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Hey I am Nicole and I love giving advice. I am great at giving advice about your love life and pretty much anything else. If you ever need a helping hand or feel like you just need to talk to someone I will always be willing to help out.
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Alright so Im 13/f and dont think that Im young that Im not allowed to have a boyfriend, we hug and hang out together and sometimes kiss. He is really sweet and nice and I like him but all the time he says we're not too young to date and he keeps saying 'i love you' to me and honestly, yes Im too young at this age to be in love! I used to say it back but now Im snapping back to reality! I dont love him! I like him a bit and thats all! I just dont know how to tell him this... Also, he is nice but he's weird and we have dated before (last year) and then I broke up with him because I liked another guy and then he asked me out in June and I thought I'd be ready for a relationship but I wasnt and I dont know how to say this to him because he has met my family and he will tell my sister and she will ask me why I dumped him! And then my dad will call me a heart breaker again! =(
Also, reccently, Ive started talking to this other guy named Sam. He acts like an idiot at school but over the summer Ive gotten to know him better and he is super nice and sweet and he's really cute =) He makes me feel good. We talk often and we always have sarcastic convos, but the other day we were talking and then he said, "Your cute:$" and I said "Sarcastic?" Sam: "No, like really your cute" Me:"Oh, your a cutie aswell =)" and so from now one when we say out goodbyes at the end of a convo, we either say "bye friend" or "bye cutie" but mostly the 'bye cutie' one! =) I think I might have a crush on him (he's a year younger than me but super nice and my boyfriend is the same age as me).
I just dont know what to do, my boyfriend never calls me like my 2 year older sister and her boyfriend call each other and I think I might need to break up with him. Ive been pracicing what I'd say and its something like" Look, your a really nice and sweet and funny guy but maybe your not the right one for me and I think we should both move on. When you asked me out, I thought I'd be ready 4 another relationship but I wasnt and Im still not. I just dont think we're as close as we were when we went out the 1st time... Im sorry, I dont want to hurt you."
How was that? too harsh? if I break up with him it'd be over facebook not the phone because last time I called him and broke up with him and he started crying and made me cry by crying =/ And I want to break up with him by August 19th (sunday) becuase I leave for my cottage the next day so I would get to take my mind off things. Anyways, what should I do about my current boyfriend, for a week Ive been trying to act like Im not interested so he would break up with me but its not working and also what should I do about Sam? ADVICE PLS?
Unfortunately there no good way to break up with someone. If you're unhappy in the relationship then break up with him. Also please dont break up through text. Try to face your problems in life head on. Taking the easy way out isn't always the best. If you at least call him he'll know he meant something to you. Also when you break up with your boyfriend dont rush into a relationship with the other guy. Like you said you thought you were ready for a relationship before and youre not. If this Sam guy really likes you and is a good guy he can wait a little. Take some time being single to find out what you really want. It'll avoids lots of heartaches. What you planned on saying to your boyfriend isn't harsh at all. Good luck(:
20/f - I was just wondering if it's normal to no longer have feelings for someone but hate the thought of him being with someone else. I realize that I am being incredibly selfish having such thoughts, but I don't know how to get over feeling like this. We broke up about a year and a half ago, and we've discussed getting back together, but it was never successful (either I'd want to but he didn't or he'd want to but I didn't). Even though I'm the one who broke it off after 2 years together, it took me a long time to stop hurting and accept the fact that I ended it because I was no longer happy in that relationship. I'm pretty sure that I'm over him because I'm aware of all the reasons that we were wrong for each other, but the thought of him with someone else really bothers me and eats at my thoughts almost every day. If it's not normal to feel this way after a breakup, especially since so much time has passed already, please tell me so that I can know how crazy I am for feeling like this and work on truly moving on.
No youre not crazy for feeling like this. It was a long relationship and even if you had problems and broke it off it still meant a lot to you. I think you are in the process of getting over him but you're not completely there. If you think that theres no possible way to make things work turn you have to continue on working on getting over him. During the time you dated you grew accustomed to him. Even the thought of him being with someone else is strange and bothers you. You may not love him anymore but you grew accustomed to his company. Realizing that he could go and be "company" (for lack of better words) to someone else is scary. Also Im very sorry it took this long to reply. If you ever need anything else dont hesitate to ask me. Good luck!(: Remember what you're feeling is normal and you just have to work on getting use to the fact that you guys aren't a couple anymore.
