I'm an ordinary person who likes the following things: writing, helping people, movies, reading, jogging, animals and teaching.
I don't like: stress, confusion, people who do not drag their weight and laziness.
My good qualities (I think) are patience, open-mindedness and the ability to write and speak in public with ease.
My weaknesses (I'm always working on these!) are the tendency to take on too much, from time to time; the tendency to not get enough sleep and my eating habits could be a lot better than they are now.
I will try to answer questions in an honest, open way, involving what I think is common sense. If I don't think I can answer a question well, I will skip over it.
Go ahead....try me! Ask me a question!
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How can I get real good revenge on my ex boyfriend? He dumped me b/c he got too horny and we started to do stuffthen "god" told him to break up with me... which is a load of shit... someone help plz.. thanx a lot.and nothing that will kill him or hurt him too too bad :D thanx (link)
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Be happy.....get out with new people.....eventually get a new boyfriend. That will get to him!
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im kind of person who has trust issues and find it hard to talk about personal things, and i dont show it when im sad,when im with my group of friends and they asked me a question and i was able to answer them without feeling sad about it and i continued talking to them like nothing is wrong i don't really trust some of my group of my friends, but this one new friend that i made, i somewhat trust her she asked me the same question about it but this time she asked me lot of questions about it because she wanted me to vent and after shes done i dont know why but i felt sadness and i was quiet for a little bit, why is that? (link)
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I think when we try to cover up some of our real feelings, we do a really good job of it. We kind of cover up things from our own mind, in a way. And in many ways, this is a good thing. We are able to go on with our daily lives and not get caught up in thinking of the sad things all the time.
But when (either by someone asking questions or by our volunteering to talk at depth about our problems or sadness) these things are brought out into the open, it makes us think about them more and perhaps the veil we have put up to hide them is torn down a bit. And we feel the sadness we are hiding.
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Whenever I approach my cat she looks up at me and stretches out one of her paws until I start petting her. Almost as she is reaching out to me, Why does she do this? (link)
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:)...she is telling you with her movements that she wants you to pet her...touch her. I had a cat that would tell me to CONTINUE petting her...by reaching out and tapping me with her paw when I stopped. She was saying, "Please don't stop....I want more!"
Cats can be so expressive without words!!! What a lucky cat owner you are!!!
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i used to smoke weed every day for months, but got a DUI for it so i quit/gave it up.
i have not smoked for about 11 days and have been drinking LOTS of water!
i was just curious on peoples opinions as to how long it would take for me to be clean??
i am 18 years old. i weigh 90 lbs and am 5'0.
thanks.
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Try this website. It has tons of information and is from a source that can be trusted.
http://www.drugabuse.gov/marijbroch/marijteenstxt.html
Good luck!!
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Can someone tell me how to pronounce moschino? I saw these moschino shoes that I love but I feel stupid buying something I can't pronounce. Can anybody help me? (link)
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Here's how you say it:
moss-SKI-no
Hope this helps.
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I have to do a job shadow for nest year to help construct a career portfolio. I live in a tiny town with no cool jobs. I would like to be a fashion designer one day. That is my passion, my one love. How do I go about doing this? Seeming as we have no fashioneers around here. Thanks! (link)
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Think of jobs that are "related" to the kind of job you want to have in the future. Are there any stores that sell clothing in your tiny town? Fashion merchandising (buying clothes for sale in a store) is related to what you want to do. You could job shadow someone in that career area.
Is there a store in your town that sells fabric? You could job shadow in that kind of store and learn a lot about fabrics....that's related to what you want to do.
What about job shadowing someone who sews clothes....like a tailor shop or in the alterations department of a clothing store? That, too...is related to what you want to do.
You need to think outside the box to think of someting "related" to fashion designing, I think. I wish you much luck.
