Hi, I call myself Ignatz after Dan Herriman's character in the old "Krazy Kat" comic strip. I'm 44, father of 3, husband to one, crazy about music and books and food and movies and history and martial arts. I've had some wild and crazy times in my life, and I figure I might as well put in some of my perspective.
I promise not to talk down to anyone or make fun,and I promise not to BS anyone. If you're old enough to ask a frank question, you're old enough to get a frank answer. Oh, and if you ask me a question directly, please be patient. I'll get back to you as soon as I can. My life's a bit hectic. :-)
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What are some good ska bands? I'm really into punk, and people are always telling me I've got to check out ska. So... in your opinion, what are the best ska bands, and what are some good songs by them? (link)
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I know this is an old question, but it bears answering. Ska goes back to 1950s Jamaica, as a mix of calypso and American R&B. For a sense of the original sounds, check out Prince Buster, Toots and the Maytals, and The Skatalites.
There was a resurgence in 1970s England, as the kids of Caribbean immigrants started hanging out with working-class whites. Bands like The Specials, Madness, The English Beat and The Bodysnatchers sped up the beats and added big loud punk riffs to the horn sections.
Enough influence got across to the US to spark the ska-punk movement in the 1980s and 1990s. Bands like Fishbone, The Mighty Mighty Bosstones and the Toasters got lots of critical acclaim and rabid fans, but not necessarily big label money. Later on, Reel Big Fish, No Doubt and Sublime got big as part of third-wave ska. Some artists like Hepcat and GOGO13 have gone back to the smoother, horn-oriented sound of the 50s and 60s, others keep the punk alive. There's even a Satanic ska band called Mephiskapheles. Long story short, there's a lot to choose from if you're interested. Ska is hardly the U2 of punk; there's a lot of overlap, both stylistically and politically. A lot of ska bands were (and still are) anti-racist, pro-working class and pro-equality.
Songs:
Prince Buster, "Al Capone"
Toots and the Maytals, "Pressure Drop"
Skatalites, "Guns of Navarone"
The Specials, "Message to Rudy"
Madness, "One Step Beyond", "Our House", "Night Boat to Cairo"
Fishbone, "Party at Ground Zero", "A Selection", "U.G.L.Y"
Mighty Mighty Bosstones, "Rascal King", "The Impression That I Get"
This should give you something to start with.
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I'm 20 and I broke up with my first love a year ago. I loved him with every fibre in my being and did literally everything for him, even if it went against my morals. I spent all the money I had on getting him expensive gifts and I stuck with him, even when he couldn't care less about me. When we broke up because of the fact that he didn't wanna deal with commitment, at this stage in his life, he wasn't upset, not even for a day. It's been over a year and I've been the only one carrying all this pain and I've been holding so much hope that we could get back together, someday. We still see each other and he kisses me and that's what gave me hope that he still likes me. But last night, he told me that he'd never even think of marrying someone like me and that he needs a submissive kind of girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does, like I did.I always picked up on all his lies and everything he hid from me. It hit me all at once, last night that he's been using me this past year and using my vulnerability. I cried in front of him for two hours straight and he kept saying the same things like "You're not my first love so I can't hold that much love for you" and "I told you I didn't want a relationship" "My first made me lose all my emotions" . I don't know why I'm so attached to him or why I'm even this devastated over a jerk like him. I just need someone to talk some sense into me. I worry, that I'll never be good enough for someone. What else can I do for someone to make them appreciate me? I allowed him to cross so many limits of mine and went above and beyond for him, and I get this, in return. How will I expect the next guy in my life to appreciate what I'll do for him and not break my heart again? (link)
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I'm sorry this happened to you; I've been in the same situation. Speaking from experience, you're going to feel terrible for a while. It does get better; the pain eases, your perspective changes, and you move on to someone who deserves you.
