Hey Everyone! My name is Taryn but people call me T-bear! I have a a pretty rough roller coaster in my life but have made it to the top and love where I am at today. I have a beautiful family and am able to smile again everyday. I love helping other people keep the faith and know what you are going through and where you can end up. I love my fiance who I am about to marry here in 20 days and adore my one year old son. He reminds me why I continue to appreciate my breath here on earth. I am here for anyone at anytime. Just ask away!!! Luv u all!!
E-mail: tarebear_whinery17@hotmail.com Gender: Female Location: Wyoming Occupation: Full Time Mommy Age: 25 MSN: tarebear_whinery17@hotmail.com Member Since: November 13, 2006 Answers: 61 Last Update: April 16, 2014 Visitors: 6211
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So my boyfriend & I recently discovered we both had chlyamdia. I got it cured. But my boyfriend on the other hand, hasn't yet. He went but they sent him somewhere else, anyways we were messing around we been using condoms since we found out but I was messing around & I was teasing him & didn't think anything of it but I just licked the top of his dick (the head) & just remembered you can get chlymadia through oral. I didn't think about it, but it was literally just a lick. Not a suck or anything. One lick! Lol he didn't cum or anything. Is there a chance I have a chlymadia? Please answer asap! (link)
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no u should be just fine it didnt go in your mouth and no semen was transferred plus the medicine you will prevent it from happening for awhile, your good sweetie
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pls adviced me ....well i fall in love with my face book friend..i talk to him ovr phone call 5 to 6 time..he didn"t know i love him..one day i fell its not good for my family couse he s non bengali and m bengali..its a big troubld for me..so am brk our friendshp at any reason! dn aftrfew days m felling gulty for him..so m said to sorry him through his one of best male friend!aftr one day..he abused me and belived me have no reasone!!then next day he call me through his friend and said that "hey wht going on ur lyf"???s that boy love me??can i trust him?why he did that???pls plssss plssssssss plsssssss advised me???are he pscychopath???actually am confused???plssssssssssssssssssssssszs read it and advised me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Don't mess with anyone over the internet not a good idea and definitely not if it's going that way. INTERNET dating is extreme trouble.... Stay safe sweetie!!
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So my bf & I met when we were both 18 & got together a couple months later. I had cheated on my previous bf with him, but I felt so bad about that I told the very next day (we just kissed,& it turns out to be my current bf's first kiss), & when I told him he asked why. After my first boyfriend & I broke up after 3 months on & off. Less than a month after we'd been broken up, I started dating the guy I cheated with-who turns out to be my steady bf since late 2010. I took his virginity in January 2011, & all was well for a while. Then he started lying over stupid things (where he was, that he had to go home, who he was with-said he was with his friend Kyle, but he was with a girl he "used" to like,& talk shit on me)..or "forgetting" to tell me things, & making the same promises over and over. It doesn't help that he never seems sincere & using uses a sarcastic or mocking tone, & usually extremely critical of me. I do love him so much,& he's my first,& we have had a lot of good times, but I don't know what to do anymore. Help please?? (link)
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My best advice and the best that worked for me when I was in this same exact situation set him free. As hard as it is gonna be act like it isn't bugging you. Don't call him let him call you and when he does don't be saracastic like he is to you. It's no game but it is just letting yourself know you can live without him and makes you feel a little better that he is chasing you. Trust me it works I did it to my boyfriend when he was doing these things and now we are getting married and have a 1 year old son. He is a male and sad to say but he is getting bored all males do you need to give him some challenge you need to make him miss you and wonder why you havent called. He needs that and if you set him free and he doesn't come back it's his loss not yours sweetie and I promise the right one will come... Good Luck to you!!
