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sex advice for teens
hey.. so im 16f and wanting some advice on a guy and sex.. so ive known this guy, lets call him john, for a while and we've liked eachother on and off,we havnt talked alot he moved and cuz i started talking to one of his friends which i still am. but me and john want to hangout soon and first im debating on wether i should or not.. me and him always had the emotional aspect of a relationship but we never experienced the physical with eachother. so i know if we hangout we're going to get physical, and i want to have sex with this guy but i cant, im a virgin and i dont want to be that easy and other reasons, so how do i know when were about to have sex..? like are there specific things that he will do that shows like hes ready to have sex. and when we are about to, how can i stop that from happening without like crushing him and killing the moment? lol. other than that i want to get physical with him, just NOT regular sex.
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thats lovely, the phrase "regular sex" coming from a virgin, is quite hilarious. specific things... let me think about that one.... there really isn't a specific indicator, save the raging hard-on. so whats the deal, do you want to have sex with him, or not? you're not being clear, so I'll go with you want to. I presume that your "regular sex" comment to mean you want to have a session of passionate lovemaking... well, you asked the wrong person, because I solicit prostitutes. but I'll still swing this bat. you could always start making out with him, then pause for a second, lean over and whisper into his ear what you want him to do. I recommend brushing your lips ever so gently against his ear as you say it. the few times I've had girls do shit like that, the reaction is immediate... or as immediate as alcohol allows. GAME ON! if you do the lead up right, a dude becomes as obedient as a puppy eager to please its master. we're easy to manipulate. just don't come on to him like a rabid badger, and you're good. do that shit that only chicks can do, seduce. I don't know how good you are at it, but look at cleopatra, that chick was ugly as hell, but she practically enslaved marc anthony. Above all, be bold. and fortune will always favor you.
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Okay, well any guy will automatically try to see how far he can go...its like a male instinct. lol So when it gets to where you want to stop, just tell him to. What I do when I don't want to have sex with a guy, is be up front with him. Now, when you are ready to lose your virginity, you'll know. It sounds cliche but its the truth. Do whatever makes you comfortable and remember not to let any guy pressure you into anything. Most guys understand that a decision like that is the girls, he should be alright with it. & if he isn't then he isn't being a good guy. Sex is a big deal, so play it safe. Hope this helps..good luck!
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Hey there,
First off, I should start out by saying that sex is definitely a big thing. Regardless of how common it's becoming, ultimately it's a big thing which could lead to a lot of changes in both your life and his.
I understand that you both have an emotional connection which is pretty much expected considering how you've both liked each other on and off. However, remember the only way things can go "physical" is IF you ALLOW them to. You seem like a pretty strong person (I mean you're pretty strong already just by asking for advice :)), so if YOU really DON'T want to have sex then I'm sure you'll be able to resist having it. So in that case, there shouldn't be any problems hanging out with him as a friend.
However if you really feel like you can't resist having sex, then there are a few ways that you can still hangout and NOT have sex. First off though, you asked how would you know if you two are about to have sex? Trust me YOU'LL KNOW :). Usually, when it's about to happen, it can start off with some intense make out session. At the same time things can also start off pretty tense, with both of you wanting to just go completely crazy on each other but not knowing how to do it exactly. Either way, it usually starts off with a vibe that both of you will definitely be able to feel.
Next you ask, are there specific things that he'll do to show that he's ready to have sex? Well, every person is unique so I can't exactly speak for him personally. However, guys (especially young guys) PHYSICALLY are ALWAYS ready to have sex. However, MENTALLY he may not be that ready. It depends on a lot of things like experience, his morals, what he believes in, etc. Generally, it's a good thing for both of you to actually talk about it, describing whether or not both of you are REALLY READY to take this next step. Asking him is basically the closest way that you'll ever know if he's really ready.
Next you ask if there are things you can do to keep it from happening? Whenever you hang out with him, try to go someplace where lots of people are involved. For example, go out to eat some place public, watch a movie, chill with some friends at a local hangout, etc. Basically do things which won't put you two in a situation where something sexual could happen. Avoid situations where you know you two could do something sexual. By doing that, I'm sure you two would be able to avoid having sex and yet still would be able to get to know each other more and possibly develop a stronger relationship in the long run.
Now if he keeps pushing you to have sex, and you really don't want to, just remember... someone who really cares for you usually would NOT force you to do something you didn't want to do. You might want to rethink your whole relationship if he's actually trying to push you into having sex. Don't worry about crushing him because if he really cares about you, he'll be ok with your decision in the long run.
I really hope things work out for you!
Take care of yourself,
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First of all, I am very impressed that you are proud of your viginity and arent wanting to lose it so fast. That good keep that up!
Now, Its completely fine if you want to spend time with this guy, but just make sure you dont let anything happen unless you want it to.
teenage boys usually cant control themselves and will try to force you into sex or make you feel guilty and give in. dont let that happen!
getting physical is OK but when he starts trying to take your clothes off and tries to start sex, get up and tell him that you dont mind getting physical with him but sex is out of the question for now. Advise him that its not about him, its just that you are not ready to give up your viginity, which is your precious gift. If he really cares about you, he will understand and not push you too far.
good luck girl! let me know if you need anything else!
Stephanie 21/f
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Well certain signs start from specific places like in the movies, drive-in, or being completely comfortable on the couch are the most crucial places sex will be engaged. If you are looking to just just makeout or stuff i would suggest sitting upright on the couch. If he is trying to get you to lay down then use your force to continue kissing but make yourself upright again. Another sign could be him rubbing his hand on your stomach then slowly lifting your shirt, if this hands simply move position or sides. Its all about being aware and then shifting your position.
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heyy there
well in this situation the best thing to do is be straight up honest with him. if he doesnt take it well then oh well what can you do, its your body so dont give it up until you're ready. just tell him you're not ready to have sex and if he has any respect for you, he'll be fine with it.
well several physical things may lead him to wanting to have sex with you like touching, feeling each other, grabbing, kisses on the neck and things like that.
But dont lead him on thinking the both of you are gonna have sex then and there. if you find the both of you getting into it tell him that you're not ready before things really get going.
hope i helped hun and if you have any other questions feel free to ask :)
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