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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this one guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class(he is in no way shy), but he is so sweet and kind and honest that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite(extremely...) shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together.
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes/often teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he came over to talk to me, and he asked me about why I had been late for class that morning. He has done similar things a number of times in the past.
Also, just to point out, he is straight. I know this for sure. The girls he hangs out with have been his friends for years, they are like sisters to him...
Another problem- I am scared to tell my friends I like him. I told them a couple years ago, but they laughed and told me we would make a really awkward couple (probably because I'm 5'9", and at the time he was super skinny and like 5'3", but he's grown since then). I would love to have their support, but we don't really talk about guys much, and I feel like I've been lying to them for years about this guy..not that I ever lied...I just didn't speak up...
Also, casual out-of-school meetings are difficult because he lives in a different city than I do, although we go to the same school (it's a private school). I can't just casually invite him to do something with me like randomly on a Saturday because he lives like a 45 minute drive away..
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance?
The question what happens when something happens? You said you are a senior, so you must have plans for college and so does he? Are they in the Realm of each other? You said so yourself you couldn't hang out outside of school because of the distance, so you wouldn't be able to go on dates. The question isn't about whether he likes you or not, he does. It isn't about you not having a chance, because you do. I think if there are too many obstacles that would prevent you guys from having a normal, non awkward relationship, it wouldn't work out. The best thing to do is to ask him hypothetically if you guys were to do an activity outside of school, would he be willing to meet you halfway.
My life kind of started to end on July 15 2014. My wife of 52 years and I were sitting on our deck when we looked at each other and said, You know something we got it made. That was because I had finally retired and we had moved into our new house in the mountains. That was around one pm when we spoke those words.
That night around seven we got a call from one of our daughters (Barb). She told us that she had just left the doctors and they had told her she had stage four ovarian cancer, and that she had 1 to 5 years to live.
This as you can imagine floored us. The next morning my wife (Elaine) and I packed her suitcase. We decided that my wife would move in with Barb to help her as much as possible. Barb lives three hours away, so we thought I would drive down on weekends and bring our dog with me.
After three months of Elaine staying there and me coming down on weekends, the stress got so bad between my wife and I. You see, Elaine is 71 years old and she was taking care of Barbs whole house. There are four in the family, Barb, her husband (Jeff) daughter (Kristin age 21) and son (Jeffery age 17). She looked like she was 90 years old. This was killing my wife. Well after three months had gone by, Barb went back to work, so Elaine decided to come home and we would go down on weekends. This lasted till 1/10/16 when Barb passed away.
When my wife came home, I was relieved that she could rest and try to get back to somewhat of a normal life. Well that did not happen. From the minute and I mean minute Elaine walked in the door I was accused of having an affair. I could not believe my ears. Her reasoning was she found Cialis in my bureau drawer. After her throwing this at me I showed her that it was a sample with my name written on it. The funny part of it was, Elaine was the one that picked it up at the doctors office. By the way our doctor not only wrote my name on the box but the date 1/16/2012. Four years before we moved to the mountains.
That was the end of that session. But two weeks later she told me my girlfriend stole five pair of her jeans from the closet. I could go on an on about the accusations but to name just a few. Cigarette butts found in the street meant my girlfriend was standing there watching the house. I was told while we where both out shopping together that there was blood on our mattress pad. When we got home the blood had disappeared. Now remember we never left each others side.
I won’t bore you with more details because there is over 50 accusations made. None of which were true.
Anyway last week a new neighbor moved in and you guessed it I was having an affair with her.
Well two days ago she left me, drained our bank accounts of over $125,000. Leaving me not only with my wife of 52 years but without a penny.
I can’t do this anymore. As much as I love her I want it all to end. I can’t stand the pain. I sit here and look at a bottle of pills the doctor gave us for depression and can’t stop thinking this would end my pain. I was a strong willed man all my life, a rough and tumble construction worker. Well I am a broken man now. She broke me and took my will to live.
