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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.

Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.

Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.

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When I sleep, I always need to put a towel on my pillow and I need to put my hair up in a bun (I hate this). Why? Because my mouth won't close when I sleep and I drool!

How can I keep my mouth shut? I was thinking it's because my nose is clogged and my mouth automatically opens, but I don't know.

I've tried to sleep just on my back, but I'm a rough sleeper so I move around a lot and end up on my stomach or something when I wake up.

So what should I do? I really need your help! I'm 13, by the way.

You could try Breath Right Nasal Strips.

I am a virgin but av been doing foreplay with my bf,I use to have irregular periods but from jan and feb I av a steady period on the 21 feb I av foreplay with my bf but we didn't av intercause my period due date is on the 4th since the past month..I av missed my period the 4th this march and the last day that I was expectin it was the 9th...I'm confuse and didn't know what to do

You have to have sex to get pregnant.

my life is all messed up,i no more know who i am or what i was supposed to be.its a constant feel of restlessness,its like somebody is stabbing a knife in my heart over and over again.

You survived because you were meant to live.

Things may seem endlessly dark now, but you need to seek help to find the light at the end of your tunnel.

Get therapy. Trust me, it helps.

I am 22 and have been with my boyfriend for eight years now. He has always hung out with people who are not good for him, but to my knowledge he had never really done anything bad. Last year he showed up at my parents' house high on xanax and then did it again this year. Those are the only two times that I know of he has done it for sure but I have suspected that he has been doing it more. I just can't trust him anymore but I love him more than anything and I don't know what to do. His whole family had been addicted to drugs at some point which scares the hell out of me. Should I stay with him and learn to trust him, or is he probably still doing drugs?

Well, if he's taking drugs you really can't trust that he isn't, now can you? You have pretty much two choices: Accept him as he is, or walk away and find someone who doesn't do drugs.

You can't expect him to stop using drugs by demanding him to do so. It just doesn't work that way. He has to WANT and CHOOSE to quit all on his own.

It just comes down to what you are willing to accept and what you aren't. I'm not telling you to leave him, but I am telling you that you certainly have a lot to think about, especially if you are considering having kids with this guy.

How bad do wisdom teeth hurt? Im so curious. Do they numb you?

My lower wisdoms hurt coming in, but the uppers didn't.

Removal? Didn't hurt. They actually put me to sleep to do the procedure (they took all 4 at once), and when I woke up my face was numb almost up to my eyeballs. When the numbness wore off, there was a dull throb, but nothing ibuprofen couldn't take care of.

My boyfriend took me to a mall that is about twenty miles from his house. We met up at his school and from there we went. Initially I was going to take the bus and go by mission but he offered to come, so I said okay. I promised to pay for gas since the mall is far. we get there and I buy food cuz he was hungry. Then I continue on with shopping afterwards. On our way back he asks if I want to take the bus home. I said obviously not but youre asking because you want me to. Then he says no, I was going to take you home. he finally takes me to my bus. I try to give him the gas and he won't take it. before we left the mall he put on his mileage counter. It hurt me to see that's I live about twenty five miles away or so and he is always complaining about his mileage. His car is an Audi. for some reason I feel like he is more concerned about his car mileage than me. I don't know if im wrong or am being selfish but what do you guys think. I also take the bus to his house and then he drops me at the bus. There are times when he will take me home but I always feel bad because I can tell he's thinking about gas.

Wait...
You bought him food and offered him gas money, and you feel selfish?
Next time he puts on his mileage counter, just blow it off as either him having some other reason for doing it, or him doing it because he's being an ass. Either way, you're not selfish.

got all kind of pain killers for sale email me at bigcc91@yahoo.com... got phones for sale.. hit me up got alot of shit too sale.. email me bigcc91@yahoo.com im n da new jersey area

First off, this isn't craigslist.

Second off, selling pain killers is a crime.

If a cellphone take out of the water and i dry it, what is the effected on cellphone?

