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blackmailed by my close friend
hi im 14 a close friend of mine who is a boy stole a nude picture of me and started black mailing me and im scared to tll my parents please i need advice
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Hi,
This is a very tough situation. I know that this will be difficult, but you absolutely NEED to tell a trusted adult as soon as possible. If you are from the United States of America, that boy can get into a serious amount of trouble for distributing child porn. I know it is going to be very uncomfortable to tell your parents, but it is in your best interest, believe me.
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I back up all adviceman said. I could see only one more thing holding you back from telling your parents, the guilty feeling of having nude photos of yourself and why you even did so in the first place.
Yes, lots of parents may react negatively, I mean is their child and its' hard for them to make the transition in their minds of their little kid is now growing into a women.
In case you think perhaps they'd see the fact that you have nude pics of yourself as bizarre behavior...actually hon, it really isn't. Participating in sexting, taking nude shots of yourself on cell and texting to a boyfriend is wrong. But all you say is you had nude photos.
At your age and long before, all my 3 daughters went thru a phase of enjoying the fact that they were becoming women and a favorite activity was to get their sisters or girlfriends to take photos of themselves by at first secretly borrowing my sexy clothing, stuffing their bras to look fuller and taking lots of sexy poses with makeup and hair done. When I discovered this, I supported them, told them the only thing wrong was not having asked to use my clothes. I then got out all my cutest dresses and let them have at it. They never took nude photos of themselves but what you had was just a step away, likely done for the same reasons and it is perfectly normal and harmless as the photos taken with digital camera were all kept at home. I still treasure them, they were real good at capturing themselves in good poses. So save this response for your parents in case they freak and let them see how I feel about this and many other moms I talked to for whom this was also considered a normal thing. The difference for the older generations is we didn't have digital cameras or cell phones to do the same thing at our age so easily or we would have. Let them see what adviceman answered also as they need to know the legal ramifications. THis can not go unaddressed. You need their support to take action as your parents and file reports against this kid through the police. Again, you have nothing to be embarassed about, what you did is normal behavior for a teen girl your age and the fact that this boy stole the photo from you is plain old wrong not to mention what he is threatening to do with it. So tell your mom immediately. Good luck and I'd like to hear back how everything turns out for you dear.
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You do two things, three if this is happening at school.
1. This boy is not only blackmailing you he is in possession of child pornography, the nude picture and your are under age. I can bet the blackmail is he wants you to do something most likely sexual with him or his is threatening to post the picture. This is sexual harassment and distribution of child pornography.
Because he is threatening to distribute and is in possession of child pornography has committed has 3 felonies. This is a police matter and you should call the police.
Child pornography is a very serious matter and his age will not protect him. Do not threaten him with police action for you can never be certain he will delete and destroy the picture. You call the police and file charges.
2. while you do not need your parents permission to file charges you do need to tell your parents. You have done nothing wrong. There is nothing wrong with you having nude pictures of yourself. Your parents may not like the fact that you have them and if they are not selfies they may want to know who took them. But as far as doing anything wrong or illegal, NO you have not.
3. If this boy is threatening you in school then you also need to advise the school authorities of his actions. If you file police charges he would most likely be suspended pending the outcome. If he has done any harassment at school he will most likely be expelled that is how serious this is.
Do not feel sorry for him, you have done nothing wrong and by filing charges you are sending a message to him and any other boys who think they are safe and can harass other girls this way. They cannot, the law does not give them protection for their age and their are many prosecutors who have charged boys as young as 14 as adults for doing just what is being done to you.
So call the police and tell your parents. TODAY.
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