It's pretty obvious that this guy does not. He used you, lied to you, then showed no remorse when he left. Worse, he tortures you every time you see each other, dangling the hope of his renewed affection in front of you. He is not worth your tears. You'd be perfectly justified to kick him in the shins the next time you see him.
My advice: try not to see him if you can avoid it. If you do have to be in the same place at the same time, ignore him. If he tries to talk to you, tell him to go away. (That should be the only thing you tell him. Don't engage him in conversation, or he'll try to hook you again.)
Give yourself time to heal after this. Don't rush into a new relationship. Spend some time thinking about what you want in a partner, and what you expect from him. Make lists of what you want, what you don't want, and what you'll tolerate.
One thing I've learned is that you can't make someone appreciate you. They either do, or they don't. If they don't, no expensive gift, loan, favor, or act will make them change. They're not worth your time. Someone who does appreciate you will show it clearly, and will respect your boundaries and morals.
There is hope; it does get better. Stay strong, and take some time for yourself. Hope this helps.
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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything? (link)
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I'm not a lawyer, so none of my advice should be taken as gospel, but yes. Blackmail is a crime, as is sexual harrassment. Keep all his emails and texts, and report him to the police. If he's in another state, he may face federal charges. Even if he does post the photos, you can force the site to take them down under the Digital Millenium Copyright Act (DMCA). You can send them a DMCA takedown notice, claiming copyright over the photos and stating that you did not authorize their distribution. (This has been used successfully against a number of revenge porn sites.)
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Earlier this year one of my guy friends had a bad breakup with his girlfriend and she started dating one of his friends. He turned emo and started cutting himself. He became atheist and more reserved. He had so much hatred to his ex-girlfriend(my friend)and his friend(also my friend)I helped him through it and got him to stop cutting, become Christian, and become more comfortable with people and also to forgive them both and he is now friends with both of them again. He is a completely changed person now. But he seems to have a bit of an obsession with me.He asked me out but I sadly rejected him because I felt nothing for him. I only did the things I did because he was my friend and I hated seeing him that way. He now has a new girlfriend but he acts like he doesn't like her. He says things about her that he think is weird and awkward. He flirts ALOT when we talk over facebook but the thing is I feel extremely guilty. I feel like im making him cheat. Ruining his relationship. Ive told him countless times that I only want us to be friends but he acts like he forgets that. He says im flirting with him when im just joking around with him. He says "I love you" but I try to take it in a friendly way because he says it to all of his lady friends in a brother-siter kind of way. He says things like im his "future wife" but adds "lol" just to seem like he's joking. He constantly reminds me of the things ive done for him when he was at his lowest point. Thanking me millions of times.He calls me beautiful. He gets jealous easily but he tells me things about his girlfriend and other girls to make me jealous. He has done many attempts to get me to fall for him. Extreme attempts that it almost ruined our friendship. Besides the flirting he is a very nice person(obnoxious at times)but very sweet. He has given me many gifts such as food he has cooked (he cooks a lot)and flowers and teddy bears (before he started dating) He told me he was giving me these things for "appreciation for what I have done" and if I didnt accept them, he made me. He is my best friend. He is very protective and defends me if someone is bullying me. He is very caring. He asks how my day was and sometimes good morning messages. He makes it his job to message me everyday and is always the first to start a convo. We will talk for hours on end just about silly things and joke around a lot. He comes to me when he needs someone to talk to and is going trough something and I do the same for him. He says that he will always be there for me if i need anything. He just the bestest friend you could ever ask for. I just feel like im taking advantage of him. Im trying hard to make our friendship work because I don't want to lose him. But he is constantly testing it. He tells me he's not over me even if he has a girlfriend. He treats me like I am his which I have told him to stop but he wont. Nearly everyone in the school knows of his crush on me. He tags me in posts on Facebook that say things like "Tag the most beautiful girl you know" or "tag a girl that you think is adorable" I just don't know what to do anymore! How can I save our friendship?! He was not always like this. Thank you for reading! I know it was long! :(
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Sounds lke this guy wants you to be his girlfriend, and isn't taking 'no' for an answer. You may have a long history with him, he may not always have been like this, but he is this way now. People do change, and relationships can become toxic if there is no mutual respect. He doesn't respect your wish to only be friends, so he doesn't respect you. You don't need that from a friend, and you certainly don't need that from a partner. No only that, he's showing enormous disrespect for his current girlfriend by flirting with you.