Well, you can take your phone and put it in dry rice after removing the battery, battery cover, and SIM card to try to dry the phone. You may get lucky and have your phone work just fine after it has time to dry completely.

I can't guarantee that drying out your phone will make it work like it used to, though. We had a phone get wet, and even after it was dry (we tried all the tricks on the internet) when you'd power it on, the screen would stay black.

Chocolate don't work if it did Mine would've stopped already believe me I had ate a lot of chocolate during my period I eat a lot on a regular basis and I still bleed but anyhow the question on this page is what can we do or eat besides birth control that will stop our periods for a short time or for the month? Me on the other hand me and my boyfriend was in the bed asleep and in the middle of the night he woke me up wanting to cuddle with a little love hint, hint anyway I couldn't do anything even though I wanted to REAL BAD I couldn't because of this stupid mensterual thing I have going on and this is only my second day on it so its pretty bad but I want to stop it for a whole so I can make love but I don't know what I can take or eat to stop it besides birth control my tubes are tied so I can't use birth control I need something I can take that I would have around the house any ideas?

The only thing that can shorten, lighten, or in some cases even stop periods is birth control.

Periods are a part of your life. Get used to it.

Would it be strange for me (a 22 year old woman) to date a 38 year old man? Have you ever dated someone 15-20 years older than you?

I did, when I was 18-19, I dated a 34 year old, and it did not work out because he was just looking for ''fun'' with a younger girl. It's not like I was looking for marriage right away. I just wanted someone who was serious enough to live with after about a year, and maybe have a long term relationship, and maybe get married. (He told me after 1 year that he never even saw us making it past 1 year, and broke up with me for another girl my age because I was "too serious" to presume that our relationship would turn into getting an apartment together.)(In fact, I found out he had dated girls as young as 15, 16 and 17 before me, which is illegal of course but I won't go into my opinions on that.)That guy was immature himself, a kid in a man's body who refused to grow up. He was a recovering meth AND heroin addict who was clean for 7 years BUT he did drink alcohol every day. He went to work, but he was doing the same job he did for 15 years and was content with not attempting to move up in the company.

Anyway, this 38 year old has 2 young children, elementary school age, and is divorced for 5 years and would like 1 more child and a new marriage. I've been dating him and I was wondering if he saw me as a kid or what? I mean, he told me about what he wanted. That could mean he could see me filling the position of being his wife in the future?

Honestly I would not normally date someone significantly older, like 45 and up. We would probably not have much in common and I would be wary of WHY they want a 22 year old at age 50. Duh. They want to feel young again and that means they want sex with someone young enough to be their daughter.

I want love. I want marriage in a year, or two, or five.

I guess I don't see the problem. If he saw you as a kid, he wouldn't be wanting to date you. If he wants to be entertained by a kid, he's got 2 of them he can hang out with.

So the guy is older than you. Big deal. Do you like him? Is spending time with him a pleasure?
THAT is all that truly matters.

I am 21 years old, and pregnant. I am about 4 months along. My boyfriend and I were living together, but now he has decided to beat me up and kick me out, so i live alone in a hotel. I told my dad I was pregnant and the first thing he said was "don't worry about anything, you have family who loves you and will help you." the next day he said "have you considered adoption for your baby? i want it to have the opportunity to have a normal life." what the fuck? I am an adult. it's not like i'm 16. I will admit, I don't have a job. I want to find one but there has been no luck. I have never had a real job. I have some mental problems. but it is mild autism and attention deficit disorder. people have always told me i can have a normal life despite being autistic. I have high functioning autism, which is autism without a learning disability. if anything, it's just a diagnosis. it means i am socially awkward and inappropriate and impulsive at times. my friends dont even know. my ex boyfriend doesnt know. i got this diagnosis ages ago, more than ten years ago. why do my parents think I can't be a good mother to my child? I also think they might be racist, because my ex boyfriend is Mexican. he lives in mexico. i concieved the baby in mexico. i live in mexico, and I am Italian american. my parents live in new york in the united states and have never been to mexico and say they are scared for me everyday. I'm not in danger. I plan to have the baby in california, since I will need to recieve WIC. It hurts me that they dont want this grandchild. My brothers who are 24 and 26 have toddlers now, and of course that means that they were having kids at around age 21.Surely my parents didnt say this to them? but then again, they married, they went to college, they have jobs, and their babies arent biracial. and they are male. honestly, my parents have given them more oppurtunities than me, by paying for their college, buying them cars, helping them find jobs through friends, etc. my parents never did these things for me, either because I am a girl, or because i am autistic, or because i am the youngest...i dont know.

