So I have basically accepted that everything that I am interested in doing with my life dooesn't really make a lot of money-which I am okay with. Life isnt about money and id mt career is something I enjoy then money really doesn't matter inthe end anyway.
I am in my first year at university and I am so unsure of whatrI een want to major in! Either major in World Religions & Culture and Minor in Social work or vis versa. What kind of jobs can I even get with this? What will I have more hope in? Just give me any advice, stories, or pointer that you have on this topic please:)
You're already on the right path when you stated that "life isn't about money & your career is something you enjoy". If you end up choosing a career path that you truly love doing, then you will have a really good chance of living a life that's both comfortable & fulfilling. It's passion for what you're doing that will make it all worth while.
What jobs can you get? If you're really passionate about the topics, you can always become a professor in your chosen field (with additional work in teaching, etc.), a social worker (maybe dealing with cases of abandoned children, etc.), even a research assistant (social research related to religions & culture).
What will you have more hope in? Well my best answer would be "whatever you are most passionate about". Since it's your first year, you may not be so passionate about any of these fields because you're just starting. However, a lot of people end up changing their majors several times before their third year in college so don't worry, what you're feeling right now is completely normal.
Stories: I actually changed my major three times before I finally finished in a field I can honestly say I'm truly passionate about. I went from being a computer science major, to an accounting major, to a marketing major and finally decided to follow my passion towards child psychology. I'm now working on my Masters towards child psychology mainly because it has always been my dream to find some way to help mankind as a career.
Advice: Usually your first year of uni is a year where you can explore different fields to find what you're truly passionate about. Once you figure that out, stick with it and strive to learn all you can because you may discover ways that you yourself could improve the field. :)
Good luck in whatever you choose to do. Just the fact that you're even asking these questions makes me believe that you'll truly find your path eventually. :)
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Hi thanks for reading (:
I have to do a project for school where I get to pick whatever I want. But it has to be something i can physically do. Anyway I want to fundraise for a charity. But I really dont know what charity to do it for. There are SO many problems in the world right now; poverty, abuse- to both humans and animals-, racism, starvation, dieases- cancer, alzhemiers-,etc.
How can I pick one when there is so many? I feel guilty picking one over another even though I cant help them all.
Thanks (:
Hi there!
First off, it's quite noble of you to want to help people in need so kudos to you :). True, there are a lot of people in the world that do need help and it's a shame that we as individuals can't do more to help EVERYONE. However, you have to remember that there are people out there who do feel the same way that you do. Which is why you see people helping out/volunteering for various charitable causes. :)
So how do you pick a charity? Well there are lots of ways for you to decide. Maybe choose a charity "closer to home". For example, if you have family or friends who suffer from cancer, maybe you choose to help out a charity dedicated to cancer patients. Or maybe you have relatives in a third-world country suffering from hunger. In that case, you can choose to help a charity related to feeding starving people.
In any case, I think the only reason you're having trouble deciding which charity to choose is mainly because of your guilt. In all honesty, you have no reason to feel guilty when picking one over the other. Why? Because for one thing you have to remember that helping a single charity is a lot better than helping none. Also, just because you choose to help one charity for the sake of your project doesn't mean that you have to stop there. If you really want to help others, you can easily help other charities after you're done with your project. :)
You should be proud of the fact that you have this desire to help people. Maybe you could even encourage your friends and family to participate as well. Ultimately, as individuals we can only do so much, but what's important is the attempt we make to help one another. Do your best to help whoever you can and you should have no need to feel guilty whatsoever.
I wish you all the best in your endeavours. :)
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Sugar free stuff has sugar alcohol. i know its better than sugar but still. Its sugar. Whenever i eat sugar alcohol i get bellyaches Why?
I'm actually a type-1 diabetic myself and enjoy an occasional sugar-free treat ever now and then. :). As far as I know, it's probably the phenylalanine that might be causing your bellyaches. Majority of the sugar-free products out there have something called phenylalanine which, when consumed in a generous quantity, can serve as a laxative.
My suggestion is to cut down on the amount of sugar free treats you eat and substitute them with healthier, more natural things (ie. fresh fruit, etc.)
