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Does He Like Me? He's So CONFUSING!
Damn. First of all, I'm sorry this is so long but please read it! I need help/opinions! Guys are SOOOOO confusing.
20/F
There's this guy that I've had a crush on ever since I met him. We had a class together in high school and we were okay friends-- aquaintances. I mean, when we were together in class we had a ball (he's a fun, jokster kind of guy) but we never really hung out outside of that class. Then he graduated, joined the Marines, and was deployed to Afgan. He also had a girlfriend at the time. While he was away, we chatted every now and then on Myspace just the quick "hey how are you?" type thing.
So fast forward about 2 years to present day. He's back from Afgan and he is in North Carolina on base. And now he's on Facebook. My friend sent me a suggestion to add him, so I did and he accepted. I saw on his wall where he was coming home (where I live) for the weekend and we made plans to get together but they never happened. He went to base in North Carloina and to my surprise a couple days later he started texting me. We talked back and forth a bit and became better friends and he was upset and telling me about his problems with his gf and about how he wants nothing to do with her anymore. So half flirting, half being serious I would say things to cheer him up like "You're an attractive, loving guy. You need to date girls closer to your age. (His ex is 18, he's 21. I'm 20..I was hinting towards me. hehe) You deserve better. You'll find the right girl." yadda yadda yadda. Well, I made his day. haha
Since then he's been very flirtatious with me. Shortly after that discussion he was telling me that I should come see him in NC and I told him I didn't have the money and he was like "well, I'd totally fly you out here." He would text me goodmorning and tell me he misses me and how he wants to see me. He told me a couple of times that he was telling his friends about me and showing them my facebook. And we talked on the phone a couple times and one time he told me he just called coz he wanted to hear my voice (of course, he was drinking a little bit that night so maybe it was the alcohol talking?).
Then he quit texting me as often for a couple days until finally he texts me and says "I'm home!" and I was like what? why? and he said "to see you". We hung out that night and every night that he was home (about 5 days) and we flirted it up and everything but he also talked A LOT about his ex gf (she lives in our town too) and he talked about this girl in Colorado that his mom was trying to hook him up with.
This is where I get lost. Why would he flirt so hard with me if he was interested in this girl in Colorado? Like, while he was in town and we were hanging out we really hit it off. We've got a lot in common. We both like to joke and have fun. He even came up with a "plan" for "us" (in a joking way of course). He said I would come with him to NC then we would go to Colorado (his mom lives there) and then we'd get married in Vegas. And I know it's just a joke and it's like haha oh yeah ;) but I mean, why would you say that to a girl you're not a little bit interested in? I don't know.
After his stop here he went to Colorado to visit his mom (and that girl... :[)but he still would text me every day and call me everynight. He introduced me (over the phone) to his mom and told me he was talking to her about me. And then, just like before, we quit texting/talking as much and he came BACK to town one last time for a day before he had to head back to NC.
He told me he really likes this girl in Colorado and that they almost kissed one night but someone's stepdad prevented that from happening. But then he'll say things like he's not sure if he's good enough for her because he's not religious and she is. All the while, still flirting with me but not doing anything about it. I don't know.
And then last night we were texting, having a conversation, and I asked him what he was up to tonight and he never responded. So I finally texted him back about an hour or so later and was like "haha I love how everytime I ask you what you are up to or whats up our conversation stops. haha Were you just bored for those 30 seconds you text me? hehe Must've been waitin on a call from bri (the girl in another state). hehe" I tried to be playful with it because I didn't want to come off as rude or that my feelings were hurt, I really wanted to know why our conversations were always brief lately. He responded, "Awwww no I fell asleep!!!" To which I said, "Likely story. You fall asleep every time? ;) hehe" And he said, "No [insert my name here] you know i love you" (he only put the letter "u"...i can't just put the letter "u" because it's "text speak" ugh.) and I said, "I'm not feelin the love, [insert his name here]. :[ haha nah, I'm just pickin' on ya. I know. :] Sorry I woke you up...go back to sleep. :)" then he said, "I love you!" (again..he didn't type out "you" it was just the letter "u") and I said, "Now don't say that unless you mean it! ;) ;) haha jk. I love you (letter "u") too! :]"
So I don't know. I'm so lost and confused. I THINK he likes me? I don't know. Why is he doing this to me? It's driving me absolutely CRAZY! I try to lower my expectations to just being friends but it's really hard sometimes. What is going on in his head?????????
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I would have to agree, he does sound a little bit confused, but don't get shot down he could have feelings for you. Sounds like you are going to have to be straight forward and ask him how he is feeling. He could just love you as a friend cuz i know when this happens to me I over analyze things and automatically assume they like me.... but if he came all the way down for NC to see you then there has to be something there and i just don't know if he is ready for it. but go ahead and just ask him where you two stand.....
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It sounds like the guy doesn't know what he wants, He might of broken up with his ex girlfriend but...Do you know for sure if he really did? Although he might want to listen to your kind words and hear what he wants to hear do you have proof that she is actually out of the picture? Sounds like he is playing around to see what else is out there, Honestly...I wouldn't fall for him just yet. Considering he is also talking about another girl I would test him and see whether he is for real or not and by doing so don't give in to him so easily. Making him fight for it, If he tries hard and doesn't seem so pushy maybe he really does like and appreciate you. For now, I'd say this guy doesn't know what he wants, Sure he is flirtatious...but is he for real? ..Study him first
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