I would laugh if I could. You are 12 years old and you think you are qualified to give advice as to the right and wrong of suicide? Have you lived through a decade of serious pain? Have your family, wife, and friends walked away from you when you lost your six figure salary? No matter what you pray for: Strength, help, someone to talk to, one day of peace. I get nothing. I don't whine about it. I've withstood years of it and I do not want to be here anymore. You think the other side is like a painful sensation. How do you know there is a god to begin with, let alone you try to scare people out of suicide with a campfire. You have a lot to learn little 12 year old. If you knew anything about someone who has lived a painful life, and I'm sure to you that means something hurts like you got a paper cut. Let me tell you, I have been in enough physical pain to pass out many times. It is awful but can't even compare to the mental pain this world can dish out. Your "hand burn" and video game "Zombie" notions are rediculous. I'm a 39 year old male and have been tortured in one way or another for 37 of them. enough is enough. Grow up. To some of us, it does not get any worse than it is right now. I'll take my chances on the other side if there is one. Why don't you quit trying to talk about things you know nothing about, at least until you're a big high school student! You don't know what real pain even is But I can tell I could easily drive nails through my hands more easily than I can think about spending another year on this planet.
The 12 year old that was trying to answer your question was simply trying to help. To you it seems like no one knows your exact pain and that's because its true. No one has been through the same things you have been but other have experienced pains that hurt turn just as much. Although you may not believe it at the moment if you decide to end tour life there will be people that miss you. All this pain you have felt and are feeling is stopping you from seeing that you matter in the world. I cant stop you from commuting suicide but I can tell you that there are other options. I've seen people hit rock bottom and get up and continue living. My mom sacrificed yet life in her home country for what? For the infamous better future in the United states. It gained her the death of her dad, cancer my grandma got,never seeing any family again,a minimum wage job, hoping to have ends meet every month,being abused by her husband and many more things. She didnt give up and Im begging you not to do so either. Your life may seem horrible but everyone has problems. I know you're probably going to dismiss everything I see because I "Don't know what Im talking about". I hope someone or something changes your mind before you make a decision that not only affects you but everyone around you.
There is this guy I work in the same building with. He really likes me, he's said so several times and he always comes by my shop to talk to me. I feel like he is everything that I need right now. He is a really nice guy, makes me laugh.. he actually has his life together.. good job, life goals, his own place, nice car, etc..... That is a plus for me because I am notorious for dating losers. We seem to have a lot in common and I believe that I would have a really great time with him.
So my problem is that I am not physically attracted to him. He is tall, which I do like.. but he is also bald (& I normally date men with longer hair.) He is also kind of chubby... It sounds bad that I pay this close attention to looks, but I can't help it. Also the way he dresses is not what I am attracted to either. He is a little older than me though, I am 22 and he is 28, but the age difference doesn't bother me either. Could an attraction grow do you think? I feel like it would benefit me to date someone that is different from the normal type of men that I date. The few times that I have went out with him have been really nice though. So idk..
I went through the same thong your going through. I decoded to date the guy and it turned out to be a giant mess. He had a great personality but I wasn't happy in the relationship. Maybe you guy will be different, only you can figure that out. From my experience youll end up feeling guilty because you wont have that "spark". Then again everything in life isn't beauty. If you want a long term serious relationship this light be your guy. I suggest you go out to eat and if you start to feel different about him then you should date him.
Hi, I'm a 15yo guy.
Er, there's this girl I really like. But I keep getting mixed signals from her.
Sometimes she's really nice to me, and calls/texts me. And sometimes she just doesn't.
I want to tell her I like her, I just don't know how, or if it's the right thing to do.
TELL HER. I know its probably annoying for guy but most girls are use to guys telling them how they feel. If she texts and calls you its for a reason. I personally wouldn't talk to a guy I didnt like. If she doesn't like you at least youll know and wont live with the what ifs
So, I start highschool this year. And I'm nervous.
