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No orgasm...
My boy friend and I have been dating for a year and a half he is 20 and I am 17. And I don't know how to make myself orgasm and neither does he. If my clit gets played with I squirm and it kinda hurts or tickles. Why is that? Do most women get an orgasm during foreplay like fingering and such? Is there any advice or positions that anyone can give me? Please and thank you!!
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A clit needs friction provided by a lubricant to help with stimulation, just wet or dry and using fingers isn't necessarily enough. I always need lube for that. You will have to wait until you are of legal age to go into a sex toy store but at that time, a small handheld vibrator, look for one that is really strong. The majority are too weak to stimulate me. But a good one will do it everyy time. And its fun for a partner to use on you. As its having its effect, the clit should become more pronounced.
As for g spot orgasms, heres a video from Univ. of Oregon Health ctr. Its geared for med students and explains how g spot orgasms can occur. Once you see the pic, you realize the tissue that gives the orgasm is wrapped around the urethra, so when stimulated will give a sensation like you have to pee really bad. Empty your bladder first and have a towel under you so you wont hold back for worry of wetting something. The liquid that comes out will be female ejaculate liquid.
It's hard for me to do on my self. Its much easier to educate your partner. The spot is only about two inches in, as far as his second knuckle. As he uses a come hither motion on the rougher patch of skin very firmly, it should get more and more sensitized and swell up as it becomes engorged with blood. Look up more videos on line on g spot orgasms. There are a lot. Its good to have a diagram to look at and told how to do it.
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If you get that kind of reaction, it is not something that satisfies you. Have him experiment with different things such biting you or kissing you in certain spots. Every person is different and it just takes trying everything to figure out what you really want. I had the exact same problem and my husband ended up trying everything until he found something that worked.
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