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I hate my wife's best friend
So I would like to know if I'm wrong or right and what to do.... My wife has her best friend of about fifteen years....her friend has always been a bit of trouble .....if it wasn't drugs it was partying and being the village bicycle....my wife and I have been together for 11 of those and I've tried over the years to be ok with her friend in the picture but as soon as I start warming up to her she does something like cheats on her husband not to mention she is lazy treats her husband like servant and is so immature and when her and my wife get together they act like dumb little girls....now my wife and I met in high school and I'm two years older. We have each done our fair share of dumb shit but she 27 and me 29 now , have settled down, have goals that we both work for, but I still have to deal with her friend who is also 27 , that has no job and dresses and acts like a teenager. I couldn't have an intelligent conversation with her even if I wanted. This last weekend I took my wife to a concert and old town Sacramento ...... I decided to invite her friend and her husband along with a couple of our other friends and all her friend did was complain about the other couple, it was an all day concert but the last band she didn't sans see the last act and expected everyone to leave because she was ready.........and when we didn't she complained.....when we went to old town Sacramento........she was up my wife's butt......she gave me a little trinket and my wife one of those best friend necklaces and I notice she had a new purse and I was wondering Wtf then why couldn't they pitch in on gas and why was I feeding the. Come to find out she lifted that stuff and who knows what else? So am I crazy for wanting my wife to put distance at least til she catches up in maturity? Or am I being unreasonable?
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You have every right to feel how you feel, You could try talking to your wife that you don't like how her friend is behaving. If that doesn't work then you will have to accept your wive's friend (not really only pretend to). I mean she's your wive's friend not yours so it shouldn't really bother you. If you're afraid that your wive's friend will get her into trouble then let it happen. I know it's difficult but then you'll have an argument why your wife should break the friendship or distance her friend away.
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Lesson learned, Never give a ride to anyone until you have gas money handed to you before hand. Sometimes we have to learn to deal with the immaturity of others and learn that not everyone we meet in our lives are someone we may be keen about. You don't have to like her, You don't have to be her friend but at least for you and your wife's sake learn to be civil. Sometimes certain people are impossible to tolerate and I have been there many times in my life, but we all deal with it. Unfortunately this is a trick situation, You could try talking to your wife. However, Don't make the situation seemingly as if you are trying to turn your wife against her friend. Maybe notice a change in her when she hangs out with her friend and hope she may try talking to her friend about her bizarre behavior.
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Tough situation and trust me i have been in many of those. Hard part is you cant demand something on your wife or who she spends time with that would just make things tougher than they need to be. You can however talked to her about how you are feeling and set mutual boundaries that you both can agree on maybe u plan a once a week thing with her friend and to shut down every negative thing she says or does and show her you two want nothing but positive around and eventually she may mature but dont make her cut ties that will make things way bad
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