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Did i do the right thing?
Me and this guy i became friends with starting talking for 3 months straight, non stop..he always showed me he liked me, or made it seem like we were together because of so many things he used to do. When i realized that he wasnt bringing anything up, i decided to. and i confronted him and told him that i want to know what we are exactly, he told me i was special to him and he likes me but that he doesnt want a relationship right now because he isnt ready to change. So i thanked him for his honesty and we went on talking. I realized that he was still treating me the same, constanly being cute, calling, texting and i thought it wasnt fair to me.. so i started being cold with him until he brought it up and asked "why are u being so formal" i simply said "Im not being formal, i just think its best i keep my distance, you made your point clear last time about what you wanted, and i feel like its for the best if i just keep my distance" he said "thats your choice, if you feel like its best for you then okay, i respect your honesty" i told him that maybe we can talk again someday, and he said hed leave that to me. I cant say im surprised because i kind of saw this coming, however, will he miss me at all? we've gotten pretty close, talking day and night, always knowing where the other one is.. i do know that he probably doesnt like me as much as i like him..even though he showed he did, but i guess people just do things like that sometimes. Im hurt honestly, and i KNOW i shouldnt care if he misses me or not, i just want to know if you guys think he will, because it does matter to me, it makes me feel like i was atleast important somehow. I feel down about myself because i feel like he doesnt think im worth it. Thanks for any advice. :)
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I believe anytime a person gives their time getting to know someone is a good sign that person cares for them. I'm sure he misses you and probably knows your worth every minute you spent together. If you both enjoyed each others company as friends than perhaps that is a good place to stay. A relationship has to happen naturally that way you know its genuine.
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I can't tell you if he'll miss you or not. I don't know him at all.
If he was just simply talking to you and is just the type of guy who talks to girls but doesn't really care to have a relationship, he might not miss you very much.
But I'm glad you stopped talking to him. He didn't like you enough to have a relationship so he wasn't worth it. Usually I can understand when someone says they're not ready for a relationship, but he said he didn't want to change so that's pretty much saying he just wants someone to talk to but doesn't want the extra things that come with a relationship.
You'll find someone else who likes you just as much as you like them and they'll actually want to be with you.
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You did the right thing to put a stop to the amount of time you spend together. Whether a teen in high school or older, the reason for hanging out with the opposite sex and dating when you are attracted to them is to find out more about them, enough to know whether theres enough in common to have a chance of going somewhere or not. Sometimes there is destruction relationship behavior you see in a guy.
Since the biggest attraction for him was conversation...try to imagine him being able to have that kind of conversation with guys. When it comes to genders, females are way better at commmunicating ofcourse have this feminine trait. But it doesnt mean a man is gay to have some feminine strengths such as my husband who is much into conversation, and loves anything that he labels eye candy such as exquisite jewelry
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