I am kind of shy right now, and I really want to meet the -RIGHT- Guy..
And tips?
I want to become one of those obnoxious girls that get along with anyone. But I'm scared of looking/feeling dumb.
And suggestions on what I should do?
Or any freshman stories to share?
Just need to calm the nerves..
As cheesy as this sounds everyone is nervous. Dont worry though! You'll meet great new people and adapt. Try joining after school activities to meet new people. Also dont expect to meet "the perfect guy" right away. Watch out because some guys,especially the older guys will just want to use girls. Just be yourself and youll meet a great gut eventually. Also dont change! You'll see plenty of people start drinking and doing drugs to be "cool" dont go with the crowd. Stand out! I almost lost a friend because of drugs so dont go down the wrong path. High school is a blast! So enjoy freshman year(:
I don't like what any of you people have to say for yourselves. Wanting to die? I mean, COME ON, YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME. You should listen to the 12 year old boy who lost his girlfriend because she was moving somewhere else. Like he said, you have to have faith, and like I say you have to get on with life. My mother passed away 2 years ago and did I get on with life? YES I DID!!! God told me that if you commit suicide, he would put you in hell in the Lake of Fire to burn,die,burn,die repeatedly until 10 years later.Hey,12 year old boy, if you read this, I want to ask you something.I am a 12 year old religious girl who thinks you are faithful and true. I don't want to be your girlfriend, but I want to just tell you that the words you said were very...lovely.God tells me that your girlfriend will come back one day and you will marry,but before that you will have many other girlfriends. One day you meet me and our eyes will lock immediately but we won't recognize each other.
I don't want to sound rude but this is my opinion. I respect your religion nut telling someone they might go to hell just puts a bad message out there. I know this wasn't meant to show everyone but there are sucidial people out there and telling them they'll go to hell is hurtful. Watch what you say. What you're saying to the other boy is lovely though. You seem like a great person just watch what you say, not everyone has the same beliefs as you. Take care(:
OHaithere!
I am a boy and I am 13 years old. I am doing grammar school too. In my class, there is this girl I really like, but I am having troubles getting to know her properly, because we almost never talk ;(.
She is quite popular, and the guys and girls that she is befriend with, I like them as people, but they are not my friends. I always TRY to talk to her, and man up, but when I see her, I melt. Literally.
Help?
Go up and just say hi. Girls love confident guys(: good luck! You could just ask her for a hw assignment or something
So, I'm 16, going on 17 this year. I'm a Junior. I have never had a girlfriend before, but I have failed with many. But this, I've never felt this horrible. I recently got rid of some personal problems and started to feel motivated and powerful, after being depressed for a while. So I started talking to this girl I like, who recently broke up with someone. She clearly knew that I really liked her, even the teachers could tell. So yesterday me and a good friend of mine took her out to eat. I skipped for the first time, and was the only one skipping. We all spoke about random things and personal stuff. It was a good day. Then today she tells me she likes HIM. She asked if it was weird, I said no. Then she told him right in front of me. I had to hold everything in until class was over. My friend is kinda stuck, he keeps saying sorry to me and I just tell him to take advantage of the opportunity. I've never felt like this before. I probably came off as selfish, desperate, close-minded, cocky, and weird. Now just seeing her is going to be torture. What should I do? Has this happened to anyone?
Something like this happened to me before except I pushed my crush into the arms of one of my best friends. To be honest it was devastating and it was torture. Lucky for you you've found this great new confidence. This is just a small crush you'll find another girl(: Don't give up and don't stop looking she's waiting for you to come to her. Keep talking to people and soon enough you'll find someone. Also don't feel resent towards your friend. That's what I felt and it didn't help. Try to move on. Good luck(:
Ok... I have a boyfriend and things are great except I really also like my best friend in so confused and need advice who do I pick I'm 14
If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.
