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Q: I know this isn't about sex but i didn't no what to put it under lol.

So I think Obama should have never became president
I think hi is an idiot.

So i want to know people who did vote for him why you did what were your reasons?
Cause if you think hes ganna pay for your bills and provide for you hes not.

I just wanna know everyones reason for why they voted for him or why you didn't vote for him.
Also a lot of people including me, Think he manly won cause he is black and i think if that is true witch i think it is i think thats wrong.
My resons are because I think racism is wrong and if people vote for him only because he's black just means your being racist. Now you might note be but your basing your decision on the color of his skin i and i think thats horriable.
I bet if he was a white man he would not of one or he wouldn't of one for the reasons he did.

PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THIS OVENSIVLY IM JUST SPREEDING MY OPINION ON WHAT I BELIEVIE AND I WANT TO KNOW WHAT PEOPLE BELIEVE OR THINK.

Make sure next time you ask a question, you spell check yourself. its not that big of a deal but I have to say people get really annoyed when they constantly have to read spelling errors.

Now, to answer your question.

I voted for Obama AND I will again if he re-runs in 2012.

I am a white female, so dont think for a second that rce had anything to do with my decision. You say people who voted for Obama JUST because he is black is racist....WELL, if people voted for McCain JUST BECAUSE they didnt want a black president is being racist as well! is it not?

Did you actually watch any of the presidential debates? Did you research any of their campaign bulletins or rallies? If you DIDNT, how can YOU form an opinion at all????

People under the age of 18 should NOT be able to vote. I personally dont think that people underage fully understand politics yet (in most places you dont even take government in school until you are a senior)

I proudly voted for obama because I stayed up to date with the campaigns of both candidates the whole time they were running. The things that Obama said versus the things that McCain said made my decision far too easy.

McCain is a Repub. JUST LIKE BUSH who has the same views and supports the big business to get bigger, (rich get richer) the man is OLD, with a history of bad health and the idiot woman he chose as his little side-kick would drill our country into the ground. the woman is an air head.

Does this mean I agree with EVERYTHING Obama favors? Not at all. But between McCain and Obama, Obama's ideals are going to get us farther in the long run.

He said FROM THE BEGINNING, that things were going to get worse BEFORE they get better. He said that his Bailout would not show any economical improvement until about 2 YEARS into the plan. (think of how many billions of people hes trying to take care of)

trust me the recession effected my household! I got laid off and couldnt find a job for 6 months!! 6 MONTHS. But thank GOD for Obama's Bailouts because since he put the stimulus plan into effect, that offered an additional 8 months of emergency benefits that people could get IF they couldnt find a job. At trust me I was trying. I applied to atlead 200 jobs within the 6 months. Even things I was OVER Qualified for. Jobs simply couldnt afford to hire more workers.

2 YEARS!! So WHY is it that 4 or 5 months into his position, people are already BITCHING that the economy isnt fixed????

HELLOOOOO! He said 2 years people?! are you listening?! Today CNN showed that Wall Street and the Stocks are improving at an amazing rate. People bitch about his Bailouts but HEYO! You have to spend money to MAKE money. Simple as that.

as far as him being black, im OFFENDED that people refuse to own up to the fact that the man is what we need for this country and since I live in Texas, I see my fair share of racist bumber stickers and get lots of chain emails talking about "seceding from the union"...and assasination threats. Give me a f***ing break. Get over it people. Stop using the F-ing RACE CARD already. grow up you immature ignorant a-holes.

Do some research before you try to "SPREED" your opinion.

And just so you know, Ive been a republican for many years, but once Bush ruined our country, McCain didnt look too far behind. Obama was eloquent, well educated, a family man, and honestly wants a better future for our country.

thats what a president should be.

Q: My boyfriend and I have a great relationship, we're 4 hours apart right now because of college but we talk all the time. By this I mean texting until the moment we wake up to the moment we go to bed. Then every night around 8 he'll ask me what I'm doing and I'm normally not doing anything and then he asks me to call him, so I always do and then we get on the phone, have a conversation for about 5 minutes and then there's nothing left to talk about because we talked all day. Then he gets this slightly annoyed tone in his voice because I have nothing to talk about! I don't know what to do. If I said I didn't feel like talking I know he'd take it personally and I don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't want to have phone conversations where we just listen to each other breathe and fall asleep.

