Someone told me I needed to stop this eating disorder because it could kill me but I don't believe them. Then today someone else told me the say exact thing! Can being bulimic kill you or are these people just jealous cause I am a size zero while they are like size 2 or size 3 fat chicks? I think they are fatties who are hating on me.
I'm a size 16... the real kinda fat chick.
Bulimia can definitely kill you. It can cause cardiac arrest, kidney failure or even death by starvation.
Not only that, but it ruins your teeth (how sexy is gum disease? You may be thin, but at least those fatties have all their teeth!) and causes ulcers and ruptures in the esophagus.
You've got a problem, and you recognize it. It's called a disorder for a reason. You have a messed up way of looking at your body and the bodies of others. Not only should you work on your eating disorder, you should get psychological help for your body image issues.
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Why is obama considered a socialist by the majority of people? I'm not trying to down him, I'm just asking because I'm trying to understand politics better, without forming a biased opinions. I don't wanna hear "he's not a socialist"... I just wanna hear why people may believe he is one. If that makes sense. i wanna understand socialism better... and his supposed connection to it.
Thanks a lot.
Socialism, when you boil it all down, basically means spreading resources based upon work an individual does. Cuba has an extreme socialist economy. Everyone who can work has jobs, and everyone also has access to education (both elementary and post-secondary), health care, food and housing. Nobody is rich, but nobody is destitute either. And boy, does that annoy wealthy Americans (which is what your government is made up of!).
People say Obama is a socialist because he's trying to break down the enormous divide between rich and poor. Poor people go to poor schools, so they don't get a good education and they stay poor. Even if they do, by some miracle, succeed moderately, they can't afford university. Have you ever heard the phrase "The rich are getting richer, and the poor are getting poorer"? The US is that concept in action.
The health care issue is the main thing that's causing people to say that Obama has socialist views. He wants to make health care a national industry, like it is in the UK or here in Canada, neither of which are communist countries!
Here's how the health care thing works; you get sick and need to go to the hospital. Good thing you have health insurance! What's that? You work for minimum wage and can't afford it? You have a pre-existing condition that the insurance companies refuse to cover? The people who have money either can afford to buy insurance, or pay for health care emergencies, or they have jobs with great benefits. The poor, on the other hand, who really NEED the security of health coverage, go without. I'm not talking people on welfare; they get it. It's the people who work hard for little pay who get screwed in this arrangement.
Rich people don't like this idea. It means taking away their money and giving it to other people. It makes no difference to them whether there's accessible health care to everyone, because they'll always have access.
Pure communism has an impact on your home life. Socialism doesn't necessarily mean that the government is trying to take over all aspects of its citizens. Then again, that's what your government is good at, right? Look at the bans on gay marriage. That's a case of the government walking into the bedrooms of its citizens. You can have both; you can have social freedom and financial jurisdiction.
Keep in mind that your Democrats are still more conservative than Canadian Conservatives!
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My boyfriend and I have been together for right at 2 years..as a matter of fact our anniversary is in a week.He's 17,I'm 18.
During the whole two years I have been the one to keep everything together. I have fought and fought to keep the relationship going, through all kinds of crap he's put me through..like seriously, you wouldn't even believe what I've put up with.Usually we spend every waking hour together, but for the past month he has been out of town a lot visiting family and he's come back for like two days at a time every week or so. I've spent a lot of time alone and just with family the past month since he's been gone and had a lot of time to just think..and I guess all the sudden the past two years kinda just caught up with me and suddenly I just feel suffocated. I just don't feel anything anymore. The bad part is that he has been so sweet the past month or so and hasn't really done anything crazy like usual, so it's really a bad time for me to feel this way cause I don't really have a reason to end it right now, ya know? So anyway..sorry this is so long but I just wanted to give an outlook on what our whole relationship has been like. I don't know what to do..but he's home for a week or so now, and soon he won't be going out of town anymore, and I just find myself dreading it..I look forward to him leaving.
somebody tell me what I'm supposed to do please!
This can all go several ways.
You may find that when he comes back, it was all just a phase you were going through. You were just enjoying your freedom.
It could also be that you guys need to back off for a bit. Have separate lives; hang out with your own friends, do stuff on your own. You shouldn't have to spend every waking hour with your boyfriend. Heck, I don't spend every waking hour with my fiance, and I live with him!
Things may also have fizzled out. You may not have noticed it until you rediscovered what it is to not have to dedicate all your time to him. This is normal; it's not that you don't love him, it's just that you've grown apart. You're at an age where you will be changing a lot as a person. It's silly to expect that you'll want the same sort of person at 18 that you wanted at 15.
