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19-female.
why is it that i feel the need to act subtle and shy around my best guy friend who i also have a crush on?
i'm not myself when i'm around him. i know we would have soooo much more fun if i was myself, because usually i'm crazy, i never think before i speak, i'm a craaaazy lady. i talk loud, i dance and sing like a mad woman (: i just love to have fun.
but when i'm around him i barely talk, i always think before i say something to make sure i'm not going to sound stupid. i don't sing or dance, in fear of looking dumb!
but if i do start acting like myself i'm afraid he will think its a little werid and out of the ordinary, yah know? i always feel like i have to impress him, i always have to look in the mirror.
why cant i just hang out with him in my sweatshirt and sweatpants with no make-up on and my hair thrown up? i know he wouldn't care! we love each other! we've been friends for like 6 years now.
yeah i know, 6 years, crazy! and your probably thinking, "how are you not comfortable with him yet?" but he does something to me that when everytime i see him, my heart skips a beat, and i get super shy and don't know what to say!
oh, yah forgot to say, he has a girlfriend. which makes things more difficult.
he is very outgoing, he's funny, he makes me laugh like no other. i wish i could do the same for him. i remember once i said something like i'm not myself when i'm with you and hes like why? and i was just like i dont know! i'm different when i'm with other people and he was like why arent you like that with me! so i know he wants me to be myself, but i can't let myself go.
how can i overcome this? anything is appreciated (: (link)
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I guess you said it yourself -- you have a crush on him. A big one. :)
Maybe you won't be able to act yourself around him until you either get over your crush, or he begins to reciprocate.
In any case, I'm a nineteen-year-old guy, and almost all of my friends are girls. One of my closest friends had a crush on me for about a year before I realized it. She was always acting really shy around me, more than she used to, and she tried to impress me. I didn't notice -- until someone pointed it out to me. But when I figured out how she felt, I asked her out, and we dated for a bit and had a good time. It didn't work out, but it was good while it lasted, and we're still friends.
Anyway, my point is, maybe he doesn't know that you like him. Maybe he likes you too and just doesn't realize it yet, because you're such good friends.
If he's the clueless type like me, then there's not much you can do. Maybe try to signal to him that you're interested, and maybe things will work out between you and him!
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My friend is taking lots of drugs.
I asked her what she's taken and she listed a lot of things including Crack and LSD...
Shrooms, E, pot... Much, much more.
)': It hurts me a lot to know this...
What can I do?
I want to help her...
But when she's not on drugs, she gets really depressed. and Cuts her self...
She use to cut herself, then got on drugs... now doesn't cut herself...
What can I do or say? (link)
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It's good that you want to help her.
I disagree with the people who say there isn't much you can do or say. She needs some help, and although she needs more than just a friend, friends are also very important.
I would try to find a trustworthy adult to talk to. Maybe a teacher, or a parent.
Although she's stopped cutting herself, drugs are just as harmful a behaviour, so that's not a good thing at all.
But you shouldn't try to talk to her alone. There are many strategies that have been developed for helping people with addictions, for example an intervention. You need to consult with another person, someone who has more experience with this sort of thing, and organize a plan of action together. When you speak with an adult about the situation, they might suggest involving her parents, her friends, etc. That may sound like a scary thing to do, but sometimes it's important.
You've got the right idea by trying to help her. Just remember, your job as her friend is to be there for her, and do what you can to get her into treatment of some sort. She probably won't be happy with you at first, but it's what's best for her, and if you're a good friend, you'll realize that's all that matters.
You sound like a good friend. I wish you the best of luck.
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