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Is the amazon streaming service that comes with prime membership any good? Do they have enough things to make it worthwhile, or do you still have to buy most everything good? And what is the quality like compared to netflix or hulu that I am used to?

Thank you! (link)
This is a difficult question as it depends on the country in which you live, because of licensing. Here in the UK, Amazon's service isn't as good as Netflix, in my opinion. It does of course, depend on what you like to watch. But it's relatively easy to see what is available with Amazon's service. They usually offer a free trial, which I have taken advantage of but I cancelled it within minutes of seeing the limited choice (I should have given it a chance, I know!).

Hello! I have some scrap gold from an estate that I need to sell, but I don't know how to go about it without being cheated. I took it to two pawn shops and they gave me wildly different prices! Does anyone have experience with something like this? Thank you! (link)

You have four sensible options:

1. Go to as many pawn shops as possible and work out what the average price is. Obviously then, go to the highest bidder.

2. If you want to be sure to get the best offer, there is an equation you can use to work out the value of your gold. But this really depends on you knowing what carat (how pure) the gold is. Here is a website that outlines it:

Keep in mind with this approach that you have to leave space for the person who is buying it to make a profit. So get as close as possible to its worth when selling it.

3. Sell it directly to a refinery. They melt the gold down, removing the impurities. This cuts the middle man. But you will have to check if there is one close by.

4. If you are keen to get rid of it and need the money, sell it to the various companies that will now buy gold, you can search the internet for these companies, there are PLENTY. They often give you a low a price as possible because they are looking to make a profit, understandably. But I get from your answer that this isn't the approach you want.

I think the best option would be to calculate the golds worth, and go to as many pawn shops as possible to try and get as close as possible to that.

Good luck!

When do you stick your pinky out when you're drinking? (link)
You never stick your 'pinky' out whilst drinking.

I'm British, and many think that the English will stick their little finger out whilst drinking - No.

Nobody does it, it's pretentious. The tradition comes from the age of Empire. People would eat with their hands, getting grease and sugar on their fingers. Spices were extremely expensive and to prevent the taste from being clouded, people would keep their little finger out to prevent it from being covered with grease, etc. This little finger would then be dipped into the spice, and licked.

Of course, times have moved on since then, as has the need to keep your little finger out. Tuck it in.

Saying that, you are of course free to stick your finger out when drinking tea, or coffee, or beer or whatever. That's an individual's choice. But it's not the norm.

In my experience, the only people who stick their little finger out, are people who think that doing it is right.

Hope this has helped, best wishes.

Hi.. I'm 19 years old and I've been sexually active for approximately 6 months now. In this 6 months I took the morning after piLl thrice already. I know it's not a form of contraception but my boyfriend hates having sex with a condom and there's no way I can get the pill or be on the injection without my parents tripping. I was just wondering what's the worst that could happen if I keep using the morning after pill this much... Will it affect me trying to fall pregnant in the future? (link)
The morning after pill is the only emergency, in the case if your condom got broken, or something like that, its not an every day pill, no way. Taking it too often (more than once a month) might cause serious metabolical malfunctions. It will barely affect your fertility in general, but might mess up your health which is bad. If your sexual intercourse is regular and you're confident in your partner, then just take contraceptive pills on the regular base. If you dont want your parents to find out, to mess up with the insurance, to run to a planned parenthood, and etc, just order pills online, its a good anonymous solution.

my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months, he just turned 18 and I'm almost 16. before we had sex we went through all the smaller steps, which was good, and we've had sex a few times now. I'm not on birth control and I've tried to go on it for other reasons but my mom and doctor didn't think it was necessary unless I was sexually active which at the time I wasn't but now I am. we use a condom every time, I wouldn't do it any other way and neither would he. should I be taking a form of the morning after pill or something? I just don't want anything to happen. please any advice helps, thank you! (link)
The morning after pill is the only emergency, in the case if your condom got broken, or something like that, its not an every day pill, no way. If your sexual intercourse is regular and you're confident in your partner, then just take contraceptive pills on the regular base. If you dont want your parents to find out, to mess up with the insurance, to run to a planned parenthood, and etc, just order pills online, its a good anonymous solution.

