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Is it ok if I put peanut butter on my vagina then let my dog lick it?

no you can get an infection dogs carry bacteria around and well also using peanut butter there could cause infection,

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do you have to wear a condom if you want to be given head at the age of 14?

you ARE supposed to use a condom during oral sex cause theres still a chance for STD's of course if you've both been tested then you can just not use it, and i know most people don't use condoms when having oral sex but this means they still could be getting std's...so bottom line yes you should use a condom, and most people don't use it so they expose themselves to std's

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me and my girlfriend had sex and i pulled out and cummed on her vagina but shes on the pill can she get pregneat?

yup, sorry but as you know already the pill isnt 100% , ive had friends who've been on the pill and got pregnant.

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Hello! I have an andriod ascend from metro psc. I cannot figure out for the life of me how to mobile upload my pictures from my phone to facebook. Anytime I try to upload a picture on the site, the place where you would 'browse' would say something like 'uploader disabled'. In my phones picture gallery, it will say 'share' next to a picture, but facebook isnt one of the options. Ive tried to download the fb app but it wouldnt work. It also said to email a picture to fb & it will show you what email address to send it tk, but I dont know how to put a picture into an email besides to my gmail account which is linked to my phone.
can anyone help?
i dont have a computer so it must come from my phone
thanks :)

k if you dont have a facebook app then your only option is through email. go to facebook and get the specific email you need to send your pictures, once you have it go to the pictures as you normally see them and then go to send options there must be an option like send as email or whatever and then put the facebook address...
the picture gallery should have a send as email option, but YOU NEED TO HAVE YOUR EMAIL sync with your phone. if you dont have an email account syncronized to your phone then you wont be able to send the pictures :(

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I went to my doctor, asking for birth control. My periods are irregular, but I also am sexually active. I told her I wasn't, and she said this medication would be fine to take for regulating periods. I read the pamphlet that came with the pills and it says it's normal birth control, helps reduce the chances of getting pregnant. I also looked it up online, and many people are happy with their results. I'm just confused on why she told me it's meant for your periods. Is there different dosages? Please help, I'm 16 and don't want to wind up pregnant because of some small misunderstanding.
Thanks!

ortho tri-cyclen lo is birth control so i dont think you should be worried about anything she told you its to regulate your periods cause birth control regulates periods and lots of doctores prescribe it to regulate periods, there are other stuff you can take that are meant to regulate your periods but theyre NOT birth control. in this case you shouldnt worry as ortho tri cyclen lo is for both :)

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How come when i put in a tampon my vagina rejects it?

i think ure not putting enough pressure and maybe try while doing a squat?

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What should i do everyday to make myself muscular? Im a 13 year old girl that weighs about 75 pounds.

try looking for the insanity videos, you can download them and i think theres some of them in youtube! theyre great and builds up muscle fast!

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16/F

I've been dating my boyfriend for a month now and it's been the best month ever because he's the first of a handful of guys who've made me happy. So far, we mostly hug and kiss. I feel like I do most of the talking, but I know it's just because he's shy, which is totally cute. I was wondering, though, is there anything we can do other than this or is there a way to make it better, maybe get him talking more?
By the way, I don't mean anything sexual since he's obviously too shy and I'm terrified of the idea of it... And we're too young, haha, so yea.
Basically, is there anyway to get him talking more maybe? Or some way to cuddle with him more?

just be more playful around him joking and totally relaxed, that would cause less tension! once he feels totally comfortable with you he'll be more talkative! the same happened with my ex when we were dating at me 15 him 16! he was sooo shy now thati think about it like i was always asking questions and i felt like the talk was forced but he was really into me and i liked him so i didnt mind haha but once we started getting along better and better we would be sooo comfortable around each other and he was so NOT the shy type anymore eventho there were no sexual stuff involved but like once i started to be less nervous around him and just more relaxed and acting like idk just chilling around he would feel more comfortable :) than it being all tense me asking question loking for new topics lol

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OK so usually im the one answering questions but i have one for my own. my sis lily had a boyfriend and he was cute and use to always hit on me i could tell and all of her boyfriends that she had did even thought its a big age difference(they are 24and im 16).i never told her besides im her step sister and we hardly talk. lately she been in and out of relationships and i notice that she brings a lot of guys home and cheat almost every day. he boyfriend latter found out and broke up with her but he still came over for some reasons. by that time late nights i hear knocks at my window and i figured it was him. one night when heard the knock i went out side see and it was him jut siting on the bench and he said hey what your doing and i just said your a creep and went in the house. ok but he then knocked on my door about 3 in the morning to ask what i was doing? but now hes out the house and shes with this mexican guy who really love her and she cheats on him. and me and her got into a fight because her dad was yelling at my mom and she got in my moms face which i didnt like. i told her in front of her boy friend dont make me spill her soup out in the open and she ran away. latter her boyfriend ask me whats her soup and he said just tell him but should i tell him shes cheating or just let him find out his self.



