I M very sorry you are going through this. You don't deserve this treatment. I was actually in a similar situation and got kicked out of my own home too early and had to fend for myself. I want to ask a serious question. Are you able to join the military? When I was going through rough times, I went and talked to a recruiter. I met a guy there and he became my boyfriend. My boyfriend ended up joining and we got married and now we have everything we could ever want. The military pays for you to live in your room, gives you free meals and pays you decent wages. You get to meet lots of people and travel. And you also get the GI Bill which pays for college. Please consider it. So many people are scared or intimidated by the military but it is actually a wonderful thing. We are only 25 years old but have bought a house, drive nice cars, and are living very comfortably, which is amazing considering a few years ago I was out on the street. My email is Steph 2 k 10@hotmail.com if you ever want to talk!

Hi there!

There is always a possibility that you are pregnant no matter if you used a condom or not. Since you had you period, that is a good sign but the possibility is still there. My suggestion is to simply go to the doctor and get a blood or urine test done. They will be able to give you an ABSOLUTE answer on whether you are pregnant or not..and trust me it would put your mind at ease to know an answer for sure.

Steph2k10

I have to be honest with you, I read the title of your blog and expected to read something very traumatic in your question...but by the time I was done reading your question I was just appalled. Nothing you mentioned is SO TERRIBLE that its even worth THINKING about suicide. I was your age just a few years ago and I went through SO MANY things that were 10 times more terrible than what you are going through. I was very abused as a child and moved around a lot. My parents were dirt poor and didn't really care about me, and didn't take care of me at all....then in High School 5 of my friend DIED. All at different times. I had to go to a lot of funerals and nothing is more "depressing" than watching a young person die. I hope that you realize that I am trying to give you the best advice that I can, even if it sounds harsh. The world outside of high school is SO MUCH HARDER than what you are going through now. You like to write?? AWESOME! Do it on your free time. Getting a drivers license is something that you are going to HAVE to get. Having the ability to drive is amazing. If something is going on in the house and you feel like you need to get away, you can. You aren't going to be able to bum rides off of people forever.

You need to start looking at what steps you are going to take to begin your future after high school. And in this economy, things are really rough for entry level people out there. I know you are only 16, but high school goes by quicker than you think.

I could go on and on as to why you shouldnt hurt yourself. It truly is the cowards way out. So my best advice is to suck it up and realize that what you are going through is not actually that bad. Optimism is the best medicine for making it through your teenage years. And I promise you that. I recently started a blog to help young adults take charge of their lives...the link is:

www.stephaniemorris.blog.com

steph

This is a Balenciaga bag.

go to www.balenciaga.com to see more bags just like it and look at prices. I love these handbags.

hope this helps! =]

Steph

it actually sounds like Bipolar disorder, where your mood changes drastically and quickly. I say this because my mother is bipolar.

You should google Bipolar disorder and see if you match the symptoms. If you seriously think it might be you issue, and your parents wont get you help, talk to your school counselor. They can get help for your condition and once you get the right treatment, you will be amazed at how much better you feel!! :-)

good luck!

Steph

Hey there,

Firstly, nothing in this world is worth taking your life over. We all make mistakes when we are young and although it may take years, eventually, you will learn from those mistakes. You are 19 and I promise you hormones has alot to do with your promiscuity. I think deep down you have some insicurities that cause you to seek attention from men. I know this because I was there myself just a year ago. Im only 20 now and last year was a dark year for me. Ive tried therapy too but it doesnt always help.

your parents are right, they do have a good daughter. The reason I say that is because you obviously feel guilty about your behavior. That makes you human and a good person. If you had no guilt and didnt care about your behavior, then THAT would be an issue.

The only way to pull out of this behavior is to start with yourself. I know it sounds a little crazy, but you need to start loving yourself. There has to be something that you can do to make your outlook on life better. Once you are happier with life, you can start forgiving yourself. Dont subject yourself to sexual encounters with strangers. You deserve better than that.

I would like you to email me if you want to talk. I have been in your place before, and I have also helped several friends get through these tough times. Heres my email. Let me know if you need anything or just want to talk.

Stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 20/f

if you drink soda, cut that out completely. Its nothing but sugar and has NO health benefits so its only hurting you. that can help you lose a few pounds right there.

there are alot of crash diets out there that tell you to eat one food for breakfast lunch and dinner everyday for 3 weeks, but a crash diet like this is extremly unhealthy and once you start eating normal food again, you will gain all the weight back PLUS a few pounds more.

the only sure fire way to lose weight and keep it off is to eat more fruits and veggies, cut out the junk food, and excersise at least a little bit. It can be doing crunches in your bedroom, or jumping jacks, or running around your house.

if you just eat healthy and dont excersise, the weight will come off but slowly. The more excersise you add to your healthy eating, the faster the weight will come off.

good luck!!

First of all, I am very impressed that you are proud of your viginity and arent wanting to lose it so fast. That good keep that up!

