression, with all the rest that's going on. Your dat abusing you, the rape, the cutting, attempting suicide...All of these things individually would require you to get help. You can't do this on your own. You deserve a better life, and that is what you will get if you ask for help. It won't be easy at first, because you will be separated from your father, but this will be for the best. You should be concentrating on school and your future, but that is too hard to do with all that you have on your plate right now. Please don't give up. Get some help and keep us posted. All of us that have responded to you care about you. You are not alone. I will be praying for you.
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I am deeply sorry for everything that you have been through. But what you need is help from trained professionals, not people on this site. The person who answered before me gave excellent advice which you should try to follow through on. I know asking for help is hard, one of the hardest things to ever do. But at your age, it is hard to make things better without doing it. You cant really move out or get out of the situation. You have to find the strength in yourself to ask someone for help. A guidance counselor at school, a teacher, basically any adult that you trust. Dont worry about costs of things. At your age, its not important. If you go to the hospital or call 911 because you think you are going to hurt yourself or are being hurt at home, they are more concerned with helping you than getting money. So let that be the farthest concern from your mind. Just please, try to find the courage to ask for help. It could be the best decision you ever make in your life. Good luck and God Bless.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
My condolences on the passing of your mother; I am very sorry that someone of your young age has had to suffer what you have suffered. There are programs and people who can and will help you without cost to you. If you are in immediate danger you can call 911, explain to the call taker that you are at risk as an abused child. They will stay on the phone with you while the proper help is dispatched. This will most likely be the police and fire rescue service. Remember you have done nothing wrong and these people are coming to help you. If you fear calling from home, then go to your schools guidance counselor, teacher or principal; they will know what to do. You can also walk in to any fire station and ask for help.
You can also go to any hospital emergency room, again bring the letter with you that you have written us. Do not worry about the cost; there are programs to cover the cost. Once the doctor’s reads what you have written they will know what they need to do for you to help you feel better.
There are also two National Hotlines that you could call for help. The first is RAINN which stands for Rape, Abuse Incest, National Network. This is a 24/7 phone line with trained counselors who can help you find people in your town who can get you to safety and help you recover. Their number is 1-800-656-HOPE. The other is Boys and Girls Town. Again this is a 24/7 phone line with trained counselors who can help you. Their number is: 1-800-448-3000.
Lastly if at any time you feel like cutting yourself, don’t. Instead pick up the phone and call 911. Tell the call taker what you are thinking of doing to yourself, they will send the appropriate emergency service to help you. Do not be afraid, they are there to help you.
There is help out there for you; you do not have to hurt yourself to feel something. Please call the hotlines for advice. See your doctor or go to the emergency room for help.
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Cutting is actually a disorder, that requires treatment. The process of cutting releases chemicals which cause a brief period of relaxed feeling for the cutter...However, as with any addictions, the results are short lived, the side effects are horrible, and it takes more and more to achieve the same result. If your dad is abusing you, tell someone. Immediately. Go to a teacher or a police officer or a doctor. Someone you can trust. The path you are on leads to bad places, and you need to change the direction before its too late. Going through the things you have is tough, very tough. But you have to make the choice to be a survivor, and not a victim. You are already taking the right steps by reaching out for help, now Im asking you to believe in yourself just a little more and take another couple steps. Report your father, and go to the counselor at school and tell them whats going on. There are alot of agencies out there that provide free services, so please do not worry about the cost. You say you are losing faith, which concerns me. Please dont wait any more, you are to valuable. I am willing to bet your mom is watching you, and loving you, and wanting you to get the help you need.
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you really need to reach out to someone. such as the friend that knows about you trying to commit suicide because then she knows and can help you get help. i cant say that i know what you are going through but i do know that you can live a content life after getting help. you are worthy of living and you cant let your current situation get in the way of being happy. So find someone to talk to and find out your options, like finding a clinic that can help you. And just remember there are people that care for you, no matter what you might think.I really hope this helps.