Just because you've spent 2 years with him doesn't mean you need to spend the rest of your life with him! Wait it out for a while after he comes back, and see what you want. Try spending more time apart from each other, see if that helps.
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me and my boyfriend fool around and stuff and he has given me oral and we've done pretty much everything except intercourse. but the other day he was fingering me and was like "vag is really gross" like he didn't say mine he was just saying in general...this just makes me wonder if he's mature enough because i mean, what kind of girl likes to hear that after being fingered? girls, am i the only one who would get a little offended or turned off? what do you guys thinkk
First off, he needs to know that that's not an appropriate thing to say. Seriously. Tell him that you were entirely put off by it.
I don't think he's mature enough. Until he's showing a little more maturity, I'd hold off on sexual contact.
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Okay, well I have this teacher who's is just amazing. She was my teacher last year and she's my teacher again this year. Anyways, she is one of the few people who actually believe in me.
I know that Christmas is a long time from now, but it's more time to find something for her. My question is, what can I get her?
Here's some information about her:
She's from New York, she's an english teacher, she likes to travel, she's a grandmother and a mother, she's really funny, she's in her mid 60's, she loves anything extravagant, and she's a total hippie.
What can I get her as a christmas present? Please keep it cheap. I don't have much money to spend. Anything under 20 dollars would be nice.
Thanks in advance!!
Something handmade is always nice. Have you ever considered crocheting? It's really easy to make cool stuff, and you can find all the tutorials you need online. Yarn can cost very little.
This website has tons of patterns for cool scarves. Since she's on the funky side, she may like something like that:
http://crochetme.com/patterns/item/Scarves
Your local stationary store may also have some cool handmade journals, etc.
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My hair gets greasy really fast and no matter what I do, by the time the middle of the day comes my hair is all oily!
Sooooo is there anyone here who can tell my how to make hair less greasy without washing?
I can't be the only one, right?
Do you always use the same shampoo and conditioner? That could be the problem.
Try alternating different brands for different days. I always use a volumizing formula, because it's not as heavy and oily. Stay away from 2-in-1 shampoos, because they don't do a good job in general. If this doesn't work, try only conditioning once a week, or not conditioning at all.
Try to avoid touching your hair, too.
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In your opinion when is the best time to have sex / make love? I guess most people do it at night like I do but i want to do it in the daytime and maybe not in the bedroom but i am afraid my husband will think I am some kind of sex freak.
Any advice? please at least state what time you think is best.
What time isn't best?
Seriously, any time. And trust me, your husband may think you're a freak, but it'll be the good kind of freak ;) Husbands appreciate creativity and a high sex drive!
If you're shy about initiating things outside the bedroom during the daytime, try hopping in the shower with him. Let one thing lead to another and... you know.
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My boyfriend is a very diverse eater, and yet im a picky eater. He always wants to go out to different types of foods in different cultures and im just used to ordring the mozzerella sticks from friendlys haha. So heres my question: what are good vegetarian foods in different cultures? Im not vegan, i just dont eat fish, poultry, or meat. I DO eat dairy products. The cultures im most intersted in what you eat are...
-Chinese
-Japanese
-Mexican
-Italian
Thank you! :)
There are tons of vegetarian options in all of those foods!
Chinese: Tons of vegetable dishes; bean sprouts, eggplant, peppers, wonton soup.
Japanese: Vegetarian sushi (avocado, cucumber, sweet potato), tempura battered veggies, edamame (soybeans)
Mexican: Quesadillas, tostadas. Guacamole is really tasty and super healthy too!
Italian: There are tons of dishes. Lots of pasta dishes can be made without meat. Pasta puttanesca is one of my favourites!
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I am a slut. I will admit it. I've had sex with about 20 or so boys from my high school and I don't even know how many I've given head to. I'd had sex in the bathrooms, in the janitor's closet, and behind the school. I've skipped class to do this too. I'm really ashamed of myself and the way I dress on a day to day basis. I feel like I'm growing up and I don't want to be that type of person any more. None of the guys at school have respect for me. The girls hate me because I've slept with a lot of their boyfriends. Basically I can't get a good boyfriend who is really interested in ME because he knows we will have sex and I can't have a best friend because the girls think I'm going to steal their boyfriends or something (I don't blame them though...A LOT of guys have cheated on their girlfriends with me).
I am completely unhappy with myself and I don't know what I was thinking when I did those things. I guess I just wanted some attention because my parents are working alllll the time and I don't feel very loved or that I'm special. ANYWAY, how can I stop being such a slut? I hate it about me...I want to stop...but I just keep...screwing up, for lack of better words. Help, please? It's like, I keep thinking things like, "Yeah, maybe this guy might REALLY be into me! I need to push this forward..." but I KNOW he isn't...ugh...I feel stupid...
