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I like another guy and he said he wants to kiss me pt2
Ok so Im 12 and I currently have a wonderful boyfriend but he kinda flirts with my best friend. When Im aorund him he doesnt givve me any special attention though. He is my first boyfriend, and slow dance. Then theres this other guy who is a year older than me (13). He IM's me 24/7 he admitts to me that he kinda likes me but likes other people too. I kinda am falling for him and I dont know what to do. We were playing truth over IM the other day and he said that he reall wants to kiss me. I have never kissed anyone before but he has kissed alot of other girls. I asked him for one of my questions if he would ever kiss me while im still dating ___? and he said yes. I have something in side me that wants to kiss him but the other part of me doesnt because i already have a boyfriend. I dont know what to do because the other guy said 'It would be worth kissing you even though I might get slapped'. PLEASEE help, I dont know what to do :(
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Hi: sorry it's taken so long to get back to you. Looks like you're in a pretty common situation: you're involved with someone, the relationship isn't quite what you wanted or expected, and someone else expresses an interest in you. You want to stay loyal, but maybe this new person will be better...
Believe me, I've been there a few times.
Start by asking yourself some questions. Your current boyfriend is flirting with your best friend. Have you talked to him about how that makes you feel? Is this something that you'd be willing to break up with him over if he doesn't stop? Does this other boy have a history or reputation of being a player? (that is, will he treat you better than your current guy?)
You deserve to be treated well, and to have the loyalty of whoever you're dating. At the same time, whoever you're dating deserves to have your loyalty. Sort out your current boyfriend situation first. If you decide to leave him, then leave him and go after this other guy. If not, then end things with the other guy. Divided loyalties are a recipe for major drama. (Unless that's what you want, of course.)
Hope this helps,
Ignatz
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First thing you should learn because your young is. Even a peck (small kiss) is considered cheating.You do not want to cheat on your boyfriend. If you are losing interest in him. Then let him know as soon as possible. He may be an amazing guy just not the guy for you. plus people tend to remember who cheated on them. even at a young age. You need to seriously think about this. If you are so in love with your boyfriend you wouldn't even be considering kissing this other guy. Just make sure you pick the right guy. and learn from what you know. and deal with the consequences as well.
*Hope this helps*
<3Jasmine;;
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If you have a boyfriend, dont cheat. If you like the other guy more, go for him if your boyfriend keeps flirting with your friend. Dont say anything yet about kissing this other guy, cause that could mess things up with your boyfriend, he could tell people, and then you will be known as a cheater. So if you're gonna kiss this other guy, make sure yo break up with you boyfriend first. :)
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Well you already know what you're doing is wrong because something is holding you back from kissing this other guy. You're with your boyfriend and you care about him because you don't want to hurt him. I don't think you like your boyfriend as much as you think you do and that's okay. Even talking like this to another guy behind your boyfriend's back is a bit sneaky. If you are interested in this other guy I would break it off with your boyfriend. Or if you care about your boyfriend and want to be with him then you need to stop talking to this other guy. You can't have your cake and eat it too. It has to be one or the other!
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If you don't feel right with the person you are with, then you shouldn't stay with them. I want to remind you that you are still so young, so if you do decide to break up with your boyfriend, think about you options before you decide to peruse anyone else. That othe boy who is older than you may not be the right one for you, so if you choose to date him, take it slow and with caution.
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Ok first of all have a word with current boyfriend and his attentions towards your bestfriend as that is not a good start. The 13 year old sounds like he is attracted to you more but I think he is more of a physical person rather than boyfriend material. Boys at that age like to brag about how many girls they have kissed; as you haven't been kissed yet (don't worry that's perfectly normal, I didn't get my first kiss until I was about your age and one of my friends had finished school before she got her's.)
Basically sort out your boyfriend first before you make any decisions with the 13 year old boy, by all means go for it and kiss him but I advise caution.
Hope this helps.
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I answered a very similar question here.
Edit: In response to your feedback, why would I give you another answer? My advice remains the same, regardless of how you reword it.
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