Hope this helps :)
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i went on a date with a guy i really like today. he was so sweet to me and kept putting his arms around me and holding me and stuff. he asked me what i would say if he asked me out, and like last time i responded by bein so sorry saying idk if im ready and i get so unsure. i kissed him today and he flipped out so happily and his face was so red i couldnt calm him down..
a reason may be hes never had a girlfriend, is younger, and i just got out of one of over a year relationship, over a month ago by my ex cheating on me but im over him.. i really like this guy but i have not a clue whats holding me back.. what could it be? also is it bad that i like him so much but i wont go out yet?
Hi there,
Well the first thing that popped into my head when reading about your situation is maybe you're still hung up on what happened with your ex. I understand that you're over your ex and that's great. However, even though you're over him you might NOT be over what had actually happened (him cheating on you). In relation to the new guy, maybe you're a little worried that something similar might happen again. If not, maybe since your ex cheated on you it kind of left you feeling a little uncomfortable about getting into the whole dating scene.
As for your other question, it's not a bad thing that you don't want to start dating him yet. Ultimately it's your decision whether or not you're ready to date. It would be better for you to do this ONLY when you're ready for it. Otherwise, you might actually cause yourself some problems if you force yourself to date the guy.
It seems like you really like this guy and from what you've said about him, he seems like a good guy. So I hope everything works out. Don't stress, you'll be fine. :)
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f/15
My first time having sex was with a guy who continued and had sex with me even when he knew i didn't want to and after i had said no and asked to him wait and stop.He lost control. Afterwards he apologized. He's 18 and i haven't talked to him since.
I'm confused now because i can't seem to remeber a lot about it anymore. All i can remeber is saying no and him coming inside of me and it hurting A LOT. After that, i completely blank out. He said it was about 15-20 minutes but all i can remeber is the very beginning and then end when i completely freaked out and made an embarrassing scene trying to get to my feet, falling, and trembling and crying like a moron.
I was just wondering if it's maybe normal,or, well i know it's not normal to not remeber anything, but i guess my question is...i should get this checked out maybe huh?
sorry if this was a stupid question. any advice though, i'd really appreciate. thanks.
Hey there,
The situation that you just described sounds like a really tough one. I can't even imagine how you may be feeling right now because I know you were forced to do something that you didn't want to do. So first I would definitely suggest getting checked up by your regular doctor because if the guy really did do all those things, especially inside you, it's better to know if something's physically wrong with your body rather than to find out later when things might get worse.
As for your reaction being normal, it actually kind of is. In situations like yours, many people actually black out for a while because the whole thing is really traumatic. In otherwords, think of it as your brain's way of protecting you. You may still have memories about what happened, but they may just be repressed (hidden deep in your mind somewhere). In that case you might want to go to a counselor, or maybe your parents first, to help you figure out what's going on and what to do.
I hope everything works out for you, and remember to take care of yourself. And by the way, your question was NOT a stupid one because I'm sure there are a lot of other girls who have been in your situation before. :)
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Hello, just recently decided to start a business by selling my own t-shirt designs on e-bay, finding a job is so hard. Not really sure how to start like, what t-shirt brand can i use, do i need to pay the t-shirt brand for using their name? I just need plain white t-shirts and i'm not sure how i'm going to get my design on the t-shirt, is anyone familiar with this business and will you tell me how i can get started step by step?
Hey how's it going?
Well I'm currently selling t-shirts, that I've designed, on a website called cafepress.com. Basically you create a design on adobe or even paint if you wanted (following a few guidelines given by the website such as the size of the design, etc.) and upload the design into your cafepress account. What happens then is you're basically allowed to choose which items you want your design to be printed on. These items can range from t-shirts, to even mugs, pins, coasters, pillows, etc.
If you design your t-shirts using adobe or any other program then cafepress might actually be a good choice for you. As for screenprinting the design onto white shirts, they actually take care of that for you. I think you can even select coloured shirts as well. So all you have to worry about is just creating a design, uploading it into your online shop, and deciding how much you want to sell the items for. At the end of every period, they'll basically send you a check if you've reached your chosen amount. (So if you chose to receive a check everytime you've sold $250 worth of stuff, then they'll send it to you). If the period ends and you haven't reached your chosen amount, then that amount just carries over to the next period and keeps going until you've actually reached your amount.