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So I would like to know if I'm wrong or right and what to do.... My wife has her best friend of about fifteen years....her friend has always been a bit of trouble .....if it wasn't drugs it was partying and being the village bicycle....my wife and I have been together for 11 of those and I've tried over the years to be ok with her friend in the picture but as soon as I start warming up to her she does something like cheats on her husband not to mention she is lazy treats her husband like servant and is so immature and when her and my wife get together they act like dumb little girls....now my wife and I met in high school and I'm two years older. We have each done our fair share of dumb shit but she 27 and me 29 now , have settled down, have goals that we both work for, but I still have to deal with her friend who is also 27 , that has no job and dresses and acts like a teenager. I couldn't have an intelligent conversation with her even if I wanted. This last weekend I took my wife to a concert and old town Sacramento ...... I decided to invite her friend and her husband along with a couple of our other friends and all her friend did was complain about the other couple, it was an all day concert but the last band she didn't sans see the last act and expected everyone to leave because she was ready.........and when we didn't she complained.....when we went to old town Sacramento........she was up my wife's butt......she gave me a little trinket and my wife one of those best friend necklaces and I notice she had a new purse and I was wondering Wtf then why couldn't they pitch in on gas and why was I feeding the. Come to find out she lifted that stuff and who knows what else? So am I crazy for wanting my wife to put distance at least til she catches up in maturity? Or am I being unreasonable? (link)
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Tough situation and trust me i have been in many of those. Hard part is you cant demand something on your wife or who she spends time with that would just make things tougher than they need to be. You can however talked to her about how you are feeling and set mutual boundaries that you both can agree on maybe u plan a once a week thing with her friend and to shut down every negative thing she says or does and show her you two want nothing but positive around and eventually she may mature but dont make her cut ties that will make things way bad
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My life is completely over. I feel I don't want to live anymore ((IN TEARS)) I'm ready to leave this world an be with my grandfather where there's no worries no pain and no problems..I always asked my mom why did she have me I should of never been born. I find myself going through deep depressions to the point I started to take all the pills I have, swallowing bleach, and eating rat poison, I don't want to live anymore my mind is set. My depressions are beginning to worsen I often cry myself to sleep and hope that I don't wake (link)
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ok first of all if you wanted to take your life you would have already done it and definitely wouldn't of posted that on advicenators.... A lot of people say "I wanna commit suicide" because of a hard situation in life. When I was suicidal the best advice I got was Don't make a permanent solutions for a temporary problem. You don't wanna die you wanna stop feeling shitty about every little thing possible. So man it up, step outside, breathe and tell yourself that you are so lucky to be able to do this.... You think you hurt now think of how your love ones would feel if you committed such a selfish act, when you have it better than some out there.... Change your thought process and make your self feel better only you can and only you will... Keep your chin held high and find the positives... take care
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i want to suicide plz help me (link)
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ok first of all if you wanted to take your life you would have already done it and definitely wouldn't of posted that on advicenators.... A lot of people say "I wanna commit suicide" because of a hard situation in life. When I was suicidal the best advice I got was Don't make a permanent solutions for a temporary problem. You don't wanna die you wanna stop feeling shitty about every little thing possible. So man it up, step outside, breathe and tell yourself that you are so lucky to be able to do this.... You think you hurt now think of how your love ones would feel if you committed such a selfish act, when you have it better than some out there.... Change your thought process and make your self feel better only you can and only you will... Keep your chin held high and find the positives... take care
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I met this guy over the summer. He just graduated from my school but we didn't even know each other until the summer. He's going into college so I knew I'd only know him for a few weeks, but I talked to him anyway. He seemed to really like me and I REALLY liked him. We hung out a few times and hooked up once. Now that it's over, I'm so upset! He's in college now and he doesn't hit me up anymore. I fell for him HARD and I do that a LOT when it comes to guys ! How do I not get so attached to a guy so quickly? Even if I'm just talking to a guy, I always get really attached to the guy I'm talking to and really upset when it comes to an abrupt end. Is it me? Am I doing something wrong? All of my friends get over their guys soooo easily and I always dwell on the guy I was previously talking to. I've never been in a real relationship and maybe I just think I'm close to getting it and then it goes away. I don't know. HELP !! (link)
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alright... your just like me...you have some insecurities with relationships because you have never really had one and as bad as it may sound it\'s not but it\'s gets to a desperation where you crave and seek affection from the next availiable person. it\'s an obstacle that is hard to face... all i can tell you that might encourage you to face these insecurities is my story.... i was heartbroken after heartbroken because i finally got someone giving me affection and i made a fanasty about what it could be in my head... move slow girl and don\'t seek. i finally stopped looking because the pain was getting to real.... that happened three years ago and i have been in a 3 year relationship am engaged and have a 5 month old son... don\'t focus so much on it, learn to love yourself to the fullest and become completely secure and things will fall into place.