You live in a hotel, you have no job, no co-parent to help you raise this child, you don't sound like you have much of a plan other than moving to California so you can receive WIC benefits.

What parent wouldn't be thinking the way they are?
They said they want the baby to have the opportunity at a normal life. And what are you doing to provide any sort of life to this child??

I'm not saying give up your baby. No, no. Not at all. But I am saying that your parents don't dislike or don't want your child. They want what's best.

Why not start focusing on what you need to start doing -right now- to get on your feet and be a provider for this child. I'm raising my kids with my husband's help. Its hard enough with help. You're getting ready to go it alone... You need to get your shit together.

My question is simple, what should i study to be a good bank robbing criminal??

You should study up on how long bank robbers sit in prison.
You don't want to do something as stupid as robbing banks.

ihave been told i am bipolar does that mean i have two personalities

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. No, I don't have two personalities. However, before treatment it sometimes seemed like I was acting like another person, because of my behavior during different swings.
It's not just "mood swings" It is a chemical imbalance in your brain causing you to feel and behave certain ways at an given time.
You need to see a therapist to see if you do have Bipolar Disorder. If you do, they can refer you to a doctor who specializes in treating mental illness.

I am a university student and was supposed to be meeting with my tutor tomorrow to discuss how my dissertation is going. I felt a bit under prepared but I didn't want to tell her that in case she thought I hadn't been working hard enough, so I emailed her saying I had to work and asked if I could see her on Friday instead. The email bounced back, so later on I sent her another one, this time admitting that I was under prepared. As soon as I'd sent it I noticed that my original email had now been sent, so now she will have two emails from me with two different excuses and she will realise that I have lied.

What should I do? I've looked into recalling it etc but it isn't possible.

There is only one thing you can do. Tell her the truth. You told us what happened, why can't you tell her the same?

Ok so, i have heard constantly that being gay is a sin, but i couldnt find it in the bible, plus i dont even understand WHY its a sin in the first place! Can somebody please help me understand?

The bible may say that homosexuality is a sin. BUT. People seem to avoid the fact that further along in the book, the bible says JESUS DIED FOR ALL MAN'S SINS.

So Jesus loves you no matter who you are, and because he died for your sins, God forgives you. Even if you're homosexual.

Well I'm in gr7 and the gr11s really don't like me because I used to like a guy in there class. But that was 3 years ago!! Anyway the one girl in there class does modeling with me and she's my role model and I don't think she hates me but the rest do. Next year they initiate us and they all talked about how they going to get me and they will make me suffer and they keep saying I'm a slut and they always skeef me its 3 girls. The one girl(micaela) I dated her brother. I'm really upset tho,don't want to go to school,and I've been crying myself to sleep :( oh and they don't say it to me they say it to other people. I'm a virgin btw.

Yah. That's bullying. Honey, you are crying like that, and don't want to go to school. Even if they say it to other people, that is cruel and heartless what they are doing. Schools have zero tolerance on bullying. You should talk to the principal, or if you'd rather, a trusted teacher.

No kid should have to cry themselves to sleep at night because of the cruelty of others.

I f**kin hate bullies.

