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I have a extended warranty on my macbook that covers accidental damage and spills. If I wasted something on it or dropped it could I get it replaced with another macbook?

I don't think they'd be able to tell I wasted water on it on purpose, so would that work?

Here's what I would do... whatever you are planning on doing, call and let them know you Already Did it. Ask them if it's covered under warranty. If they say "yes," then do it, then send it in.

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This is an odd problem, I think. So I'm a 20 year old college student in Ireland. I want to be successful and to be a decent, happy human. But I have a serious mental block in pursuing these things and trying to push myself because of the man my father is. My father is lazy, stupid, ignorant, close minded and greedy. He is all of these things to quite a high degree. This becomes more and more apparent to me the older I get. I feel like I Just feel like I'm genetically predisposed to be the complete failure of a person that he is. It seems impossible to me that I could be the complete opposite of my own father. As much as I try to overcome this feeling I just can't. It stops me from pushing myself to tap into whatever potential I may have. I'm often told by close friends that I don't think nearly enough of myself and that I don't take myself seriously. I think they're probably right but I find it very difficult to think that I can't shake off my DNA. I feel like this is really holding me back. If anyone has experienced something similar and has overcome this or knows of examples of people who have or can give me any kind of constructive advice Id greatly appreciate it. Thanks in advance

I can relate but I'm not going to share how because my identity is not secret on here. What I will say is this: First, you have to start with acceptance. You have to accept that your dad is who he is, and you have to accept that he is part of what helped to create you (the good and the bad in you). You are his and your mother's child, in spite of what you think of either one of them. Start with accepting that. Here's the next thing you have to accept: You are going to have some similarities. Whether you want to or not. Not just bad things, good things. But you are their child, so you are going to share traits that you don't even realize you share. Accept that. Now... Here's what you really need to accept: You are an individual. You have your own mind, you have your own morals, you have your own goals, etc. So you can go and live your life and be who you want to be. I'll give you a great example (and I'm paraphrasing): There was a man that said that people should give from the heart because they are good people who truly care about their society, and not give just because it makes them Look like good people who care. And a lot of people just give because it makes them Look good, but ultimately, they don't really care, and this can be detrimental to a society. Those are some wise thoughts. I agree with them. You know who said that? Adolph Hitler. Now, because I agree with that comment, does that mean I agree with all of his ideology? Not at all. And I'm ethnic, so I would have been on Hitler's hit list. hahaha. So the point is, you are your own person. And just because you may be similar in some ways to certain people (relative or not) and just because you share certain ideals and thoughts, doesn't mean you are doomed to be THEM. The only thing that can truly hold you back is you. If there's something you are doing, a trait, (not "a trait that my father has") but just a trait that you don't find appealing in Anyone (cause you father isn't the only one), then be different than that. Be better than that. Be who you want to be. And be forgiving... to your father AND to yourself. ;)

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21/f

He did not make me feel less pretty than her, I put this on myself. I don't think he knows that I know how she looks like. I don't think he was aware that we went to the same school and that's how I know.

I've been dating this guy for two months now and every time I see her, every time he mentions her, I can't help but compare myself to her. My friends and siblings have seen her pictures and the first thing that comes out of their mouths are, "wow! she's really pretty!" And they look at me and say, "it's okay... You're cute?" And it makes me feel worse about myself.

I know that she worked for a dog rescue, etc and I sometimes feel like he brags that he has dated a Brazilian girl... and that doesn't make me feel any better. He's told me that I'm cute and that I'm pretty, but I can't help but compare myself to her. I keep thinking that maybe he won't like me as much as he liked her or how he maybe comparing me or thinking that his ex girlfriend was prettier.

Majority of the time I'm satisfied with myself and how I look but this time it bothers me. How do I stop myself from thinking this way?

The operative word in all of this is "Ex." Stop bringing her into your relationship. Confidence is sexy. There's a reason he's with you. Work on your confidence in general, it will positively affect all of your relationships. You can't necessarily stop all of the thoughts you have, but you can decide what you are going to DO. So BE more confident and trust your relationship. (If it's worth trusting.)

