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Hey, my names Erin. Feel free to ask me anything :]
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i need some cute nicknames for my boyfriend, baby and babe get boring...
they could be funny too haha
thankss (: (link)
i like;
sweetie
cutie
hunny
babyboy
darling
boo

there yuh go :]


okay so ill try to make it short. my friend who is 16 now has never had ANY experience. shes never even kissed a guy. and shes really desperate to, which isnt good but i can understand it...shes just the type of girl that daydreams about love a lot and stuff and gets attached VERY easily to guys. shes just too intense and forward and thats why all guys tend to run from her.
But now she met this guy...who is a jerk...and sex obsessed. but hes nice to her. thing is he told her flat out hed never want a relationship with her, just wants to hook up. And she says that because he told her she feels ok doing it cuz she wants to finally kiss someone...
but hes only after her for one thing and keeps asking her to do other stuff that im not even sure she wants to do. idk if i should let her do whatever she wants and just hook up with him or if i should try to talk her out of it. Because i mean i just dont want her to get attached if she hooks up with him. i havent told her anything yet but should I???? i mean she seems ok with just hooking up but that is before...how will she feel after??? i dont want this guy to hurt her but maybe she really just needs some experience. What do you guys think??? (link)
I think it will be tempting to try to talk her out of things, and maybe the right thing to do. However, chances are she probably won't listen if her mind is set on doing this stuff. I have a friend identical to yours. I always use to try to tell her she's going to hurt herself.. and each time she screwed herself over and never listened to me. It sucks to watch your friend hurt herself but it's my guess she won't listen. Maybe eventually she will learn with experience. ha we all have to learn the hard way once in a while, good luck to you and her :]


so ive been with my bf for a while n we havent said i love you yet i know he does love me cuz he shows it.. but i want to say it to him well actually i want him to say it first but its taking forever... weve taken eveerything really slow but i just wanna jump the gun this time please help dont worry i know we love each other and im defintely mature to take the step of saying it (link)
You said that you "know" he loves you. So then say it silly! The worst that can happen is that he will say he's not quite ready to say it back. Tell him how you feel, because by the sound of it he probably feels the same way and is just scared to say it.


um hey
im trying to better myselfall round in cheer...
i havent been able to cheer for six weeks due to complications...
ive tried to keep my flexibilty and thats all ok but i really need some help gettin my jumps and stuff back up
ij us wanted to assk yall
what do you do to keep it up (like eg. i stretch everynight) that kinda stuff
=)
any advice that helps up your cheer skills =) thanks vikki! (link)
I used to be a cheerleader. So heres some advice. :]

Each night sit in front of the tv in a split. Going as far down as you can go. I'd say 5 minutes each leg and 10 in the middle. Also, sit on the ground with legs locked straight in front of you and touch your toes for 5 minutes each night. Another important thing is to strengthen your core which is your back and stomach. Try getting in 4 sets of 25 sit ups, and lay on your back and lift your legs 6 inches of the ground and hold it for as long as you can. Lastly, push ups are important as well. Try doing 2 sets of 25. All of these things should help get your jumps higher because all of these muscle groups are needed for high jumps. Hope I helped :]


Next month I'll be a sophomore in high school. During my Freshman year my G.P.A. was between a 3.2 and a 3.4. In elementary school, my average was always in the 90s. Can anyone give me ideas on how to get my average back up to where I'm used to? (link)
You just really need to take the time to sit down and study and review your notes after school. If something confuses you.. tackle it right away. Stay after school and figure it out with your teacher. Study a few days in advance for tests to avoid cramming. The more you stay on track, and stay on top of work the higher your grades will be. Get a decent sleep to. ha it doesn't hurt :]


Ok... this may sound strange but I have too much going on in my life right now so I didn't know what to ask.