Ive answered a similar question like this before.

When I was a senior in Highschool, my BF got a really good job at his aunts fuel company about 4 hours away. He had to work long hours but would come down on the weekends when he could.

We realized we started having the same problem as you guys, when we talked on the phone every night, we just sat in silence. it was pretty lame so he suggested that we do this

we each wrote in a journal every night about how our day went. any funny thoughts or jokes we heard that day. THEN, every friday night we would talk on the phone, and read our journal entries to eachother.

not only does it create a great conversation, its last longer that 5 minutes and its fun. it made our 4 months apart bearable until he could come back to town to me.

that was when I was 16. Im now 21 yrs old and we are married. :-)

hope this helps!!

steph

Q: Hello ,

My name's Betty and I have a problem.Most guys just jump right into action right. Well , I met this guy and we hung out for the first time. We went to the movies and he made some moves on me. Then he said to go back to his car so we did , and he put my hand on his lower area. Most likely , I'm taking a guess that's all he wanted and wasn't interested in me. My question is , is it worth waiting him to talk to me or leave it behind and not talk to him again?

Thank you.

honestly, it is pretty suspicious that he makes such a sexual move on the first date. Either he felt like he could get away with it, or thats all he wanted.

I would say go on another date with him. If he continues to seem only interested in sex, if thats not what you are looking for, let him know. See where it goes from there.\

hope this helps! =]

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Q: Ok, well I'm thinking of getting what I heard is a prepaid debit card. It is getting kind of annoying asking my parents to use their credit and in return I pay them the cost of what I'm getting because they not always agree even if I pay at full price. Anyways what is it? How do I use it? And where can I get one? There is a Walgreens near where I live and I heard they have prepaid debit cards there called the Green Dot. Can I use that? And what are the fees to a prepaid debit card? I prefer very detailed responses because I am pretty new to this kind of stuff. Basically I just need one to buy stuff on Ebay and maybe use it for my Xbox Live subscription. Also if I buy one and when I need to put cash in it do I just bring the card to the place where I bought it and pay them the amount I want?

a prepaid debit card is a card that you can buy, and once you pay for it, you can use it like cash, as long as there is money on it. You will set up a PIN number, and every time you want to use the debit card, you will swipe it on the machine, and then type in your PIN.

its called prepaid, because its not linked to a bank account. If you want $500 on it, then you have to pay the walgreens cashier $500 and they will out it on the card.

You can get any amount put on it anywhere from $20-$1000 dollars. however much you want to be on the card, you will have to pay the cashier up front. But once its on there, its like cash.

hope this helps! =]

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Q: hello im 18/f and my boyfriend is 21/m we have been dating for about 7 months now. I've realized now that just this past month we've been having more little arguments lately. We really do love each other and i really think hes the one and i know he feels the same. Its just i have a problem with him smoking pot. I tell him i dont like it and he knows that but he says hes gonna do it anyways and he doesnt think he should change. I should like him for who he is. I do like him for who he is its just im tired of him doing it. I just hate it when he does. And those who do smoke pot out there please dont gimme a lecture on how it is possibly good for you. But its pretty much just been about that. There is no way of me getting him to stop. Is there anything you suggest i have pretty much tried everything. And he says he doesnt do good with punishments he just will keep doing it. I've tried it. Thanks to you all in advance!!

I have been through this before.

I totally understand why you would want him to stop. First of all, you dont want to be influence you and possibly get you addicted to it. Secondly, you dont want him to get into trouble with the law, and third, you find it gross and repulsive. right?

You are going to have to be very serious about this, and give him the ultimate choice. Tell him that you love him, but his drug abuse is going to tear your relationsip apart.

so he needs to decided whats more important to him. Weed, or YOU. Tell him if he doesnt clean his act up, its over.

be strong. It will be very hard to do but you need to respect yourself and he needs to respect you as well.