The loss of someone very dear to us is unbearable. Especially the loss of a child. Children are not meant to die before the parents. When it does happen, the parents have to cope with this unreasonable tragedy that was not meant to happen. It changes us. It turns our world upside down. Don't think so much about what she has done, but why she is doing it. Delusions and paranoia can be triggered with depression. I experienced it after my second child. She needs medical treatment. It may be hard to cope and it is certainly easier said than done, but I don't think she was in the right mind. I know it seems impossible to see that any good can come of this, but we are faced with challenges to help our strength sometimes it feels like we can't go on because of this immense pain weighing us down. Committing suicide wouldnt make the pain go away, but transfer to someone else. Think of your kin. Would it make things worse for them? Probably would. Before you can do any of this, you need to find your inner strength. It is in there.
Question Posted Tuesday October 4 2011, 1:28 pm
i do not know how to start this but appology for this long statement. i couldn't analyze these things anymore... let me start it this way, i am married for almost two years now and i love my husband. recently, i work with this lady and i find her very attractive. the thing is i don't know if she's gay or not and sending me mixed signals. i find her going on her way just to be around me or something, used to flirt with me before (i've seen her before i worked with her), stares at me when am not looking, used to stare at me when i was talking (before) and seems to be jealous when i talk to another men (like in a friendly way, not flirty). MOST IMPORTANTLY, i wonder so much why does our coworkers watches us whenever we are around together. they look at us, literally! it seems to me that they are listening to our body language or something. i don't understand... i really don't. since i started working with her i don't remember doing any flirtatious act on her. i never have. the only thing that happened was before i worked with her. like i say 2-3 times. well anyways, all of these happened before until last night... she worked with me directly and asked me bunches of personal questions like how is my husband, where did we met, etc and etc... do i have plans going back home to my country. i said yes i do. but am looking for someone to fly with me so i won't be by myself. she said she would go, she'd love to. then later when i asked her to go out with me and my friends because my other friend is bringing another person ( i don't wanna be out of place) she said yes if i wanted her to go (said yeah i do) and asked if we go to a bar and i said nope we don't do that. we just go out shopping. she said that's cool. i just thought you want me to WORK FOR YOU (what in the world does that mean???). that really got me. i laughed it out though. i asked her number and she gave it to me. later i asked her if she wanna go out watch movie, she said it's up to us. i can see she seemed to be starting in doubt, so when i got off from work i told her she don't have to go if she don't want to and that if something would come up. i even said i really like her and she said oh really? (she said it in a deep low voice) but i didn't told her that in a romantic way. she said she'll let us know and that she's saving her money because she's going to college soon. well anyways the fact is nobody knows am bisexual but i can see that she can sense that (that am bi). well, an hour after i texted her and she seems to be not interested or something...? i asked her questions and she answers it but she's not reciprocating my point on texting her and asking her out. i just wanna know her and be friends. she's very nice in every way. gracious i must say. am attracted to her, i admit that. however, i know where i stand on my ground and i cannot act on it. did she found everything weird? is she losing interest on me or did she even have an interest with me at all?
i honestly don't know what is going on so please please please i need everybody's help here analyzing these situation. am not even understanding my own self. i wanna know what is going on with her and what does she want from me.i
In honesty it sounds like she was looking for a best friend to hang out with and do things in a strictly friend zone manner. Sometimes those feelings develop, I am not saying that, but maybe you are coming off a little syrong. A take a few steps back and start over. Honesty is always the best way to approach anything. I would ask her what is wrong and if there is anything you can do to help.
No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell
After I answer this statement, send me another inbox so we can continue the conversation. Do you mean felt or fell? As far as support, sometimes support takes a lot of courage and fighting to get anywhere. Not everyone sees eye to eye, but there are ways to get your point across without causing controversy.
I'm a white cisgender homosexual female. White racism isn't real, cisphobia isn't real, misandry isn't real, and heterophobia isn't real. Were white people enslaved and segregated for decades and still get killed in hate crimes? Nope. Do cisgenders get an increased risk of being bullied, suicidal, or killed? Nope. Did heterosexuals get burned and prevented from being married and have people insult them for holding hands in public, or people call things they don't like "straight"? Nope. Do rich people starve on the streets and have no clothes or water and need to work their ass off? Nope. Did males ever get sold into sexual slavery, rights taken away, pushed from science careers? Nope. It makes no sense to me these people who had everything handed to them on a golden platter with a silver spoon in their mouth already with a head start in life feel opressed. Why?