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21/f, 27/m

I've been dating this guy for two months. We haven't really discussed whether or not we were exclusive. We have but we did not go anywhere with the conversation.

He knows that if he was seeing other people, I would stop seeing him. He has also told me that he would be upset if I was seeing or dating other people as well. He has told me that he wasn't seeing anyone else but he has been "chatting" or "talking" to other people but he hasn't actually seen them ever since he met me.

The one thing that throws me off is that he's also still on Tinder (dating app), is it okay for me to assume that we're exclusive? Or what should I make of it?

No. Haven't even finished the post; just read the question. (I will though.) Don't make assumptions in a relationship. ASSume=Feelings Hurt. Period. If you don't know, ask. If you don't have the courage to do what you need to do in in a relationship (like express yourself and ask questions), don't be in a relationship. Otherwise, you will end up with a broken heart and/or embarrassed, and you will have no one to blame but yourself, but you will probably end up blaming the other person, which is BS. (Now, I'll finish reading your post.)

Ok. I read it. You need clarity. Especially if he is still on a dating site. Sometimes people aren't 100% sure and they want to keep their options open. That shouldn't happen at your expense. If he wants his options open, he needs to be upfront with you and let you know and then YOU can make a decision about whether or not he's worth waiting for. Sit down. Get some clarity. Get a solid answer. Are we exclusive or not? Are we going to be? What are we doing? What direction are we going in? Are you going to get off Tinder? Stuff like that. If he can't give you an answer, then YOU make a decision- stay and wait (maybe keep YOUR options open), or move on. You have to look out for you. As you can see, he's looking out for himself cause he's still on Tinder. ;)

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21/f I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now with no problems, except my boyfriend's crazy cousin. At the beginning of our relationship we got close, then she became a little crazy and always seems to have a problem. Long story short I drifted away from her a bit after a few freak outs she had on me for no reason; now it's extremely uncomfortable to be around her since we don't talk as much. Recently she invited my boyfriend out to a party in front of me and didn't mention inviting me at all, something she would have talked to me about had we been closer like before. It really upsets me, and my boyfriend agrees she's very rude. Should I talk to him about confronting her behavior? Or have him say something to her? She's just blatantly rude to me. Thanks!

I mean it really depends. I think you have to consider mainly, is it actually/directly affecting your relationship with him? Or is she just annoying when she happens to be around? If it's just an occasional nuisance, I would learn to just dismiss it like you would the pesky spoiled child of a work or church associate that you have to see on occasion. If it IS a direct burden to your relationship (meaning if she doesn't get it together you might have to break up with him), then yes... you and he both need to sit down and sort out your options on dealing with her. It can be touchy cause it depends on how close they are- you don't want to offend him. But don't give it TOO much energy... because negative people FEED off of attention. The best action might end up being both of you just dealing with her less. I mean to be honest, if she loves him, she wouldn't be doing things to potentially sabotage his relationship. You also have to make sure that you get thicker skin. Draw your line in the sand and if she crosses it then take action. Otherwise, ignore it. That's what I'd do. Thanks for asking me :) Hope you get it all figured out.

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Thinking about baby names. WDYT of these?

Aaron Bennett
Joseph James "Joe"
Matthew David or Matthew Joseph "Matt"
Wesley Richard "Wes"
Calvin Clayton
Cole Brandon
Nicholas Andrew "Nick"
William Trent "Will"
Jacob Mitchell
Noah Daniel
Richard ? "Ritchie"


Alexia Ann
Addy Teresa (Teresa is after my mom)
Kennedy Rebekah (Rebekah is after my aunt)
Daisy Jane
Emily Gwendolyn
Jessica Elizabeth
Jane Elizabeth
Meagan Ann
Amy Lea (pronounced Lee)
Melissa Lea (pronounced Lee)

I like:
Wesley Richard
I think it would be better if it was Brandon Cole
I like Nicholas Andrew
William Trent
Jacob Mitchell
And (though not on the list) it's someone I know's son's name but it's really nice: Parker Allen.