If you had a bad habit, like, "sleeping with other guys" and he wanted you to change, you would, so why wont he stop smoking if he knows it makes you uncomfortable???

there is no double standards in real, successful relationships. Be strong, and tell him its you or the pot.

if he wont change, end it. Because he obviously doesnt respect you, and you dont want that. You deserve better

hope this helps! email me if you wanna talk about it. =]

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

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Q: let it rock by kevin rudolf has been like my favorite song ever since i heard it and i was wondering what are some other songs like that one

well there is this song called "monsoon" by Tokio Hotel. Its an alternative rock group, and they have alot of great songs, but I think their "monsoon" song sounds alot like let it rock.

hope this helps! check them out. Dont let the lead singer fool you, its a GUY not a girl. =]

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Q: http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2648/3836551040_2522ecb901.jpg

I need to paint my room soon, and I wanted to use a stencil with this pattern, or a pattern very similar, so I'm wondering if it has a specific name?

Any help would be appreciated.
And also, if you want to suggest a store, if it's in America, it's no help to me, seeing as I live in Europe. Sorry!

Thanks!

it is called Demask.

hope this helps!

Q: im 5'2 and 100 lbs, and i started my period last month, and i thought you were supposed to start developing them before your period. not only that, but im 15. ive never met a girl who still doesnt have them my age and im starting to worry if i will ever get them. all the other signs of puberty are there, but i dont have any boobs at all- and by that i dont mean they're small- i mean theres actually nothing there, i might as well be a ten year old boy. i just want to know if anyone is in the same position as me or was but eventually got them, but any answers at all will really help.

in high school, I knew a girl named Kaleigh who was 18 yrs old, and was completely flat chested.

you have plenty of time to develop. I didnt start developing until I was a sophmore in high school and now im a DD. =]

just give it some time. it will all come in when its supposed to. Dont try to compare yourself to others because everyone is different. love who you are!! =] =] =]

also, boobs are mostly fat, so if you gained like 10 - 15 lbs, you should get bigger boobs. =]

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Q: i noticed how on some peoples myspace thay have a graphic that looks like its in there hand writting. like their name or their about me. well i was wondering how they did that.

here is an example:
http://s154.photobucket.com/albums/s253/almiexsalomie/?action=view¤t=AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW.jpg

thank you alot.

ive done this before too.

take a peice of plain white paper, and draw whatever you want, write your about me, or just your cute signature.

if you have a scanner, place your paper on the scanner, and scan it in.

save it as a .JPEG on your computer, and when you go to myspace, add it on there!

good luck hope this helps! =]

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Q: What are the chances that you can get pregnant from engaging in unprotected anal intercourse while on your period with a tampon in? I know that the chances are not high with anal sex and let alone being on my period; however, I am a bit nervous and need reassurance! Thank you!

Also, as far as I know, the semen did not leak on to the vaginal area after intercourse, as I was sure to wash up immediately after.

When partaking in anal intercourse, there is no chance of pregnancy unless cum leaked into your vagina.

if you had a tampon in, and any semen leaked down, most likely the tampon soaked it up, but who knows. stranger things have been known to happen

and i dont think its possible to get pregnant while ON your period.

just keep an eye on your next cycle. If your next period is any more than 3 days late, take a pregnancy test immediatly.

i dont think you are, but just pay attention.

hope this helps! =]

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Q: hello i'm 17 year old woman and i'm pregnant and don't know if i should get an abortion or not both me and my boyfriend havent told our parents and i'm scared of there reaction because my parents are very religous Catholics and would kill me if they found out if i did anything like this i'm leaning more towards getting an aborting because i can't take care of a baby and i have a career to look forward to this is my senior year in high school and me and my boyfriend have a very good chance of getting noticed for sports and a baby would heavily destroy that so what should i do?

First thing, If you are mature enough to have sex, then you need to be mature enough to handle the consequences...