There's a lot of options and a lot more to it, so I would suggest visiting the cafepress website just to get a feel for what they do. Website is: cafepress.com
Hope this helps and good luck with your sales! :)
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hey.. so im 16f and wanting some advice on a guy and sex.. so ive known this guy, lets call him john, for a while and we've liked eachother on and off,we havnt talked alot he moved and cuz i started talking to one of his friends which i still am. but me and john want to hangout soon and first im debating on wether i should or not.. me and him always had the emotional aspect of a relationship but we never experienced the physical with eachother. so i know if we hangout we're going to get physical, and i want to have sex with this guy but i cant, im a virgin and i dont want to be that easy and other reasons, so how do i know when were about to have sex..? like are there specific things that he will do that shows like hes ready to have sex. and when we are about to, how can i stop that from happening without like crushing him and killing the moment? lol. other than that i want to get physical with him, just NOT regular sex.
Hey there,
First off, I should start out by saying that sex is definitely a big thing. Regardless of how common it's becoming, ultimately it's a big thing which could lead to a lot of changes in both your life and his.
I understand that you both have an emotional connection which is pretty much expected considering how you've both liked each other on and off. However, remember the only way things can go "physical" is IF you ALLOW them to. You seem like a pretty strong person (I mean you're pretty strong already just by asking for advice :)), so if YOU really DON'T want to have sex then I'm sure you'll be able to resist having it. So in that case, there shouldn't be any problems hanging out with him as a friend.
However if you really feel like you can't resist having sex, then there are a few ways that you can still hangout and NOT have sex. First off though, you asked how would you know if you two are about to have sex? Trust me YOU'LL KNOW :). Usually, when it's about to happen, it can start off with some intense make out session. At the same time things can also start off pretty tense, with both of you wanting to just go completely crazy on each other but not knowing how to do it exactly. Either way, it usually starts off with a vibe that both of you will definitely be able to feel.
Next you ask, are there specific things that he'll do to show that he's ready to have sex? Well, every person is unique so I can't exactly speak for him personally. However, guys (especially young guys) PHYSICALLY are ALWAYS ready to have sex. However, MENTALLY he may not be that ready. It depends on a lot of things like experience, his morals, what he believes in, etc. Generally, it's a good thing for both of you to actually talk about it, describing whether or not both of you are REALLY READY to take this next step. Asking him is basically the closest way that you'll ever know if he's really ready.
Next you ask if there are things you can do to keep it from happening? Whenever you hang out with him, try to go someplace where lots of people are involved. For example, go out to eat some place public, watch a movie, chill with some friends at a local hangout, etc. Basically do things which won't put you two in a situation where something sexual could happen. Avoid situations where you know you two could do something sexual. By doing that, I'm sure you two would be able to avoid having sex and yet still would be able to get to know each other more and possibly develop a stronger relationship in the long run.
Now if he keeps pushing you to have sex, and you really don't want to, just remember... someone who really cares for you usually would NOT force you to do something you didn't want to do. You might want to rethink your whole relationship if he's actually trying to push you into having sex. Don't worry about crushing him because if he really cares about you, he'll be ok with your decision in the long run.
I really hope things work out for you!
Take care of yourself,
:)
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hey, my boyfriend gave me a really pretty ear ring and necklace set. Its gold and has a pretty blue topaz stone at the bottom and a baby diamond and there is gold little swish on it too. I'm not sure where he got it and that's the problem. I lost the ear rings and I want to replace them so that he doesn't know that I lost them. I have the box it came in, and it was black, with a white ribbon glued to it and it closed with a magnent, and it says on the sticker on the bottom "18k ss bl tpz set" is there any way that can help me find out where to replace it?
thankss
Hey there,
Unfortunately that sticker on the bottom of the box probably just indicates what was in it. 18k probably means 18 karat, not sure what ss means, bl tpz set probably means blue topaz set. Unless there are other things on the box, like maybe the name of the shop, there's no other way to figure out where he got it. You're going to have to ask him where he got it in order to find out, or you could look for a receipt. Another thing that you can do (which would probably take some time) is think about some of the jewelry places that he might have gone to, go there with the necklace, and ask if they sell the set.
Hope this helps. :)
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okay my sister forgot her password on windows xp. so there's only one person on there. like, one username.
how do i get the password? is there like a DOB code or something. and if there is, i need to know how to get into DOB or whatever.
come on all you secret computer nerds.... i know you know it.... HALLLLP!
okay thank ya :)
Alrighty, I'm not exactly a computer nerd, but I've got windows xp soooo I did a little searching through my computer for something that could help you and here's what I found:
"If you forget your password on a computer that is part of a workgroup or is a stand-alone computer, check your password hint. (Your password hint is located on the Welcome screen beside the password prompt.)"