YES but then again i didn't see where you said he was your friend?

of course if this was your friend you're trying to protect of course you should say something, but you made it seem like you were just getting into something u shouldnt even since well you didnt mention he was your close friend, in this case, then yea tell him hands down.

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Me and this guy hung out and hooked up and he wanted to go farther and I said no and he's like pleasee, we'll take it slow after this but I still said no, I asked him bout it in the morning he said he didn't want a relationship and then we stopped tlaking then he started talking to me again and he asked me for nudes and asked me to strip for him and I said no and he always wants to chill and I said no because I thought it was a booty call so I said no but then like the third time he got mad and I was like sorry I want respect and don't wanna be used! And he's like I'm not using you I like you and I'm like what about when you said you don't want A relationship and he's like well I've missed you since then :( and hooking up with someone you like isnt so bad because it could bring us closer. so I dunno if he just wants action or likes me?
:(
pls help!
kaaitlyn

this is the typical "i have to have sex with you so i can consider us having a relationship" type of guy, don't listen to him, guys will tell you what you wanna hear just so they can get some trust me i know, i have a bunch of guy friends and its true they say that we us girls just as they tell us they love us and that we're beautiful and that they're interested, then we'll be willing to do stuff with them (most girls not all of them but the ones doubting ) i mean it only takes an i love you from them for us to be there willing to do something with them,
i dont think this guy wants a relationship since he is trying to just get into your pants instead of actually getting to know you and then seeing what happens, i dont think that he likes you honestly like for a gf ..but he definatley is attracted to you, just stay true to what you believe tell him you won't be doing any stuff with someone who isnt your bf or something more solid, tell him you don't want just a hook up...and he'll obviously try to make you fall for him get to know you and all that, well if he's actually interested,, so wait a little bit to see if he actually behaves for a little while , so you'd know he wasnt just trying to get something out of it and faking all the interest!
good luck! :)

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16/f
white

I really like this hispanic guy. We are really close but we aren't dating. I was wondering if you could name some spanglish songs. I know very little spanish, close to none, and I want to learn some cute hispanic and english songs. for example, i love the song te quierro by dj flex and belinda. I also love enrique inglesias and ricky martin. anymore? thanks

the best song would be about song about my situation. . . about liking your friend. thanks.

no hace mucho time, yo buscaba alguien como you hahaha that was a funny spanglish song i remembered it's called "star eyes bonita" by cocky brain fuzz

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ag95mytP0pc

Not so long ago
I was looking for someone like you
And I know we'll be lost in love
But now you're gone and my life is through
Y si vos quieres vivo
Si vos me ruges desde ese lugar
A tu leon que adoro
Entre tus dientes y mi yugular
Que salga sangre cielo
Que lluevan dulces en este lugar
Que estoy tan lejos del nido
Que ya no anido ni dejo anidar
Not so long ago
I was looking for someone like you
And I know we'll be lost in love
And now you're gone and my life is through
No hace mucho TIME
Yo buscaba algo como YOU
Sabia que estariamos en LOVE
Y ahora que te fuiste... GONE

it's kinda strange but its all i can remember for now sorry!

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what is the best way for size. I been looking in to products they sale, they dont seem to work for penis enlargement like they say. If you can answer this question or give me a good product name or some result info. Im looking for a BIGGER and THICKER PENIS. THX.

im sorry, penis enlargment its not yet an option

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I have been skinny all my life. I am 15 years old and I have a fast motabolism. I eat all the time and as much as I possibly can. I've even counted every calorie once to make sure I was eating enough! I want to gain weight in my arms and legs especially! My legs look like sticks to me. I'm tired of people telling me how I look anorexic or asking me if I am anorexic. How can I gain weight with a high motabolism?

try maybe not eating all the time? eating accelerates your metabolism also...
think about it this way...
our bodies ...when they get alot of food its processing and processing....
when your body doesnt get like way too much food its like saying "ok so i might not get more food until a couple more hours so im gonna store a little" HAHAHA and it turns it into fat...
thats why ladies doing diets are told to eat small frequent meals! to accelerate metabolism...and thats why fat people who think that by eating 2 times a day theyre helping theyre actually making it worst

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Iam going to my boyfriends sister's wedding on may 14th and Iam not really big on dresses do I have to get dressed up and if I do do I have to wear a dress can I wear jeans?