Now, Its completely fine if you want to spend time with this guy, but just make sure you dont let anything happen unless you want it to.

teenage boys usually cant control themselves and will try to force you into sex or make you feel guilty and give in. dont let that happen!

getting physical is OK but when he starts trying to take your clothes off and tries to start sex, get up and tell him that you dont mind getting physical with him but sex is out of the question for now. Advise him that its not about him, its just that you are not ready to give up your viginity, which is your precious gift. If he really cares about you, he will understand and not push you too far.

good luck girl! let me know if you need anything else!

Stephanie 21/f

The best thing to do is to go to a gynocologist and have them check you out and make sure there isnt any things wrong with your reproductive system. My biggest advice to you is to make sure you are mature enough to take care of a child. That means not going out with your friends all the time, that having the money to buy diapers, formula, baby food, baby clothes, a stroller, car seat, a crib, and hundreds of other things.And all that is aside from the amount of hospital bills its going to be to have it. One ultrasound costs $500, and you will need several. If you are going to have to rely on your parents help, then you are not ready to bring a baby into this world. A year relationship isnt very long...many things can change in a year. My husband and I have been together for 5 years.

Im not saying that you two will not make it. My husband and I started dating when I wa 16 and he was 17. I just want you to make sure you can handle a baby before you make one because once you have a baby you cant put it back!

I wish you all the best and if you feel like you are ready, then just make sure you talk to your gynocologist and get your insides checked out. If the doctor says its a go, go for it!

Good Luck! =]

to be honest with you, you can turn this quiet awkward silences into something!

One of the cutest things to girls is honesty and shyness. next time you are with her and an awkward silence comes up, just say, "you know, Im sorry that there are awkward silences sometimes. Im just shy and sometimes dont always know what to say around beautiful girls." make sure to smile alot! It may seem cheesy but the girl will appreciate the compliment, and instead of thinking your a creep, you will look like the shy sensitive type.

well, any time you become sexually active, there is a chance of pregnancy. Even if you used a condom. 1 drop of semen has a million sperm and thats all it takes. However, if you say you were not sexually active AT ALL (meaning you didnt have sex, even 1 time) then the chances of you showing pregnancy symptoms is something that had to have taken place within the last few weeks, not months. It usually takes 10-12 days for symptoms to start. If you had sex 12 days ago, then yes you could be pregnant.

The best thing to do at this point is to go out and get 2 pregnancy tests. (never take just one) At home pregnancy tests are usually very accurate (as long as you dont buy cheap ones from the dollar store) Take both tests, and if you are pregnant, you need to go to the doctor right away. There are certain steps you need to take to ensure that not only your baby is safe, but YOU remain safe and healthy as well.

I wish you all the best and please remember, the only way to make sure you NEVER get pregnant is to not have sex. No matter how much protection you use, there is still a chance of failure.

yes, women do secrete cum.

To start, I would look at website like davids bridal, and alfred angelo to practice scetching the general SHAPES of the dress. Dont sketch any of the lace or beading details, but pay attention to what styles of dress look good on different body types. Mermaid style dresses that poof out at the knees usually look good on very thin women, while A-line dresses look good on busty, bore curvy women. (as do others) scetch out the different sleeve types as well, (cap sleeves, thick straps, halter top, strapless, etc.

Once you've got the general sillouettes down, go crazy and start designing your own details. once youve got it on paper, get a dress doll and make it happen. Good luck!!

It does actually work, I have it.

Once you get ahold of it (like $8 at walmart) most people realize that its really just very fine sand paper, and if you keep rubbing in a circular motion, it not only buffs away the hair, it sands off some of your skin. It works ok, and your skin is very smooth afterwards, but it takes quite a while so I gave up and went back to shaving.

Be careful if you use the small one on your upper lip line, if you do it too much it rubs it raw and can be very painful.

Make sure next time you ask a question, you spell check yourself. its not that big of a deal but I have to say people get really annoyed when they constantly have to read spelling errors.

Now, to answer your question.

I voted for Obama AND I will again if he re-runs in 2012.

I am a white female, so dont think for a second that rce had anything to do with my decision. You say people who voted for Obama JUST because he is black is racist....WELL, if people voted for McCain JUST BECAUSE they didnt want a black president is being racist as well! is it not?

Did you actually watch any of the presidential debates? Did you research any of their campaign bulletins or rallies? If you DIDNT, how can YOU form an opinion at all????

People under the age of 18 should NOT be able to vote. I personally dont think that people underage fully understand politics yet (in most places you dont even take government in school until you are a senior)

I proudly voted for obama because I stayed up to date with the campaigns of both candidates the whole time they were running. The things that Obama said versus the things that McCain said made my decision far too easy.

McCain is a Repub. JUST LIKE BUSH who has the same views and supports the big business to get bigger, (rich get richer) the man is OLD, with a history of bad health and the idiot woman he chose as his little side-kick would drill our country into the ground. the woman is an air head.