Well, you've figured out the first step; you know you have a problem and you want to fix it.
First off, you need to realize that you deserve respect and so does your body! Guys should have to work to get "full access". You owe it to yourself to put some value on your self-respect.
Obviously you have some issues to work through. Does your school have a guidance counsellor? Or is there an adult you feel you can talk to about these things? You're going to need some mature help throughout this metamorphosis. You may also have depression: one of the warning signs of depression is promiscuous behaviour.
I know it's easier said than done, but stop. Stop having sexual contact with guys. No further than kissing for at least 3 months of dating. If anyone calls you on it ("Oh, you did it before, what's the difference?") or if anyone is giving you a hard time, look them in the eye and tell them you've changed.
You sound like you need meaning in your life. So your parents aren't around for you; what about friends? Cultivate platonic relationships. Get a hobby. Try doing some volunteer work! Anything to help you feel like you're a worthwhile person who is more valuable than just her body.
If a new wardrobe is out of the question, try hitting up thrift stores to find new tops. Keep the cleavage/stomach showing to a bare minimum. Cut down on makeup (if you wear it) and try to stick to a natural look in general.
Start thinking about what kind of adult you do want to be. Take steps to get there. Do you want to go to college? Be a doctor? Work with children? Find out what you want, and make it happen. Having clear goals makes all the difference.
Most of all, try to be a kid again. You've grown up too fast sexually, and you weren't ready for it. Enjoy your youth while you have it. Stay away from drugs and alcohol (which may make you more likely to fall back into old habits).
I have to give you huge props for trying to better yourself. I hate to see the way that teen girls have been sexualized over the last 10 years or so. Take charge!
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Why does it REALLy bother me when guys call me babe or baby?? Like I don't really understand it. I'm okay with like "darling" or "dear" but when it comes to those they really just grind my nerves... can anyone explain this to me? Hahah, just wondering.
I hate it when my fiance calls me babe. It comes across as a little patronizing, in my opinion.
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Hi everybody,
I am writing my resume and I don't have much work experience except as a receptionist and as a cashier. I listed all my responsibilities in those jobs which makes it obvious for possible employers which skills I have so I am not listing those again. However, I have an appointment with AppleOne to help me find a job and they told me to list 5 skills ... I put stuff like:
Hard-worker
Bilingual
Puntual
Positive
Responsible
Goal-orinted
Works well with others
Types 68 wpm
Of course, thos eare all ture about me... but I can only list 5 because they clutter my resume. And I;m not really satisfied with them. I am not posting stuff like "cashier" or "knows how to use Microsoft Word and Excel" because I already listed those as responsibilities for my previous jobs.
Anyways, do you have ideas of what are some great general skills I can include or the skills employers look for the most or which one of those skills I listed should I include?
Your skills on a resume should always be concrete things; like typing. The soft skills, like working hard, being positive and punctual, those will come into play with your cover letter and interview. The resume is for solid facts only.
Things to include; your typing skills and bilinguality and computer systems that you're comfortable with. If you need to pad a little, add in customer service skills and something else fairly solid.
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17/f, but for Halloween i want to dress as a person from the game Call of Duty, i think that'd be pretty cool. i need ideas though! what should i wear? what kind of make up should i use? I can't bring a gun...for obvious reasons, but are their any other props i should use to make my costume complete? please help! I want to be this, nothing else, and i realize its more of a guy costume, but i play it a lot, therefore IM BEING IT. :)
Which COD? I'm going to assume 4, since that would be the newest one.
Personally, I'd go for the Gilly suit, since that is my favourite from the game. I think it would be the most fun. Get some vegetation, attach it to some khaki clothes, and use either a helmet or a toque with more grass on it. Then you can hide in patches of tall grass and scare people :D Fake leaves and grass will work just as well as real stuff.
As for props, you can make grenades out of those lemon juice containers shaped like lemons. You can't be a COD person without a gun... can you have a toy gun? Dollar stores usually carry toy guns. You can always paint everything but the orange tip (leave that on so nobody thinks it's real).
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Hello.
My friends birthday is coming up and instead of money this year I would like to get her a gift. I found this zebra shirt online that I thought would be nice to get her but they don't ship to Canada.
So, I was wondering if anyone knew where I could get a zebra shirt online or in real life? Keep in mind that if it's online it has to ship to Canada.
Also, not a zebra print, like an actual zebra.
For example, this is the one I had originally picked out:
http://www.forever21.com/heritage1981/product.asp?catalog_name=FOREVER21&category_name=81tees&product_id=2065066965&showBACK=OK
THANKS :).
