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my question is about my relationship
hi my name is shonetta im in a relationship for 3 years now and me and my boyfriend we love each other very much but we seems not to understand each other anymore and now we not talking to each other and I cant seems to get over it at all I cant do anything without him in my live so I need him back in my life but I don't know how to go about it cause im scared please tell me how and what to do to get him back in my life
I need advice
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You're going to have to talk to him about it. If he's not willing to try to work it out, then the relationship is over and it won't work.
Maybe the relationship has run it's course and it's time to move on to try to find someone who does understand you.
In my opinion, he doesn't sound like the right guy either. If you think you need him and can't do anything without him, then somethings not right.
So I think you need to work on that as well.
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I don't know how you made it 3 years without any problems. Perhaps, there were communication problems all through the 3 years, and problems not understanding each other but neither of you saw it due to being in love. Maybe he realizes something is not right. You might try finding a book on how to communicate with the opposite sex. It isn't as easy and natural as you might think it is. All of us without any teaching on it and training, are going to make mistakes in communication because males and females have different ways of doing so and how they interpret what is said.
If he still doesnt want to try what you discover from reading books or even checking on the internet for "how to relate to the opposite sex", then take what you learn and apply it to the next relationship. At least you will know you've tried and done your best.
If your life has no meaning without a guy in it, then likely you are leaning too hard on him for everything in life and come across as being very needy. That will scare a guy away pretty quickly. Learn to become happy and secure with who you are, have your own hobbies and joys to persue in life besides boys. Once you are a person who can enjoy life without a boy, then the boys will come and you will have plenty to choose between.
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