"If your password hint does not help you remember your password and you did not create a password reset disk, you will need to have someone with a COMPUTER ADMINISTRATOR ACCOUNT create a NEW password for you. For security reasons, a computer administrator cannot recover your password if you forget it; he or she can only create a new one for you."
It looks like something the comp admin would have to take care of. So what it sounds like is that if someone, other than your sister, is the main admin of that computer, he or she should be able to create a new password which would allow you to access the comp.
Hope this helps! :)
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SO I want tot audition for america's got talent and i really need to know some tips on how to audition im actually doing a video audition because there not coming to minnesota...
so do you have any audition advice???
Well first off, make sure that you're really great at whatever talent you're going to present to the audition panel and America in general. Whether it be singing, dancing, a comedic skit, just make sure you've got your skills and your material down pact. Second, and probably one of the biggest things that would help, is you'll need to have an interesting background story. Talent competitions like these aren't just looking for great entertainers. They're also looking for unique individuals with unique life situations or experiences. For example, if you're a great singer there are thousands of other great singers as well. But if you have a unique life situation (for example if you're battling an illness, or dealing with family issues) this kind of stuff appeals to the emotional/human interest side of both the audition panel and America in general. Last but not least, be yourself. Whatever you may decide to do, it's always best that they love you for who you really are.
I hope this helps and I wish you all the best! :)
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so i snowboard a lott. and i always see a bunch of cute guys there. i want to strike up a conversation with them but i don't want it to look like i'm desperate you know? so what can i say/do?
It's generally pretty hard to meet people who we are attracted to because of how cute or sexy they may look. But that's where some of the problem begins. We tend to be distracted by all the physical stuff that we forget what meeting a person is all about. If you want to strike up a conversation with these guys, try to see past the "cuteness". Try to meet them just for the sake of meeting them and not because they're cute. At the same time, it might be good if you started off the conversation with something related to snowboarding. Since you snowboard a lot, maybe you could ask them about their gear, boards, best place to get boards, how often they do it, best place to snowboard, etc. It's always good to talk about something that ALL of you can actually talk about.
Hope this helps & good luck! :)
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19/M My girlfriend and I broke up, awhile back, and my fam and I moved to an island I Love, but right after moving , my girl and I got back together and were even more in love, she is incredible! Problem is, she's on the mainland US, I'm here. My family's here, and were really close. It is SO hard to be away from either. My girl is everthing to me, but everything else I love is here. I really don't like anything else about living there on the mainland. But I can't stand being away from her. I don't know what to do anymore, any help or advice would be great! Thank you!
Ahhhh the infamous LDR (for those unaware LDR = Long Distance Relationship =P). You can't deny your love for your family and the island you live on (which I'm guessing is one of the beautiful islands of Hawaii? =)). At the same time you can't deny the love you share with your girlfriend. So what do you do? Don't worry, you're not alone. There are many people out there who are going through the difficulties of trying to make a LDR work. LDRs are truly difficult sometimes. However, that doesn't mean that they can't work. Whatever the case may be, it sounds like you and your girlfriend have a pretty strong bond, strong sense of love in general. This is great because a love like that can (not to sound cheesy =P) literally overcome a lot. The situation you both are in can, and will be, pretty tough. But you know what? I'm sure a love like yours can get through this. You'll both find a way to make things work if your love is true. Trust in your family. I'm sure your family can provide you with a lot of support and help as well. At the same time, think of this not as a hindrance or problem but more like a goal that you and your girlfriend can work towards. Maybe both you and your girl can work towards living together on the island? Or maybe down the line you'll both come to some compromise. Either way, stay strong and I'm sure everything will work out.
Good luck to both of you & all the best! =)
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Been in a long distance relationship for 6 months now. Lately, all we do is argue. It's always over really, really petty things, obviously because we're so frustrated with not being able to physically be with eachother, and we just miss eachother to bits.
Usually I want to fix the argument right away, but the last little argument we had, I just turned off my phone for 4 hours, and didn't talk to him. And honestly, it felt good. Of course I still worried, oh god, he's going to be so mad..but I felt worry free for a little while.