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I am married, and an adult...I deal with Panic disorder and anxiety... I have a low sex drive, and as a woman, there isnt much help out there. I love my husband very much, and I want to overcome this, so any help would be great. Its not that I get anxious about it, or anything along those lines, I am just very rarely in the mood, and can go months at a time without thinking about it. (link)
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First of all, I sympathize with you. You don't say if you are on meds for your panic disorder and anxiety or not. You also don't mention what other meds you are on.....but, as I am sure you are aware, some meds can contribute to a low sex drive. The first thing I think you might do is talk to your doctor. He/she knows what meds you are on and if they play a part in all of this. If your doctor rules that out...you might want to discuss what help is there for you. Ask about therapy/counseling....ask about meds....
I just think that your physician is your first resource in all of this. Good luck.
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*Please Read Need Help* 18 F 212 lbs. So I've been on a diet for about 2 months. In the beginning, my body was never used to exercise or eating right so I dropped a lot of weight. I lost about 12 lbs within a month. I've hit a slump basically. I've been eating pretty good, but my body could use veggies + fruit. I was also taking vitamins, but one morning they made me puke so I stopped. I noticed after I started taking them, I lost a good amount of weight. Since I lost all of that weight, I haven't been losing anything at all. Sometimes it's hard for me to go to the gym so I'll only go 2 or 3 times a week.. and I don't get to stay very long because I'm in college. I don't know what's going on, I did cheat a little for Spring Fest but that's it, after I got back into my cycle. I think I need a schedule of when I should eat because I feel like my diet is all over the place and isn't helping. Any suggestions on what I should do/what my meal times should be/what my work out plan should be? ALL help is appreciated. I really wanna lose weight, I'm in this for life. (link)
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First of all, never take vitamins on an empty stomach. Get into the habit of taking your vitamins right after you finish a meal and preferably in the evening.
You might try getting the book, The Flat Belly Diet by the editors of Prevention Magazine. You can buy it at any book store or online. It is a great way to lose weight while changing your eating habits for life. They break your food for the day into four 400 calorie meals. Perfect for someone on the go. The meals are easy to fix...no big cooking. And they introduce you to eating healthy (whole grains, plenty of fruits and veggies and good fats, like olive oil and nuts). You won't lose fast, but you will lose and never be hungry. They give you 30 days of meal plans (you don't have to THINK about what to eat...just follow their plans...and they even give you shopping lists for each week).
They also have exercises in the book that you can do right in your room.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
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Ugh it's so annoying; my ears have been all blocked up since a school trip on Wednesday. We took a plane and my ears, of course, got blocked up. Really bad. It's getting pretty hard to hear.
And on top of all that, I have a cold. My mom says it's from my cold, I think it's from the plane....anyways...owN
How do you pop your ears? Other than holding your nose and blowing, cuz that hasn't helped. Also, a way to decongest yourself.
I apreciate all comments :]
-M (link)
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Get an over-the-counter cold medicine (pills/capsules) that have a decongestant in them. Not all do..so read the box. It should help you clear up.
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Okay So I am in high school, and I am thinking about the whole " what I want to be when I grow up" thing. Only I dont have a clue. And you can say that you have plenty of time to do it, don't worry about it now. But you have to worry about it now, because in High school you have to take classes accordingly. So are there any good websites that let you explore different carreer options? Like Nursing, to Teaching. Or working out doors what kind of jobs are there? (link)
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This is a very good website. It tells you everything you want to know about different careers, including:
*the training and education needed
*earnings
*expected job prospects
*what workers do on the job
*working conditions
It is a Dept. of Labor website, so the information is current and very helpful.
http://www.bls.gov/OCO/
Good luck!
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I'm 19/F and about 125 pounds. I know for a fact I'm not fat, but I'm not in shape! Before I get myself into a fitness routine, I'm trying to fix my diet. I tend to binge eat sometimes out of boredom and just to feed my emotions. I feel physically stuffed all the time and I hate this feeling! What is a food plan that I could stick to? I'm looking for a 1500 calorie plan. things I like are:
brown rice, shredded wheat cereal, whole wheat pasta, salsa, beans, fruit, sweet potatoes, peanut butter...so, I know what's healthy: I just have gotten a little bored. um, I'll eat most things except for salads. I'm willing to eat healthy, but salads just aren't my thing! anymore food suggestions??? and how should I fit these meals into my day? thank you! (link)
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The things you mention are all very healthy, but you don't mention any veggies, except for sweet potatoes,which are a starch. I would say you need to add some veggies to your diet. You don't have to eat them in a salad, but adding carrots (raw or cooked), spinach and some greens would probably round out your diet quite a bit. Also, what about getting your calcium? Though you can get some through greens, what about cheese or yogurt? Just a suggestion...........