Johnny Depp
Ok so that quote I think sums up what you should do. Clearly I'm aware that you don't love anyone right now but the concept is still the same. If you really liked your boyfriend you wouldn't be thinking about your best friend. Go talk to your best friend about how you feel. Good luck(:
Are any of these people mildly interesting to someone who isn't a science geek? We have to pick one for a project and I have no clue who any of these people are
Ruth Benerito
Joan Berkowitz
Hazel Bishop
Emma Perry Carr
Pamela Clark
Marie Curie
Rosalind Franklin
Gertrude Belle Elion
Alice Hamilton
Darleane Hoffman
Shannon Lucid
Gerty Theresa Cori
Stephanie Kwolek
Janet Marcet
Marie Meurdrac
Rosalyn Yalow
Dorothy Crowfoot Hodgkin
Diane D. Gates-Anderson
John Dalton
Humphrey Davy
Irene Curie-Joloit
Henri Becquerel
Robert Boyle
S. Cannizzaro
Jacque Charles
Neils Bohr
J.J. Thompson
Henry Moseley J. Berzelius
W. Roentgen
J. Robert Oppenheimer
L. Meitner
G. N. Lewis
F. Aston
Joseph Priestly
Michael Faraday
J. Proust
E. Rutherford
A. Avogadro
Paracelsus
Robert Bunsen
Fritz Haber
D. Mendeleev
Fritz Wohler
E. Torricelli
Linus Pauling
Leslie Groves
Arrhenius
LeChatelier
F. Werner
Rosalind Franklin was a women who discovered the double helix of DNA but 2 guys (Watson and crick) stole her information and made a model. They were credited for making one of the most important scientific disocoveries. They even won a Nobel prize. Rosalind never died at a young age and never even realized that her work has 1. Been stolen and 2. Marked such an emended difference in the making of the model. Good luck(:
Hey there--
so to get to the point, I want my parents to realize that I can take care of myself in public and that I have my own specific personality. Never in their life have they let me sleepover a friends house tge only time was when I was 9 and due to lack of social involvement I cried the whole night. Here I am now 7 years later without one sleepover EVER.
I finally got the guts to ask my mom if I could sleepover a best friends house along with another friend a she automatically said no because
a) she doesn't 'trust' me
b) I'm too old for it.
This struck me hard because my 13 year old sister has had more then 7 sleepover experiances compared to my 1. I'm 16 and still play pokemon, digimon, & watch my little pony. At the sane time my grades are amazing my GPA being 92.411 so far. She doesn't trust me because back in 7th grade I didn't tell her about a boyfriend and she found out I was hanging out with him behind her back.
I can't even see my current boyfriend without her thinking we're going to have sex though he's a virgin!!!
Please I beg of you someone tell me a way so I can breathe ! I've been their perfect oldest child for too long
My parents are the same way. They try to protect me but I also feel like it's no longer protection if you feel like the world is caving in. Talk to your parents they have to realize your growing up and that one day you'll leave their home and will have to face the real world by yourself.Both my sister and I have never slept over a friends house and it's no big deal. You can interact with people through other ways. Just remember you'll always be their "little girl" and they are not trying to harm you, theyre trying to protect you. Goodluck(:
14/f
OK to start off I go to a online high school and in 9th grade. My mom picked all of my courses at the beginning of the year so I take English, Modern World History, Pre Algebra, P.E. Physical Science, and Spanish. My grades are mostly all A's but the problem is my Math course. OK I LOVE math it is my favorite subject but right now there are some students that still don't understand fractions. In 8th grade the last thing that I remember going over was slopes. Which by the way are really easy. So today I asked my teacher when we were going o go over slopes and she said that it might not be till 10th grade or so. So she asked me if I would considerate going to a higher level of math. I don't know what to do. I tried to call my councilor but she isn't answering her phone. Should I stay in that class even thought I found out hat it was not a graduation requirement but stay there to get an easy a or should I got to a higher level of math. Please help if you can. Thanks.
P.S. This might not have nothing to do with this but my grades are English a 111.65% Modern World Studies 94.63% Math 95.67% P.E 111.23% Physical Science 82% and Spanish 86% I you want to comment on any of my grades I don't really care I would just like some answers. Thanks again.
Go for the higher level. It's always great to challenge yourself. getting an "easy A" isn't worth it. I am currently a freshman in high school taking algebra 2. If I can do it so can you(: Good luck and I hope you decide to challenge yourself.