You may have to be very firm with him, and give him an ultimatum: stop flirting with you, or get cut off completely. He may make some very dramatic gestures to try to make you feel guilty (start cutting again, call you names, etc), but don't fall for that. If you can, talk to his girlfriend about it; after all, she deserves the best of him, and he can't give that if he's focused on you.
Hope this helps.
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My husband is in the military and after 13 years he is separating due to medical reasons. He wants to move back to our hometown to be near both of our families, primarily his mother and aunt. Well, I am hesitate. I didn't have the best childhood due to both of my parents being alcoholics. They both still drink heavily and can get violent and emotional when doing so. My oldest brother still lives in the area and drinks excessively as well. To top it off, my sister-in-law and her husband live about an hour away and love to drink and party and are somewhat open swingers. Their sexually active 15 year old daughter is free to do as she pleases and their 12 year old son is often left on his own. While I respect my husband for wanting to be near his mother and his disabled aunt, I am having a hard time dealing with the fact of being near the rest of our family. While it would be nice to be near family, this is not the situation I have envisioned. I don't want our children thinking drinking excessively and having multiple partners is okay. Should I accept the fact we are moving back and deal with the situation as it comes or continue trying to talk my husband into moving somewhere else? (link)
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From what you're telling me, you've got a pretty toxic situation. Have you talked with your husband about your concerns?
It would be one thing if your husband were the sole support for his mother and aunt. How much does his sister do for them? Is she completely unreliable, or can she be counted on to step in when they need something? Do his mother and aunt have a support structure (friends, neighbors, etc.)? Is it essential to their well-being that your family move to where they are?
Ultimately, your kids should be the primary concern. If you don't want them around violent alcoholics and irresponsible polyamorists, then either don't move there at all or else cut out those members of the family. You are entirely justified in denying them access to your home and your kids. The fact that they are related to you does not give them the right to make you or your kids feel unsafe.
Hope this helps.
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21/f, 27/m
Just in case you may be wondering, if you believe in horoscopes. He's a Scorpio. I am a Pisces.
Please be patient. This may be long, I feel like you will need to know details to help me answer my question.
I have always wanted to be with a guy that may have more experience than me just because in my relationships, I have always been the one that has had the most experience (meaning, I was usually their first serious girlfriend). I realized that I cannot see what others may see from a third point of view. I am oblivious to things when I am in the situation or when things are not directly said towards me.
I have been talking/dating this guy for a month. The first time we dated/started talking, I thought I might have been a "booty call" because he was making dirty jokes here and there. Many people told me, if possible, don't get my feelings involved and "go with the flow." Personally, I don't think you can control your feelings. You can't help but like that person. So, instead I spoke to him about it. I told him that if I was a girl he was just trying to sleep with, then he should go elsewhere because he will not get it from me. He told me that he has not had a "booty call" for a long time and that he just wanted to test the waters and see if we would work out of not. Things got a lot better after we cleared things up, eventually we did have sex. He continued to see me afterward and we continued dating.
On one of our dates, I saw him on Tinder (an app where you can meet the opposite sex/whatever. If you both find each other attractive, you can message one another through the app), and I confronted him about it. He admitted to me that he gets on the app a few times a day. I started getting confused afterward. At one point, he stopped trying to have sex but we continued to see each other and went on dates, he was still a gentleman and that got me curious if he was seeing other people. I decided to confront him about it, again.