NO! , going in jeans to a wedding is a big NO! wear a cute dress you can find something apropriate for your age and the good thing is i think you're young idk.. but you seem young..so you could find something for your age at a good price since im assuming youre not an adult you dont have much pressure to go lik ALL DRESSED UP but you do have to look good. you wouldnt want the bride telling her brother like why did your gf wore jeans to my wedding :S ..... hahah please get a dress or wear one you have already,

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february 26,2011 is the first day of my last period.
then me and my bf have sex last march 11,12ang 13 do i have any chance to get pregnant? pls. answer my question.

there is ALWAYS a chance of pregnancy even if youre on the pill and using a condom and on your non fertile days ...you're "fertile" every time of the month but the thing is there are days consider as "safe" cause its less likely to get pregnant, but not impossible
your fertile days you can tell an approximate of them by using one of tohse online calculations or keeping track of your days every woman should keep track on their period dates, when it starts and when it ends...if you were a girl who has regular periods of 28 days
your more likely to be most fertile days would be from the 8th to the 15th of march..... so if you didnt use any protection ..maybe you should consider taking emergency contraception.

but again this is just an approximate that you couldve been on your most fertile days, but it varies,sometimes theres double ovulation, and if youre irregular then its more difficult to calculate...

take a test, tho it would be too soon to take a test...
my recommendation would be ...you PROBABLY were on your fertile days according to dates..i would take emergency contraception if you didnt use any kind of birth control. also...remember emergency contraception is only effective when you're not pregnant and used within a certain time from when you had sex.


I AM SORRY I DIDNT GIVE YOU THE ANSWER YOU WANTED, ...

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So I've had a search and it says to drive from Los Angeles to Detroit(Michigan) is 1987 miles (3198 kilometers) but I want to know how many DAYS it would take to drive it. When my boyfriend drove from Kansas City to L.A, it took 3 days(with rests every so often)...but when i search on google maps it says 1 day and 14 hours, and it says the same amount of days for L.A to detroit.. Does anyone know??

go to www.mapquest.com ! you can find the estimated driving time to anywhere you want !

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All of a sudden, I started getting a lot of acne this month. I usually get about one or two pimples before I get my period (age 15). My doctor had perscribed me Benza Clin a while ago and I would use it on those pimples that I would get. They would sometimes stay for a few days then disappear but now they don't and I just keep getting more! Should I go back to using my Neutrogena Cleanser and Toner at night? The toner used to make my skin dry so maybe I should follow it up with lotion. Would the original Neutrogena Hand Cream Norwegian Formula work well for my face? Will it produce more acne? Also, just another curious question, what really causes acne? Something I eat? Stress? Please give adive ASAP so I can know what to do about these pimples!!!

some people believe that by washing your face more often you'll help getting rid of the acne...this is WRONG also creamy soaps will produce MORE acne, food can be a cause of acne when you eat oily stuff things like avocado , nuts etc you should try to avoid when going through a bad acne phase, id recommend getting dalacin C at a pharmacy, my dermathologist prescribed me that and its the best ive ever tried, all the products sold at stores like walmart target etc don't really work for me if anything they made my acne worse! so try some real medication, also taking tetracyclin (sorry if its not well spelled im not american)

my doctor and my dad who is also a doctor prescribed me tetracyclin one example of medication containing tetracycline is "tetrex" by taking this pill and getting tetracycline to your body you will get rid of acne so fast trust me..

i will put it this way...have you notice that when you are taking antibiotics (like certain medicines when you're sick) your skin doesnt get as many pimple as you usually do ? or some of them will start going away? this is because of the medication.
tetracycline combined with dalacin cream will help you get rid of pimples really fast! trust me ! i dont know in your country but i think you need a prescription for medication containing tetracyclines so go with your doctor and tell him about your problem, and suggest that you've heard tetracycline helps getting rid of pimples so in case he doesnt prescribe it then he will :) good luck!