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My entire life i've dreamed of going to New York University for a career in film (behind the camera like director, editor etc). As i'm getting older, im starting to realize how expensive schools like NYU really are, but at the same time, for the competetive field i want to go in, i need a somewhat popular school. Does anyone know any good film schools in the U.S or Canada? (link)
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In what state do you live? I only ask that because it is usually cheaper to go to a university in the state in which you live. Usually in-state tuition is much more affordable than tuition for those that live outside of the state.
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i have an hp laptop that i got new in august before i left for school. today i noticed that it won't charge. when it's plugged in, the plug icon shows up by the battery so it recognizes it, but rather than showing the battery charging like it usually does, it just sits steady at a low percentage and when i unplug it, it's nearly dead. it'll stay on as long as i have it plugged up so it's gotta be recognizing the power source, but charging is the problem. what can i do? also i don't know much about computer problems and i'm a poor college student haha, so hopefully nothing too complicated! (link)
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Try a new charger cord? If you find someone who has a laptop like yours, you could just borrow it and see if it charges with their cord. If it does, you can assume the problem is with your cord. You can buy another cord online from HP.
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i am writing in regard to my fiance, she just recently joined a sorority and became a founding sister, she liked it at first but now she hates it, she's always stressed and her grades are starting to drop, she spoke to her president about leaving but she wont let her go, how can she get out of this sorority (link)
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It will be an exercise in assertiveness for your fiance to just tell the women that she is resigning for her own personal reasons. There is absolutely no way someone can "not let" someone go. Though it may be difficult, she will need to speak up and say, "No, I am resigning." And mean it. If she is in college, she is on the way to a professional career. She will have to be assertive in whatever ventures she chooses in life. Now is a good way to start.
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22/f here. My ex, Nathan, is 24, and my current, Kyle, is 28. This is gonna be a bit long...
I was with Nathan for about 4 years on and off. He was emotionally abusive, but I was addicted to him. Being in the mental health field, I know a lot about addiction and how to overcome it. I broke up with him. We ended things on good terms, but I asked him to let me initiate contact at some point in the future. He has broken this agreement many times already with e-mails telling me how much he loves and misses me.
Now, Kyle and I dated during an off-period with Nathan, but I ended it because I wasn't ready to walk away from Nathan, and I recognized that. I am now, though, and I did...right back into Kyle's arms. Kyle is a wonderful man, and makes me very happy (and is a very good kisser ^_^). I have no intention of leaving him anytime soon.
The problem here is that as much as Kyle denies it, I know I have yet to earn his trust back because of the fiasco that happened with Nathan before. I told him I would keep him in the loop if Nathan decided to try anything, and ideally, Kyle and I would discuss the situation and tackle it as a couple/unit instead of me trying to handle it alone. (I did, however, promise that I would never put them together in any physical way...)
My questions are:
1. Should I tell Kyle about Nathan's recent e-mails?
It risks bringing up a very negative past, and I don't want the focus of our relationship to be how to get Nathan out of it.
2. Should I respond to an e-mail and ask him to leave me alone?
I'm hesitant about this because I know how he works - any attention is better than no attention - but I also know that he doesn't give up easily. The only reason I'm consiering it is that I understand that, legally, if you tell someone to leave you alone and they don't, you can file harrassment charges. I'm not angry at Nathan, or anything, I just don't want him to make my life hell anymore...that's why I broke up with him. I am, however, prepared to take legal action if necessary to get him away from me. He hurt me many times in many ways that could've been seriously psychologially damaging.