He told me that he still has a Tinder. He chats with people on it, but he doesn't date/see other people other than me. He asked me why I brought it up on the day I was to see him and I said it was because if he was to see other people, I wouldn't see him that day (the only reason being because I don't want to sleep with him/see him after another girl, etc). He told me he wouldn't mind being exclusive with me, if I wanted and that he wanted to continue to see me. Somehow this conversation started off with me being curious (wanting to make it fair, trying to see if it was exclusive or not) to me deciding whether or not if I wanted to be exclusive. He let me "sleep on it" to decide. I didn't know what I want. I WAS JUST CURIOUS!
He didn't bring it since then but today, he brought it back up and asked whether or not if I wanted to be exclusive. I asked him why all the sudden he wanted to ask, he said he was just curious. I told him there must be more of a reason for him to be asking me and this conversation pretty much went nowhere. I asked him what he wanted to then I could consider what he wants instead of not hearing what he would like to do. And he said my decision has more of an importance than his when I think his thoughts are equally important.
I noticed that he tends to turn tables on me a lot, he also redirects the conversation sometimes when I confront him about something. For example, when I see my coworker or guy friends, he tends to act a bit "off" and when I ask him if he's okay, he says that he's great when I sense that there may be something wrong. I told him to tell me if I ever upset him, if I ever do something he doesn't like, and he agrees with it... But for some reason, he becomes distant and sometimes he'd say, "you go on dates with other guys" or "he's probably taking you back to his place, etc" Jealous? I'm not sure. He told me he "knows better" than to be emotionally involved with me but yet, when he acts strange, he turns it around and says that I'm the one that is acting weird.
His actions are driving me crazy, I can't read into it. I can't see it. Some people see it as him being manipulative. Some see him being insecure. Me? I can't see anything. He has been telling me the truth this whole time but why do I feel like he's hiding something? Maybe I'm thinking too much into it and I'm the one destroying this relationship? What should I do? What do you see from this? (link)
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I think you may have answered your own question. You've been very direct with him as far as what you expect in a partner, and he's being evasive.
You're obviously frustrated with him: do the positive elements of this relationship exceed the negative ones? Is his company that great? Does he make you feel so incredibly happy and fulfilled that you're willing to put up with his evasions? How does being involved with this guy benefit you, aside from having somebody to go out with on occasion?
If you left him, nobody would blame you. You deserve straight answers to honest questions.
Hope this helps.
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I'm 14 years old.I liked a boy that was 15 but as soon as he liked me back i stopped.So he stopped too.When i realized he stopped i liked him again.. so he did too and then again i stopped.He thought i was playing him but i really wasn't.This happens to me all the time and because of that now he hates me.He likes another girl now and i don't really wanna admit to myself that i like him because i know he will never like me again and if he does i will stop liking him.I played him for like 4-5months and i feel really bad now.I don't understand i even cried for him i thought that i really like him but i quess i didn't.This happened with my ex boyfriend too..What should i do.. i really want a boyfriend but as soon as they like me back i stop..Please help. (link)
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Time for a bit of soul-searching, I think. It might be best if you took a little time off from the whole 'boyfriend' thing. From what you're telling me, you push away anyone who expresses an interest in you. For a lot of people, this comes from fear. Fear that you're not good enough, fear that you don't deserve the attention, fear that you're going to be hurt, fear of rejection. People who think this way tend to hurt the other person first so they don't get hurt themselves. (Of course, there are those who just like hurting others for fun, but I'm pretty sure that's not the case with you.)
Ask yourself a few questions: what am I good at? What really makes me happy with life? What makes me worth knowing and spending time with? What's the worst thing that could happen if somebody breaks up with me?
If you can be happy with yourself, and you can face the idea of rejection without falling apart, then you'll be a better partner and friend. (Remember: 'boyfriend' includes 'friend'. Too many people focus on 'boy' or 'girl' and leave out the friend part.)
Hope this helps!