You do realize that individuals who start out well off may not end up that way. Every individual has their own battles they need to face and regardless of where they came from or what identity they have, they have problems. They may not be the same level as others, but they are real. Someone who is rich may be getting abused, you do not know what kind of life they live. Someone who is completely poor may give everything they have to their children so they can survive, so being poor is a choice. You have the government that gives away money to the less fortunate while middle class struggles. A woman who just had a baby may seem like she has everything, the perfect husband, the family, the money, but she is fighting post partum. My father is Native American and we have never had to deal with racisim or prejudice, but we still have our own problems. You can't judge a book by its cover, you actually have to read it in order to understand it.
My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin?
Yes, without the actual sex part, you are technically a virgin.
23/F
So basically I'll start off with I was with my boyfriend for 5 years and when we broke up in June I felt so sad i have always had depression and self harmed myself but no one knew Fourth of July weekend I felt the saddest I have ever felt and looked at my medicine cabinet and said what am I going to take to kill myself I thought about death every day and thought it was normal. I talked to my doctor and she put me on zoloft. I have never felt better until yesterday. I met this new guy and I finally moved on to my ex we had sex twice both with condoms. The only skin on skin action was us in the shower but we never physically did it until after with a condom. The next day I had an outrageous yeast infection and I found out yesterday I have Herpes. I have only been with 2 people and this is what happens...the guy I slept with is in denial and said he doesn't have anything but maybe he does now because I gave it to him! He was with his ex for 2 years and he said they are both fine. I just don't understand how this happened to me and now I am back in my hole where I don't want to live anymore. I feel broken and sad and nobody is going to want me.
You shouldn't look at it that way. Doctors are coming up with new medicine and technology, but for right now, they can control it. I myself am on Zoloft. Everyday is a battle for me. But if you were going to kill yourself, you wouldn't be making life easier, in fact you would make it extremely harder for someone else. As far as finding someone, the right person will come along that will accept everything about you. I know it sounds cliche, but it is true. Some find theirs early in life, others when they are a bit older. The most important thing is to find people going through the same thing and talking about it. Remember, you are not alone.
i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby?
In my experience, being blunt and to the point is always helpful. They sound like solid parents, so even if you have the worst news, they will stand by you. We parents know that pregnancy cannot be 100 percent prevented. Will it be hard, yes, but getting them both in a room and just telling them without distracting them or going in circles will not only relieve stress on you, but make the tension overall better.
My grandma choked me Sunday night and I did not do anything. I am 17 about to be 18
You need to report it if she was aware she was doing it. Sometimes guardians door once and never again. Lost times, it is only a matter of time before they do the same thing again or do something worse. If you are too afraid or don't feel comfortable doing it, confront and ask why she did a terrible thing. If you don't feel safe in that home, you need to get away. However you can.
I literally have no idea where to turn anymore. I'm 5 months pregnant with no job. I've been trying for a month to get hired and nobody has even interviewed me. My rent is due September 1st and my bank account is in the negative. My parents are already paying for a car and my insurance and don't have any money to spare. My boyfriend spent every single cent of his check and didn't even bother trying to help me. I just want to give up, what's the point of trying? I have nowhere to go. What am I supposed to do?
First off because you are unemployed, sign up for section 8 and they will help with rent and utilities. Also sign up for wic, this help provide food for you and the baby when it's born. Another thing to sign up for is food stamps. There is no doubt they will help you tremendously. All of these applications can probably be found at your nearest job and families. They do help a lot during pregnancy, I used everything during my first two pregnancies. It really takes a load off. You can also sign up for cash, because you are unemployed. If you have any other questions, send me an inbox. You do not need to be employed for section 8, I was unemployed when I signed up. They considered it as an emergency and I got benefits a lot faster than others. And also don't let others make you feel bad about accepting help especially when you have no choice. I hate people that criticize those who go on welfare and make them feel like crap. No one knows your situation better than you. You determine if its the best and less stressful route until you get back on your feet. I used welfare until I finished school, but it was enough to make sure my kids were taken care of.
if a boy asks you out and says he loves you how do you know if hes joking or not.
Usually they use sarcasm when you say or do something funny. It's like when your best friend says you are funny I love you. If they say it after a serious conversation, then they usually mean. Depending on the age, it usually takes awhile for real and sincere love to develop. Others say you can love someone at first sight. Just pay attention to how they say it and what you were doing before and after. If you are kissing and he says it, it's most likely sincere.
I am a thirteen year old girl. Since I will talk about my siblings, their ages are 5,6,10,&14.