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i hate to say it but im horribly lovesick. i attract the wrong people.
the last relationship lasted a few months and ended in june, he was the severe mamas boy. the one before that was two years long and ended on my birthday in february, hes the sxe rocker but we fought to much. i went on a date a few days ago with a friend and he wont talk to me because i wouldnt go past kissing, drug addict. and my 'bestfriend' asked me out but hes bi and i couldnt picture us as more than friends but i broke his heart n never knew till he says he doesnt even wana stay friends, drug addict. then my crush asked me over but i couldnt make it either time, i told him i liked him n we dont talk anymore, college n an mma fighter.
-i want to forget guys and have fun with my girls but i dont have many girls, i fell for my guy friends and we got distant. to be honest im asked if im back in depression this hurts that much, i need someone to hold me and love me. day by day is a struggle with me, honestly im skinny and pretty and optimistic and called a flirt but latley i give up on appearance and going out. i deal with chronic pain and a brain tumor. i just want love to help forget, before i get into drinking and smoking again. how can i find and keep the right guy, im loosing my friends. any advice on this is appreciated! 16 female (link)
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First thing you are doing wrong is looking and trying way to hard. Trust me I have the same problem with guys, girls are attracted to those hardcore guys that are a little rough around the edges they are sttracted to the hard to get and love the challene you need to take a step back be your self and let someone come to you. you don't need someone to love you but you realyl want someone to love you..... but in order for that to happen you need to learn to love yourself first. and it sounds like you have some issues there. Try to just calm down and take a step back and stop looking, let it come to you. drinking and smoking doesn't help the depression either it only worsens it, so maybe cut back on that too. hope i helped
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Damn. First of all, I'm sorry this is so long but please read it! I need help/opinions! Guys are SOOOOO confusing.
20/F
There's this guy that I've had a crush on ever since I met him. We had a class together in high school and we were okay friends-- aquaintances. I mean, when we were together in class we had a ball (he's a fun, jokster kind of guy) but we never really hung out outside of that class. Then he graduated, joined the Marines, and was deployed to Afgan. He also had a girlfriend at the time. While he was away, we chatted every now and then on Myspace just the quick "hey how are you?" type thing.
So fast forward about 2 years to present day. He's back from Afgan and he is in North Carolina on base. And now he's on Facebook. My friend sent me a suggestion to add him, so I did and he accepted. I saw on his wall where he was coming home (where I live) for the weekend and we made plans to get together but they never happened. He went to base in North Carloina and to my surprise a couple days later he started texting me. We talked back and forth a bit and became better friends and he was upset and telling me about his problems with his gf and about how he wants nothing to do with her anymore. So half flirting, half being serious I would say things to cheer him up like "You're an attractive, loving guy. You need to date girls closer to your age. (His ex is 18, he's 21. I'm 20..I was hinting towards me. hehe) You deserve better. You'll find the right girl." yadda yadda yadda. Well, I made his day. haha
Since then he's been very flirtatious with me. Shortly after that discussion he was telling me that I should come see him in NC and I told him I didn't have the money and he was like "well, I'd totally fly you out here." He would text me goodmorning and tell me he misses me and how he wants to see me. He told me a couple of times that he was telling his friends about me and showing them my facebook. And we talked on the phone a couple times and one time he told me he just called coz he wanted to hear my voice (of course, he was drinking a little bit that night so maybe it was the alcohol talking?).
Then he quit texting me as often for a couple days until finally he texts me and says "I'm home!" and I was like what? why? and he said "to see you". We hung out that night and every night that he was home (about 5 days) and we flirted it up and everything but he also talked A LOT about his ex gf (she lives in our town too) and he talked about this girl in Colorado that his mom was trying to hook him up with.