Does this mean I agree with EVERYTHING Obama favors? Not at all. But between McCain and Obama, Obama's ideals are going to get us farther in the long run.

He said FROM THE BEGINNING, that things were going to get worse BEFORE they get better. He said that his Bailout would not show any economical improvement until about 2 YEARS into the plan. (think of how many billions of people hes trying to take care of)

trust me the recession effected my household! I got laid off and couldnt find a job for 6 months!! 6 MONTHS. But thank GOD for Obama's Bailouts because since he put the stimulus plan into effect, that offered an additional 8 months of emergency benefits that people could get IF they couldnt find a job. At trust me I was trying. I applied to atlead 200 jobs within the 6 months. Even things I was OVER Qualified for. Jobs simply couldnt afford to hire more workers.

2 YEARS!! So WHY is it that 4 or 5 months into his position, people are already BITCHING that the economy isnt fixed????

HELLOOOOO! He said 2 years people?! are you listening?! Today CNN showed that Wall Street and the Stocks are improving at an amazing rate. People bitch about his Bailouts but HEYO! You have to spend money to MAKE money. Simple as that.

as far as him being black, im OFFENDED that people refuse to own up to the fact that the man is what we need for this country and since I live in Texas, I see my fair share of racist bumber stickers and get lots of chain emails talking about "seceding from the union"...and assasination threats. Give me a f***ing break. Get over it people. Stop using the F-ing RACE CARD already. grow up you immature ignorant a-holes.

Do some research before you try to "SPREED" your opinion.

And just so you know, Ive been a republican for many years, but once Bush ruined our country, McCain didnt look too far behind. Obama was eloquent, well educated, a family man, and honestly wants a better future for our country.

thats what a president should be.

Ive answered a similar question like this before.

When I was a senior in Highschool, my BF got a really good job at his aunts fuel company about 4 hours away. He had to work long hours but would come down on the weekends when he could.

We realized we started having the same problem as you guys, when we talked on the phone every night, we just sat in silence. it was pretty lame so he suggested that we do this

we each wrote in a journal every night about how our day went. any funny thoughts or jokes we heard that day. THEN, every friday night we would talk on the phone, and read our journal entries to eachother.

not only does it create a great conversation, its last longer that 5 minutes and its fun. it made our 4 months apart bearable until he could come back to town to me.

that was when I was 16. Im now 21 yrs old and we are married. :-)

hope this helps!!

steph

honestly, it is pretty suspicious that he makes such a sexual move on the first date. Either he felt like he could get away with it, or thats all he wanted.

I would say go on another date with him. If he continues to seem only interested in sex, if thats not what you are looking for, let him know. See where it goes from there.\

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

a prepaid debit card is a card that you can buy, and once you pay for it, you can use it like cash, as long as there is money on it. You will set up a PIN number, and every time you want to use the debit card, you will swipe it on the machine, and then type in your PIN.

its called prepaid, because its not linked to a bank account. If you want $500 on it, then you have to pay the walgreens cashier $500 and they will out it on the card.

You can get any amount put on it anywhere from $20-$1000 dollars. however much you want to be on the card, you will have to pay the cashier up front. But once its on there, its like cash.

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

I have been through this before.

I totally understand why you would want him to stop. First of all, you dont want to be influence you and possibly get you addicted to it. Secondly, you dont want him to get into trouble with the law, and third, you find it gross and repulsive. right?

You are going to have to be very serious about this, and give him the ultimate choice. Tell him that you love him, but his drug abuse is going to tear your relationsip apart.

so he needs to decided whats more important to him. Weed, or YOU. Tell him if he doesnt clean his act up, its over.

be strong. It will be very hard to do but you need to respect yourself and he needs to respect you as well.

If you had a bad habit, like, "sleeping with other guys" and he wanted you to change, you would, so why wont he stop smoking if he knows it makes you uncomfortable???

there is no double standards in real, successful relationships. Be strong, and tell him its you or the pot.

if he wont change, end it. Because he obviously doesnt respect you, and you dont want that. You deserve better

hope this helps! email me if you wanna talk about it. =]

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21

well there is this song called "monsoon" by Tokio Hotel. Its an alternative rock group, and they have alot of great songs, but I think their "monsoon" song sounds alot like let it rock.

hope this helps! check them out. Dont let the lead singer fool you, its a GUY not a girl. =]

steph 21

Hi! I'm Stephanie, I'm a 21 yr living in Houston, Texas. I've been living on my own since I was 17 and wouldnt have it any other way. Ive been through many bad things in my life. Instead of letting things hurt me and make me bitter and depressed, I have let them make me stronger. I can give great advice on almost any subject. Im getting married in December to a wonderful man named Chris, and will soon my a military wife! inbox me or email me anytime, id love to hear from you!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

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