I suck at writing about me because I'm quite ... erm ... incapable of opening up easily. I suggest you ask many questions and get to know my character through my answers. The raw basics are that my name is Mathias, I love my girlfriend and guitars. I am a very honest person so don't hold it against me if my answer won't be what you want to hear. Other than that I'm a very friendly person, I have tonnes and tonnes of friends, it's quite overwhelming sometimes and I have a healthy sense of humour which will come in handy with more embarassing questions. I am also very mature for my age ... let's just say I've been through a lot.
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I am 28 years old and feel spiritually devastated.
I was raised by a catholic mom and an agnostic dad (my mom is in denial). I have 6 siblings who are also either very religious or also agnostic/ undecided. All of my immediate spiritual role-models seem dysfunctional... and I probably am too.
I was confirmed at 16 as a Catholic but have never felt moved by the religion or any of its doctrines. I avoid spiritual conversations with my family at all costs, as it usually leads to confrontation (especially with my mom).
I don't believe homosexuality is wrong.
I don't believe sex before marriage is a sin.
I personally can't fathom an abortion, but feel others should have a choice.
I don't know that I believe in a biblical Hell or Heaven.
I don't know that Jesus was anymore the son of God than you or I...but I believe he was a wonderful and true person.
Other than that - I'm at a loss. I believe I am a moral person. I feel very strongly about the things I believe to be right and wrong - but as far as I can tell, I don't fit ANYWHERE in mainstream spirituality.
However, I need to believe in something and feel it is right. I definitely feel like a spiritual person, just not a religious person....
Should I be concerned for my soul?
Should I confront my family about my spirituality and risk being disowned?
Lost,
Wanderlust23lost
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I am very similar to you in the way that I am spiritual but just not religious at all. To me, I'd rather live on the grounds of respect. I respect Buddhists because I think they are very good people and very smart people and they do not harm anyone with their belief so why not? I respect Christianity and Catholicism as a concept but in practise ... personally, I think they've made too many mistakes but I was raised a Catholic so maybe that's why I struggle to accept it too much. Religions I do not respect are those that harm others, Jihad is another word for Pride and Ignorance to me and I say it proudly because if I had to die for respecting religions that don't harm people, so be it. I can argue about pretty much almost any religion out there because I spent very long trying to understand this fascination humans have with understanding the unfathomable. I just accept that it is all not a coincidence but if anyone's god decides to punish me for not following a particular doctrine and respecting everyone than I'd rather not know that god anyway.
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I sing, and write my own songs, and they're kind of similar to evanscence songs, but anyways a lot of people say I'm really good at singing, and I can sing low and high (really good) and I'm interested in starting a band. I just dont know a lot of people that play guitar or anything like that, and I want to know how I can start a band. Any help? I would be very appreciative thanks! :D (link)
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I suggest you start making friends or letting the right people see your talent. Maybe advertise yourselfas an available singer with a band wanted and specify the style, search online for bands looking for vocalists. Just put yourself out there. For me my first bands came through just having a few friends but then later on I started getting offers from people I had heard about by word of mouth or on TV just cos they had a few mutual friends and had seen me play a few times and stuff. I've been playing guitar for 6 years and in the past 3 years have played quite a few gigs, it all starts with making friends and putting yourself out there. Good luck =)
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I want to get my boyfriend a gift and he loves spongebob, and I know he doesn't have spongebob boxers. I know I have saw these boxers somewhere but I cant remember where! Does anyone know where I could get some? (link)
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Ebay?
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I have spent so long knowing people talk shit about me behind my back both because of my different personality and my physical appearance. I just want the physical appearance thing to stop ... I can't handle it sometimes ... why are people so cruel? It's not like I am really fat at all, but I'm a big guy ... I just hate how cruel the world can be when even close friends talk shit behind your back about shallow things like the way you look ... why? (link)
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Hmmm...
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13/m
ok so im 13 and since sometime last yeaer i have had pubes but its getting really bushy i reckon and i want to trim it but not really shave it all off i dont really want to talk to anyone i know about it cause it would be pretty weird...yea
so would it be normal or ok if i was to trim the pubes with scissors
thanks
ps i know its weird (link)
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I never used to shave at all until like two years after it grew and I've only shaved like five times in my life, it all depends on how you want to look and how comfortable you are in general with the pubes. Just go wild with it. =)
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What does the quote,
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer mean ? (link)
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I think it means that with your friends you should have no trust issues so it shouldn't be a problem giving them more freedom around you but with your enemies you have to be more careful so you should keep them closer to see what's going to happen.
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hi i'm in love with a girl but my friends keep telling me to stop liking her cuz i'm a girl.so wa to do? (link)
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You are the only person who knows what you're feeling deep down, I say ignore your friends or at least ask for their support. Goodluck with that girl ;) (let me know what happens k?)