I never told him this, just said I left my phone at home on accident while I went out. But today we had another spat, and instead of solving it he just went to sleep. So, usually I text him some sweet things, apologizing for the stupidness of the argument, and say i love him.
But, this time I didn't. I don't know if it's that I'm just getting so sick of the constant arguments over literally nothing, or what. My question is, do you think its worth staying with him?
I like him a lot, and I'm supposed to be visiting him in march. But, I just feel in my gut that this isn't going how I wanted. I really DON'T want to break up with him, ONLY because he's the most sensitive person ever (his last ex, it took him about 2yrs to get over, and i'm his 1st relationship since then), and I don't want to hurt his feelings. And, if I break him with him, I KNOW i'll be so hurt/miserable too. I'll sit here feeling like a horrible person, and probably thinking of all the actual good times we had.
But, I can't help but think that the hurt of losing him may be better than dealing with these pointless arguments all the time. And if I completely cut off communication and stuff, which is easier in a long distance relationship, wouldn't it be easier to get over him?
Oh, please any advice you have would be so helpful!! Thanks!
First off, long distance relationships are definitely tough with regards to making them work. So, the fact that you guys have lasted for 6 months is actually pretty good. However whether or not a relationship works isn't necessarily determined by distance. It all depends mainly on you two.
Is it worth staying with him? That's honestly up to you. It's a decision that you truly have to make for yourself because regardless of what anyone on here may say, what it boils down to is whether or not YOU feel it's worth it to stay in the relationship.
It's nice of you to want to stay in a relationship with him because of his sensitive nature and because you don't want to hurt his feelings. HOWEVER, those aren't really good reasons to stay in a relationship. Take some time and really look at why you're in the relationship to begin with. If you ultimately find that you both are in this relationship because you sincerely care about (or even love) each other, then maybe there's something worth saving. However if you're only in it because you don't want to hurt him, that might actually end up hurting him AND you in the long run. You may end up building a relationship out of pity rather than love.
If you decide to stay in the relationship, just make sure you're doing it because you truly want it to work and you sincerely care about him. Don't do it just because you're afraid of hurting him. If you decide to break up however, sure it'll hurt. But, if done on good terms, you'll both ultimately have closure and hence have an easier time moving on. On a side note, completely cutting the communication lines and basically avoiding him might not be a good idea. I say this not only because it might not be fair to him, but because you may just end up thinking about him even more.
Hope everything works out for you! :)
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I don't like how I feel sometimes about my ex. He's my best friend and I know that we are meant to be friends. I don't want to like him as more than that, but the feelings haven't gone away. He broke up with me about 2 months ago because he said that his feelings weren't there anymore.
I know that he isn't right for me. I've known it all along, but over the course of our time together I slowly had stronger feelings for him until I really did love him. But certain things about us together were never ideal. Basically, I loved him and imagined my life together with him, but there was always a small amount of doubt. All the same, it didn't make it any easier after the break up. I felt like I lost the love of my life. I became extremely depressed for a couple of weeks.
We stayed best friends immediately after the break up. It's worked out well for the both of us. It's like he said, we can love eachother without all the relationship stuff. So now, I give him advice about the girl he likes and he teases me about my crushes. But sometimes, the thought of him with that girl together, it turns my stomach :/. And I know I can't avoid this feeling, eventually if something does happen between them, it could only get worse.
So does anyone know a way that I could deal with this? Anything would help. Thanks
From the looks of things, it seems like you're dealing with the whole situation pretty well already. To be honest, you're a pretty strong person to be able to give your ex advice regarding someone else. Also, in some ways, you've already taken the first steps towards moving on.
The fact that you're able to remain friends regardless of the breakup is great. Not many people are able to do that, so good for you. Secondly, it sounds like both of you agree with the idea that you're not meant to be with each other in that "romantic" kind of way. However, that doesn't mean that the love has to stop. Regardless of what happens, I'm sure you both will still love each other. What kind of love that is, all depends on what happens down the line.
Ultimately, the best way to deal with the situation is to give it time. You need to allow yourself to get used to the situation, and allow the love between you two to evolve on its own. Whether that love evolves into the kind of love between best friends, or the kind of love between partners, all depends on that crucial element which everyone has trouble with... time. If you like, maybe spending time with other close friends and family will help give you the time you need to adjust while also providing you with some great social support.
Hope everything works out. :)
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