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I live near the site of woodstock and I'm thinking about getting something related to it because I think the town where I grew up all my life has some pretty sweet history. But I don't want just peace signs or something stupid.
I need ideas! or pictures or something.
Heyy I live near Bethel too! Well how about flowers in the shape of a peace sign
I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 11 months now. And I love him. I don't doubt that. What I'm wondering is if this is "the" love... so to speak. He had his doubts in the beginning. But now I'm having mine. The main thing is that I'm becomming attracted to another guy. It was getting worse for quite sometime up to when this new guy and I kissed. We discussed the kiss and decided it was a bad idea and should just be friends. Now I can't get it out of my head. If I truly love my boyfriend, why did I kiss this guy? Why am I still attracted to him? I might merely be infatuated temporarily with this guy but it also could mean that I am not emotionally there for my boyfriend anymore... I don't want to lose him... I just want to find myself more.
Take time to analyze your feelings. If you spend tons of time with your boyfriend, cut that time down a bit. Take time to sit in a quiet spot and write down your feelings in a journal,write poems, anything you want to get your feelings down. Have some time to think things through. Imagine not being with your bf anymore. Would you look forward to being "free" to explore other options, not be tied down, etc? Would you be miserable? There is no seeing the future, but to try and sort what you want out is the best thing for you right now.
You dont have to hate your bf to break up with him,. You may really care for him, but discover it is time for you to do your own thing, branch off and move on . You are young, there are lots of opportunity out there. I am not giving you advice to go one way or the other, my advice is to try and figure out what you want. If you cannot commit to your bf and be happy with only him and not wanting others, you should break up with him.
After some talking out loud to yourself, writing, thinking, etc you will have the answer figured out.
Good luck!
Someone told me you can get STDs from giving head! Is it true? If it is then what STDs can you get from giving oral / head?
Yep, you definitely can. Here is a bunch of information. If you have given head and did not use a condom, go to a planned parenthood or clinic to get tested. Often you need to wait a couple months called the "window period" for the test results to be accurate.
Chlamydia and Oral Sex
Oral sex is not considered a common cause of Chlamydia infection, but it is a possibility. If the vagina, cervix, anus, penis or mouth come in contact with infected secretions or fluids, then transmission is possible.
Gonorrhea and Oral Sex
Gonorrhea can be passed during oral sex (either giving or receiving). Ejaculation does not have to occur for gonorrhea to be transmitted or acquired. Gonorrhea survives well in the throat, and gonorrhea throat infections from oral sex are relatively common.
Herpes and Oral Sex
Herpes can be transmitted via skin to skin contact, so the risks during oral sex are clear. It’s important to remember that transmission can occur even if there are no visible sores, and you or your partner may be infected with herpes and not know it. Some people are not aware that cold sores are a form of herpes.
HIV and Oral Sex
While the risk is considered to be low, there have been documented cases of HIV transmission where the most likely way it was transmitted was through oral sex via semen, vaginal secretions or blood. HIV is not transmitted via saliva, and deep kissing is considered a safe sexual behavior. There have been cases of oral sex transmission during fellatio (performing oral sex on a man) and cunnilingus (performing oral sex on a woman).
HPV and Oral Sex
Oral sex is considered a less common cause of HPV infection, although it has been documented. HPV virus is shed from the surface of warts and any form of direct physical contact may result in transmission.
NGU and Oral Sex
Most of the germs that cause NGU can be passed during oral sex, even if the penis or tongue doesn’t go all the way in to the vagina, mouth or rectum and even if body fluids are not exchanged. A recent Australian study provided further evidence for oral sex as a transmission route for NGU.
Syphilis and Oral Sex
Oral sex is considered an efficient way to transmit syphilis, with one CDC study reporting that more than 13% of syphilis cases in a geographic area were attributed to oral sex. Transmission usually occurs during vaginal, anal or oral sex when syphilitic sores or patches come in to contact with slightly abraded skin or mucous membranes.
Yeast Infections and Oral Sex
There is evidence to suggest that women who have recurrent yeast infections may be infected by receiving oral sex. In one study, receiving oral sex had an association with an increased risk of recurrent yeast infections at three times the rate. Oral sex with someone who has a yeast infection can lead to thrush, which is a yeast infection in your throat. Oral contact with yeast will not give you a yeast infection in your vagina, because the yeast will be killed in your digestive system.
I'm love my boyfriend and he loves me. Neither of us is religious so we don't really believe in the whole "wait until you're married" thing. We've done everything except sex. He wants to have sex, and I do too, but I'm kind of scared it might change our relationship. Lately all we've been talking about is having sex, and I'm afraid once we do, there's not really going to be a meaning to our relationship anymore. I brought this up to him and he said that he doesn't look forward to sex as much as he looks forward to seeing me and just hanging out with me. So maybe I'm just paranoid, but does sex change a relationship? Did it ever change yours? Please don't tell me "if you're asking questions then you aren't ready for sex" because I think it helps to ask questions so you can prepare for sex :) Oh and we're both virgins if that helps. Thanks!