To use the money mainly to help and inspire other people? Or would I just risk letting money get to my head? I'm 18 and an undergraduate in college, and ideally I want to live in a decent apartment in a quiet part of a city. Not in a "gated" community, but not in a ghetto or anything. I just want to see average people of different backgrounds, because it makes me the most comfortable. I only want to keep things that are useful to me, and which remind me to follow the commandments with joy. I want to be an economist, but my parents want me to pursue accounting first, as it would be easier for me to secure a job. I think it would also teach me discipline to become a CPA first, because discipline is something I need more practice in. I also want to do it as a kind of penance, to show I'm truly sorry for my sins in the past. And I want to become an economist and try to see work through the lens of how I've come to interpret Christianity, in a fair and just way. I was baptised Catholic at a young age, but only when I reached rock bottom about a month ago, and finally prayed with an earnest heart, did I start actually seeing God everywhere. Like when I concentrate and try to find God, I see his work. I can't believe how blind I was for most of my life. I used to want to become an economist for money and respect from others (I was an agnostic, but leaning atheist, because I didn't see how The Bible related to my life. Mainly cause I never read it with an honest heart, I'd read it skeptically and it would never get through my hardened heart) but now I want to do for God, and I want to follow his commands over whatever rules there may be, even if it costs me my job (if I lose my job I could always find an accounting job! haha). I'm just a bit worried if that is prideful to do? Is it harder to be humble when you have money? My family is upper middle class now but I don't think I'm "better" than a poor or rich person. I still have to be confirmed and to learn a lot more about the faith, and I'm really excited (Is it true it's bad to read too much of the bible in one sitting? I got a bit carried away two days ago and read all of romans, but I want to read it again and again. I never want to be blind to God's love ever again because I've never felt this at peace since I was a young child. I had really bad social anxiety and yesterday I sat with two groups people I had never met and had faith, and I didn't get the bad responses I had expected! I think the more I open my heart to the lord and trust, the more he'll teach me about what love actually is. Before it was just a word.) Anyways, I want to donate a lot of the money I would earn to charities that seem just and worthwhile, as well as to people in my own family in a country in Africa, where there's a lot of poverty. I want to use the money to give people hope there, too. People who follow God's will, and people who tend to sin. I mean, it's just lack of "seeing". How could I sin now when I've seen God' existence? How do I show it to others? I'm still learning myself. So many questions! I prayed to God about which career I should take and I just get the feeling I should do what I want to do, because I feel it just fits my personality. I don't know how to explain it. I also want to do missionary work and whatever else to keep me humble, if I'm not. I know changing old habits will take a lot of drive, but the idea of seeing god face to face seems like the best motivator. Sorry this question is super long, I need to learn how to be more concise! I'd really appreciate an answer though, there's so much I have still to learn about how to follow God's will and I really want to learn

Here is something for you to think about:
Say you get an education that leads you to a financially successful career. Then maybe that is God's path for you in this life. To have wealth isn't pride. If you work hard for something, you deserve it. What would be a bad thing? Thinking you're better than others, putting yourself before others, stuff like that.
You already say that your family is upper middle class, and you don't feel you are better than anyone else. Why would you be concerned that you'd change as a person?
If you become a financially successful, then remember those who are less fortunate, and donate to charities and worthy causes. And you can always make sure you stay in touch with the heart of caring for others by donating free time to soup kitchens, homeless shelters, and other places where your loving and caring for others makes a big difference.
Sorry that's the only part of your question I got to, but I hope that helps a little bit.
Wish I could be more helpful.

Ok so i am like a horror movie queen.. Ive seen all the saw movies, wrong turn, hills have eyes, paranormal activity, insidious, the grudge, the ring, texas chainsaw masicre and more. Although, none of these movies have even come close to scaring me... So i was wondering if anyone knows any super scary movies. Thanks for your time

Oh, me too. Me too.