I just recently began taking birth control because I am becoming sexually active and want to be responsible about my choices. I am 18 years old and on insurance that my mom gets through her job. My doctor told me that because I am now a legal adult I do not need to tell my parents that I am sexually active or on the pill. I am not telling them but it occurred to me that because I am getting the pill through my parents insurance and not planned parenthood that they will probably find out. Does anyone know how this works? I know it will not say what the drug is on a statement but it will list that I am getting something and then the questions will start. How often do insurance companies send out information like this? I would have no problem telling my mom that I'm on the pill if I was in a committed relationship, but because I just have a casual thing I can't tell her. She would never approve of it and would probably never let me out of the house for the rest of the summer. Thank you for your advice! (link)
Yes, you can try to do what you've been adviced in previous post, or you can get pills anonymously, for example, online.

15/f almost 16 I cant see myself waiting another year or so to lose my virginity and I don't even have a boyfriend soon on one hand I thought that would be kind of silly to take bc everyday for something that might just happen once or now and then, but then again im like paranoid of getting pregnant and I know they can help with cramps,mood,and breakouts which is good. I have asked my mom if I could and shes just like no you don't need it its not good for you. she hates prescription drugs and just thinks they are bad overall and she is really stubborn. and we don't have a lot of money so she needs to know that its necessary because in the past I said I wanted it for my horrible cramps and she said no. im very open and mature with her so I don't know if I should just lie and say im already having sex or im going to soon becasuse I don't really see any other way becasuse she doesn't understand and thinks im too young when im very mature and responsible that's why im trying to sit down and talk to her about getting me on bc. so how can I convince her to get me on it? also do not tell me that I can ask my gynecologist for pills im not doing that and im not going to planned parenthood either im broke and have no way of getting there.i don't want to go behind her back we already have trust issues (link)
So, what is your major problem: no trust with your mom to convince her to get pills for you, or lack of money to order them, for example, online which might be anonymous?


I've been having sex more often and I thought the best thing to do was to get on birth control to be safe.
I just feel uncomfortable talking to my parents about it. They've both asked me because I've been with my boyfriend for two years.
I was online scheduling an appointment to see my doctor and my mom was telling me what to fill in. Birth control was on there and she was like, "There's not need for that, you're not having sex right?" I knew that would've been the easiest way to say it but I said no. Then she proceeded on about how I was a good girl and stuff.
So I don't want to tell her because I don't want her to see me as a "bad girl" now.

Anyways, I know I can see my doctor by myself but I'm afraid it'll show up on the insurance. We have Kaiser and I can see my families medical records when I log on so I'm afraid that if I go, they'll see mine too. Is that the case? What should I do? (link)
Did you find the way to get your pills already or still didnt?

Hi! I'm thirteen and homeschooled, and I usually get up around 7:30 or 8:00. I know it sounds late to most people, but I haven't really been needing to get up any earlier than that.
But for the next couple of weeks, I will have to get up at 6:00. . . . I'm not used to getting up that much earlier than I usually do.

If you guys have any tips on how to get up earlier, I hope to hear them. Thank you for any advice! (link)

The best thing really is to go to sleep early so you can awake feeling well rested. This of course is much easier said than done though. Here are some tips:

1. Exercise will use up extra energy so you don't lie in bed awake. Don't do it just before you go to bed though. And if you don't exercise often, start of simply, e.g. walking (great with other people or a dog).
2. Don't eat anything heavy before bed
3. Stay away from caffeine 8hours before going to bed. This includes Cola, etc.
4. For about an hour before bed, don't watch television, use a smartphone or go on the computer. The bright lights will make it difficult to sleep when you eventually do. So instead, read a book with the help of a dim bedside lamp.

When it's time to get up, be sure to use an alarm clock. I use 6...yes, 6. I need to get up at 8.05 at the latest. So I put alarms on for 7.40, 7.50, 7.55, 7.57, 8, and 8.05. This sounds crazy, but it works for me (it may not for you).

7.40 gets me awake, so when it is time for 8.05, I'm not completely asleep heavily. Then each one from then, slowly gets me waking up. I keep my 7.55 alarm across my room, so I physically have to get up to switch it off. This is good, because I'm already up and so the temptation to go back to sleep is not as great.