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I have this male coworker and I'm female. He seems like a pretty friendly guy. During my training I was told that I wasn't ever suppose to touch another employee as it could be taken as sexual harassment--even if it was just a little touch that meant nothing to me. I guess I understand that. A meaningless touch from me could make somebody else feel uncomfortable if they thought more of it.
Anyway, my coworker keeps rubbing on my shoulder as he passes me in the hallways and such. (You know, "Hi! How you doin' today?" while touching the shoulder, passingly.) I wouldn't mind because I know he's just being nice and friendly but he had the same training that I did about this, I'm sure. He should be well aware of the rules. The touching doesn't bother me but I don't want somebody else to take the matter to extremes or something. I KNOW he doesn't mean anything by it but I don't want him to get in trouble for his friendly gestures. I'm positive that he's doing this to other coworkers (male and female) as he passes them in the halls because I've seen him a couple of times.
What should I do? (link)
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I suggest you should stop looking so much into things if you really aren't bothered by it, if you are tell him to stop. Other than that ... there is absolutely no reason to worry and I think you are overreacting.
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I need help controlling my erections! I know it sounds stupid at first but it's so embarrassing. Well, I was at the beach today and there were tons of HOT chicks wearing tiny bikinis, including my girlfriend. It's really noticeable if I get, for lack of a better word, hard. How can I control these erections? I don't want to be pitching a tent all the time out at the beach, especially when my girlfriend is with me! I love her a lot and I don't want to embarrass her by showing my hard-ons to the world. I think it's worse when my girlfriend is with me because I start thinking about sex with her.
How can I control this problem? (link)
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So the first thing I'd love to say is, when you're with your girlfriend stop fucking looking at all the other girls. How would you feel if you realise that your girlfriend is looking at the other guys and getting turned on? Even the simple fact that you say there are "tons of HOT chicks wearing tiny bikinis" is slightly sickening.
OK so on to the erection problem, I am inclined to help because I have had the same problem when I was younger ... just randomly getting erections which were obviously noticeable. The first thing to do is to try and not think about it because sadly the more you think about how noticeable it is the harder it seems to get sometimes. Honestly just find positions where you can hide it but don't really think about it. It will be gone before you know it and voila no more erections. Try and find a position that sort of lessens it like for example sitting down hunched over or just laying down on your stomach ... careful you don't crush it of course XD.
Good luck with getting rid of them ... and stop looking at the other girls for fuck's sake.
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okay so i like my best friend. he currently broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years. i've always heard he liked this girl who i am not fond of, her name is sammy. i just think he could do SO much better.
so i always ask if anything is going on between him and he says no, but you know when you can just tell? i feel like thats how it is...
last night i was with him and was like can i see your phone and he was like noooo!!(: and i was like why not. and he was like why so you can see if i was texting sammy? and he was like we're just best friends. and i was like OHHHH so now she's your best friend? guess were not best friends anymore. and he was like no linds, we are. me and her are just FRIENDS.
and he was like if i liked her we would be dating by now. and then i kept asking to see him phone and i think i went a little over the top. and he was like what are you jealous or something? and he was like i think you are! i really was jealous ahaha, but i was like no! i just want to make sure you're not talking to any dumb whores lol.
i think i went a little over the top though, borderline annoying. i feel really bad although he texted me before he went to bed and was like goodnight and everything but i still feel bad!
i still feel like he likes her, even though hes told me several times he doesnt. i feel like i dont believe him, when i should!
how can i get over this? (link)
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I'm sorry but whatever happened to talking to your best friend? If he is really your best friend the least you can do is actually really talk to him, none of that joking around crap. Tell him seriously how you feel ... don't fool around anymore. You know what you want now go for it. Then if he doesn't feel the same about you don't go insane yes it could be awkward at first but it will pass .. I used to be borderline obsessed with a friend of mine and nothing ever happened but after some time me and her are now really good friends. Just be honest with him, don't throw him hints or whatever just talk to him. What's the worst that could happen? He doesn't feel the same and after some time you move on ... isn't that much better than living like this? All jealous and trying to interpret his life? Good luck ... let me know how this goes k? =)
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Sorry in advance if this is a bit long.
16/f
I was with a boy for 7 months. Our relationship was great. We loved each other. However, he told me that he felt like he couldn't make me happy and I deserved better and dumped me. He broke my heart, however eventually I moved on and got over it. 5 Months pass by and he decides to re enter my life! Wanting to give things another try. I lost my virginity to this guy, therefore I feel so attached to him. I take him back and give him another try.
The 2 months we're together is awful. He didn't treat me nicely and refused to tell me he loved me. I told him we should end it. Another 2 months goes by.. and guess who decides to enter my life AGAIN! I was firm with him and told him I couldn't do this again. However, like an idiot I give in.
He told me things i've never heard him say before and that he really did love me blah blah blah.