Anyway. I apologize for the length of this question, and I'm aware that none of you are lawyers. I'm just looking for some unprofessional, uninvolved feedback on this situation. (link)
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Congratulations on dropping Nathan and getting back with someone as nice as Kyle sounds. Alright...here is my best advice:
*Ignore all the emails from Nathan....just delete them without reading them. Better yet, go into your preferences and BLOCK THEM.
*If Nathan tries to call you, BLOCK HIS CALLS.
You will be giving him NO attention and eventually he will give up, hopefully.
You promised to involve Kyle if "Nathan tries something." I wouldn't say that includes your blocking his emails and/or calls. I would think that would mean if he harrasses you or stalks you in some way. Why bring up the emails to Kyle...you shouldn't even be reading them. And if you BLOCK them, you won't. However, if Nathan goes further with bothering you than emails or calls that you block, then of course, involve Kyle.
You are right in that you need to focus on your and Kyle's relationship. Just block Nathan out of your life and your mind (and your emails and calls) and I think he will eventually give up.
Good luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years. For the first year or 2 he was the sweetest thing ever. I couldn't imagine being with anyone else, then at our 2 1/2 we were apart for the first time ever as I was over seas, and it's like he had a mid life crisis. When I came back he said he was depressed, and he wasn't in love with me anymore, and he wasnt going to college and he was moving back home, and he was joining the military. I was so confused! Well, he changed his mind about not being in love with me, and we're back together, but now he randomly gets pissed off, and I have no idea why. He says its me, he says I'm being bitchy, or that I'm dense, and I am never intentionally being bitchy, and I don't understand why he calls me dense, because he seems to get mad at the most random moments when nothing appears to be going wrong. It takes the littlest thing to put him off. I've tried talking to him about it, and I know that I'm not perfect, but he never gives me a straight answer, it always just 'me'. I want to fix this but I don't know how. Help! (link)
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From the sound of things, it seems as if he isn't very happy with himself. Are things not going well with his life? I am wondering if he is upset and angry that his own life isn't going as he wants it to (or maybe he just doesn't know what to do with his life) and he is showing that anger toward you. I wonder if he really isn't angry with you, but just unhappy with himself.
Without being able to know for sure, this is just a guess. Maybe instead of talking about your and his relationship, you could talk about his life. What are his goals.....what would make him happy....etc. And then help him try to make those goals and dreams happen.
Just a thought.......
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So I'm in my second semester of my senior year of high school, and I've already been accepted to four colleges. I have straight a's and am not too worried about my grades.
Lately, I've been getting really annoyed with the people in school. Everyone is super overdramatic and acting like the world doesn't extend outside a 10 mile radius of school. I have even openly told people what I think; they agree with me, but still act all dramatic. I know it's pretty normal for people to act like this, but it's making school miserable. How can I ignore this crap and actually enjoy the rest of my senior year? (link)
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Try to do some self-talk. Tell yourself to let it roll off your shoulder. Tell yourself that you only have about three months more of high school and then it will be over. When people drive you nuts, take a deep breath and let it go. It isn't worth getting yourself aggravated over things like this. It just isn't.
Soon you will be embarking on a new chapter in your life. You will be learning new things that are in your areas of interest. You will be in a college atmosphere of learning along with others who are on the same journey as you. You will meet new people....make new friends.
Don't let those around you now get to you. You can do it.
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so im not sure if i have depression but i really do think soemthing is wrong with me.
i feel nothing.like i feel emotionless from inside.
i fins it soo hard to fall asleep.even if im really exausted it will still take me 3hours to fall asleep and when i wake up im always tired.even if iv slept for 12hours ill wake up and an hour later ill feel like going to sleep again.i feel soo drained through out the day.i can feel it in my eyes too.i feel that theyr droopy and tired too.
i feel like i really need to do something really exciting like bunge jump or sky dive because nothing interestst me anymore.
