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jealous! :(
okay so i like my best friend. he currently broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years. i've always heard he liked this girl who i am not fond of, her name is sammy. i just think he could do SO much better.
so i always ask if anything is going on between him and he says no, but you know when you can just tell? i feel like thats how it is...
last night i was with him and was like can i see your phone and he was like noooo!!(: and i was like why not. and he was like why so you can see if i was texting sammy? and he was like we're just best friends. and i was like OHHHH so now she's your best friend? guess were not best friends anymore. and he was like no linds, we are. me and her are just FRIENDS.
and he was like if i liked her we would be dating by now. and then i kept asking to see him phone and i think i went a little over the top. and he was like what are you jealous or something? and he was like i think you are! i really was jealous ahaha, but i was like no! i just want to make sure you're not talking to any dumb whores lol.
i think i went a little over the top though, borderline annoying. i feel really bad although he texted me before he went to bed and was like goodnight and everything but i still feel bad!
i still feel like he likes her, even though hes told me several times he doesnt. i feel like i dont believe him, when i should!
how can i get over this?
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I'm not going to lie, I think it's nice that you want to make sure (even though this is a lie.. kind of) he's not texting anyone who you don't think is good for him (in the way that she could be a complete bimbo).
However, I don't think you have the right to go through his phone & be nosy. I understand you like him & don't think Sammy or whoever is good enough, but sorry to say - that isn't up to you. You can't just judge this girl without meeting her. If your friend likes her, you have to accept that - no matter how much you like him. Your friend would do the same thing for you, so you should do the same thing for him.
I know it can be hard to be supportive of the person you like when they like someone else (trust me, I've been there) but you can't dictate his life because that isn't your decision. You just need to remind yourself that maybe someday he'll see that it's you he should be with but for right now you need to respect him. He respects you, and you need to respect him back. He likes who he likes, and you can't do anything about it.
I wouldn't feel bad though. He sounds really forgiving about this whole thing & doesn't seem to mind. However, he could mind but doesn't wanna say anything about it. I would just text him tomorrow morning when you wake up & tell him again you're really sorry for acting the way you did. I'm sure he'll forgive you. Don't beat yourself up about it.
You need to tell him how you feel eventually though. Remember that.
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I'm sorry but whatever happened to talking to your best friend? If he is really your best friend the least you can do is actually really talk to him, none of that joking around crap. Tell him seriously how you feel ... don't fool around anymore. You know what you want now go for it. Then if he doesn't feel the same about you don't go insane yes it could be awkward at first but it will pass .. I used to be borderline obsessed with a friend of mine and nothing ever happened but after some time me and her are now really good friends. Just be honest with him, don't throw him hints or whatever just talk to him. What's the worst that could happen? He doesn't feel the same and after some time you move on ... isn't that much better than living like this? All jealous and trying to interpret his life? Good luck ... let me know how this goes k? =)
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unfortunately, I do agree with you.. that was a little bit over the top. But moving foward! you can reverse this. I think with this boy you need to be a bit more laid back. If he said he doesn't like her, and there not dating.. chances are he's telling you the truth. :] Sometimes it's better to come across as that you don't need him.. because you don't. Talk to other guys while keeping him in mind and still flirting and remaining good friends. A lot of people want what they can't have. So if he sees that you aren't overly jealous over him talking to other girls .. he may be more drawn to you. I know I always want what I can't have. Good luck.. and try to keep busy to avoid even thinking about being jealous.
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this is hard, i know because my best friend is also a boy.
what you have to do is find faith in your friendship, and believe in the strength of your closeness.
if he truly is your best friend, then you need to support him no matter what. Acting this way could end your friendship with him, and I can tell you dont want that.
You have to pull him aside, and be honest. say this
"i really care about you, and love you. and because of that, i am very protective of you. please dont misunderstand that to be jealousy. I apologize for my immature behavior, and I only want the best for you. will you forgive me?"
dont drag on. keep it simple and make sure he understands that you really care about him and only want whats best. And that you will try harder to be more sensative to his needs.
hope this helps! =]
steph 21
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