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A guy likes me, I like him, but I am not physically attracted to him
There is this guy I work in the same building with. He really likes me, he's said so several times and he always comes by my shop to talk to me. I feel like he is everything that I need right now. He is a really nice guy, makes me laugh.. he actually has his life together.. good job, life goals, his own place, nice car, etc..... That is a plus for me because I am notorious for dating losers. We seem to have a lot in common and I believe that I would have a really great time with him.
So my problem is that I am not physically attracted to him. He is tall, which I do like.. but he is also bald (& I normally date men with longer hair.) He is also kind of chubby... It sounds bad that I pay this close attention to looks, but I can't help it. Also the way he dresses is not what I am attracted to either. He is a little older than me though, I am 22 and he is 28, but the age difference doesn't bother me either. Could an attraction grow do you think? I feel like it would benefit me to date someone that is different from the normal type of men that I date. The few times that I have went out with him have been really nice though. So idk..
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I went through the same thong your going through. I decoded to date the guy and it turned out to be a giant mess. He had a great personality but I wasn't happy in the relationship. Maybe you guy will be different, only you can figure that out. From my experience youll end up feeling guilty because you wont have that "spark". Then again everything in life isn't beauty. If you want a long term serious relationship this light be your guy. I suggest you go out to eat and if you start to feel different about him then you should date him.
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Well, normally I would advise you to go on a couple dates with him to test the waters? See how it goes, see if there is anything there.
But this is tough, because he has strong feelings for you, and you may end up hurting him bad.
It's natural for you to place a certain importance on looks...there's a difference between being totally vain, and just being human.
I'm not sure whether I want to tell you:
1. You won't all of a sudden become attracted to him physically. If you want something deeper than that, i.e. a relationship based on personality and feelings, then go for it.
2. Just test the waters. Go on a couple of dates, and if you still don't feel attracted to him, tell him easily and gently that you like him but want to just be friends.
You could of course become friends. Just do things as friends. It's the best of both world really. Make it clear to him that whatever you do (on the 'date') is just as friends. Then test the waters that way. If you don't feel attracted to him, stay friends. If you find yourself falling for him, go further!
Good luck! Let me know what you decide on? :)
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