I also never use the snooze button, because I think "I don't need the snooze, I'll switch the alarm off and I'll lie here with my eyes open for a couple minutes." but of course, I end up going back to sleep. That's why I have several alarms.

The best thing really, is the second your alarm goes off, just open your eyes wide, and stretch your body as much as you can. Then jump out of bed and go on with your morning routine. The worst thing is when you decide to lie in bed "awake" for just a "few minutes" because that usually means you will fall asleep and be late.

So anyway, hope this helps, and good luck!

Hey if you're a guy and know anything what so ever about style or watches and you're somewhere between 17 and 23 and think you could help me pick out a good gift for my boyfriend please please help me! (link)
I fit the criteria. Unfortunately, this is a near impossible question to answer.

Each person is different, so their style and taste will vary. Your boyfriend may like plastic, bright coloured watches. He may only like silver, or gold. Or he may be allergic to the chemicals used in leather. And your circumstances will be different - you may have $20 or $2,000 to spend.

My advice is to see what kind of style he likes. Is he a professional? Then a silver or leather watch would suit him, to go with his suit.

Does he play a lot of sport? Then think about something waterproof, and durable.

No point getting him a Rolex if all he does is swim all the time.

Check his existing collection of jewelry etc, and get an idea. Possibly even go "window shopping" and see what catches his eye. This really is the best option to go for.

If he were like me - a 20-something professional who spend most of their time in a suit, I would opt for something silver, or with a black or brown leather strap. I prefer chunkier faces, as opposed to small. But like I say, each person is different.

Good luck, and I hope I helped :)

I am a loving Christian girl and I have always wondered one know how the Bible says in heaven you can't cry simply because you have no reason to cry.....Well I've been wondering....Can you cry tears of joy in heaven? The book says you wont show sadness but what about happy tears? Please tell me what you think the answer is to this question, or give me a few verses to look at that might be helpful. I would REALLY appreciate it! God bless :) (link)
I'm not of your faith, so I'm not speaking as an expert.

But from a "Man on the street" perspective, I can't see why you wouldn't cry tears of joy. Crying is usually reserved as a term for crying out of sadness. And The reference is probably to sadness.

Tears of joy would be very possible I would think.

What can I make at home to make me go pooh? For example laxitives.
Like u know you can mix lemon juice and water? Stuff like that but to make u go to the bathroom if that makes sence
So like what home remidies can I make to drink that works like laxitives?
Thanks (link)
Drinks are difficult, because you usually need fiber, which is found in solid food. Stuff like wholewheat bread, rice, pasta. Apples contain fiber. As do pineapples. Prunes, and prune juice (albeit not to everyone's taste) are good for such a problem.

Search for high fiber foods, for a more exhaustive list.

I have a question for my homework
Does anybody know if the people in Germany trust their goverment or are they suspicious about it? Like, In general?
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but no one will do your homework for you. That's the point of homework - it allows you to further your knowledge outside of the limits of the classroom.

What you ask is relatively easy to find. Try googling Germany opinion polls, and you will see some info.

My dog is a Whippet and she is 10 years old. Last night she threw up 8 times for no apparent reason. After the 8th time she tried to throw up again but nothing came out anymore. Tonight she just threw up again. She just had a vet appointment last week and everything was fine he said but why is she throwing up all of a sudden? We havent changed her diet in any way that would cause this.. (link)
Only a Vet would know. Call them up, and ask if they think it's anything specific. If not, as to take her in, and get her checked out.

It's the only way you can make sure she is OK.

Good luck!

What does reentry offer in the. uk ? what is it? can u get qualifications from it? ~ UK WOLVERHAMPTON (link)
I've never heard of it, but I searched for it, and it looks like a charity that helps young people get back into the education system. It doesn't look like they teach, or give awards, but instead helps the young people by giving them someone to talk to, support, etc etc.

They do however provide some courses:
-ASDAN awards
-Art Award
-Sports leadership

Here's the website I found - you may wish to contact them directly.

I want a sesh with my friend it incolves alchol and drugs (legal in my countrie) and need some advice on how to make the night a good one we are staying in and just chillaxing but want some drinking games or drug games we can play any ideas i am 25.and responsible for my actions so don't argue with me about the drug thing i kno w things can go wrong but i have friends that will be there if anything goes wrong so yea and tips thanks (link)
First, saying you are a drug user, and wish to play games that involve you taking copious amounts of drugs and alcohol is responsible, makes no sense whatsoever.

