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Lost Bestfriend?
I've been best friends with this one girl for years now. I went through a lot last year with my grandmother dying and having constant anxiety attacks. She was deffinetly there for me, but I also felt I was living in her shadow for such a long time. This year, the table has turned into my favor I guess you could say by me being more of the center, getting in colleges she hasn't, and a lot more. I feel like she has checked out on our friendship and has basically stopped making effort over the past months. About three weeks ago, I pretty much checked out the friendship by not calling her and inviting her to things. For months now, I feel like when I invite her to things she just makes me feel bad for it. Either beecause it is with other people and not just us, or I am not sure what. But yet she is never making the effort to do anything with me. She never does anything really with anyone. Without me ever making the iniative, she just never tries. I think she finally realized that I am so annoyed at this point, and is either scared to make an effort, or checked out as well. I love her to death, and I want a friendship, I just felt like I am so unappreciated for such a long time. In some way it feels like a family member has died. I could make the effort like I always do and call her once again, but I just wanted for once for her to make the iniative and step it up to fix this. I don't know what to do, I feel very lost but I am not sure if I am better off without it.
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Hey now, listen up...
You're getting ready to go off to college. She's probably going to some other college, or following some other path.
Do you want to go your separate ways without trying to patch up this friendship?
So she never tries. Maybe she's the one going through a hard time right now and doesn't feel like reaching out? It's possible, you never know.
Even if you have to do all the work to get the friendship back in check, it will be worth it to regain your best friend, wouldn't it?
For starters, when you invite her to to do things, don't invite her to do things with you and your other friends. Invite her to do something that involves just the two of you. Its pretty hard to communicate any personal issues that are between the two of you when other people are around. Make sense?
If she is worth it to you, try to take a deep, deep breath and set aside your annoyance. Try to find out if she is going through something to cause her to be so withdrawn. Maybe something has depressed her.
It makes me sad to think that years long best friends, so close to going their own ways into the world ending things like you guys are now.
I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you guys work it out.
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Tell her that you do love her and do not want to lose her, but you do not like what she have done to you. I think one of the basic factor of friendship is sharing your feelings to each other.
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