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I gained about 17 pounds this summer since I was away and i really need to lose it ASAP. Because I dont want to start school chubby. :( what are some exercises I can do to help me and for how long? I hate running haha. Thats something I really hate. But anyway my friends and I wanna go bike riding like maybe an hour or 2, 3 or 4 times a week would be cool. What does biking help? I mean I know it's strengthens your legs but is that all? And what are some good foods I could eat? Any thing is helpful really! I stopped all the junk foods. And im trying to get myself to exercise a bit. I am really committed to loosing this weight. Thanks everyone! (link)
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What Flare said. Also: do some strength training. Strength training will build muscle, which will burn fat even while you rest. (Don't worry, you won't get all musclebound.) Free weights are good, bodyweight workouts are excellent. Check out nerdfitness.com for free bodyweight workouts and fitness strategies.
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That is right... I got myself a massive dose of poison ivy for the first time in my life and for all the things I have learned in my couple decades on this Earth I find I have no idea how to treat poison ivy! I had always heard calamine lotion, but there HAS to be a better way!
So, can anyone help me out with this or do I just have to suffer through it?
My itchiest thanks to you all! (link)
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Look for a laundry soap called Fels-Naptha. It comes in a large bar, and is usually sold along with laundry detergents. It's lye-based, and very powerful. Use it in the shower or bath, at least once a day, until the rash is gone. It will break down the oils that cause the rash and let you heal up more quickly.
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I want to get into shape but I am very lazy. What would be some advice or pointers I can get too stay on track, and not get discouraged What are some good diets or pills? (link)
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Think of fitness like a video game. You don't immediately go into Level 50 and try to take down the Big Boss. Start with small things, and set small goals that you know you can meet.
Of course, you need a big, ultimate goal to shoot for. It helps to not think in terms of "I want to weigh this much" but rather "I want to be able to do one-armed pushups" or "I want to run ten miles". Once you figure out the goal, then you find out the steps you need to get there.
Let's say you want to do one-arm pushups, but you can't even do one regular one right now. Start with wall pushups. When you can do 50 of those, 3 times over, then do pushups against a table or a chair. When you can do 50 of those, 3 times over, then do pushups from your knees. When you can do 40 of those, 3 times over, then go to regular pushups. When you can do 20 of those, 3 times over, then move your hands close together. Then put one hand on a basketball. Eventually, you'll be able to do one-handed pushups.
Personally, I would stay away from pills. They can damage your health, they're expensive, and once you start taking them the weight just comes right back. You're better off changing the way you eat. The first step is to track what you're eating right now. Sites like fitday.com let you enter what you eat and give you a breakdown of how much fat, protein and carbohydrate you're consuming. When you have that, you can start making changes.
Simple rules for eating: if it comes in a box, bag, or can, don't eat it. The exception to this rule is frozen vegetables or fruit. Eat lean protein, vegetables, fruit, and whole grains. Don't eat white sugar, white potatoes, white bread, or white noodles. Brown rice, oatmeal, quinoa, and wholegrain bread that doubles as a doorstop are your friends. Read food labels. You have to change the way you think about food; if you approach this as just a way to lose weight, you'll fail, and you'll beat yourself up for failing. If you approach this as a way to make yourself as healthy as possible, you'll do much better.
DO NOT starve yourself! If you try to live on 1000 calories a day, your brain won't work and you won't lose weight. Your body will just shut down.
You might want to head over to nerdfitness.com; it's a fitness and weight-loss community for non-athletes. There's lots of great resources and information, and the folks are friendly.
Hope this helps, and good luck.
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I was looking at a place today and the realtor showing the place mentions something about a term I never heard before. I just smiled and nodded because I didn't want to look stupid, but now I come to you and ask: Can anyone tell me what is a short sale lease option? I know what the words mean on their own, but even when I look it up I don't understand what the real estate sites are talking about!