This is where I get lost. Why would he flirt so hard with me if he was interested in this girl in Colorado? Like, while he was in town and we were hanging out we really hit it off. We've got a lot in common. We both like to joke and have fun. He even came up with a "plan" for "us" (in a joking way of course). He said I would come with him to NC then we would go to Colorado (his mom lives there) and then we'd get married in Vegas. And I know it's just a joke and it's like haha oh yeah ;) but I mean, why would you say that to a girl you're not a little bit interested in? I don't know.
After his stop here he went to Colorado to visit his mom (and that girl... :[)but he still would text me every day and call me everynight. He introduced me (over the phone) to his mom and told me he was talking to her about me. And then, just like before, we quit texting/talking as much and he came BACK to town one last time for a day before he had to head back to NC.
He told me he really likes this girl in Colorado and that they almost kissed one night but someone's stepdad prevented that from happening. But then he'll say things like he's not sure if he's good enough for her because he's not religious and she is. All the while, still flirting with me but not doing anything about it. I don't know.
And then last night we were texting, having a conversation, and I asked him what he was up to tonight and he never responded. So I finally texted him back about an hour or so later and was like "haha I love how everytime I ask you what you are up to or whats up our conversation stops. haha Were you just bored for those 30 seconds you text me? hehe Must've been waitin on a call from bri (the girl in another state). hehe" I tried to be playful with it because I didn't want to come off as rude or that my feelings were hurt, I really wanted to know why our conversations were always brief lately. He responded, "Awwww no I fell asleep!!!" To which I said, "Likely story. You fall asleep every time? ;) hehe" And he said, "No [insert my name here] you know i love you" (he only put the letter "u"...i can't just put the letter "u" because it's "text speak" ugh.) and I said, "I'm not feelin the love, [insert his name here]. :[ haha nah, I'm just pickin' on ya. I know. :] Sorry I woke you up...go back to sleep. :)" then he said, "I love you!" (again..he didn't type out "you" it was just the letter "u") and I said, "Now don't say that unless you mean it! ;) ;) haha jk. I love you (letter "u") too! :]"
So I don't know. I'm so lost and confused. I THINK he likes me? I don't know. Why is he doing this to me? It's driving me absolutely CRAZY! I try to lower my expectations to just being friends but it's really hard sometimes. What is going on in his head????????? (link)
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I would have to agree, he does sound a little bit confused, but don't get shot down he could have feelings for you. Sounds like you are going to have to be straight forward and ask him how he is feeling. He could just love you as a friend cuz i know when this happens to me I over analyze things and automatically assume they like me.... but if he came all the way down for NC to see you then there has to be something there and i just don't know if he is ready for it. but go ahead and just ask him where you two stand.....
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Im in middle school and i have problem. There are 300 cute guys at my school that have great personalities and i dont have a crush on any of them! The even bigger poblem is that none of them are crushing on me. I think some of them are cute but there is no attraction and i find that wierd considering im not a lesbo. I had a boy friend the first 3 and a half months of school and we were going really well until i broke up with him. Is there just someting wrong with me? Im mean im a girl and they are boys. And i know im more way more brains then beauty(straight A student thank you)and im not a snot or mean. i love to make people laugh(the nice way) but i just don't see myself getting my first kiss or being found attractive any time soon. please no comments on me being too young for a bf or a kiss, i already have parents and i really dont want anymore. (link)
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wow hun there is nothing wrong with not being attracted to anyone at the moment. You don't know if there is someone in the school that takes a second glance at you. Im sure all those 300 guys didnt come up to you and say I don't have a crush on you. Its okay to just take a step back and focus on yourself than if someone comes to you and you feel like you are ready than go for it!! good luck and no worries
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I've been with this one guy for like 4 years, and i'm only 19. I know I love him and could marry him but I'm so sexually frustrated. My friend Roe is so shy and nerdy and all I keep thinking about is him fucking me on his table, bed, and floor. I can't stop thinking about sleeping with him. If I don't do something qiuck i'm going to jump him. But I can't cheat...nsndknfsdsd. So frustrating. (link)
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haha this is will pass and if it doesnt I think you need to re evavluate your feelings. You might have feelings for your friend... but hey I just had this happen too... but when I kissed him I realized I couldn't do anything more because I didn't want to lose that friendship.... anyways just deal with it for awhile think about what you really want and how important your friendship is with him
