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Why am i not crushing?
Im in middle school and i have problem. There are 300 cute guys at my school that have great personalities and i dont have a crush on any of them! The even bigger poblem is that none of them are crushing on me. I think some of them are cute but there is no attraction and i find that wierd considering im not a lesbo. I had a boy friend the first 3 and a half months of school and we were going really well until i broke up with him. Is there just someting wrong with me? Im mean im a girl and they are boys. And i know im more way more brains then beauty(straight A student thank you)and im not a snot or mean. i love to make people laugh(the nice way) but i just don't see myself getting my first kiss or being found attractive any time soon. please no comments on me being too young for a bf or a kiss, i already have parents and i really dont want anymore.
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Well I have to agree with the previous person. I have some examples for you. When I was a jr in HS I didn't think anyone at my school liked me. It's hard sometimes when you are a minority at your school. I was in the minority, it was mostly white and I was black. And it was hard cause I came to find out that a lot of the white kids were not allowed to date black people. They cold be friends with them but they could not date them and then there was a big chunk that was allowed to but wasn't sure if black people liked them so they were to scared to ask me out. When I visited a school in detroit, I was getting flirted with by almost all the guys, I even had a guy sing to me to impress me haha. Around that same year I had a guy that I didn't learn liked me til like 3 or 4 years later haha, and In senior year i had a guy that I could totally tell liked me and he never got the balls to just tell me and ask me out. I don't know how I knew I just knew and ever since then I have always known when guys like me. So with that said...I had to go all the way down to detroit (I was in Auburn Hills) to find out that men were and always have been attracted to me. There was a huge difference between MI and NY when I was in NY I had to beat the men off with a stick, white black puerto rican and so on, in MI I wouldn't know if a white guy liked me if it hit me in the face, cause it is a different culture...I don't mention black cuase I didn't live in an area with a lot of black people so it wasn't often that I even saw a single black man. Anyway the point of all this is. There are a lot of things that go into likeing people and people liking you back and knowing if they do or not. Like the lady said...you probably haven't even talked to all 300 cute guys at your school long enough to even know if they like you. Secondly they may not be your type, they may all be similar because they are from the same area and that just may not be your style...you make like the rugged Liam type from 90210 or the James Dean or you make like the Asian type like John Cho from flash foreward and you may not even know it yet cause there might not be any asian guys at your school...you see what I'm getting at. So don't stress it, I didn't have my first real kiss til I was 19 and there was a LOT of factors that played into that...Strict Parents, Being a Minority in my school, Not knowing a lot about dating or when someone likes me and so on and so on. So maybe when that striking new kid with the "that something" that you like walks in like Twilight haha then you might start to feel something but until them just study hahaha and hang out. :P
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wow hun there is nothing wrong with not being attracted to anyone at the moment. You don't know if there is someone in the school that takes a second glance at you. Im sure all those 300 guys didnt come up to you and say I don't have a crush on you. Its okay to just take a step back and focus on yourself than if someone comes to you and you feel like you are ready than go for it!! good luck and no worries
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