There is this guy who was in my english class tenth grade year, I thought that then he was flirting with me, he would always laugh at my jokes and we would work on english work together in class and help each other out. He had a girlfriend, then so I thought he wasn't. This year, senior year, we are in another class together and I think he is flirting with me again... yet, he has a girlfriend again... he did something for me that required sending me something over text and I think he did that for me was so he could have my number but since he texted me that, he hasn't texted me since. But he brings up times back in 10th grade, he gets papers for me, when he's stuck on something he will always ask me for help but he covers everything up by trying to be rude about it. Like when he needs something because he can't figure it out, he'll put on a fake angry face and go "get over here this second, I can't figure this out and if you don't help me I will hate you forever" he always also tries to say he's better than everyone. My best friend sings, he is a boy, and I say all the time how much I love this song that he wrote. Well this boy said he could probably sing it better. He's not rude but he's cocky, it could be because he's the all-star jock that all the girls love and I am the band geek that is friends with all the band and a few not musical kids like this jock. So, I think he tries to be angry toward me to protect his image but I feel like behind it all, he's majorly flirting. He always adds a few more seconds to his stare or a charming smile where the glistening star shines on the teeth on the tv shows after he plays being mean. I would never pursue him because we're in two totally different social circles and he has a girlfriend. But is he flirting? I don't know what to do..
Confront him about it or if your not up for the whole awkward conversation let it go. I fell for a guy exactly how your describing this guy.....long story short WORST MISTAKE EVER. Guys like him love flirting I guess it gives them a sense if importance. If you don't think you will develop feelings for him then I would say keep flirting back and just have fun but he has a girlfriend and I'm the type how dosnt appreciate boyfriend stealers(not that you're one) so just stay friends without all the unnessary flirting. Good luck(:
I'm 13/f,and had a friend who was 16/m.We were talking one day,and he asked can he make out with me.I said no,and he just said ok.But then after that,I never heard from him since.He didn't talk to me for 2 1/2 months.So I thought he was mad at me,because I wouldn't let him make out with me.So I went and bitched off to him.He wouldn't talk face to face,or on the phone with me,so I messaged him.I told him that he was a bitch,for not talking to me anymore,just because I wasn't ready to make out with him.I told him that I hate him.Then he came,and messaged me back the next day,and told me to never talk to him again,because I was a bitch.He told me that none of those things I said about him were true.He said he liked me,and stopped talking to me because he was in the hospital.So when I messaged him back,and said I was sorry,and asked why he was in the hospital,he told me it doesn't matter why he was in the hospital,because I didn't care about him anyways.Then he told me to fuck off.I felt so stupid.So I tried a week later to apologize,and he told me to fuck off again.Every since then,we haven't talked,and I miss him sooooo much.I liked him back too.But I just wanna know if it's too late for him to forgive me?Did I mess up huge this time?And if so,how can I fix things because I truly miss him? ='(
In the hospital for two months? With no way of sending even Text to explain what was happening? Oh please those are lies. Unless he has a serious illness, which he should/would have told you about then it's all lies. He is trying to make you feel guilty. Time heals all:) More then likely you don't miss him but you got use to being with him. It's good that you made your own decision not to make out with him, he probably just wanted something else with you. Good luck and don't give into his sick game.
13/F
ok so there is this guy,lets call him D and i have a friend, lets call her N.
D is one of my really close friends and so is N, i hang out with D every lunch and recess at school and know him really well, i only hang out with guys at lunch and recess but sometimes N comes 2.
i tell D everything along with N and other close friends, lets call them B,J,f, their are both male and E who is female and others that dont matter in this need of advice.
so one Saturday E came 2 my place for a sleepover and we both got really hyper at about 9pm and i called B and what i didn't know was D and J was at B's house for the night 2. and i said some really embarrassing things such as i really like D and i thought he had the cutest laugh/smile and some other really embarrassing things then B said D liked me and if D would ever ask me out, would i say yes and i said yes so B invited me to the movies with D and J and F on Sunday so i said yes straight away and wen i saw my mum i asked her if i could go and she said she would think bout it and the next morning she said no because she hasn't ever met the guys and would like them 2 come over before i go places with them :( so i texted B saying i couldn't come because i was going to the city with my family because i was 2 embarrassed to say mum didn't let me because she didn't know them.