I'm not fond of the girl names but that's mainly because I prefer girl names to be more exotic. So I can't help you with that one. :) Good luck.

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Im itching my whole body an see black spots

You might want to go to the doctor. :) It could be allergies. I'm not a doctor though.

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I am a girl and I want to have sex for my first time. I am going to do it on Friday so please hurry! I want to have sex with this guy, but I'm afraid of the popping my cherry part. Is there any way that I can not pop my cherry when I do it? Thanks!:)

Just because you have sex doesn't mean your cherry will get popped, but there is no way to KNOW for sure...it will either happen or it won't (if it hasn't happened already by some other activity: horseback riding, tampon, etc.)

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Im gay but I don't know how to tell her.

I agree with the previous guy.
1. How do you figure you are gay.
2. What makes you think you have to "find a way to tell your mom", is she like a religious fanatic that thinks being gay means you will go to hell?
3. What makes you think you have to "tell your mom", why can't you just be gay?
We need specifics to better answer your question.

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I want to have sex and his Dick is only 5 inches. How far in is the hymen? Could he not pop my cherry?

If you want to have sex have the sex. The size doesn't necessarily matter. He doesn't have to pop your cherry. He needs to stimulate your clitoris and if he can hit it, your g-spot.
That's it. The cherry doesn't need to be popped. I had been having sex for months (with my first boyfriend) before some rough jerk I started dating after, popped mine with his fingers. I had a friend who went through the same thing. The first guy she was with was gentle with her and the sex was wonderful and it wasn't until she got with a rough jerk that her cherry popped. Now DON'T GET IT TWISTED...I'm not saying that if your cherry gets popped it's a rough jerk LOL that's just coincidence ...what I am saying is that the cherry can be popped by rough action to the vag. So you and your guy could have some good rough sex and it gets popped, you could go horseback riding and it could get popped. I think what you are wanting to know is will he be able to reach your G-Spot haha and you know...if he know's what he's doing...trust me...he will find a way to please you and he won't even necessarily have to go in the vag to do it LOL ;) Wear a condom! Peace.

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Both my Nana and Granma have big boobs but my mum has small ones how can I tell whether I will go after my mum or my Granma or Nana??

You can't. You gotta wait and see. That's no different than wondering if you child's hair will stay one color or change, or knowing whether or not you will develop a beauty mark or not. You just have to wait and see. My mom has big boobs and her sister (my aunt) has little ones. My aunt's daughter got big boobs and so did I. Just depends on what genes you got. You should know no later than 21, cause the body keeps growing. I know a guy who's penis had grown a bit between the first time we dated and the second time we dated, cause his body was still growing (his doctor actually told him to expect it as well).

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I'm a 19 year old female babysitter, and I know this is a big accusation, but I think the father of of the family is abusive to the mother and possibly children.

I just started working with this family and they have five kids. The mother is a very petite woman who strikes me as being anxious. Yesterday when I was there, the mother was trying to set up a rental crib for their 2 year old (they're on vacation) and it was a crappy piece of sh*t and one of the wheels came off. She was already very pissed off because she called the company and they were of no help, so when the 12 year old son came in the room and asked what to do with the wheel, she told him, "Use your head. It needs to be put back on the crib," I was standing right there, she wasn't aggressive with how she said it. Well the son threw the wheel on the ground and started screaming how he did nothing to her so why is she freaking out on him. It was frightening to see how aggressive he was toward his mother, and I bet you anything he got it from his father.

About ten minutes later, the father came storming into the room and kept telling her how mean she was and that their son did nothing to merit being scolded when he was just bringing back the wheel. He grabbed her arm and pulled her out into the hallway because he "needed to talk to her privately." while she said, "You're hurting me, let go!" He kept calling her mean and said she "better apologize". The way she responded to him was like a child trying to explain themselves to her father for being caught doing something wrong. The power he had over her was sick.

Then when they were unloading groceries and their daughter had three bags of chips in her hand, the father told her to put them down and go get more groceries from the car. He aggressively kept saying, "Put them down! Put them down! Put them down!" before she even had the chance to set them on the counter because it was covered in other groceries. There was no reason for him to act that way because she was in the process of doing it but he didn't even give her time.