You've probably watched Quarantine? I don't scare, but man, when she started freaking out, I started to kinda freak out, too.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1082868/

The original version of Night of the Living Dead from 1968 is good. I don't know if you'd find it scary or not. Alone in the house, lights turned out, its kind of creepy.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0063350/

The remake of Night of the Living Dead isn't too shabby, either. It was done in 1990.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0100258/

I'm pretty fond of Masque of the Red Death starring my favorite creepshow actor, Vincent Price. Its an Edgar Allen Poe story, and it is pretty darned deranged. Creepy stuff. 1964- Classic.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0058333/

From Within is a really good one. It is an After Dark Horrorfest movie from 2008. I highly suggest that one. Highly.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1063056/

Can you tell zombies kind of freak me out? The very thought of trying to keep my kids and myself alive during a zombie apocalypse is a scary thought, so the movies are my favorite to watch to get my adrenaline pumping a little.

So...
Day of the Dead. Not the old one- that one is long, drawn, out and boring. I'm talking the 2008 version. Its a good one, too.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0489018/

I've been best friends with this one girl for years now. I went through a lot last year with my grandmother dying and having constant anxiety attacks. She was deffinetly there for me, but I also felt I was living in her shadow for such a long time. This year, the table has turned into my favor I guess you could say by me being more of the center, getting in colleges she hasn't, and a lot more. I feel like she has checked out on our friendship and has basically stopped making effort over the past months. About three weeks ago, I pretty much checked out the friendship by not calling her and inviting her to things. For months now, I feel like when I invite her to things she just makes me feel bad for it. Either beecause it is with other people and not just us, or I am not sure what. But yet she is never making the effort to do anything with me. She never does anything really with anyone. Without me ever making the iniative, she just never tries. I think she finally realized that I am so annoyed at this point, and is either scared to make an effort, or checked out as well. I love her to death, and I want a friendship, I just felt like I am so unappreciated for such a long time. In some way it feels like a family member has died. I could make the effort like I always do and call her once again, but I just wanted for once for her to make the iniative and step it up to fix this. I don't know what to do, I feel very lost but I am not sure if I am better off without it.

Hey now, listen up...
You're getting ready to go off to college. She's probably going to some other college, or following some other path.
Do you want to go your separate ways without trying to patch up this friendship?
So she never tries. Maybe she's the one going through a hard time right now and doesn't feel like reaching out? It's possible, you never know.

Even if you have to do all the work to get the friendship back in check, it will be worth it to regain your best friend, wouldn't it?

For starters, when you invite her to to do things, don't invite her to do things with you and your other friends. Invite her to do something that involves just the two of you. Its pretty hard to communicate any personal issues that are between the two of you when other people are around. Make sense?

If she is worth it to you, try to take a deep, deep breath and set aside your annoyance. Try to find out if she is going through something to cause her to be so withdrawn. Maybe something has depressed her.

It makes me sad to think that years long best friends, so close to going their own ways into the world ending things like you guys are now.

I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you guys work it out.

I am deeply in love with my teacher, I am obsessed with her and crave her immensely. She is such a beautiful and perfect lady. She is 28 and I am 16. I fantasize about her all the time and I can't stand the thought of not being wit her. I was thinking of one day staying after class at the end of the day for help and then when no one is around just grab her and kiss her on the lips and caress her body. I will also have one of my friends outside near the door so he can look out if anyone is coming. IF she tells anyone about it I will just say she did it to me and they will likely believe me since I am the young one and still considered a child so what could she possibly do? I hear just a claim from a student would immediately cause a teachers career to be over. And would she really want to spend money on lawyers and crap with her teacher salary? Also she is not married. I think this is a fool proof plan. I wish it didn't have to be this way but I am too obsessed with her to the point where it is affecting my life and can't stand the thought of not doing something with her, it is killing me

Just to add to what everyone else said, how cruel of you to act as if it is so easy for you to ruin this woman's career, reputation, her LIFE.
Shame on you!
You aren't in love with her at all, or else you wouldn't consider all of this heartless behavior you posted.

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