I know its scary, but you HAVE to tell your parents. In most states you cant get an abortion if you are under 18 without parental consent.

you MUST tell your parents. at first, yes, they will be MAD, dissapointed. But they will get over that after abour 30 minutes, and then they will realize that there is nothing that they can do about it, its already done. after they get over the initial shock, they will switch into "mommy mode" and start talking to you about things that need to get done. they will start talking to you about what the best plan of action will be, they will discuss the pros and cons of abortion and if that is the best decision for you.

dont try to get an abortion without consulting your parents first. An abortion can damage your reproductive system if something goes wrong and could ruin your ability to have children later in life. also if there is an infection you could get really sick or worse....

just tell your parents. i know it will be scary but you need to tell them. thats their grandchild in your stomach and they will not be mad for long.

im here for you. if you need to talk about it, email me anytime

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

hope this helps! =]

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Q: I saw commercials for, apparently, the new Chevy Volt that GM has created. The commercials were ALL OVER Hulu and it was driving me crazy until they revealed what the entire thing was about. Anyway, now I'm confused why the Chevy Volt is so outstanding. I haven't read anything about it (I'm not big into cars and was afraid I wouldn't be able to understand the lingo) but hoping somebody here could explain what's so great about it? Pretty please? :D

Jack is right, the Volt is the newest in fuel effeciency, and it looks great, (you seen those old ugly 1st generation electric cars. LOL)

And its Chevy, a big company, basically its going to be way better the the Toyota Prius. And no one has been able to match Chevy now, they are above the rest with this new car!

it looks pretty cool. go to www.chevy.com

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Q: 15/f... yesterday I was walking home from volleyball practice when a man 'exposed' himself to me and was basically sexually harassing me. A lady who lived across the street saw it happen and called the police. I had to write a written statement explaining exactly what happened and then I had to identify him in some lineup pictures. He was arrested but the policeman said they 'might not have enough information to prosecute him'. Does that mean he could get out? If he does get out of jail, would they notify me or my parents, just so we know that he's still out there? I've never been through anything like this so I don't know how this all works...thank you for reading and answering.

you and your parents can request that the police dept notify your family of his release.

be careful, theres lots of crazies out there!

hope this helps! =]

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Q: i just recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years. this whole experience has taught me a lot. I already have two tattoos that i love. I want to get a gun tattooed on my hip. ((not pointing to my crouch, i dont like that) but I want a quote or something tattooed with the gun. Its hard to explain how i feel. I am over him,b ut everything I've learned from this relationship will always be with me. It was a great relationship dont get me wrong, but its meaningful to me. The last few months were rocky, and hurtful, I think this is why I want this tattoo.

Any ideas? I was thinking "untouchable"
something along those lines.
Not really about love, but me in general. its hard to explain. Any ideas are welcomed, thanks!!

ive always wanted a tattoo that said "conquer" or "overcome" because Ive been through alot of bad things in my life.

just an idea! =]

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Q: when having sex, if the girl gets really wet, really easily it's most likely going to be more enjoyable, more easily to get in right?

and does that mean you don't have to use lube?

Some girls get more wet than others but yes, as long as you are wet, lube is unecessary, but it can dry up quickly sometimes so having some lube nearby is good just in case.

hope this helps! =]

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Q: I am a 17th year old female and I want to ask my dad for Birth control.
He has told me before that if I want it, don't hesitate to ask but when the time comes its going to be awkward and weird. So when should I bring it up and what should I say.
My dad is very understanding about everything, I just will feel awkward.
Thank you.

best way is to just be mature about it.

Next time you see him, just be doing something like, doing the dishes or something, and just casually say, "Dad, I think its time I start using birth Control. When can we get that done?"

by asking a question at the end, he will give you an answer instead of saying "really?" or "what?"

his answer will be something like "i can take you to go get some this weekend"

there you go! thats how I asked!

good luck hope this helps! =]

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Q: I am a Sophmore at East High School in Duluth, MN. Since I've started High School I've been asked the same question over and over.

"What kind of schooling are you going to do?"
"What career do you want to part take in?"

And recently i've figured out what I want to do. I want to go somewhere tropical on the ocean and get a Boat with a couple bedrooms, kitchen, living space, bathroom, ect. and Start a business to Charter people out on a boat and take them places they want to go on their vacation, and tour them around and they decide what they want to do for the day/ week/ or however long they wish to stay.

