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my boyfriend and I; sexually active
my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months, he just turned 18 and I'm almost 16. before we had sex we went through all the smaller steps, which was good, and we've had sex a few times now. I'm not on birth control and I've tried to go on it for other reasons but my mom and doctor didn't think it was necessary unless I was sexually active which at the time I wasn't but now I am. we use a condom every time, I wouldn't do it any other way and neither would he. should I be taking a form of the morning after pill or something? I just don't want anything to happen. please any advice helps, thank you!
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The morning after pill is the only emergency, in the case if your condom got broken, or something like that, its not an every day pill, no way. If your sexual intercourse is regular and you're confident in your partner, then just take contraceptive pills on the regular base. If you dont want your parents to find out, to mess up with the insurance, to run to a planned parenthood, and etc, just order pills online, its a good anonymous solution.
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Get on birth control. Either figure out how to go see your doctor or google planned parenthood and find the closest one you can visit.
In the meantime, spermicide.
In the condom aisle is a little box of VCF. Vaginal Contraceptive Film. Find the box, buy the box, read the instructions twice, and make sure you wait the damn 15 minutes.
They can be used with condoms, if a condom breaks it's a second line of defense. Shower after use, it tastes terrible.
Check your condoms for breaks. Water is the easiest way. Fill it up under the sink, look for leaks. No break, should be no worry. Hole? Consider buying plan b.
Last, go google "ovulation cycle" if you don't already know what fertile means and when you are. You want to know when eggs are popping up during your cycle so you know when the greatest danger is.
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I feel the need to point out that while I'm happy to tell you what you need to have sex safely the intelligent and mature thing to do would be figure out birth control and wait until you're on it.
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You can see a doctor without your mom being there, since you're over 14.
It's good that you're using condoms but you should definitely get on some form of birth control. It's better to be safe than sorry.
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You don't have to go through mom and the family doctor to get on birth control. I dont' know if there are any medical issues for you, but I am sure Planned Parenthood could help you decide what is best for you. I would not rely on just a condom to not become pregnant. PP will see you at your age and it is confidential so the parents don't have to know. If you want a more carefree sex life without the worry, then the hormonal versions of shots, pills or Mirena IUD are choices. If you want carefree, non hormonal contraceptive, then the copper IUD is a good bet. It's worth looking into for the ease of mind.
Good luck dear
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In pratical terms, rather than ethical or moral then providing you use a condom and use them correctly and responsibly it's about the most reliable way to avoid unwanted pregnancy going. Glad to hear you both are agreed on the importance of the matter. They are not an additional protection, millions use them as a completely 'stand-alone' contraceptive method. After-sex pills would be an ideal fallback if or when a condom failed (meaning ripped, damaged or came off) at a bad moment. Or if you ended up having sex in a heated moment and hadn't got a condom. It does happen! Perhaps fear of pregnancy is making you a bit over-cautious and nervous? Condoms are extremely effective when used correctly. OK?
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By a Federal Law called HIPPA if you want birth control medication your doctor has to prescribe it. You mother does not have to know and your doctor cannot tell her that you asked for it and that it was prescribed.
In this law which is Heath Information Personal Privacy Act there is a section covering young people 14 years and older and their reproductive systems.
This law states that anyone 14 years of age and older may visit a doctor without parental permission or knowledge for anything related to their reproductive system and have total confidentiality.
What this means is any doctor you see in regard to any question or problem related to your reproductive system may not inform anyone of why you are being seen. Why you are being treated. What questions you may have asked without expressed written permission to do so. To release any information without permission could place the doctor or the staff in prison for up to 5 years.
Under HIPPA regulations you can have birth control medication if you want it. All you need to do is see your doctor or go to any family planning clinic. The HIPPA regulation also means mom can no longer be in the exam room with you any time a doctor is going to do any type of a female examination. All you need say to the doctor if mom is with you is that you invoke your rights under HIPPA and mom will be asked to wait in the waiting room.
Your parents or anyone else cannot be told of any visit to any doctor for any examination of your reproductive system. If you have a pregnancy test done it is between you and the doctor. If it is positive it stays between you and your doctor. You parents have not say in what you chose to do and you cannot be forced to have an abortion.
Congress did not write this clause to give young people license to have sex. They did so because many young people are afraid to go to their parents when something is wrong with their reproductive system or they have a question. This clause allows then to seek help or get proper answers to their question. As a byproduct of the clause you are able to get birth control.
Your parents health insurance will pay for these visits and a parent cannot have the visits refused by the insurance company. In fact at 16 you should be carrying an insurance card with you as you are old enough to need this should you be injured away from home.
As for the plan "B" pill. The only time to take that is if you think you may become pregnant from having unprotected sex. If the boy is wearing the condom correctly the condom is 85% effective in preventing pregnancy.
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