I've seen zebra shirts within the last few months at Sirens. Their website doesn't seem to have them on it (it's not a new fashion) but they may still have some!
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I'm 19 and female, by the way.
I simply don't care about going to college or having a good job (now or in the future). I'm sure I can make due plenty well enough with any job. I don't have a "dream job" or any sort of future goal on what I'd like to do with my life.
I keep blowing my money on make-up and new clothes. I don't ever really see anything that I absolutely need and I realize that. I just keep doing the same thing over and over. I mean, I get by and that's just fine with me.
I don't care if I live with my parents or not. They've suggested getting me an apartment so I could start my life apart from them and I don't really care either way. I'm just sort-of waiting on them to make the decision.
I don't really care if I end up having kids in the future. I like to take around but marriage seems awfully serious right now. I'm sure I could deal with either of those situations so it isn't a worry of mine, really.
What is wrong with me? Everybody else seems to not be like this...my friends think I'm strange. Am I? Why don't I have goals?
Not to sound nasty or anything, but the reason you have no ambition is because you have no reason to.
You don't need to make more than minimum wage, because you're working for pocket money. You don't have rent or other bills to pay. Of course minimum wage is fine!
You haven't figured out what you want to do for school (or if you want to go at all) so you don't have a savings plan in place, so there's nothing else to spend your money on.
You're stalled. That's why you have no ambition. Nothing has booted you into "living" mode.
You need a stimulus right now before you'll have a change of heart. Whether it's suddenly discovering a passion that you want to pursue, or your parents kicking you out of the house, something needs to happen to you. Here's the thing; you don't HAVE to make any decisions about the future right now. You're still young. You have time to think about it.
In the meantime, start saving. Put away %50 (because you don't need any more than %50 for fun money) of your income in a high interest account so that you can use it when you need it; whether that money goes towards university, a down payment on a house, or even starting your own business!
Start looking at what you enjoy. Do you really enjoy your job? Can you see yourself doing it forever? What can you see yourself doing? What makes you happy?
Do you want to live with your parents forever? Will they let you? Once you've moved out on your own, you'll find out that life is hard on minimum wage. A one bedroom apartment in my city is about $750 per month. That doesn't account for phone bills, food, and other necessities!
As for relationships, you should be dating around in this phase of your life. No sense in picking a life mate when you haven't got the rest of your life organized yet! Figure out what you want. THEN you can go looking for it, whenever that is.
Me? I'm 22 years old. I'm engaged, own a house with my fiance. I work part time, and I'm a full time engineering student paying my own way through school. We are dirt poor but debt-free. I've got an abundance of ambition :D But that's what I wanted. I can tell you, though, that it's incredibly rewarding. With great responsibility comes great freedom; a lesson my parents tried for years to teach me.
You sound like a smart woman. Just a woman who doesn't know what she wants yet. You'll find your stimulus... run with it when it comes! Till then, prepare for that eventuality.
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I am 19 and have a 4 1/2 yr old daughter and my boyfriend has a 18 month old son that lives with us. I am now very pregnant with twins.
Today, after I had picked up the kids from pre-school and daycare, I went into the store to pick up some things for dinner. While I was picking up the baby and putting him in the cart, my little girl was playing by the quarter machines. A woman (probably about 30 years old) saw me and said, "Aren't you a little young to have a baby with another one on the way?" I didn't get a chance to say anything when my daughter came running over, screaming, "Mommy!!!" The woman just looked at me glared, shook her head, and left. I just wonder what people must think of me. Yes, I made some really poor choices in my life but I would like the chance to talk about it so maybe some other girls wouldn't go the same route I did. It's not uncommon for me to get crazy looks or stares when I'm out with the kids--or even just one of the kids! At least I'm taking full responsibility for my actions by raising my children the right way. It's just A LOT harder with me being so young. What would you think if you saw me in the supermarket? What would you say to me?
Thanks
That disgusts me that someone could be so rude to you! You sound like an articulate young woman who knows what she's doing. You're obviously not some welfare mom on food stamps.
I'm 22, so here's my view on it:
Personally, I would be pretty amazed, especially if your children are well-behaved. I have a ton of respect for people who have children young, especially a lot of them, if they can manage them okay. Me? I can't do it. My fiance and I are still at a very selfish stage in life. We would be pretty overwhelmed by even one baby at this point in time!
Odd as this sounds, I actually have way more respect for young mothers than old mothers. I think it's more socially irresponsible for 40+ year old women to have children, when you look at the risks involved. You're going to be young throughout your childrens' entire lives. When your oldest is 20, you'll be 35! If you'd waited until you were 35, you'd be 55.