My mother is normal, it's not her I'm concerned about it's my father. He is usually playful, fun and gives us treats on occassion but a few times a week he gets violent. He drinks and gets violent. He'll mean to be playful and end up being to rough and hurting us. But since we are hurr real bad, we cry and he freaks out screaming at us and sending us to bed for crying. My autistic brother whom is fourteen (lets call him C). C picks his nose and sucks his fingers. When he does so, my dad will slap C, curse, or just be like "WASH YOUR EFFIN HANDS!!!! IF I EVER SEE THAT AGAIN ILL BREAK YOUR FINGERS!!!!!" And when dad makes my siblings cry, I cry and get yelled at. Just last night my dad hurt my brother, I cried and got sent to my room. My dad called my other brother who wasnt crying to watch a movie with him instead. And when he called my brothet upstairs he said "Luke shut your freak sisters bedroom door!!!!" Why am I a freak for crying. My mom cant really do anything because shes very tiny (like only 110 pounds) and my dad is 250 pound man. She will usually just say "Why dont you guys just go play outside?" Or "is it bedtime yet? Why dont you guys go to bed?"
So is this an abusive father or just a strict one? Should I talk to him or seek outside help?
He needs serious help about his addiction and abusing problem. If you continue to let this happen, it will get worse. I would suggest seeking outside help like social services or the police. I know the idea of doing this to your father seems crazy, but its going to get worse before it gets better. Don't think of it as punishing your father for what he is doing. Think of it as protecting the lives of your family. Your father has a serious problem and talking to him won't change anything. If you confront him yourself, you may be putting yourself and others in further jeopardy. So seek outside help before he really hurts someone.
What is the best energy drink to have dureing a tournement ??
Monster will give you some serious energy, but only drink one in a day. They speed up your heart as does rockstar
I am gitting married nexd yr. and is it bad to let him is you nude and to have sex befor you get married?
It really depends on what you believe. Some religious folk believe that if you do it vlbefore marriage it is a mortal sin. Some believe as long as you are in live and fully committed it is alright. If it makes you feel good to connect to the other person then do it. If you feel you aren't ready or want to wait, then the experience may have a different effect. It is all about what you want. You want it to be a good experience you will remember for the rest of your life. I had sex with my husband before marriage. It was the memorable experience of my life and I do not regret it for a second.
I've recently bought a dress that requires that looks stupid when the straps of a regular bra are on display. Like this http://www.boohoo.com/restofworld/clothing/dresses-promo/icat/dresses-promo/going-out-dresses/melissa-tie-back-cutout-side-dress/invt/azz48877
So what bra do I need to buy?! I'm abit inexperienced on that front you see. As in which is comfortable-is a wonderbra an option?! I mean-do people still wear them?! Basically a strapless but comfy bra that will stay up-and is good value. Cheers!
The best thing to buy with those kind of dresses are the corsets they sell in David's bridal. To me those are comfy, they are constantly going to side or down and sometimes you don't even notice them.
I have a boyfriend now but before I had him I talked to another guy. I liked that guy a lot but I let him down, lied to him, and said no to going out with him. Now he has a girlfriend. I really like him still and can't get him off of my mind. I'm hurt with thinking about how things with me and him ended. I can't stop blaming myself because it was my fault! He won't talk to me anymore and I just can't go on living like this with so much regret. I miss him and want him back. What should I do? Sorry this is so confusing I don't know how to put it into words...
It is often hard to deal with regret especially when it comes to something we didn't realize we wanted. When my husband and I were dating the first time, I broke it off. I feel regret and had to watch him date other people. Him and I didn't speak for an entire year until we became friends again. Then we fell in love all over again and the second time was the charm. My point is, even if he isn't talking to you right now, there is still hope. Try sending him an email or text laying out your regrets, your hopes of being together, and what you want. Some things take time to resolve, but if you don't try, you are only causing even more grief for yourself.
I wanna get rid of my bad smell in vigina and my mouth also stinks a lot so I wanna get rid of these two things.
A lot of it comes from what you eat. If you eat fruits and vegetables with the combination of washing it real good with bar soap, that should take the smell out down below. As for the mouth smell, I would get a bleach done at the dentist, rinse your mouth out with mouth wash, scrub the teeth with a toothpaste that freshens breath and whitens teeth. However, the biggest factors in what you eat causes a lot of it. If it helps to chew gum or eat mints before you kiss someone, do that also.
