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How to stop having feelings for him
I don't like how I feel sometimes about my ex. He's my best friend and I know that we are meant to be friends. I don't want to like him as more than that, but the feelings haven't gone away. He broke up with me about 2 months ago because he said that his feelings weren't there anymore.
I know that he isn't right for me. I've known it all along, but over the course of our time together I slowly had stronger feelings for him until I really did love him. But certain things about us together were never ideal. Basically, I loved him and imagined my life together with him, but there was always a small amount of doubt. All the same, it didn't make it any easier after the break up. I felt like I lost the love of my life. I became extremely depressed for a couple of weeks.
We stayed best friends immediately after the break up. It's worked out well for the both of us. It's like he said, we can love eachother without all the relationship stuff. So now, I give him advice about the girl he likes and he teases me about my crushes. But sometimes, the thought of him with that girl together, it turns my stomach :/. And I know I can't avoid this feeling, eventually if something does happen between them, it could only get worse.
So does anyone know a way that I could deal with this? Anything would help. Thanks
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From the looks of things, it seems like you're dealing with the whole situation pretty well already. To be honest, you're a pretty strong person to be able to give your ex advice regarding someone else. Also, in some ways, you've already taken the first steps towards moving on.
The fact that you're able to remain friends regardless of the breakup is great. Not many people are able to do that, so good for you. Secondly, it sounds like both of you agree with the idea that you're not meant to be with each other in that "romantic" kind of way. However, that doesn't mean that the love has to stop. Regardless of what happens, I'm sure you both will still love each other. What kind of love that is, all depends on what happens down the line.
Ultimately, the best way to deal with the situation is to give it time. You need to allow yourself to get used to the situation, and allow the love between you two to evolve on its own. Whether that love evolves into the kind of love between best friends, or the kind of love between partners, all depends on that crucial element which everyone has trouble with... time. If you like, maybe spending time with other close friends and family will help give you the time you need to adjust while also providing you with some great social support.
Hope everything works out. :)
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im kinda in the same situation !
but sometimes good things fall apart so better thinks can fall together !
&& ikN0 how yew feel !
ibet you still get excited when you hear his ringtone ! LOl
itS hARd ikNo !
But the best thing to do is talk to him on the phone alittle more !
if he loved you hell fall for you again !
tell him how you feel !
be real with him !
tell him to let you kno Wat it is && what its not !
if he doesnt feel the same move on !
n0body said it would be easy they just promice it would be worth it !
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Honestly, it's really important to be honest... You should tell him how you really feel, it might make things akward at first, but in the end you will feel better knowing that he knew how you felt! Good luck:)
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Honestly, I think it is difficult sometimes to be friends with someone you love so much. Just because he stopped having feelings for you, that doesn't mean that your feelings just stopped when you broke up. I think that is why more people who break up just break clean. That means by just not being around him so much....not trying to be friends. Sure, it is nice to still have him to talk to, but it hurts you when he is talking about other girls. Honestly, I think you should break free of him. You don't have to do it formally, just gradually try to not see him as much. Try to not talk as much. It is my personal feeling that you need to do this to be able to move on. If you keep on trying to be friends, it will be good for him, but not necessarily for you. It kind of is not fair to you, I think. So my advice would be to gradually stop being so close to him as a friend and move on. If you do that....your feelings for him will have time to heal and you will be able to get on with your life. Good luck.
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