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so im 13 and i have gone through a lot of crap in my life, a lot. not really gonna go into detail, but basically what happeened in a nutshell is my life went upside down from being fun-loving girl to being confused, depressed and suicidal. thankfully i am not any of the last three discriptions anymore. I have lifted a weight off my chest and i feel very releived, but when i did lift the weight off my chest, it was the most pain i've felt in a long time. before that i was kinda numb or depressed you could say, but when this happened i exploded out of rage and anger. and i did cut. but i promised i would never do it again. how could i? it was basically the worst thing in my life that ever happened. things can only get better. i have been seeing a therapist. it is helping me.now is the time im trying to go back to being that fun-loving social butterfly i was before, even before i was depressed. so im determined to get my happy back with the help of going to therapy once a week, not cutting (which i only did 2x)and being optimistic, and improving myself by maybe who knows? becoming a nicer person, doing yoga and eating right? i think this is a great start for me to being myslef again. the weight i lifted off my chest recently happened about a month ago. and i feel the need to smoke, and drink, and do pot. Now i know it is not legal i am aware of that. and i know its not coming from a "normal" place, bc kids my age do not start that until maybe 16-18 yrs old. and i now realize that its coming from a place of hurt, since i said its the most pain i've felt in a long time. if i get over the hurt, since the weight has been lifted, and work on myself, will it pass? will the pain pass just like the drugs? i was also wandering if i were or did do drugs of some sort will it help ease the pain, on top of me working on myself? if u watch the movie Thirteen its almost identical what i went thru. so thank you sooo much xoxoxo im sry it was long. please give AS MUCH ADIVCE AS POSSIBLE THANK YOU.

as someone who has done both alcohol and pot, i wouldnt recommend specially if you're not feeling well....
mariajuana makes you feel lazy, which tbh makes you feel a sad, so it doesnt help, people who say marijuana helps ease pain they're not refering to emotional pain, sometimes they use it for medical reasons like physical pain , so in your case i would not recommend it , or in any case but im telling you it will make you feel even worst, and when the effect passes you'll feel the same , so it is not a temporary or definite solution, by feeling lazy you tend to feel sad, like not wanting to do anthing, now imagine feeling extremly lazy while being depressed? it will make you feel MORE depressed

i went through a phase of sadness aswell...and i can tell you doing alcohol and smoking its the worst you can do under this circumstances, you have to find something that gives you some sort of motivation or keeps your mind from thinking of all the sadness, my recommendation would be to take some kind of class or something you enjoy, but to be honest what helped me more was excercice, i am not a big fan of doing sports, of any kind, but i forced myself into going to the gym running etc. doing this kind of activities makes you produce endorphines, which make you feel happy ! not like SUPER happy but you feel better, endorphines cause that effect on people, look it up if you want,
if your depression is chronic or something you should keep seein a therapist, and maybe they will give you some medication if its REALLY a big issue, mine i found my way to fix it by excercising, but for example my brother suffered from serious depression like literally he would sleep all day, not eat, miss school, etc...so his therapist prescribed him some stuff, which helped him going through that phase, he was extremly depressed and suicidal sometimes... i dont wanna seem dramatic but he had some bad teenage years he really wanted to kill himself run away of the house from time to time etc... but as usual what really helped was keeping himself busy, he has an interest in politics so he started getting into groups and stuff and now hes doing much better no need for medication

also if i might recommend you something else theres something that helped my brother ALOT with his problem, he suffers from OCD that caused his depression and suicidal phase when he was a teenager, he went into some sort of technic that is realted to budhism (i know it sounds crazy) but this technic helps you deal with pain in life and to accept some aspects about your life, it doesnt mean you have to become a budhist or anything , but mediation helps alot of these people people who were there were peopel with this problems people who just had no meaning in their lifes and were depressed, suicidal, doing drugs, etc.... so you might want to check it out http://www.dhamma.org/ this is just an example but you might find other ways of meditation like with a group etc that teach you how to do it etc.... if you wanna give it a shot..