Second, I don't really understand what you are saying. Therefore, I cannot help you.

Sometimes I sign up for monthly subscriptions such as Netflix. And occasionally I am charged before I get my next paycheck. Or itunes will charge me 10 days after I make a purchase and I won't have the money for a day or two.

Does this harm my credit?

Also, what's the best place to check your credit for free? (link)
I got a 30day free trial with "creditexpert".

Saying that, I'm from the UK, ant I don't know where you are writing from.

So, im super excited. I just ordered my first home brew kit today!! My boyfriend and I have been talking about brewing our own beer for a few months now and we decided to go ahead and make our first attempt.

We've come up with a few ideas, including (but not limited to) Ginger, sriracha, bacon and maple...and we wanna incorporate alot of different herbs and fruits as well. But after our initial mind explosion of ideas we've hit a bit of a wall.

I dont know if anyone on this site is a beer enthusiast, but if you were going to try an interesting and unusual beer what flavor would you be interested in trying? Any different ideas? (link)
Any fruit will work well, although it's not terribly unusual. Berries will be good.

The you have chocolate, and possible chocolate combo's, e.g. pepper and chocolate, chocolate and mint, chocolate and ginger, etc etc.

One of my favourite beers is flavoured with coriander - the seeds are added during brewing. But I feel the flavour is never strong enough. A real coriander kick would be good!

Saying all of this, I'm not much of a beer drinker. But just think of tasty food combo's - something really simple that you eat everyday may be the key, because as a beer, it would be different.

Good luck!


First off please do not tell me about how it's unhealthy and stuff. I already know this, please answer my question. Thank You :)

I have had an Ecig for about 2 weeks or 3 weeks. At first I would hit it and be fine and stuff. This last week I have been waking up with an upset stomach. I have missed 3 days of school and done 2 half days. I have been on antibiotics for a week or two.

I know the medicine can cause it but normally I do not get upset stomachs from them, i have had these antibiotics before it is to stop a cut on my mouth that the doctors aren't sure why i have but they seem to work so i take them when needed.

Before taking these antibiotics I did not have stomach aches and diarrhea. I have been off the antibiotics for a day now and I still have an upset stomach this morning but have not needed to go to the bathroom yet... just lots of gas.

I also read nicotine overdoses have the symptoms of up upset stomachs so i was wondering if that is what it is too?

Any info is helpful! What can I do?

Also I am going to take a break from the ecig to see what happens to my stomach. (link)
Hi. Firstly on the antibiotics note, only stop if you have finished the course. If you still have some left, contact your doctor. The reason for this, is because there may be some remnants of the illness left, even after you feel OK. So people usually stop taking their antibiotics. The last few pills/doses are enough to fully kill the bacteria that causes the illness. If you don't finish, then it provides an opportunity for growth, and it will be even worse than the first time because it has gained an immunity to the antibiotics you were once taking. So then you will need stronger ones. If you carry on, you could possibly, eventually get a very bad illness that there are no antibiotics for.

Now, onto the ecig! A stomach ache from a nicotine overdose is usually temporary, and fades within an hour, max in my opinion. It's also a sharp, cramp like feeling you usually get. And ecigs (at least the good ones) automatically cut out after a long hit, to stop it from over heating, but also to stop nicotine overdoses.

If you have an upset stomach, accompanied by wind, it may be something else. A bug possibly, something bad you ate, etc. But the best thing would be to go to your doctor again, and tell them that you've got the pains and the gas, but also that you're on the e-cig.

My friend told their doctor that he was on the ecig, and they were surprisingly OK about it - the doctor told him to continue as it's so much better for you than smoking (although it's not completely healthy, of course).

Anyway, once again, as per usual with this type of question, I recommend that you see a doctor as they are a professional that can fully inspect your body to see the problem.

Good luck!

I like text books and doing the questions/exercises in them. Where would I get some free ones? New text books cost a lot of money. (link)
You could check classified sections of newspapers/websites. Ebay may have a whole lot for really cheap.

Also, ask around campus/school, put an advert up if you can, ask friends and family, and check garage/junk sales too.

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