My boy friend and I have been dating for a year and a half he is 20 and I am 17. And I don't know how to make myself orgasm and neither does he. If my clit gets played with I squirm and it kinda hurts or tickles. Why is that? Do most women get an orgasm during foreplay like fingering and such? Is there any advice or positions that anyone can give me? Please and thank you!!
If you get that kind of reaction, it is not something that satisfies you. Have him experiment with different things such biting you or kissing you in certain spots. Every person is different and it just takes trying everything to figure out what you really want. I had the exact same problem and my husband ended up trying everything until he found something that worked.
For the past several months my boyfriend and I have been apartment hunting. There was one place we just fell in love with though it's expensive for a one bedroom because it's considered "Luxury".
Everybody's been telling us not to do it because we won't be able to afford it but we're not the typical couple.
He has two jobs working about 50-70 hours a week and I work one job at two places and work 36-40 hours a week but I make more than him an hour.
Together we make around $3,400 a month, 43,000 a year and I'd like to start doing some wide work as well just to fill up the empty hours so I'm not bored and lonely when he's at work.
Finance wise (monthly), Rent is $758, renters insurance $20 Electric around $300, High Speed Internet will be around $70, Groceries around $200, we don't want cable TV since we have Netflix through a family account,
My car payments are $316, his car insurance is $130 mine is $160. Both of our cellphone bills together are $90. Gas is about $150 for both cars (I have a hybrid). I know there are other bills that I can't think of right now but with what I've already taken out above that still leaves $1,006 a month free.
What other expenses should I be looking at?
How can we go about getting good quality furniture for not sky high prices? We already have a dining room table with chairs, a dresser, a book case, a sofa, an HD TV, a Macbook Air, a desk. The apartment comes with a fridge, freezer,dishwasher, washer and dryer in the apartment, oven, microwave, lots of cabinets and counter space and two walk in closets.
A good place for furniture is Aaron's or a place you can do payments. You want to account the food you will eat, also gas between home and work. It seems you have thought it through and did the math. If you can make it work without stress on yourselves, I say go for it. If you apply for assistance separately, they might be able to help lower the rent. They base it on income, but it might make your family and friends more comfortable. I think they just don't want you struggling, but the truth is, you never will know for sure until you do it.
I am 24 year old female now I was molested by my dad when I was 3 years old and recently for the past week I have not been able to sleep because I have been having nightmares about what had happened when I was little and in my dream I was at my aunt's house and my daddy was arrested and then they put me in the police car and then put my daddy in another police car and then I every time I have this dream I wake up kicking screaming in a cold sweat and then when i am through kicking and screaming i am out of breath and can't breathe .Is this normal ? I talked to my cousin and my aunt about this and they asked me if my mom has ever mentioned it to me and I said yes I was just hoping she was lying is this normal for me to want my mom to be lying to me about something as terrible and tragic about something like this ? I feel bad because I want my mom to be lying and i am confused and scared . I just want the dreams to stop . my cousin says that everything is true she just wanted me to know that my mom is not lying so I wouldn't hold a grudge against her . my Aunt says he was arrested and at her house but she doesn't know how I know that when I wasn't at her house when he was arrested . How do I know that ? my mom didn't tell me that so how do I know ? my cousin and aunt are on my dad's side of the family if that helps. how do I get over this ? I never had these dreams before why now ? my cousin says if I have to to get over it to cut all ties like stop visiting my dad's grave at the cementary and get rid of alll pictures of him but my aunt says not to let this stop loving my daddy becuase my dad had alot of mental problems and he was just a sick man . my aunt says his daddy beat him with a handle of a butcher knife in the head and he was in the vietanam war got in a car accident and got shot up a light pole and got sprayed with agent orange and he was already mentally off before all this happened so should I let what he did go or do like what my cousin says be threw with him .
I do not know your perception of the paranormal, but do you think that it was a memory he sent. Maybe he was trying to contact you. It is normal to have nightmares and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It is also possible when you were little, you overheard your mom or aunt talking about it and you just didn't remember it. I don't think forgetting him or stop going to his grave is going to make things better but I do thing you need to find some solace or peace. I would explore everything in the dream and figure out what it means, it might be your subconscious telling you something. Email me if you want to talk further.