I think the root of it all is.. no one is like me. I face problems all the time because of my differences to others in every sphere of my life, social, romance, family, work, I'm just not like anyone else I know. It's harming relationships, has terminated some of the most important ones in my life, I'm just past it now.. the only reason I'm asking this is for lack of a better question out of the thousands raging in my head. Every day at my home is another day of torment so I try to stay away from home but my parents try to restrict that, our relationship has unfortunately reached a point beyond repair now. I get hurt because of my expectations from other people, I'm just sick of being attacked from every side of my life. When I think everything is right something always goes very very wrong... I just want to move out, away, away from it all... I'm too clingy, want too much in relationships, don't like balance when it comes to things I love, maybe I just need to be alone because I don't want to expect things I can't get anymore. It's not fair on other people around me. What's going on? (link)
I think you really need to try to turn your whole outlook on life around. Everything you said here was so negative. Maybe if you took things one step at a time and tried to be a little more positive things may turn around for you. Maybe find an outlet to let all your sorrows go. Whether it's exercising, finding someone you could talk to, or just writing; it may be a better way to find balance. Write down your goals and what you wish to accomplish. Maybe its being less hard on people, or
just finding some good in others. It would probably be a good idea to just slowly start trying to sort through your head for a solution to each problem and
to try to dwell less on them. good luck, and if you need anything else.. feel free to ask.


is there ANY easy way to tell your parents that you lost your virginity.. i mean its REALLY bothering me i cant tell them but i know i have to what do i do?? i cant have a relation ship with them based on lies.. you know?? cause we're starting out on better terms and were trying not 2 fight but i just dotn know what to do.. so yeah. thanks guys (link)
I honestly would not tell them. I couldn't. You definitely will create a much bigger argument out of that one. What parent wants to know there kid is having sex? I almost think many would rather just not know. Theres some things you should tell but there are many things you may just wanna leave unsaid to your parents to prevent them from flipping out. just a suggestion:]


He was my boyfriend for the summer and we made the agreement that we would break up at the end. Stupid me, I got too attached and we broke up regardless. He does love me, and I love him too but he strongly doesn't believe in a long distance relationship. I have visited him in college and we hooked up and it was like nothing had even changed when we were together again... until I went home and realized he wasn't there. I asked him to either be mine or just friends because the gray area just killed. Enough to sleep with but not enough for a girlfriend. I'm madly in love with him, but should I just move on? Should I wait it out more? Does a 4 hour drive matter that much? Please... I'm drowning. (link)
If he truely doesn't want to do a long term relationship then things aren't gonna change. The same pattern will keep going. Everytime you see him it will probably turn into a hookup. Honestly, in the long run.. if you love someone and keep hooking up with them, your only going to be hurting yourself even more. Guys seem to be able to hold onto the physical attachment and the emotional part starts to drift. At least in my case.. I hold onto both. The physical and emotional attachment. Trust me.. it really hurts. I think it would be in your favor to resist hooking up and try to be good friends.


15/f
my brother has been friends with this one guy (17/m) for about 2 years now. and i didnt really kno who that guy was until this winter. (almost everyday he would ride his bike down a path 7 pass my house & i'd be getting home from swim team & he'd wave hi, but i didnt really kno who he was. i jsut knew he was one of my brothers friends). anyway, when winter track started he started talking to me more but not really in school, just at track & apparently i pass him at least 3 times a day at school (i didnt notice until a few weeks ago..). now each time we pass eachother he either says 'hey' or playfully shoves his shoulder into mine. online we talk about..anything i guess. neither of us really feel that shy around eachother, but at school we sort of do. he gives me hugs every now & then, btu not reall often. but when he does they are realyl long & he holds me tight & close to him. but he sometimes flirts with other girls who are more around his age. so idk....my question is: DOES HE LIKE ME?? MAYBE?? thnx for the help =) (link)
Well theres only two options and you will only know if you ask him.

He could just be a flirt and flirt with a whole lot of girls.

Or it sounds to me that he may like you. I mean if the boys passing you a million times a day theres a good chance your on his mind a good part of the day:]

So maybe try to make a bold move and ask in one of your online conversations.. hey you never know till you try! good luck girl




Okay, I have not had a period in 5 years due to birth control and my gynocologist said that was normal so that is NOT the problem..

However, Lately I have been exsperiencing some major abdominal pain it feels like it is coming from the uterus all the way down the the vaginial area. I am not pregnant I have already had a test and it came out negitive. It feels like cramping/pain like also my appetite is not as big as it used to be. Has anyone exsperiended something simular too this? :( (link)
I am not anything close to a doctor so its probably best you go see one but you may want to take into consideration:

Last year I had major abdominal pain like you did.. and it was more in my lower side. However circulated to over my uterus. It was unbarable and I ended up having ovarian cysts. They are extremely painful and its best to get them checked out. It almost feel something is twisting in your lower abdomen.Definitely go see a doctor!