Does this sound like a possibly abusive situation to anyone else? What should I do? I'm only babysitting for them for just one week before they go back home.

Mind your own damn business or find another job. Let me tell you something about abusive relationships (and I was in one) and even though I'm not one of these types of girls, many women will defend their abusive husbands to the death. They will throw you under the bus to save their no good husband (assuming that he is no good). So mind your own damn business. You may not want to hear it, but I have personally heard from people who have been attacked trying to help the "helpless woman". She wants to be with him and when SHE is ready to leave him, she will and she certainly won't need you (and if she does, she will ask for your help). I don't mean to sound cold or anything but it is what it is. If you don't like it, GET A NEW JOB working with different people. And if you don't learn this now the easy way, you will learn it one day the hard way and REALLY get your feelings hurt.

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hi i need ur guys advice theres this girl at my school that i know and like but im not sure if she likes me.

I agree with Giddy...but then again you could always grab your balls and just ask her yourself. She may laugh and reject you, but at the same time, she might like it and be really impressed that you had the courage to ask her yourself.

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how so i kill myself with out pain

To be honest, no matter which way you choose, there is going to be some amount of pain/discomfort. Especially if someone catches you in the act and tries to stop you, then takes you to the hospital to get treatment (now THAT is going to be uncomfortable). If you really want to kill yourself...you will find the least painful way on your own through research, but I am pretty confident that NO ONE ON HERE is going to give you that answer. Besides, when you REALLY want to kill yourself, you won't be concerned about the pain because the emotional pain you are feeling and your desire to die will be far outweigh any potential pain from any method you may happen to choose to kill yourself. If you are coming on here to ask that question, you probably want help and probably don't really want to die. I get suicidal a lot but I don't think I really want to die. Sometimes it's just hard getting through the rough patch. If you are a girl, look to see if the suicidal tendencies happen around your period. If you are a male, then you may want to seek counseling. Don't be to hard on yourself.

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Is God only a pure and loving God who does positive things in our life when we trust in Him and give Him our lives?

I have very bad anxiety. I've seen therapists and have taken pills for it, but it affects my relationship with God greatly because, I've always been scared of life-threatening illnesses or disfigurements... or something just happening to me that will keep me from finding love or being married... or just being able to live my life to its fullest.

I'm scared that if I trust God and hand my life over to Him that something along those lines will be His plan for me.

Does God hurt people like that? The people I see in wheelchairs... or the people burned on over 90% of their body... is that the work of God? Or the devil? Or... humans...?

Is God only responsible for the good and pure? Or does he cause harm as punishment? Or... because it's someone's plan?

I'm very scared of this. Every day I am scared.

I want to be able to love and trust God fully... but I need to know that he won't hurt me like this if I trust him.

Why do terrible things happen to good, God-fearing Christians? What causes that?

Thank you.

Just because something seems bad doesn't mean it is. Maybe for YOU it seems bad, but for that person it could have been the best thing to happen to them or it could just be plain old bad. I don't think you can walk around with the attitude that the Devil did this and God did that. Because "bad stuff" happens to everyone. I can guarantee you that something bad has happened in your life. Maybe you caught a cold, maybe you tripped and fell, maybe you had a boyfriend/girlfriend break up with you, maybe you lost a family member and that made you hurt. Life happens. Whether God did it or the Devil did it totally depends on your religious beliefs but if you look at the story of Job in the bible, the Devil did it but God ALLOWED it to happen. Now Job was lucky cause he got everything back but this does not happen to everyone. Children die every day...babies, and it's not because they are not a good Christian or don't love God enough. You have to allow your life to happen. It's hard, I go through anxiety too, but if you give your life over to God and something "bad" does happen, then you are going to hate God for the rest of your life. I think a good way to view things is that everything happens for a reason. The good and the bad. Think about all of the people who were God loving people that jumped in front of a car to save a child. They might have died or ended up in a wheel chair, but I don't think they would have regretted it one bit. And because that happened, does that mean God was punishing them? Are they not a hero now? What you should do is focus on doing things like meditation (like how Jesus meditated on the word of God) and eating healthy and taking vitamins to calm your mind that way you won't have so much anxiety. Hope I helped some.

