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Want to fix my friendship up!
I have a friend and she's been like my best friend since kindergarten, I think (let call her T)! But this year we had like maybe a couple of little bickerings, I guess you can call it. And this summer our friend came back from Texas ( let's call her C). That just made T a little uneasy because when we were little T got jealous of me and C's friendship!
Finally I got T and C to get together and we had a sleepover for C's birthday. It was fun but T got offended when me and C laughed when T told us she was going to start a photography business (we are only 12 that's why I laughed).
A couple days later we talked about it and i tried to say sorry and explain why I laughed but my phone died and we didnt talk for about 3 days because we were busy. Finally we talked and we didn't pick up were we left off she acted like everything was fine! But after that it felt weird. Are text would always go like:
Me: hey
Her: hi.
Me: wats up
Her nm.
Me: oh Kwl LOL
Her: LOL.
It's just weird because after everything she would put "." and we don't normally do that when we text unless we are mad cause that's wat I do when I get mad and I text. I don't kno what to do because I just want me friend back :(
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T probably believed that not only were you and C disrespectful by laughing at her hopes but she felt offended as well. T shouldn't feel jealous of the friendship between you and C though which probably has been feeling a little bit of.
She probably is putting up an act, as if she forgot about the whole situation, but it's probably bothering her still and she's acting like that towards you. It's not right for her to act this way, but maybe it will help if you give her the full apology that you didn't get to give her that day.
You guys are very young, yes. But it's never too early to have dreams or hopes.
You should explain to her why you laughed. Tell her that you laughed because at yor age, you wouldn't expect another kid to dream of having a business. Tell her that she can make that happen and that you'll support her.
She's probably feeling offended and/or disrespected, so tell her that you weren't making fun of her and that you didn't know how serious she was about it, and then apologize.
If she still decides to act funny.. Well just know that you did the mature thing by apologizing and explaining the situation to her.
Hopefully she will come around, but after you have apologized than you should feel good for trying to make things better between you and her.
Best wishes!
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Other than not taking her seriously when she confessed wanting to start a photography business, she shouldn't have any reason to feel jealous. It's all made up in her head. Lots of young people get busy comparing themselves to others or have a low self esteem. All you can do is continue to spend time with both because no one should ever force you by their jealous behavior to have to pick and choose or drop friends. Remember this when it comes to dating. A guy shouldn't dictate you being able to spend time with girlfriends either.
You might call, its better than texting for stuff like repairing a relationship. And talk to her about the time you laughed. Tell her you laughed because of what your ages are and didn't think young teens started businesses. But actually there are a few. Too bad its not much advertised.
Here's an article for you to read and share with your friend. She's at a perfect age to start a business and needs people to believe in her. Maybe you will when you read this. Share it with her too.
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It's typical drama
Why can't you just all be friendly with one another? T, Needs to stop being jealous because what it all comes down too is nobody wants to be friends with someone who has jealousy issues. I have friends who have friends etc. I am not "friends " with them but I still say hi and act friendly when I see them.
Talk to her about it but don't apologize. The problem is her jealousy, Not you. Explain to her that you didn't mean to offend but was hoping you all could get along. Tell her you wanted to all hang out as a group of friends.
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So did you already apologize or did your phone die before you actually got to apologize?
Anyways, I'd go apologize one more time, maybe write a note. Explain that you love her and you didn't mean to hurt her feelings.
Anyways, next time she's tells you one of her dreams, don't laugh. I don't understand why it'd be funny it the first place though. Thinking about wanting a business at 12 years old isn't bad. It doesn't mean she can start one right now but thinking about it and wanting it isn't exactly funny.
So just go apologize to her and eventually she'll come around.
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