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friend with jerk?
okay so ill try to make it short. my friend who is 16 now has never had ANY experience. shes never even kissed a guy. and shes really desperate to, which isnt good but i can understand it...shes just the type of girl that daydreams about love a lot and stuff and gets attached VERY easily to guys. shes just too intense and forward and thats why all guys tend to run from her.
But now she met this guy...who is a jerk...and sex obsessed. but hes nice to her. thing is he told her flat out hed never want a relationship with her, just wants to hook up. And she says that because he told her she feels ok doing it cuz she wants to finally kiss someone...
but hes only after her for one thing and keeps asking her to do other stuff that im not even sure she wants to do. idk if i should let her do whatever she wants and just hook up with him or if i should try to talk her out of it. Because i mean i just dont want her to get attached if she hooks up with him. i havent told her anything yet but should I???? i mean she seems ok with just hooking up but that is before...how will she feel after??? i dont want this guy to hurt her but maybe she really just needs some experience. What do you guys think???
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I think it will be tempting to try to talk her out of things, and maybe the right thing to do. However, chances are she probably won't listen if her mind is set on doing this stuff. I have a friend identical to yours. I always use to try to tell her she's going to hurt herself.. and each time she screwed herself over and never listened to me. It sucks to watch your friend hurt herself but it's my guess she won't listen. Maybe eventually she will learn with experience. ha we all have to learn the hard way once in a while, good luck to you and her :]
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I think it's really important that you tell your friend NOT to do this! She should do it with someone she really loves and who loves her back. Not with someone who looks at her like a piece of meat he'd like to chew on! You need to let her know how pretty she is and how if he thinks she's hot enough to just hook up with that someone out there will like her and that her first time will be SO much special with that person. I had a friend who went through with the same thing your friend wants to go through and she said she felt dirty and sick all the time! Don't let your friend sell herself out for a first kiss. The first one is never as good as the ones when you're more experienced anyways! Plus it's who your with! Hope I helped.
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