so bottom line id say try doing sports, it might be difficult at first if you dont enjoy them, but you will feel happier everytime you do it and after it, try learning something focusing on stuff force yourself to get into some kind of group or something that might keep you busy so this way you will stop thinking about whatever is that is keeping you so depressed and suicidal, go to a therapist if you feel it will help you maybe you actually need medication, or give mediation a shot, read about it you wont regreat it. everyone has their own way to cope with this problems, mine was keeping myself busy doing sports taking classes learning stuff , other people use running to help them with depression, my brother did, and medication, and meditation, he is so much better now. not perfect tho as i am aswell but we are both so MUCH better .
if you feel you need to talk to someone you can contact me , i understand what its like to feel alone while you're all depressed. so feel free to contact me if you want to just talk or something i hope you listen to my advice cause i know i didnt suffer from that kind of depression of feeling like wanting to cut myself...or something like that...but i understand it, because i live with someone who had chronic depression.

id be a hypocrite to tell you not to drink or smoke ever, cause i do them but i do them for different reasons, not as some sort of escape, so please listen to me,,, with what i can tell you're going through i would NOT recommend doing them, it will make you feel worst, its a depressent of course when you're doing it under difference cricumstances like drinking in college etc having fun then its normal and wouldnt have this effect, but the way you want to do it...will make you more depressed , so please don't do it what i told you could actually be a solution, this are not, think about it this way....
when you smoke or get drunk...its like ....you have this huge problem or whatever youre going through and feel extremly sad...you go to bed and sleep...and you dont feel it anymore..however ..when you wake up, the same feeling will be there, same situation, so sleeping didn't really helped you get over it right?...is the SAME thing when you want to do drugs and alcohol as a way to solve problems.

i hope you get better and i really mean if if you want to talk to someone i think i would be a good option, im 21 years old which means older than you and i know what you're going through.


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about the comment you wrote on feedback i dont know how else to message you
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ok so i do think you should tell your therapist about cutting, i dont see why you havenet told your therapist this, because its very important so she knows how serious the situation is. i dont think you should take meds if you don't need them,this is gonna sound stupid but trust me everything you take damages your body even meds thats why its not recommended if really not needed besides the side effects
also did you know that taking medications while you drink its a big NO?it causes damage to your liver more than the damage you would get by just drinking or just meds, doing both at the same time can cause with certain medication damage even to your heart. so if you like drinking and smoking and you want to start taking meds you should know that you have to do one or the other one but not combined cause the meds used as antidepressents are strong, and maybe you wont see the damage now or months or a year, but when you're a bit older you will see the damage..my brother couldnt drink while he was on meds also it can have bad side effects, so he stopped while he was on meds, any kind of medication combined with alcohol is a big no...
don't think about taking meds just because you want to feel super happy, if you really need them given your circumstances your doctor will prescribe them, make sure to tell your therapist things as they are, it doesnt matter if you tell her you drink and smoke to ease your pain etc and that youre underage, i mean of course it matters but she needs to know this , dont worry about her telling your parents since theres a confidentiality thing between therapist and patient so to get a better diagnosed and so she can help you, tell her everything, my advice would be if you want to keep doing what you're doing drinking and smoking don't get into meds, but also what is your priority? getting better or having fun drinking and smoking? think about it.
anti depresants are not gonna make you more depressed the thing is this medicine affect the way you feel while you're under the effect of it , its like saying...if you're drinking you will feel super happy maybe then when the effect fades,,you're back to the same, its the same thing with anti depresents, thats why my brother found a better solution than taking meds because this is just a temporary fix,
i think you're on the right path with all you're telling me you're doing to get bettter and i really hope it works for you! i dont know if maybe you're expecting tooo much..but to be honest i dont think people feel SUPER HAPPY haha its just about being content or ok with your life i think, you dont have to feel happy all the time or never feel sad, its normal maybe you should try to find what is making you wanting to cut yourself there must be something that is causing all of that depression. so go to the root of the problem :) and about taking meds only do it if your therapist suggests it but tell her everything that you're doing now including the cutting and drinking and smoking, maybe you actually need medication and it might help, or maybe you don't even need them :) don't get stuff into your body that are not needed like that kind of strong medication,

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is it normal to feel like you have no clue who you are?

i'm a teenage 18 year old girl still in high school but have 3 months left until i'm on my own.

i thought high school was supposed to be the time when you experience who you really are.. well if thats the case, then that was a waste for me. i still have no clue who i am or what my interests are. my high school is very clique-y. theres the popular crowd, geeky crowd, jocks, band geeks, etc. I honestly don't fit into any of those groups.