My mother was a young-looking 20 when I was born. She got it all the time from people. My suggestion? Next time someone goes "Aren't you a little young to... (blah blah rudeness blah)" come back at them with an "Aren't you a little fat to be buying ice cream?" Or an "Aren't you a little old to be a natural brunette?"
People need to not be so rude. You're doing fine, and you're happy. That's what matters.
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I just ordered my Halloween costume, & it laces up the front & back. You can see it here: http://www.buycostumes.com/Late-Night-Nurse-Adult-Costume/61080/ProductDetail.aspx.
What kind of bra could I wear with this? I don't want anything that will be too noticeable through the laces, & my boobs aren't too big, I'd just like a little bit of support.
If you're not looking for a ton of support, then stick-on bra cups might be best for you.
http://www.nubra.net/shop/super_padded_featherlite-59-prd1.htm
They're backless, with only a tiny front closure and no straps. They're also reusable!
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I am looking for a dating site for adults over 21 to about 35 or so that is reliable and not riddled with sex addicts. I'm so sick of signing up for online dating sites and getting messages about sex over and over. When did dating become soley about sex anyway? I do not give out personal information but wouldn't mind having to pay if the site was decent. Does anyone have some decent suggestions?
The big one is eHarmony, of course. I know several couples who have met through eHarmony, and they are still together 5+years later.
I haven't used it, but my one friend said that the big eHarmony negative is that they give you results from really far away sometimes, even if you request nearby people.
Another one, if you're looking for a low-risk one, is plentyoffish. I have several friends on there, and they're having a great time. It's free, so that's always a plus; no success, no loss.
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I'm a senior in high school and over the years I've had to suffer, and still more than ever, really, really bad jealousy. And I don't mean I'm jealous over people in my grade being prettier than me or getting guys, but I mean being jealous of people being smarter and better at stuff than i am. I am pretty smart, i work really hard, and do well in school and everything else I do, but there are always handfuls of people who are way better than me. I mean, I know it's almost impossible to be the best at everything but I can't help but be really, really jealous. I'm really good at music but there are so many people who I'm jealous of because they're better than me. I'm also so jealous of the kids in my class who are smart enough to apply to mit, yale, cornell, harvard, upenn, etc. What kills me is when people are amazing at music AND really smart. But my question is, does this high school competitiveness tone down once college starts (i'm not going to an ivy league)? Is college less like high school, where everyone is interested in each others' grades and where everyone is always trying to surpass each other? I really want to be able to see a light at the end of the tunnel.
Thanks.
It all depends on what you're going for.
I'm in engineering, and the environment is very anti-competitive. It's a very collaborative environment. Everyone helps each other out.
Something like pre-med or pre-law, however, may be extremely competitive. Limited med school spaces mean that a whole lot of applicants need to compete for the highest grades.
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My lips are already chapped from the wind and cool weather and I absolutely hate it. It sucks to have hurting lips and I know my boyfriend hates to kiss me because they are scratchy to him too. What is the best chapstick? I saw all sorts of brands in the line at Wal-Mart...blistex, chapstick brand, burt's bees, softlips,...what is the best available at Walmart or a drug store or whatever? please?
I looooove Burt's Bees. It's got a bit of a weird waxy texture, but that keeps you from licking it off by accident.
Stay away from really yummy chapstick. If you lick it off, you can actually end up drying your lips out more!
Try using a toothbrush to exfoliate your lips as well. Keeps them nice and soft.
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I'm going to a concert to see one of my favorite bands with my best friend but I have no idea what I should wear! Torn jeans? A band shirt? I know we'll be dancing and jumping around a lot though and my friend might even try to do a mosh pit because she's really crazy like that haha
Should I do my hair? If so, what style would be best for this? I don't want to look stupid by the end of the night. Should I do my make-up? I guess if I do my make-up I should do it like the nighttime clubbing style, right? I don't think I can really take a purse with me with my make-up so whatever I do, I won't be able to touch-up during the concert. Any help, please?
What to wear: Jeans and a shirt that covers you. You don't want to be tugging at your clothes the whole time! If you have a shirt for that band, now is the time to wear it. Running shoes are a must, especially if you'll be moshing.
Hair: Something that won't require any thought or effort. Kind of a do-it-and-leave-it thing. I'd suggest leaving it down, personally.
Makeup: Minimal. It'll be pretty dark and hot. You'll end up sweating, so any foundation or blush will end up looking weird. Go for a little eyeliner and mascara with lip gloss. That way you're not worrying about your makeup smudging, and you can focus on having a good time!
Have fun!
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