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This is actually pretty simple stuff. The current owner of the place owes more to the bank than what it's worth. He (or she) has worked out a deal with the bank to sell the place for less than what's owed. (This is a short sale.) The lease option is where you come in. If you want to buy the house but can't manage the loan right now, you can make a deal with the owner. The owner agrees to sell the house to you and you only, in exchange for some money (an option deposit). You pay rent on the house; part of your rent gets set aside as part of the down payment. Once you can manage to get the mortgage, you buy the house. If you decide not to buy the house, you lose the option deposit and the money you had paid toward the deposit.
Hope this helps.
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Well, I've been pretty obese for a long time, and I'm just sick of it..... I try losing weight, but I always end up gaining it back! I want to lose weight, but how can I gain will power? (link)
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I'm dealing with the same thing. It's rough, but not impossible. It helps to know how your brain processes rewards and goals. For example, your brain does not really understand "not". When you say to yourself "I will not eat junk food", your brain hears "I will eat junk food". If you say "I will eat healthy food", then that sticks a lot better. Also, a very effective tool for me has been knowing how long it takes for me to burn a certain number of calories. For example, it takes me 20 minutes on the elliptical to burn 300 calories. That's about 2 or 3 good-sized cookies or 1 large muffin. Is a couple of cookies worth 20 minutes of grinding, soul-crushing torture? (I think not.)
Finally, do not underestimate the value of a cheat day. Take one day per week and eat whatever you like. That way you don't get consumed by cravings and beat yourself up because you ate a cookie.
80% of weight loss is diet. But do not neglect the other 20%: cardio is good, bodyweight exercise and weightlifting is better. Find something you enjoy, and do it. Good luck.
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19/f I'm looking for suggestions and/or tips on how to lose weight. I'm 5'10 and the 230lbs (the last time I was weighed at the doctors which was months ago) I would really like to lose weight in my stomach area, my thighs, and my arms. I eat fruit everyday and water and pineapple juice is really all I drink. I attempted to start the Special K diet, but I've kind of given up on that. I also consume sweets all the time, its like a constant need, so any tips on how to curb my appetite would also be helpful. And exercises that I could do at home, I do go walking on the trail with my friend 2-4 times a week for about an hour. Thanks all suggestions and comments will be helpful (link)
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Just to add on to the other comments: crash diets like Special K don't work because they're hard to maintain. You can't get by eating two bowls of cereal and one regular meal every day; your body will eventually shut down. That being said, diet programs can be helpful tools for structuring meals and developing good eating habits. (For example, I lost 60 pounds on the Carbohydrate Addict's Diet.) South Beach and the Zone diets are also good, if a bit restrictive. The big thing is to make sure you get enough calories, otherwise your body will go into starvation mode and you won't lose weight. Start with incremental changes, like no more fruit juice or white bread. Use whole-wheat pasta and bread, sweet potatoes instead of white ones, etc. If you can, start doing your own cooking and menu planning. Carry food with you during the day. If you have something healthy with you when you start getting the munchies, you'll be less likely to get junk food.
As far as exercise goes, there's a lot you can do at home. Walking is good, but by itself it won't do much. Nerdfitness.com is a great site with a lot of information on bodyweight exercises. Pushups, isometrics, squats, and jumping rope will give you a really good workout within about 30 minutes. The big thing is to find something you enjoy and do it regularly. When you lose weight, you'll lose it everywhere. Once you start seeing results, exercise can become addictive.
Good luck, and I hope this helps.
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I was wondering if anybody could help me in either adjusting what i'm currently doing, or teling me when they think I would see results.
I am about 130/135 pounds and 5'4. I am what you would refer to as "skinny fat" I look of average thiness but I have a lot of fat on my stomach...its not flat at all. I do, however, have fairly small legs (I carry all of my weight in my stomach and my boobs). I run about 2 miles every day (or I aim for everyday..sometimes its 6) and I eat relatively healthy. I eat cereal with banana, turkey sandwiches, sometimes i have a little peanut butter and then often salads. I am certainly not super healthy but I don't eat a ton of junk. Does anybody know when I will start to see results from this? I ahven't been doing this for terribly long (about 2 weeks) so I know that It takes time...but I am starting to get frusterated.