I dont even have a group of friends. I have 2 best friends. my girl best friend, and my boyfriend. i spend every minute with them in school. of course i talk to others, but not like i do with my best friends.

another thing, most people say you experience a lot of things in high school and thats how you know who you are.. well i am super super busy with a sport, and my family. i dont really have time to do what i want. i'm interested in art, but dont have time to really focus on it. thats probably why i suck at art. but i love it. I like the drums (music) but i have no time for lessons, which is why i cant play. I love to read books, but have no time to read them.

its almost like i'm wasting my time doing useless things like sports when i could be out there figuring out who i am.

i'm going to college in a few months, i feel like i should have figured out who i am already by now. I dont want to go to college not knowing who i am or what i'm interested in.

gahH! i am just so confused and frustrated. there are so many things i want to do and experience but either dont have time or money or whatever.

who am i? someone please help. thank you

i had the same thing happening to me, and i didnt knew what i truly wanted until i turend 20 and was already in university, i graduated high school at 17 ! 17 is so young to decide what i want to achieve in life ! ...so i chose to study medicine...then decided computer system engineering ....THEN i decided no wait i wanna be an industrial engineer, so i changed my major 5 days before starting uni, i chose it because it was the "less horrible" one all of them had stuff i didnt liked or thought i wasnt gonna be good at , so i started uni...and first semester i was so ovewhelmed too much stuff to learn and so difficult for me at the moment, i felt lost, felt i didn't choose right ! ...so i went and changed to marketing !! and suddenly i was like wait NO i wanna go back to engineering! ...eventho i didnt knew back then what my major was all about, i had an idea...and to be honest i didnt fully understood UNTIL i got a job as an industrial engineering, it was an internship, and THEN i knew what it was really about , i now can say i like it and enjoy it ...
my point is....17, 18 is TOO young to know what you want to get out of life,, eventho i feel happy i stayed at engineering..i must admit that i first chose it because i was young and i had in my mind the idea of "i wanna have a super cool job where i make a lot of money " ......NOW i'm 22, im almost graduating and to be honest i wish i wouldve listened to my parents !...its confusing to know what you wanna do at such a young age! and our perspective change so drasticlly ! now that i see it with my aunts and uncles that they have jobs where they are payed extremly well...but at what price? to work super long hours a day and never get to see their children and spend time with them...they work frmo 7 am to 7pm...they're kids have to stay until 7pm at school or with someone else to take care of them and when they go pick them up they are usually asleep already! ...MY point is.... now that i know that not everything about life is money or becoming rich or getting a super job to prove everyone else that you can do it..i wish i had chosen a major that would allow me to have a job i enjoy but also do other things i wanna do like raise a family, without being a stayed home mom... i can't change it now cause im so close to graduating but i will persue my other interest which was industrial desing that i must say i didnt chose to study cause i thought creativity was 100% needed or drawing skills when to be honest they arent. i even considered persuing a career in piano! i play piano since im 7 years old...

i know i might have mixed thngs up now with that story but my point is to tell you that you're not the only one who feels this way, is very normal, i think 17 , 18 and when you leave high school is so young to decide what you wanna do in life but trust me when the time comes you will know, i used to be very skeptical like yea right when the time comes...but the truth is ive learned its true :).....i have friends who didn't knew what they wanted to do unitl they were 24! you dont have to know it all at once already and to be honest trust i know how you feel like high school should be where you have the time of your life etc etc...but i think that thats not true at all...i think ive learned alooooooot since i started uni and i changed alot !!! high school was just a stage where i would sometimes hang with the rich cool people, and suddenly id change to hang with the more alternative style ones , then i finally found a group of friends i feel totally comfortable with, you dont have to stick to one thing, more like a combination of it , people who you identify yourself with and that bring something good to you, don't feel like high school should be this amazing experience, i think you will start seeing things alot differently when you start college, i think there is where you really learn who you are, what a better opportunity to do it than when you're on your own ! without people like parents or other friends putting pressure on you doing stuff, enjoy right now the time you have left to do this kind of stuff you enjoy and not necesarilly plan on making a living of it,
dont try to live it all at once, itll come, and trust me time goes by so fast ! so enjoy right now that you're young and have that extra time no pressure or real responsabilities yet, the best things are about to come, trust me i didn't believe it either.
college is in my opinion, the time where you find out who you really are and what you wanna do. good luck!

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So I know you bleed for the first time you have sex but I was wondering how much and how long?

depends on everyone some people dont bleed at all some just bleed very little like not enough to leave a stain and it isnt that much sometimes its just spotting

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