I probably wouldn't even ask this, but I told my best guy friend what I did, and he told me that what I did was very wrong to the point that even a Satanist would have problems condoning all of my actions.

It really has messed w/ my head since he said that, so I wanted your opinion on if you think I did the right things or not in this instance.

I was in college this past semester, and had 19 hours worth of classes. I also was working two jobs, one of them on campus for the housing dept., one off campus. I had been engaged to this guy I'd been w/ for 5 years from back home, but it was long distance by then because he didn't go to college. I had gotten pretty bored w/ him, and I had found a friend w/ benefits on the side, and the more that went on, the more I felt like I need to break off the engagement, so I did that over Christmas break.

Well, about 3 weeks before the semester ended, my ex fiance showed up and surprised me at my apt. He had a gun, but he didn't threaten me w/ it. He said that unless I got on his Harley w/ him and ran away, he was going to kill his self right then and there. I did call my little sister and I told her that I was running away w/ my ex-fiance, and she was the only person I would call while I was gone. I told her to tell our parents for me, so they'd know I was ok, but not to tell anybody else. So then I left w/ him, and we headed out west. The plan was that we were going to Vegas to get married. We were on the road for like 4 weeks, and the longer I was w/ him, the more I remembered why I had broken up w/ him to begin w/. We were somewhere in west Texas, I forget the name of the place, and he had gotten really drunk at our motel room and passed out. I looked in his pants pocket and got his wallet, and I slipped out the door. I used what cash he had to buy a bus ticket to Dallas, because he didn't have enough cash on him to buy a bus ticket for anywhere closer to home. On the way to Dallas, I ripped up or cut up everything from his wallet because I was bored, plus I didn't want someone to do identity theft on him, ya know? So when I got to Dallas, I found this strip club and asked if I could dance there for one shift to make money for bus fare, and the manager was nice enough to let me. (I had worked in strip clubs where I go to college at before.) So, I was able to use that money to finally make it back home. When I made it back home, I found out that I had fired from both of my jobs when they didn't hear from me, and also that I was on academic suspension because they had given me F's in all of my classes when I didn't show up for finals. Also, when I didn't show up to move out of my dorm room, they cleaned my room out, so I lost everything in there. In short, I lost my whole life on that trip. But still, in my mind, I did the right thing b/c he would've killed his self otherwise if I hadn't have left with him. I can rebuild what I've lost, and I've already found one new job.

The thing that my best guy friend has the biggest problem w/ was that he said if I was going to steal my ex's wallet, then I should have also stolen his gun and thrown it away or pawned it so that he couldn't use it to kill his self when he woke up and saw that I was gone. I really didn't think about that at the time, and now that it has been pointed out to me, I am a little bit worried about it.

So, did I really handle things as badly as my best guy friend said? (link)
I think your actions were extremely dangerous and you acted quickly on impulse.. but you are being way to hard on yourself. I mean you did what you thought was right at the time in order to save his life in your eyes. You didn't seem to have bad intentions towards him and it certainly was not a satanist act. As far as he goes.. this guy sounds like a phsycho. Any guy that threatens to take his life to manipulate you into running away with him to get married must have some problems up in his head. HE sounds reckless and you could have gotten hurt if you stayed with him any longer. Try not to dwell on the past and in the future I would stay far far away from this guy.


18/F just out of highschool. well, I've avoided social situations for the last few years. The only time I embraced them was when I had a "best friend" and felt good about myself. Now, I practically pray no one invites me anywhere. Like, if someone puts me on the guest list for a birthday party...I'll make up an excuse of why I can't go. Also, one reason I'm really insecure about hanging out in public is because I don't dance well. It sounds silly, but the people I would be hanging out with if I got over this anxiety would be getting jiggy with it and I'd just sit there and be uncomfortable! Help! (link)
I used to have the same problem. I cared so much what people thought about me.. I pushed them away. People actually told me I came across as stuck up since I was so shy.. which I am not at all. Girl, you just need to act confident.. even if your not just pretend and eventually it will come with time. WIth the dancing.. go in your room and dance in the mirror. It sounds dumb.. but when you get out there you'll feel less stupid. You just need to take baby steps each day and push yourself to do things you've never thought you can do before. Because you can do anything you set your mind to. :]


okay so i like my best friend. he currently broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years. i've always heard he liked this girl who i am not fond of, her name is sammy. i just think he could do SO much better.