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I'm a bisexual girl and I am always so horny. What do I do?

Uhhh....You might want to give a little more detail than that if you want some real advice.

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What are your thoughts about marriage and work?
How does being married affect your work?
Do you think you were better off when you were single because you had less responsibilities? Or are you more productive when you are in a relationship?

Please share your ideas and experiences. Please also include your name (you may use a fake name) and age. I'm planning to use your answers for my project. I need three to five respondents. Thank you. :)

You can call me KK:
Well I was married for 5 years and to me it really depends on where you are working, what your schedules are like and how much you make collectively.
How does it affect your work...I would say as far as influence, it would influence where you can work or how often you can work depending on what the other has to do, what happens to their job, if you have children, etc. You may love your job but if he is in the military you may have to move. If he makes more than you then you may have to move if he gets laid off or fired. If you make more than him he may have to stop working a job he loves to stay at home with the kids. Things like that. Better off single...It depends on how much you love the person you are with. If you are deathly in love then no of course not, nothing is better than being with that person. If you are in love but not on that Romeo and Juliette tip then you could probably take it or leave it. The issue is how much money you make because when you are single all of your money goes to YOU...when there is another person (spouce or child) the money starts getting shared between people. Now instead of paying $200 for food you are paying $500 or more. There are many factors, where are you living, how much is rent/mortgage. If you both have good money then there is really no issue. Productivity...It depends, when you are alone, there is no reason to move and you can keep your good job, but when you have a spouce or family, you may have to move and this could cause you to lose money or have trouble with steady work. Like in my case, I moved with him and he was making $13/hour steady , but my job to work in the small town near him, I was serving and sometimes would go to work all day and aside from base pay, not make any money at all. Then we moved and he got a good job but didn't like it and I got a good job and he wanted to move me and I didn't want to move. It sucked sometimes. The good thing is that if something happens and you have a good spouce, either one of you has a little time to get back on your feet without having to go home to your parents or become homeless. I hope I did a good enough job for you. You are welcome to edit it, it's kind of hard to shrink such a complex question down into this type of form but...I tried.

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What are all of the Australian pads brands that actually work?

I'm not sure about Australian, but what I usually do is get the "overnight ultra thin". This has worked the best for me, cause it's long, for coverage, while at the same time being thin so they don't feel like a diaper.

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I'm 17 years old and female obviously.
This is really embarrassing but it's never happened to me before so I don't know if I should be worried or not..

I was just on the computer online shopping when I moved my leg and felt more wet 'down there' than normal. My first thought was my period. But when I checked it was just normal whiteish fluid, like from arousel. Slightly gooey. And it smelt like I was aroused, but I wasn't at all.

It was so bad it started dripping down my legs when I wasn't quick enough to wipe it away. It also coated the crotch of my underwear. This has NEVER happened to me before so I don't really know what to think. Is there something wrong?

I'm a virgin and the last time I masurbated was like three days ago, if that could help any possible answers.

What Zane said or you are subconsciously aroused. Almost like a wet dream...Like sometimes your body may be responding to stimuli but you are not really thinking about sex consciously. Like maybe you just happened to have a quick thought about a few days ago or your boyfriend or something, no biggie, but your body was like ooooh even though your head was not really in it. Feel me? If you need me to elaborate just let me know.

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I am 14 and I have a 6.5 inch penis and I've been reading and have seen that most girls don't like real big dicks.i know my gf is a virgin so she is tight. So basically do you think 6.5 inches it too big for her too have pleasure?

Uh no not at all hahahaha. I mean you have a great size don't get me wrong, but when they are talking about too big, well they are talking about bigger than that :) That is a great size :) not too big not too small, fits in the mouth well and fill you up well, hahaha sorry I mean I know you're 14 but sh!t you asked :)

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