I feel that if both people are ready, and truly love each other, then sex enhances the relationship, makes it better, solidifies a bond you share.
Sex ruins things if one person in the relationship is only looking for sex, or if one person was not ready, or if one person obsesses over it,
But after talks about protection, the meaning of sex, and after both people in the relationship feel totally comfortable sex can be a wonderful PART of a relationship. Sex is not THE relationship, just a part that is not the most important part.
ok soo sometimes my boyfriend will get off really quick but then other times it takes him foreverr like my arm gets tired lol but i just wanted advice on like how to get him off faster...like what part should i concentrate on? and if i let him play with my boobs or do something that turns him on to me would it get him off faster or is that just like w.e.? thanks for your help.
oh and i also give him oral, just so you know.
sometimes environment is an issue for a quickie.if you are afraid someone will walk in on you, its kind of a public place, etc he will probably go quick. Sometimes if he has recently masturbated it makes things take longer. Tell your guy no masturbating tonight, and tomorrow he may go quicker.
..if a guy actually loves you like he says he does or if he just wants you for the sex?
First way to tell. Does he pressure you to have sex? Is he okay with waiting? Is sex and sexual activities all that seems to come out of his mouth?
Does he call you to say hello and talk, or to see if you are ready for sex.
Does the guy want to cuddle, watch a movie, hold hands, or once again is he just pressuring for sexual activity. Does the guy interested in getting to know you, asking questions about you, wanting to hang out at the park, take you out to the movies, public places? Or is he always trying to see you when you two would be alone in hopes of sex?
Analyzing his body language, words, actions, and how he is with you in general is a good tool to read in to his true colors.
Good luck, and if there are warning signs with him, leave him. Dont have sex with him in hopes you two will get closer and have the real deal love. If he is a jerk, he is a jerk and he doesnt deserve you.
so my "ex best friend" said something that just made me be like ...wow i don't want to be around you anymore. its a long story of what she said and when she said it blahblah but it hurt..alot, and i don't want someone in my life that says those kind of things to me. the thing that sucks though is i see her everyday at school. shes in 4 of my classes. i'm forced to sit with her because all my good friends are friends with her too. i have other friends but do you think it'd be weird to just switch tables? idk what to do i just don't want to see her as much as i have to but i don't want to make it obvious that i'm changing everything because of her.
Well, did you tell any of your other friends about what happened? Maybe if you do then they will understand where you are coming from. This doesnt mean you have to get them to hate her and cause drama, but at least there will be some understanding.
Next, host a sleepover or go out with your other good friends. Build a bond up. Not to shut her out, but this way she is off your mind, and when you sit at the lunch table with your ex friend you do not have to worry about being left out.
In this case, you do not have to leave your other friends because of your ex, and vice versa, Instead build a new stronger bond with your other friends and avoiding your ex friend will be a piece of cake!
Now that im back to talking to my friend i like him again even before when i stopped talking to him i still liked him no matter what i do i still think about him everyone keeps telling me to just forget about him but i cant and theres no use in telling him how i feel because hes a funny boy and he acts like an ass he can be a jerk but hes sometimes sweet n funny hes like a brother i hate to love and love to hate no matter what advice i get to solve this theres always a huge downfall....Why do i feel this way about him? Why cant i get over him? And what can i do
The hormones and feelings are a funny thing. Really no way to explain it, except that its natural. Did one of your mutual friends ever ask this guy if he had feelings for you?
Real close friends can turn in to wonderful relationships, but then again the relationship may not work out and then you dont always get your friend back either. So if your friend asks him about you and he doesnt see you like that, at least keep in mind that at least you guys have a strong friendship.
It is hard to get over that crush who you go back to liking. I have been there, its rough. If he really is not interested, then just ride the current. You are young, there will be lots of guys in the future, you never know where or when you will meet the next guy!
good luck! :)
i have tons of friends, but i'm not extremely close with any of them. i used to have a best friend but she let me down big time and i realized i don't want someone like that in my life. i feel its even hard to trust my friends, like don't get me wrong i love hanging out with them and stuff and they're fun people, thats why we're friends :)...but i feel like i can't completely trust anyone..everyones always talking shit and i actually caught my old "best friend" talking shit about me. i'm honestly a nice person and i try to get along with everyone but high school girls and even most of the guys now just love to talk shit because they're bored with their own lives and they love attention. i only trust 2 people in my life, my dad and my boyfriend of a year(and they're both guys look at that). i kind of want a female to trust though...or at least get close to. how do i go about approaching this? and it sucks cause all my closest friends are friends with my ex "best friend"....if you could even call her that....
