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My friend takes drugs
My friend is taking lots of drugs.
I asked her what she's taken and she listed a lot of things including Crack and LSD...
Shrooms, E, pot... Much, much more.
)': It hurts me a lot to know this...
What can I do?
I want to help her...
But when she's not on drugs, she gets really depressed. and Cuts her self...
She use to cut herself, then got on drugs... now doesn't cut herself...
What can I do or say?
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It's good that you want to help her.
I disagree with the people who say there isn't much you can do or say. She needs some help, and although she needs more than just a friend, friends are also very important.
I would try to find a trustworthy adult to talk to. Maybe a teacher, or a parent.
Although she's stopped cutting herself, drugs are just as harmful a behaviour, so that's not a good thing at all.
But you shouldn't try to talk to her alone. There are many strategies that have been developed for helping people with addictions, for example an intervention. You need to consult with another person, someone who has more experience with this sort of thing, and organize a plan of action together. When you speak with an adult about the situation, they might suggest involving her parents, her friends, etc. That may sound like a scary thing to do, but sometimes it's important.
You've got the right idea by trying to help her. Just remember, your job as her friend is to be there for her, and do what you can to get her into treatment of some sort. She probably won't be happy with you at first, but it's what's best for her, and if you're a good friend, you'll realize that's all that matters.
You sound like a good friend. I wish you the best of luck.
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You need to tell her parents.
You're 14. Theres no amazing pearls of wisdom that can come from a 14 year old that will make enough sense to overcome a drug addiction.
Well, to be honest, theres not a ton adults can say to change her mind either.
But what her parents can do is try to stop her, control it and get her the help she needs. She's cutting and doing drugs because she doesn't know how to handle the stress and pain she's dealing with, whatever that pain is. Its a way to cope with things she can't otherwise deal with.
You can't save her, and to be honest you can't save this friendship right now. If you don't tell her parents she will destroy herself, that is a guarantee. A teenager who's doing drugs to cope with life isn't going to be able to find her way out of the tailspin that she is in alone.
So tell her parents. It will be hard to say, and she might well hate you for it after you do it if she finds out it was you.
Thats something you'll have to accept, because you won't be able to continue being friends forever anyway if she stays addicted.
If you tell her parents (a school counselor is backup if her parents don't respond well or do anything about it) then she might be angry, but she also has a chance of getting her shit together, getting off drugs, and recovering her life. If that happens, she will probably thank you for it down the road.
If you tell no one, theres a good chance she's going to ruin her life.
Theres a good chance she's exaggerated what she's done, but if she's cutting thats enough to tell her parents. Tell them exactly what you know, what you've seen her do, what you've been told by her or others that she's done, and tell them you don't know all the details, but that you know she's dealing with something in a very bad way and that she needs help.
Your friend needs therapy, theres something screwing her up inside, drugs and cutting are the symptoms of a larger problem. Get an adult involved, so that your friend can get the help she needs to get her life back on track.
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Hi I know how you feel!! I had this kind of guy friend and he is saying he is gonna take drgus and drink and join ganges....I hate it!! Your friend really needs to grow up and say you know what this is not cool and you need to SIT her down and tell her this is stupid and wrong and tell someone!! Sadly i do not talk to him anymore.... It is sad but i made the right dession and Im only 13 and hye wanted me to join his "gange" thats when i said im sick of this and you know if she does not listen t you you NEED to get away from her!!!
Love Alisha
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when you care about someone sometimes you have to do the hard thing. tell someone who can get her help. thats your job. she might get so angry at first, but in the long run its the right thing to do. tell her parents, a teacher,somebody who can intervene and get her treatment. you dont want her whole life to go down the drain.good luck and i hope it works out
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well this seems serious. you should tell an adult right away before it gets more out of hand. the next thing to do is to be by her side every step of the way she will feel accompinied by you and be glad that she has an awesome friend like you to be with her in her time of need.
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when you trip a lot, like on shrooms or acid, then youll eventually lose yourself and itll stick with you. my boyfriend used to do a lot of lsd and now he gets flash backs from it and his mind isnt the same.
weed is the least of your worries. but when shes doin CRACK (which is highly highly physically and mentally addicting) and ECSTACY (which ends up makin you veryy stupid) thats what you need to be worried about.
find out the root of her problems. was she abused ? does she have many friends besides you ? do her parents neglect her ?
my best friend started doin a lot of drugs when someone died in front of her. she started with coke, moved on to crack, doin roxies and other pills, and ended up in rehab.
shes usin drugs as an escape, but an escape from what ? thats what you need to find out from her. encourage her to seek help from parents or a therapist. this could end really badly for her if you dont help her realize how life is a lot more beautiful without drugs.
good luck ! if you need more help with this, then please please contact me.
x sweeethoney
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My advice may be to get to the root of the problem,find out whats causing her to take drugs or cut herself because even if that doesn't help her get of drugs straight away it would probably make things better in the long run. Just as long as your careful not to be to blunt about it, try and get her to talk through whatever it is thats on your mind. It is often said that someone cutting themselves is either because they loathe themselves or they are looking for attention, by trying to talk to her about what goes on/has gone on in her life you'll could deal with both of those.
I think what i'm really trying to say is, if someones gonna take drugs, its quite hard to just say no dont take drugs and thats probably what anyone else you mentioned it to would say and rehab or going to any kind of clinics all cost money, which not everyone has. So identifying the root of the problem and dealing with it may work out the best long-term. Just get involved in her life basically and make sure she knows your there for her.
Hoping things improve
Mike
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Be there for her, and get her help. Talk to her and let her know that cutting and drugs aren't going to make anything better. Let her know they will only makes things worse for her.
Most importantly, just be there for her and be her shoulder to cry on. Listen to her and let her know it's ok for her to open up to you, because you won't judge her and/or criticize her.
And finally, get her help. Take her to a doctor, or find another way to get her help. Don't do it behind her back unless she absolutely will NOT get help.
-Laura (17-f)
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you can be very supportive..talk to her about getting help wheather going to rehab, or seeing a counselor. She needs help right away before things get worst. You can also tell someone older than you about her situation so you wont be alone in this. Such as your mom, dad, sis, bro, aunt, uncle, and so..
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