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K so ive been on a strict diet for a month and have lost maybe a pound or two but i gained it back i have been eating 1500 calorie meals 3 meals per day and nothing is happening i tried exercising but i cant deal with it anymore ive been getting up everymorning for a week at 6am and exercising for 20-25mins everyday but still nothing im starting to lose hope and think i will never lose weight basically my question is can i lose weight without exercise and just dieting i mean if i just eat healthy and drink like lots of water and green tea or other herbal teas can i do it i know it will be slow and might take another month or two but will i lose weight without exercise besides its not like i wont be moving at all i can still walk around and stuff and go for walks with my dog will that be enough please help me im so confused and so tempted to ruin my diet by eating something totally unhealthy right now lol also if you have any simple meal ideas please let me know thank you so much to whoever replys :D (link)
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diets really arent the best thing to do... eat normal and helathy and just exercise.... because when you lose weight you do realize that the diet your on youe gonna have to stick to so you dont gain the weight back. dont lose hope it just takes awhile. its also depends on your age and how fast your metabolism works. but that excersise is going to boost your metabolism and eventually start helping you shed some weight...... stay strong but remember put yourself on a "diet" that you can stick to forever
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could starting birth control and getting your nipple pierced around the same time frame have any effect on one or the other?!?!?! (link)
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not at all birth contol is to regualte your hormones and reduce pregnancy you nipples have nothing to do with that.
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I am new at this whole dating thing, but I was with this boy I really like last night. He held our hands up to the ceiling of my car and said to see who would let their hand drop first.. He wouldn't tell me what it meant, so please, can anyone tell me what it means? Thanks x a million :) (link)
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This is just a guess but guys can be tricky sometimes maybe he did that because you arms arent in the way to look at your boobs. I dont know but guys are perverted. lol
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Okay, well. Earlier last month (September) My boyfriend and I were taking a shower and after just went to the bed to carry it on. We were both naked and all, but he never stuck it in or anything. We're both still virgins. But afterwards, I wanted to take a bubble bath and so we did. We didnt do anything in there, I just played with the bubbles and stuff. I'm just wondering, could something have happened when we were in his bed? I was on top of him and everything, and my vagina was down there along with his penis, but like I said, we didnt do anything. But his penis was against me. Also, can sperm like, swim through the water in the bathtub and get into me? I'm just a wee bit paranoid right now.
Thank you :D! (link)
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no possible way at all... and yes you are being way to paranoid.. haha you are not going to get pregnant unless he fully enters you and ejacualtes. and sperm isnt going to just swim over and enter you... way to impossible....
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We all know that there are popular people and unpopular people at school. The popular people are usually the people who dress nicely and get all of the cute guys as b/f's. The unpopular people are totally opposite. I kinda get annoyed with the popular people because I think the only reason the guys like them is because they're popular or because they're pretty. They don't think about how nice they are. Well i just wanted to know how you felt about this. Im curious...
Signed
Annoyed and Curious Girl (link)
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Honestly I didn't really consider "popular" people popular in school. The actual dictionary definition of popular is regarded with favor, approval, or affection by people in general. In high school their definition of them being popular was I wear the cute clothes or my parents have the most money, I attract boys not only because I am cute but because I put myself off as easy. But when you take a step back and glance around the only people that like them are themselves. And the funny thing is.. I am in college now and those kids that were popular are working at fast food resturaunts. Being popular and getting everything handed to you in high school affects your future majorly, so my opinion of those popular people are let them screw up their lives by being selfish and conceded. Its not mine or your problem, because deep down you are better then them and you will succeed. Hope I helped hun and never ever let someone get to you, they are not even worth the time. Have a good day!!!