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Part of your problem may lie with your exercise routine. You're doing a lot of cardiovascular exercise, which burns muscle along with fat and keeps you looking skinny. You're also not resting, which will allow your body to recover.
Try adding bodyweight exercises like pushups, squats, inverted rows, etc. to build muscle. The added muscle will burn fat while you're not exercising, and will make you look more solid and healthy. (Nerdfitness.com has a lot of bodyweight exercises and routines to give you ideas.) Cardio is good for you, but rather than grinding out 2-6 miles per day, try sprinting for 30 seconds and walking for 30 seconds. This is called High-Intensity Interval Training (HIIT), and will burn fat much more effectively than just running. Definitely do plank exercises for your abs and core muscles. Most importantly, REST! Take every third day off and let your body recover!
Diet wise, make sure you eat enough. Check this website out: http://www.freedieting.com/tools/calorie_calculator.htm
Plug in your age, weight and height, and it'll tell you how many calories you need to eat to lose, maintain, or gain weight. Eat lean protein and good fats, lots of veggies, fruit and whole grains. If it comes in a box, bag, or can, don't eat it.
Tracking your results is important, though methods differ. I weigh myself every day, first thing, then at the end of the week take the average of the weights. The averages tell me if I've lost weight or gained it. This doesn't work for everyone, though. Definitely keep track of your waist, hip, and chest measurements, and how your clothes fit.
Results will take time, but they will come. The more you work, and the more attention you pay to eating well and healthily, the better results you'll get.
Hope this helps.
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I'm 22 M and 250lbs. My skinniest weight (while I was working out) was 198lbs in June 2010. I feel, look and am fat. Problem is I have little to no idea what I was doing when I lost all that weight. What I'm looking for is a workout regime that I can stick with, one that works and works well. People with a first hand account on these regimes will be given highest priority but all advice will be looked at and rated as to how helpful it is.
Thanks everyone,
Gateway01 (link)
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What the other guy said, especially when it comes to High intensity interval training. I've been doing something similar for the last three months, and I've dropped about 25 pounds so far.
As an adjunct, if you're not currently a gym member, there are excellent bodyweight workouts that you can do at home. A personal favorite is 52 Pickup.
Start with a deck of cards. Assign an exercise to each suit: for example, hearts are regular pushups, spades are squats, diamonds are situps, clubs are Hindu pushups. Shuffle the deck, then put down the first card. Do however many reps of whatever exercise corresponds to the card (eg: 5 of hearts = 5 pushups.) Face cards are 10 reps each. Go through the whole deck. If you don't stop to scratch, you should get through that in about 20 minutes.
Alternately, you can do sets of calisthenics as part of a circuit training routine.
One of the best things about bodyweight exercise is that the recovery times are short. You can work out every day without having to worry about overtraining.
Again, diet is going to be 80% of dropping weight. Keep eating clean, stay off the booze and fatty food, and congratulations on the upcoming nuptuals.
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Hello folks.
I'm currently self employed, and have an actual business where I sell stuff.
But would you call a blog a business? I don't mean like, blogging about how much you miss your girlfriend or whatever. I blog about politics, and fashion. What would you call these? An enterprise? A venture? A business? Or just a blog?
I am also starting a community newsletter. Surely, that would be a business, no?
I am truly confused, and so any help is great.
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Well, a blog can be a business venture, if you're paid for your blogging. If companies pay you to promote their products or buy ad space on your site, then it's a business. If you invest money in running the site and claim profits and losses for tax purposes, then it's a business. Otherwise, it's a personal project, kinda like Tavi Gevinson's original stylerookie blog.