I totally understand what you are saying. High school is tough, and girls love to talk behind peoples backs. I think it is okay to recognize this, because its obvious and the natural reaction would be to not trust them. You can still hang out with them and have fun, but to not fully trust them is very understandable.
I know you want the one girl you can trust, and maybe you will become very close with one of your friends (friends tend to drift a bit, at times you are reaaaal close then you drift away a bit, and some friends get lost in the ocean forever)
Trust is a really valuable gift. Quite honestly, it is a gift you have to earn. These girls do not sound like they desserve that gift. Not to worry, you never know who will come in your life and will earn that trust. It may not be right now, but as we mature I think you will find that female you can really trust.Dont rush, dont get discouraged because trust takes a long time to earn
Alright. Here is the thing. This past summer I got involved with a total ass(it happens) and he hurt me becuase I found out he was only trying to get in my pants (have sex) and when I told him I wasn't ready (I was fourteen when he asked me! Granted, he was sixteen at the time but still. Fourteen... now way) he dumped me... Yeah. Anyway, that's a whole nother story... I pretty much moved on and I am now dating this awesome guy and we have been for a little over a month. The summer jerk we'll call T and my boyfriend we'll call C. So C and I are doing fine and dandy but just last night we got into a little fight and I hung up on him. We were cooling down when wow, would fate have it? T texts me. Just a casual "hey, what's up? :)" and normally (cuz he's tried to call and text and see me a few times since we broke up but ive been hesitant cuz i KNOW what his intentions are) i just ignore him but since I was mad at C I was like what the hell and I started chatting with him. It was just texting so its not like it was a big deal and we were just catching up but I still feel bad... C knows about my past with T and he would be pissed if he knew I was talking to him. I don't want to talk to T either. But... I kind of want to try and be friends with him. Is that possible?? I mean. Yeah he hurt me and he never apologized but maybe he didn't know how much he hurt me. Maybe we can work it out and be friends. I'm tired of being angry at him and I want a friendship to work (oh by the way, T goes to a different school than C and I do) But there are a few problems with that... Number 1: C could quite possibly get mad. Number 2: T was an ass, what if he's a sucky friend too?? Number 3: What if i start to like him again...? That CAN"T happen. I am crazy about C but I have always had this thing for bad boys... I don't know... I'm just so confused and I don't know what to do so any help would be great thanks. But I do want this friendship. I'm over T but I'm not over what he's done to me and I think I need to be his friend to finally work though this bad blood with him and help myself. BEcause I feel like until I work this out I'm never going to be able to get closer to C or anyone. I need to be able to trust again. Btw, I am fifteen and C and T are both sixteen.
I really strongly suggest sticking with your bf and not making friends with the summer jerk. why risk a relationship with a great guy over a friendship with someone who does not deserve it anyway? You said it yourself, if your bf finds out he will be mad. Its not good to go behind his back..and I definitely agree that the summer jerk could quite possibly be a sucky friend. You do not want to set yourself up for major boy drama..the summer jerk trying to lure you in, then you getting feelings again and leaving behind your nice bf.
To avoid all kinds of sticky messes, end the convos and possible friendship with the summer jerk, he is totally not worth it. When you tell the summer jerk that..just say it honest. you have a bf, you care about him, and the other guy is a jerk and dumped you just because he couldnt have sex with you. not a good sounding friend or love interest.
hope this helped, in the end it is your choice though.
Sooo there is this guy at school who I thought was really cute so we ended up facebook messaging eachother he started the conversation and we were flirting hardcore. So anyways he told me like 3 times he wanted to hangout and I gave him my # and it's been 2 week and he still has yet to call/text me! He will flirt with me on facebook but when it comes down to actually texting/calling me he dosent do it eventhough he asks me to hangout. Ugh I dunno what type of validation he wants but what should I do in return to attack his ego a bit? I don't like guys who play games
Well how old is this guy? Guys can be shy too and making the first move is hard. There can be lots of flirting and strong signals, but he is probably nervous. If you are willing to suggest hanging out, he should take that lead and loosen up. Next time you are flirting online, just mention an idea. "Hey want to come over?.." or.."Want to hang out at the mall..? or the movies..etc. Even make it a group hangout the first time if you will feel better about that.
But to answer your question, he might not be playing games, he might be shy. So try lightly suggesting a day to hang out..if he doesnt bite the bait then, move on.
f/teen
So my hole family cousins sisters brother aunts uncles etc, all belevie in waiting till marraige and so do i Its hard cause you get tempted but i stick through it.