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hi ,this sounds akward but i just have to ask somebody.
ok so when i touch my vagina down there i dont feel nothing.and i dont even see my clitoris.i seen images on google but i dont see no little circle in there. i just see something thats like a seed.and thats the uretha,my doctor opened me down there and told me i do have one. but i just dont kno because when you touch your clitoris is suppoed to feel good.but me i dont feel nothing.am really sad about this because i really want to feel something :( (link)
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Honestly if you doctor told you you were fine than you are. There are two reasons this could be happening. It doesnt make you sexually aroused or you are touching in the right place. I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you, all girls are different try different things!! hope i helped!
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Hello! Im 14/f Jimmy's 16:)(lil bit older but age doesnt matter to me♥)Will be long, im sorry.
Okay, well last summer I met this awesome guy, Jimmy, well that day of my life was perfect as it seemed. We have a lot in common, after we met we started talking getting to know each other, i started to like him the same for him, but he didn't understand how much i liked him. I fell for him and he was a awesome guy. He was a player at that time it seemed, he touched me down there when we were in the pool once and i was shocked. I didn't like that. Well, he said he liked me a lot, but i found out that he liked someone else to. At that time, i couldn't handle that. He cuttted me down, and said "Well, if your going to act that way, bye bitch". (sorry for the language)That hurt me and it took me awhile to move on. When i did, i forgot about him i actually despised him, mostly because he dated one of my friends after i he told me that he didnt want to date anyone at that time.So, i was done with his ass. Well, it's the 3rd week of the new school year, and he sends me a pic of himself. I was pissed, haha so i asked him what he wanted, very mean to him. :/ Well, he didnt reply but than the next day i told him hi, we started talking,we sent pics to each other, to see if we changed any. haha he said i did. He was very sweet, and i told him how much he hurt me and he told me that he was very sorry for hurting me. I didn't believe it at that time, but he proved it to me later. He brought up that he still likes me, and i was like WOW this whole time? We met in July?! I was dating someone at that time. When i asked him what he was doing he said this: " thinking". I said "about...?" he replied "U, how i really liked you and let you go, now you have someone. I should have never let you go :'(" (link)
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NO NO NO NO.... I had a guy exactly like this. He sees that you have/had someone in your life and he doesnt like it! As soon as he gets what he is after you wont mean a damn thing. This is guys games. BIG mistake breaking up with you boyfriend for this guy.. as hard as it will be you need to tell him that you just want to be friends. if not be prepared for ur heart to be broken!!
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Im a freshman at college this year and i've been here for about a week. I was fine at first, but now i'm getting more and more homesick. I really miss my parents. I've made a couple good friends but no like a big group which im sure is what is adding to my homesickness. How can I get over this? becuase while my parents are coming for parents weekend in october...i wont be home until thanksgiving.
Thanks! (link)
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I am going through the exact thing. I am a freshman in college about 4 hours from home, and I miss everyone like crazy. You feel like you have no one to talk to like you use to. And its just down right hard. You hide yourself in your room and cry sometimes cuz you just don't think you can make it. And worst of all you starting over all new. I'm with you , but what would life be without these scary obstacles and challenges that we face? As hard as is, get out there and introduce yourself, be friendly and go find someone. Because even if you don't realize it there is someone else in the shadows that may want to come out so bad because they are feeling the same way that you are but are too scared too!! Dont worry you will seriously make it and just know you arent alone. If you ever need to talk my email is tarebear_whinery17@hotmail.com
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ok so one of my friends thought of a good idea to get a guy to like me. he likes "bad girls" so the plan is to get a rumor started about me that i gave someone a bj and idk if i should do it or not. help me plllleeeeaaasssssssseeeee! (link)
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NO NO NO. bad idea if you cannot be yourself and you have to spread a rumor about you being sexual to get a guy to like you than he's not the one. Plus that is not going to get him to like you its gonna get him to think.. o if I ever want a bj then there is the girl to go to and you will just be a piece of meat to him. I really hope you don't do that It will only cause drama and problems for you!!!
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