i use to be one of the most exctiing people out there that always smiles and always wants to do things that are out of the ordinary but now i feel soo bored with myself.iv changed soo much.i feel nothing inside me.no emotion.im numb.
i got this forward email the other day about 4 men thnat abducted a little girl to eat her flesh.in the email they attached photos of this girl(while she was dead) her head was cut off and her meat was shaved off and the site would look really horrifying to people but i felt nothing.i wanted to feel empathy or sympathy for the family,for the parents but nothing!
im not even motivated in my teaching career which is something i use to realllly love.it was the only thing that could make me most happy but nnow i do it because its my job.
whats wrong with me?do i need to go to a doctor or does this sound normal?
i just need to hear soemthing,anything.am i sick?depressed?or over reacting..
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Please go to see a doctor. What you are feeling is not normal and to me (an untrained person) what you are describing are symptoms that could be associated with depression. There are many ways to treat depression today and you don't have to live like this. See a doctor. And if he/she prescribes you meds, take them. If they don't seem to work, go back and tell the doctor, because there are many out there and some work for some people, while others are better for some people. The first thing is to make that call to get an appointment. Please do it.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, but this is our first Valentine's Day together. (We conveniently broke up a couple weeks before last year) He goes to school in PA and I'm in Chicago, but I still want him to feel like we're together on Valentine's day. I need help figuring out a nice thing that I can send him. Here's what I have so far:
He looooves those Necco Sweethearts, so I want to do something with those, and I thought it would be cool if I could send a package to his roommate and have him put it somewhere in the apartment for my boyfriend to find. Umm..other interests include classic cartoons (looney toons, tom and jerry..), hockey, computers, Ben Folds, techno, the Packers, candy, and video games....He calls me "honey bunz" and I call him "wonder bunz"...we both speak french, he's 21 and I'm 20...so really, any ideas would be helpful. I haven't had much experience with long distance before him, and I'm tired of giving him DVDs and stuffed animals. (link)
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Get a pillow (heart shaped would be nice) and go to a craft store and buy craft fabric paint in a "glow in the dark" color. Write a sentiment on the pillow (I love you, Wonder Bunz?) and then, when he turns off the lights at night, he will still see what you wrote.
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I'm in a long distance relationship, I want to end it. I haven't been happy for over a month, the distance isn't for me, and now it's interfering with my grades in college.
The guy I'm with is extremely emotional & I KNOW he'll cry/be upset for ages. (It took him over 2 yrs to get over his ex!) If I talk to him via the phone, he might possibly be able to suck me back in as he always does. But I'm tired of feeling bad for him, and I need some advice on how to not back down on my decision once he starts crying. I will feel bad, I do have some feelings for him, but I really KNOW in my heart that breaking up is the best decision for me.
I guess what I'm asking is..is phone the best way to do it? My friends suggested email, which I honestly would prefer, but he's very, VERY close with his parents, and I know my email would be shown to them. And knowing him, he might even ask them to contact my parents to try and talk me out of the break up. Yes, I am actually scared. I'm considering telling him that I'm moving so he thinks my address is different, and won't show up on my doorstep. You'd think we're 12 year olds, but he's 22, and I'm 19.
I KNOW he will have an emotional breakdown. Ah, I just really need advice on what to do? I want to this as soon as possible. I also don't know how to bring it up, we talk everyday. Should I start not talking to him as often, and then eventually do it? Please help!! (link)
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If you KNOW IN YOUR HEART that you need to do this, then you will do it. You will not let this man control you with emotional blackmail. Because that is what it is....he is blackmailing you with his emotions and he knows he can rope you back in. I know you have feelings for him, but remember.....you KNOW IN YOUR HEART that this relationship has to end. I agree with you that email is not appropriate. You will have to do it via phone. And you will have to be sympathetic, yet FIRM. You cannot be TOO sympathetic or he will interpret that as an invitation to beg you to stay with him. If you think he will show up on your doorstep, by all means....do whatever you need to do to keep him away. Above all...remember....you are not responsible for him. You are not responsible for his being very emotional.
You can do this. You need to do this. Good luck.
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