so i always ask if anything is going on between him and he says no, but you know when you can just tell? i feel like thats how it is...

last night i was with him and was like can i see your phone and he was like noooo!!(: and i was like why not. and he was like why so you can see if i was texting sammy? and he was like we're just best friends. and i was like OHHHH so now she's your best friend? guess were not best friends anymore. and he was like no linds, we are. me and her are just FRIENDS.

and he was like if i liked her we would be dating by now. and then i kept asking to see him phone and i think i went a little over the top. and he was like what are you jealous or something? and he was like i think you are! i really was jealous ahaha, but i was like no! i just want to make sure you're not talking to any dumb whores lol.

i think i went a little over the top though, borderline annoying. i feel really bad although he texted me before he went to bed and was like goodnight and everything but i still feel bad!

i still feel like he likes her, even though hes told me several times he doesnt. i feel like i dont believe him, when i should!

how can i get over this? (link)
unfortunately, I do agree with you.. that was a little bit over the top. But moving foward! you can reverse this. I think with this boy you need to be a bit more laid back. If he said he doesn't like her, and there not dating.. chances are he's telling you the truth. :] Sometimes it's better to come across as that you don't need him.. because you don't. Talk to other guys while keeping him in mind and still flirting and remaining good friends. A lot of people want what they can't have. So if he sees that you aren't overly jealous over him talking to other girls .. he may be more drawn to you. I know I always want what I can't have. Good luck.. and try to keep busy to avoid even thinking about being jealous.


ahh i dont know why but i just have trouble making friends=( well girl ones at least.
well im kinda new to this school.
and the first year i didnt really know what was going on so i just talked to the people who sat by me and were fairly nice. but they turned out to be really annoying.
i made a lot of best friends but i dont really talk to any of them any more expect for 2 who are in my classes.

now this year i made a lot of new friends but one of them is really fake and the others i dont have any classes with=( so we kinda grew apart.

i have a problem that i seem to become or talk more to guys rather then girls and i dont know why!!!

and now i kinda want to get back and gain some friends who i will want to stick with for a while but i feel like its too late =( and i dont really know how to pick up.

and please dont tell me smile be confident start a conversation ahh i know all those things i need more than that..
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with having a lot of guy friends. I personally find girls hard to get along with too. Their so catty at our age. However, I do have a few good ones that I can always turn too. I know its hard to just go start a conversation with a random girl, so maybe try joining clubs or sports you may have interest in. It'll be a whole lot easier to start talking to someone with common interests. Look approachable and hope for the best.


Whats that site that you upload your picture and you can try different options of makeup on your own picture? I've seen questions that had answers posting the link, but I can't find it anywhere! Help! (link)
Here's a really fun site!

Go to www.ivillage.com

then to the beauty/fashion style section

scroll down to the makeover-o-matic feature

They let you upload your picture and try different makeup and hairstyles. It's pretty cool.


my boyfriend and i just broke up after 9 months, i broke up with him.

well before i dated my boyfriend my ex and i dated for 8 months and i broke up with him to, and he was devestated and i know he really loved me and he was heartbroken for months and i told him it was because i just wasn't feeling it anymore but i was.. i left him because i was scared to get my heartbroken because i honestly loved him and ive had my heart broken before that and i couldn't stand to have it happen again and so i guess i broke up with him before he could brake up with me, but i don't know why because i know he loved me and wouldn't have broken up with me, we never had one fight the whole 8 months we dated well now im single and so is he and we've been talking again and i want to be with him so bad but i dont know if he would ever date me because of what i did and i told him it was because of other reason why i did it and not because i was scared i mean i was 16 and in love and it like.. just scared me because i was so young im 17 now almost 18 and i dont know i feel like im ready to love again it sounds corny i know but its just how i feel, how do i talk to him about this? im afraid to say i want him back because i dont know how hes going to react and i dont know, does anyone have any advice? (link)
I think you have nothing to lose by telling him how you really feel. I mean heart break is absolutely horrible.. don't get me wrong. It's the worst pain.
However, you can't let it stop you from ever loving the boy you had a great relationship with again. Time as helped heal you and maybe it's time to give it another try. If this boy is as wonderful as you said (I'm sure he is) then he will find a way to try and understand where you are coming from. "It's better to have said something than to have said nothing at all" You will have far more regrets if you don't tell him how you really feel and why you broke up with him.




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