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You need to tell someone a adult anyone you trust your dad abusing you is considered child abuse seeing as your a minor trying to commit suicide isn't going to help your situation just make it worst if your truely scared of your father then do the right thing and tell someone what he's doing to you it's not right the police will most likely get involved and child protective services your father will be arrested most likely and you won't have to see him again cutting yourself isn't going to help
either you could get seriously hurt and might not be
able to call for help you need to tell someone about
what your father is doing to you the quicker you do the quicker you won't see him(:
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Hi, my name's Kimmi and even though many people have answered your question, I want you to hear me out. I used to cut myself and wanted to die. I know why people do it and in my opinion, yeah it does work...it does make you feel better. But, it may feel good now and everything...in the future though, if you stop and choose a different path I know you'll find a better life and a better attitude towards everyone. It is so much more pleasing for you to know in a few years that you have overcame this demon and moved on with integrity because you know you are that strong. I am so sorry about what happened to your Mom...before I began cutting myself my Grandma died whom I was extremely close to so I know how that feels. About your Father, I am not going to lie because that's not how advice goes...if you have no one else to turn to you NEED to do something yourself because if you don't the situation will only worsen. Go to the cops, go to a counselor at school, go to ANYBODY as long as it is someone that can help you out! No one on this EARTH deserves the treatement you are getting and you may disagree, but it is just not true. Stay strong and overcome this not only for yourself, but do it for your Mother...think of how she'd feel if she knew about how you are dealing with your Father's abusive behavior...she wouldn't want you to be cutting...she'd want you to take a stand. So, please do take a stand and get a chance at a better life. PLEASE, IM me sometime if you are feeling down...I am a good listener and I don't mind talking. HANG IN THERE! IM: x0ToTheStage0x Talk to you soon?
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aw omg!!!! i amso sorry! DONT DO THAT ANY MORE!!!! AND TELL YOUR FRIENDS AND ASK IF YOU CAN TAL K TO THER MOMS AND MAYBE YOU CAN STAY WI
TH THEM!!
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you could go to the police, and your dad would go to jail if hes guilty but you wont have anyone to go to to live with them.so you will go to a foster home.yes i no the rubber band thing doesnt wont,but cutting just makes it worse,it feels so good that you cant stop.your friend sounds like he really cares about you and i think hes getting the hink that you do cut.you have to tell someone either way.or you can save up to go see a shrink.you might take it to far and it will be to late.
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GOD YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH. tell this friend of yours and he wont think your doing it for attention if he is a real friend he will want to help you more than anything. Go to the nearest person to home e.g a close friend or neighbour even a teacher. They will want to help you. PEOPLE WILL UNDERSTAND. if you want to talk to me then you can email me and i will try and help you through this. hope i have helped you
luv shelly xxx
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If it is truley that bad tell a trusted teacher your story. They have to by law contact social services, who in turn will see that you get the help you need. Or you can call them yourself. You need professional help so get it for yourself by whatever means necessary. Good luck :)
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talk to any one but your dad
a counsler a teacher a friend someone you can trust
hide the knifes or throw them out so u cant
reward yourself for not cutting
call a hotline
see a therapist
sorry your mom died and sorry your dad abuses you and sorry you had a tough life
hope i helped!
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talk to a school counslor or call Kid Save: 800-543-7283 (information and referrals for kids in crisis), National Child Abuse Hotline: 800-422-4453 (24 hours, Crisis intervention, information and refrttals), Youth Crisis Htoline: 800-448-4663 or 800-SUICIDE: 800-784-2433 (just in case) sry i couldnt help more
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i did have the same problem cutting but i turned myself to a brighter side of my life, not saying like ponies and rainbows, but to a better way of thinking.i didlnt really realize that i had stopped cutting until i saw more scars than scabs, and after that i couldnt do it anymore. but i dont know what i would do if i had to go through all the stuff youve been through, i dont think that i wuld ever be able to go back toa normal life. but you just have to know that there is something better out there and that it cant be that far away.Dont know if that helped.
Bran
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If you're scared of your dad go to the police. They should be able to help you and get you a free therapist if you explain them your problem. To help stop cutting try cutting into a block of wood or just get an axe and chop at wood. It can let out your feelings and it will hopefully help. Surround yourself with friends, talk to teachers, anybody who will listen and you can trust. Hope I helped!
rachel
p.s. I'm sorry about your mom and i hope everything gets better!
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this is a situation where the school can definately help you. talk to a conselor,trusted teacher, school nurse, someone about this. the schools job is to look out for oyu...not only while in school but if something is going on they are there to help as well. Not everyone can afford a therapist..thats why there is plenty of free help in the school for you. Definately take advantage of that because something needs to be done..they need to hook you up with the school conselor and they can make arrangments for you to stay with someone temporarily until they find you a better place ..but help yourself out and get out of there! Please dont lose faith..things go down..sometimes way down..but its going to come back up! it might be hard..but once you get your problems out to a conselor they will really tey and get you to a better place..its for your own good...do it for your future..your past is history..but your future is waiting for you..you can graduate high school..go on to college and make a wonderful life for yourself..there is plenty and plenty of financial aid,scholorships, etc to go to college..even if its a community college who cares? you can make something great of your life..dont hurt your future..do something now to take small steps in making a big difference for yourself..you will be so much happier :)
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