I know that is what god wants everyone to do and its the right way to do it.
So i was wondering on how you feel about waiting to have sex and doing other things with them?
(besides kissing and makeingout)No fingering bj all that stuff how do you feel about it?
I respect people waiting, but my own opinion is no no no lol. I beleive you got to do what you feel is right though, so stick to your own beleifs
Does anybody have good job searching websites like craigslist.com? Bartending is the career Im looking for. thanks!
Go to google.com and type in jobs in your zip code, and you will get tons of stuff
so i have sex unprotected and im at of age but i KNOW i shouldnt be having a kid right now. i look at it as i wont get to do the things i want to if i have one. well i always hope i dont get prego. but when i get my period i always seem a little dissapointed and a part of me doesnt want to get my period and thats at times. but i dont know why its dumb.
listen having kids when you arent ready is not a smart idea. someday you will have children, but just wait until your ready. kids are perminent you know!
My friend is taking lots of drugs.
I asked her what she's taken and she listed a lot of things including Crack and LSD...
Shrooms, E, pot... Much, much more.
)': It hurts me a lot to know this...
What can I do?
I want to help her...
But when she's not on drugs, she gets really depressed. and Cuts her self...
She use to cut herself, then got on drugs... now doesn't cut herself...
What can I do or say?
when you care about someone sometimes you have to do the hard thing. tell someone who can get her help. thats your job. she might get so angry at first, but in the long run its the right thing to do. tell her parents, a teacher,somebody who can intervene and get her treatment. you dont want her whole life to go down the drain.good luck and i hope it works out
how did you get caught?
how did i get caught doing what? refresh me on the topic lol
I'm a 26 year old male would-be author who hasn't been able to find work in the year since he graduated, nor got his book that he worked on published.
I feel like a drain on my family, friends, love life and so on.
I feel like a failure in every sense of the word. And I feel as if I lost faith in so many things, mostly myself, and that my life has run its course as far as mattering goes.
How can I regain my will to try, to persist, to basically live?
dont get so down. the most succuessful people out there had to work hard for it from the bottom. a popular man in my community is alan gerry, one of the founders of cable. he is one of the richest men in america. he started off way at the bottom. after hard work and sticking to his ideas, he succeeded. so stick with it and dont get down.
I am a total worrier
But the one thing I worry about is sex really.
So here are some questions
1) What position are you usually in if your being fingered - what should you do ? where should your hands go?
2) And if your making out and you want to actually do it and he puts on the condom - doesn't that like kill the mood a little?? Like your all in the mood and then its like wait, let me put one on..how long would it take?
3) Can you tell me of how it feels for the first time? What it's like?
4) Being fingered ; does it hurt?
5)Do guys ever look at your body naked whilst your having sex. I never go into relationships because I hate my body and I wouldnt want someone else looking at it
1 the girl can be laying down while the guy is on top of her or to the side. the girl can be standing up, while theguy is standing as well in front of her. the girl can be sitting on thee guys lap facing him, lots of different ways. your hands can go anywhere..around his body, through his hair, squeezing his butt, down his pants, etc
2. it doesnt really kill the mood. if your really into it he puts the condom on, once its on you can go back to passionate kissing and touching until he puts it inside.
3 you need to be relaxed and it wont hurt as much. touching/kissing foreplay etc helps it will get you wet. he needs to take it slow and be gentle at first.
4 it can hurt if the guy is too rough or doesnt know what hes doing. hopefully the guy is good at it and gets you wet,then it will feel good.
5. dont have sex with someone if you arent comfortable wit them looking at you. wait for the guy who loves you and your body..and doesnt care about minor stuff like that.
so I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he eats me out and fingers me all the time but i haven't really given him a hand job or a blow job. I have touched his penis and licked it though. I just get really nervous when I'm about to and i dont know whats wrong with me. Any advice on how to give him a handjob or blow job and how to calm my nerves?
hey just relax its normal to feel nervous because you really want to please him but trust me you will get really good at it after soem practice. you can even talk to your bf about it. you two have been dating a long time..so he can even point you int he right direction like telling you "harder" or giving you tips on what he likes. you can look up some tips online on what to try..but i dont think you can go wrong..im sure he would like it!
i smoke weed, i drink, and i snort pills.i dont get affected, why??and i dont need anyone saying anythings about, oh its not good for you.just answer my question please :)
you could very well be getting ripped off with the weed and pills. try a different dealer who wont rip you off or look up on how to not get ripped off and get the real thing (im not encouraging this by the way but just answering you)
so you cant get drunk either? well try vodka or something. do shots. do like power hour where you take one shot a minute for as long as you can go for. you should get very drunk
(for the record..not encouraging any of this)