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if a boy asks you out and says he loves you how do you know if hes joking or not.
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Does this guy know you personally? Are you close with him? Do you share any sort of history such as a past relationship/ friendship?
If you don't and he just randomly asked you out then no, He doesn't really love you. Unfortunately, It takes a long time to fall "in love" with someone. We don't just look at someone and love them out of the blue. Likely he was just kidding
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Hmmm, I have another twist on this.
A guy usually does not say He loves you to ask you out. that goes against the way most guys are. They are usually slow to fall in love. So if he actually used that word instead of "I really like you alot," or "I really care about you alot" or "I am attracted to you so . . ." to ask you out, all I can guess is that perhaps if he really did say I love you and want to take you out. And his reason for saying it, might be that he figured that he had no chance of you accepting if he didn't or he said it simply cus its what he thinks a girl wants to hear to go out. Its actually kinda silly if you realize what dating, going out and relationships like that are for. Dating times of our lives are to get used to the opposite sex, get to know and understand how they act and work in general and then go for what you personally have a taste in, things you like and dont like about a guy. Likewise, he can't know enough of that stuff about you to be able to be in love with you before even having dated.
You can ask for clarification. I would personally ask, "Are you seriously asking me to go out on a date?" If he says Yes, then my next question would be, "Then may I ask why you said you love me at the same time you asked me out?" No matter what his answer is, you can say, "You don't even know me yet. Can you at least be honest with me and let me know what it is about me that you are attracted to before I decide to accept your offer?" Then depending on what he says, you decide to go on a date or not.
Now for the other scenerio, when I would ask, "Are you seriously asking me to go out on a date?" If he says No, then I would probably ask, "Why would you joke around that way? Do you realize you just might say that someday to a girl who is really needy and has self esteem issues and next thing you know, she has glued herself to your side and won't let you live your life cus she really believes 'as true' what she heard you say jokingly. Its not a good thing to joke about."
You see, guys when interested in a female, even when they are way older, still do the same thing even over 50...they said the dumbest things sometimes cus they really haven't a clue how to talk to women, never have learned in their entire "Are you seriously asking me to go out on a date?" life. So never assume anything about what you hear a guy say just ask him about it. And take the opportunity to teach him some better ways to talk to a girl or invite her out. He'll really appreciate you for it and like put into practice what you teach him
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Usually they use sarcasm when you say or do something funny. It's like when your best friend says you are funny I love you. If they say it after a serious conversation, then they usually mean. Depending on the age, it usually takes awhile for real and sincere love to develop. Others say you can love someone at first sight. Just pay attention to how they say it and what you were doing before and after. If you are kissing and he says it, it's most likely sincere.
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