We hang out again.. and he decides we should be "together" He told me he wants to take it slow to avoid hurting me again. Every time we hangout it gets sexual and we've been "together" now for 2 weeks. He doesn't text me too much. I wonder if
anything will change. My mind is so confused and
I just feel so attached to this kid. Any suggestions of what I should do? (link)
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Honestly I've heard about people like him for so long and I'm so sick of it. You were an idiot to let him back in over and over again and I know you know it as you said it yourself early in the question. I also agree with you calling him a kid at the end, because that is all he is, a kid. It is natural to feel attached to your first sexual partner, the first time is always special ... regardless of how messy or awkward it might be =). The best thing for you to do is get on with a better life without him or anyone else like him. Find someone new, someone that will make you feel how you deserve to feel, happy! You need to remember that you will never please this child because all children ever want is more and you are not a bloody sex despenser ... say "NO!" and mean it. Good luck =)
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I dated this guy two years ago. I broke up with him also. Basically, we started talking again a few months ago..and I have feelings for him. He, however, has no feelings for me. But! At first I didn't know that. I kept telling him I like him, me being stupid, didn't pick up on the fact that he never even said he liked me in the first place. All he wants is sex. Whenever we talk, it's hard to have a normal conversation because all he likes to do is flirt and/or do stuff. And, for some reason I feel by talking about other stuff, I'm boring him? Anyway. Last week, I finally had the guts to talk about me and him. I was tired of always flirting and doing stuff with him..meanwhile, he has never told me how he really feels. I said, "I like you still...but, I guess I'll have to get over it because you have no feelings for me.." His response hurt me. All he said was "yeah". He also once said he doesn't want a relationship..but he'll give me benefits? I know I sound stupid for believing that can turn in to him liking me. When he said all that.. I felt so upset. I basically didn't talk to him at all for a few days. I finally knew the truth..he used me :(. Then he randomly texts me the other day saying he's sorry he hasn't talked to me and that he'll talk to me on Sunday. I know he's going to want to flirt and all. That's all he wants me for obviously. But, I don't want to be used. I'm a very nice girl and I treat him good! It's ridiculous. So, how can I tell him that I just want to be friends but not with benefits!?
Oh and before we started dating he was the one always chasing after me. I hate how it changed. :(.
Please help. Thankyou. (link)
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It is a huge shame to here that someone as caring as you is being treated so badly by someone like this guy. Even if you still have feelings for him, if he doesn't have any for you you have to let go and try to move on. This using thing has to stop and soon, it is not ok on any level. He is using and hurting you, this might sound harsh, but if he ever actually really cared for you he would not treat you like this. He is not worth all the hassle, it is your choice if you still want to be friends with him but bottom line stop him from doing anything with you. There is only one way to really do that, and that is just put your foot down and say, "I'm not doing this anymore". The first thing to realise is it has to solidly and come from you 100%, until you want to stop it, it will not stop because as soon as he starts to try your weakness won't let you stop him. Be strong and stop it. I know it hurts, I understand that you have had feelings for him and still do to some extent but this is completely unfair on you and he has no right to treat you like this, once more, stop him now! Good luck =) (let me know how it goes k?)
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I've been dating this guy for about 3-4 months, and I'm absolutely head-over-heels for him. But one thing has got in between us, he's been jealous of my one friend, Alex.
Alex and I have known each other for a few years, but have just started talking recently. At first, he was very flirty and would say things like "You deserve better than what you get" when I'd have fights with my boyfriend, or if I was having a bad day. And.. I told my boyfriend about it and what not, and of course he got upset. Don't get me wrong, I understand that.
So, I told Alex to back off and that I was sick of his flirting, and he hasn't done it since. He even messaged my boyfriend and told him that he hopes we stay together for a long time and stuff. Alex supports me a lot, with my writing and my problems. He's as sensitive as I am, and I think of him as a good friend, nothing more.
Well, he's coming back to town. I haven't actually seen him in a year. My boyfriend is upset about me hanging out with him, although he said I can. But now.. I feel like if I do go, I'd be upsetting him, and I'd feel guilty about it.
Any Advice on this situation? D: (link)
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I have been in your boyfriend's situation quite a few times, I know how he feels. He feels replaced, he feels unspecial even if he can't say it himself. I'd suggest you get him and Alex together and if you have to meet Alex alone make sure your boyfriend is ok with it, in the end if he isn't and you go anyway he will be upset and you know it. I know you don't want him to be upset cos then you will end up feeling like shit yourself and it will end up in another fight over the same exact thing. Definitely talk to your boyfriend as much as needed and more about the things going on, basically he has the right to know what's going on and I'm sure you respect honesty in your relationship, just try and include your boyfriend and try as much as possible to make him feel like regardless of whoever is coming to town, especially Alex, in this case, he is still the one you care about the most. Good luck =)
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