Hope this helps,
Ignatz
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I would like a cardio workout DVD that will allow me to burn at least 300 calories a workout, preferably in 30-45 min. It CAN'T have any accessories (like weights and stuff) and I would like to spend no more than $25. I also need to be able to buy it online. I don't care what style it is, I am open to all suggestions. Thank you. (link)
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There are lots of used Tae Bo DVDs on Amazon. Cheap and effective, as long as you keep at it.
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Okay, well i need help on trying to choose a honeymoon spot. my soon-to-be husband says that i have to pick because it runs in his family.
the main things im looking for are
- romance
-some places to shop
- relaxing
- have lots of time alone, but not to much,(dont wanna be stuck in a room the whole time)
- good weather, not to hot, not to cold
- somewhere in europe is preferred.
-sight seeing
please tell me some places that maybe you have went and you think its just perfect place.
thanks for reading, please help!
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Barcelona. It's a beautiful, modern city with a history that goes back to the Roman Empire. The people are friendly, the public transportation system is good, there's lots of good shopping, excellent food, reasonable hotels, and some really incredible museums. I went there in 1992 just before the Olympics, and I still miss the place.
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I'm trying to lose a little weight like 10-20 lbs. I usually eat a bowl of cereal and a banana for breakfast and a coffee, a soup or chicken salad for lunch and dinner varies, usually something not too bad though. i really don't snack alot if i do its usually like apples and peanut butter or hummus and pretzel sticks. i go to the gym basically everyday and run about 4 miles which usually burns around 500 calories. is this a good way to lose weight or is it bad to run that much? i'm in pretty good shape so it really isn't hard on me but i just want to know if thats a good way. thanks. I'm also 19/f 142 lbs 5'4". (link)
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Try eating more protein. You're pushing your system pretty hard, and it needs food to replenish the resources you're burning off. If you restrict calories too much, your body will go into starvation mode and you'll stop losing weight. A lot of professional athletes allow themselves 'cheat' days, during which they eat much larger amounts of food than normal. This keeps the body out of starvation mode as well.
Also, take a day off each week to rest. Your body needs to recuperate from the exercise. If you overtrain, you'll burn off more muscle than fat. Has anyone checked your body composition (fat vs. muscle)? You may be a very muscular 142 pounds, after all.
Hope this helps.
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Ok so Im 12 and I currently have a wonderful boyfriend but he kinda flirts with my best friend. When Im aorund him he doesnt givve me any special attention though. He is my first boyfriend, and slow dance. Then theres this other guy who is a year older than me (13). He IM's me 24/7 he admitts to me that he kinda likes me but likes other people too. I kinda am falling for him and I dont know what to do. We were playing truth over IM the other day and he said that he reall wants to kiss me. I have never kissed anyone before but he has kissed alot of other girls. I asked him for one of my questions if he would ever kiss me while im still dating ___? and he said yes. I have something in side me that wants to kiss him but the other part of me doesnt because i already have a boyfriend. I dont know what to do because the other guy said 'It would be worth kissing you even though I might get slapped'. PLEASEE help, I dont know what to do :( (link)
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Hi: sorry it's taken so long to get back to you. Looks like you're in a pretty common situation: you're involved with someone, the relationship isn't quite what you wanted or expected, and someone else expresses an interest in you. You want to stay loyal, but maybe this new person will be better...
Believe me, I've been there a few times.
Start by asking yourself some questions. Your current boyfriend is flirting with your best friend. Have you talked to him about how that makes you feel? Is this something that you'd be willing to break up with him over if he doesn't stop? Does this other boy have a history or reputation of being a player? (that is, will he treat you better than your current guy?)
You deserve to be treated well, and to have the loyalty of whoever you're dating. At the same time, whoever you're dating deserves to have your loyalty. Sort out your current boyfriend situation first. If you decide to leave him, then leave him and go after this other guy. If not, then end things with the other guy. Divided loyalties are a recipe for major drama. (Unless that's what you want, of course.)
Hope this helps,
Ignatz
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