The next day at school,we were doing maths and J said D was sad i bailed, and it was sorta awkward between me and D but the next day it was fine between us and i told N this and she likes him 2 and way before i ever told he i liked D she waz like if one of her friends would ever like D they would be stealign him and the day i told her about everything she was sorta sad.
So i am inviting all the guys 2 my place so we can hang with my mum letting me.
I asked if who D liked and he said me and i really wanna go out with D but i dont want to hurt N.
they are both my good friends.
PLZ HEPL!!!!!!!!!!!!
P.S. please dont say stuff like chicks before dicks because D is important to me in a friendship way 2 and we are both really close friends so it wouldn't be stuff like chicks before dicks because D is my really close friend as well as N.
Never choose a guy(d) over a bestfriend(n). This guy may seem like them best thing on earth and your whole world right now but trust me you'll meet other people. Dating this guy would show what kind of a person you are but if you want to choose him over her then go on ahead.Beware of the consequences like a broken friendship. I think both of you should forget about this guy. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea:)
I am pretty much Fill out what I am feeling. I am try my best for anyone try to understand frist I let you know I do have grammer problem so try to bail with me. if you couldn't understand I can do like email thing and thing I know Advicenators don't want real long messages... so anybody that can be able read some long messages not just long just where it be to long on here. so My advice be on about Religon.. i have a boyfreind and well we have different beliefts and there more but hard to me to explaine that why i thought someone willing really try understasnd read longer messages.. comment me and i can inbox you my long needy advice...
You can inbox me:)
Me and my friend were really close. We were too close but i would sometimes feel that he is not a true friend. I would do everything possible for him. He started dating a girl I never approved. I somehow managed to separate them on a bitter note. Later, I developed some differences with my friend and meanwhile by utter misfortune got close to his girlfriend...he would think we are dating so he was very upset. I also didnt bother then and unintentionally hurt him. Later, I realized that the girl is not a nice human being. she is fake and very materialistic and it was just an infatuation. I want my friend back. I feel guilty for all that he had to suffer. He doesn't talk to me at all. I tried to say sorry but everytime it ended on a sour note. But, i cant go back to him as i m scared that he would shout at me, abuse me and indulge in physical fight and might create a scene.
You stole your bestfriends girlfriend, you gave into temptation. It's normal for him to be angry at you. If your friendship is strong enough he will forgive you. Email him, text him, call him you get my point. Anyway you have to price to him he can trust you again. It's all up to him though. Good luck and I hope this serves you as a lesson in life. Girls/guys come and go but true friends are always there for you.
We both are in a relationship from 5-6 months, and I know he is my perfect guy, although he loves me a lot but keeps on telling that how can I look better and be better at everything, so is he satisfied with me? Does he want to be with me? and how can I become perfect for him, I really want to....
Maybe he simply wants you to look/be your best, but if he is critizing everything you do then it's time to talk to him. You don't need to change for anyone because you should already be the best to them if they love you. One of the biggest mistakes people make while in a relationship is to try and change their partner. First of all you can't change how a person is and if you don't like how they are then you shouldn't be with them in the first place. Talk to him you say you guys love each other so everything should be fine:)
I'm 18/F
I've never been kissed, never been on a date, and have never been in a relationship.
Is that normal? I feel like i'm not good enough for anyone to love me, or even like me...
I mean... I've never really put myself out there, or flirted or anything, but no one's ever made an effort for me either.
I'm just kinda freaking out over this.
This is normal you have your whole life ahead of you to find a guy. I wish I would have waited longer, I would have saved my self stress and heartaches. If you do want to be in a relationship then you have to make some effort too. Go out have fun with your friends and if you see someone you like go up to them and talk. The worst that could happen is that they're not interested, no big deal. Good luck:) oh and one last thing set your priorities straight. Never let a guy be your whole world focus on school, work, family, friends and whatever else is in your life too:)