My questions are
-What kind of schooling do I need for this?
-Where should I go?
-How can I obtain this "Dream Boat"?
-Where can I find more answers to my Questions?

first, in order to do this, you will need your captains sailing license. You have to spend 270 at sea to obtain your license.

after that, Its going to cost you ALOT to buy a "house boat" so I suggest looking into getting a loan for that.

One you have your license, and your boat, you need customers!

move to florida or another tropical location of your choice and start advertising. Get some business cards made, create a website, and get some brochures made to hand out.

hope this helps!! =]

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Q: Basically for the last few months, I have suffered this very sudden abdominal pain, that really strikes to the point where you immediately keel over, and it goes all the way to my bum, I struggle to sit and walk.

I find as gross as this sounds that it almost stops when I go to the toilet & release my bowels, but surely I should not be getting the pain that severe? I wasn't even desperate for the toilet, I almost had to force it to happen. My stomach now feels tender like Ive been stabbed and its healing. Its really painful and not sure what to do about it, Ive been on my period 2 days, but I dont find it happens just during this time, I find it happens other times too.

My sister had almost the exact same sypmtops, and she went to the doctor and found out she had a serious Ulcer, and he prescribed her some antibiotics to heal it and she was better.

Definetly go to the doctor about this, any abdominal pain can be severe issues that need to be handled as soon as possible.

hope this helps! =]

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Q: So I think I might have a serious problem. Whenever I get up from sitting on a couch, or laying on my bed, I black out. Its like when I get up, I feel wierd, then I try to hold onto something to keep me from falling, and then there is a ringing in my ear, and it feels like Im in a whole different place, like Im not aware of what's going on around me until the episode stops. I would say it lasts about a minute. Today I hurt myself because I let go of what I was holding onto, I hit my head, hurt my arm, and hurt my leg. It's starting to scare me. I have tried getting out of bed slower, but that doesn't help. Can anyone help me? Im desperate.

There is a condition called Vertigo that can be very serious. Just to rule that out, I would just take a trip to the doctor and have him check you out.

he can tell you exactly whats wrong. Because, trrust me, this is NOT normal for a healthy active 17 yr old.

hope this helps! =]

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Q: Okay well I have been dating this guy for about a year and six months. He used to pay attention to me but now it's basically all going to his friends. For examples, he went to the beach with this guy for a week, and I told him I didn't want him to go and he said (word for word) I don't care, I am going anyway. So then he goes to his friends house and when we talk it's like for two seconds. Even when he is not with his friends he will be like I have to go eat, and I will say will you call me after you eat, and he said I don't know, maybe. So then when we argue, he is always like WHATEVER I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING, YOU PICK AN ARGUMENT OUT OF NOTHING. And then he always says I keep him on lockdown and I said I do not, I let you go anywhere you want to go. And he said, if I got to go anywhere I wanted to go, I would be gone everyday. And I told him we would never get to talk if he did that. He just acts like he never cares about me anymore. And also, whenever we argue he never says sorry unless I say something like, wow thanks for your apology, or stuff like that. It seems like his friends are way more important to him than I will ever be, and its making me lose my feelings for him. What do I do? Is it my fault?

its not necessarily your fault, in this case, the two of you are just really not right for eachother. I know tha may be hard to hear, but he seems to be in his, "party boy, batchelor" modes, and you seem to be much more mature and ready for a real steady and commited relationship.

honestly, when you find the right guy, he will be on your level, and will respect you and will want to be around you, and not put his friends before you...

Just be honest with yourself and come to terms with the fact that he is immature and will not change any time soon. Once you realize this things will become easier and you can start the necessary steps to move on.

by all means DONT STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP that makes you miserable. you deserve better than that!!!!

hope this helps! email me if you want to talk about it more. =]

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

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bio

Hi! I'm Stephanie, I'm a 21 yr living in Houston, Texas. I've been living on my own since I was 17 and wouldnt have it any other way. Ive been through many bad things in my life. Instead of letting things hurt me and make me bitter and depressed, I have let them make me stronger. I can give great advice on almost any subject. Im getting married in December to a wonderful man named Chris, and will soon my a military wife! inbox me or email me anytime, id love to hear from you!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com