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stop talking behind my back
I have spent so long knowing people talk shit about me behind my back both because of my different personality and my physical appearance. I just want the physical appearance thing to stop ... I can't handle it sometimes ... why are people so cruel? It's not like I am really fat at all, but I'm a big guy ... I just hate how cruel the world can be when even close friends talk shit behind your back about shallow things like the way you look ... why?
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See, now, here's the thing.
You are perfect. You've gotten more good attributes than anyone else I know in this world. I just don't see why any girl would want to date disney's prince charming once they've met you.
The epitome of all insults are ignorance. If someone is attacking you, it says more about themselves than you. Have you realised that the happy, intelligent people with active lives probably have never uttered a negative remark against you? You have amazing friends female and male. Too many females you meet are attracted to your magnetic personality and radiating hotness. [My clit erects when I think of you and how you can make me feel].
Notice how the people you care most about aren't ignorant... people with names like Nadine, Rachel, Luke and Grazia can often be trusted. This is scientifical fact. However, stay away from Lynne Jo's as these sort of people will only be attracted to you physically and crave lustful yet sinful interaction with you. :]
You probably could search the internet for the perfect man, and you honestly seem to exceed every last adjective people can think a perfect man should be like. Perfection is a concept, but you physically, emotionally and mentally push it into reality.
I seem to have fallen in love with you after this brisk answer. Oh no.
I know you can keep asking yourself why people can be so cruel, but those are the people you don't want close to you. If they have to be friends, keep your distance. They don't really care about you enough to deserve your trust or respect. Only lowlifes can attack someone so harshly behind their back based on physical appearance.
I think these type of imperfections people have causing them to be so cruel was intended to harshly serve as a guideline to separate one flock from the rest. You see how in nature we have the goat and the ram, the rat and the mouse, the people of one caliber and the people of another. We aren't supposed to judge others, I agree with that... but letting nature speak for itself proves that you are indeed on a whole other level to those vain pestilent and lesser fucking beings.
Hmmm.. I appear to love you.. want to meet for a drink sometime?
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Kids in high school are whiny, bratty, self obsessed, shallow imbeciles. If they're not busy worrying about themselves, they're busy dragging someone down for their own sick amusement.
You need to find real friends. I wouldn't even take the time to confront it. Stop hanging out with them, & do your own thing. Find yourself some people who won't talk about you behind your back.
You will find people who will be true to you and who will care about other things aside from your appearance, their appearance, and everyone else's appearance. It'll take a little time, but it'll happen.
And besides, don't worry about what people say about you. As long as you're happy with who you are & how you look then their comments about you shouldn't matter. :)
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usually people are like that because they are some damn miserable with themselves that they feel it is the best idea to find someone they can bring down with them. And since you wrote this it kind of seems to me that you care what other people think of you. They see that you don't have confidence in yourself and they thrive on that. So they pick at you. It will be hard but let that roll off your shoulders. tell them sorry you feel that way and walk away. The people that matter in your life the most will stick behind you and stay true. The people that decide to try and break you are not worth anything in your life. Hey just think of it as they love you so much that you are the center of the world.... oh yay... haha anyways best of luck and always stay strong. If you ever need to talk just shoot me an email tarebear_whinery17@hotmail.com/ I know exactly how you are feeling and you can get through it it will get better
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People suck.
it's a simple as that, but also just as complicated as that because ot every person is bad. and i think we've all been down that road, where we've been talked about and bitched about for multiple reasons. I know I've been through it, and still am. it's not something I enjoy, it really hurts me. and honestly, they are NOT your friends if they can do that to you .. and make you feel so low, when you're not. dont listen to other people who are only trying to bring you down so they can bring themselves up and feel better baout themselves because they are insecure and IMMATURE. people like that are going to be the ones who end up with absolutley no friends, or at least no REAL friends. People are cruel by nature .. it seems like everyone needs and WANTS something to talk about and gossip about. like, what happened to talking about random things like, unicorns ? haha, honestly. like.. now, its like gossiping and beating on one person gives people common ground and someone to equally hate or dislike. It's not fair. and I'm so sorry this is happening to you. But don't let it get to you. you are who you are, and that is a GREAT person. But stand up for yourself ! That's the best thing you can do, don't just let them walk all over you, because then they will keep doing it. talk to them, make them aware that you know and that it's NOT okay on any terms. They just want to make themselves feel better. Just remmeber, you're awesome. and i give you so much credit for dealing with it, it gets really hard trying to keep this all inside :[ so dont. and try to find new friends, who are actually worthy of your freidnship and deserve you.
good luck ! hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me [i can relate] xxo.
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Honestly, people love bringing others down to make themselves feel better. It sounds cliché, but it's really the way people are. When they point out flaws in other people, they feel better about their own flaws. It's just gossipy boredom of high school.
If your friends are saying things like that, you really need to find better friends. It's not like you're asking a lot by wanting them not to make fun of you behind your back. They probably don't really mean any harm by it; but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt your feelings. You should try talking to them about it, one-on-one. Don't do it when they're together in a group. Say, "Hey, (insert friend's name) I heard you said (insert what friend said). I don't know why you would talk about me behind my back like that, but if I hear about you doing it again, I'm done being your friend'
Short, sweet, and to the point. State what you heard, tell them you're not cool with it, tell them what you're going to do if it happens again.
Then, stick to your guns. Your friend will probably apologise or say that he didn't do it. If he apologises, just accept the apology and tell him to not talk about you behind your back again. If he says he didn't do it, tell him who told you that he said that, and that you're not going to deal with high school drama, so he better get things straightened out with whoever is saying that.
-Darby(:
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You are seriously not alone. I've always been talked about behind my back for a variety of reasons.
I know how you feel. And I know how hard it is to try to forget about them, but that's what you have to do.
I found friends that don't do that stuff to me, and stuck with them, and payed no attention to the mean-spirited people. I know that seems like you can't do it, and it definitely will be tough, but if you keep telling yourself that they don't matter, eventually their comments won't phase you.
--Jack
(17/m)
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