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is she gonna answer
i work with this lady got her number on thursday tuesday is gonna be a week its gonna be that day that is she gonna pick up the phone so if she doest pick the phone should a wait a week to call back self-confidence.discipline.challenge is the key
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Lots of people will second guess anything in life, even someone asking for their phone number and may still not take that as the person having interest in them. This happens to girls too who ask guys for their number.
To be honest, once people start mulling it over in their mind without asking any questions on their mind, like "Why did you want my number?" they are not going to have the answer and find they aren't sure if the person is genuinely interested in getting to know you as well or if they don't know how to say know if they aren't attracted to you and just hand out their number and hope you dont call. Now if you had been asked why you want the number and you said because you are interested in her, then she'd have had confirmation right up front. Then maybe, she's grown up learning that the man should always make the first move which in todays society is not the case anymore but we stick with what we learned growing up.
So you can't expect her to automatically call you or even want to. In this case you'll have to make the move. YOu've made the first move by asking for her number but as I said, people today don't seem to take that as a sign of a possible interest in them so you'll also have to make the second move. Most women are initially not attracted to men lacking self confidence but there are many who do like the more quiet, sensitive man who is a home-body so you don't have to become the extreme social person, only confident enough for your real self to show through so she is attracted to you for you only.
So the real question is the step before calling her. I don't know how great your ability is to visualize, but I have an exercise for you to do. But you must do it, as silly as it may seem to you, it works. In my late forties after a divorce, I was wondering if any guy would be interested in me and read somewhere about borrowing self confidence from a famous person until your own has had a chance to establish it self. So I did an experiment. Instead of trying at first to get someone to notice the whole me, I went for trying to get people to notice my eyes.
I thought of an actress whom I felt had sexy alluring eyes who was even older than me. Then I imagined myself to be her, looking like her, placing that picture in my mind of me having her whole looks and doing this just before stepping out of my home, my car, into a building. And the results staggered me Sir. I am not kidding when I say I began to get people both women and men who were strangers to me, telling me that I had the most beautiful eyes. Some times I wasn't even wearing makeup so I was flabbergasted. I did not expect such success. And it continued long after I stopped doing the visualization exercise which I believe I did for only a full month, which is about the amount of time to replace a bad habit and establish a new one.
My eyes had not changed, so what exactly where these people noticig that others hadn;t before I did the visualization? Self confidence which isn't a tangible thing you can see and hear but people have built in radars that their subconscious minds use to pick up on things that can be sensed. It is what people sense that is just as important in getting them to notice you. While my looks are not going to appeal to every man on the planet, I dont need all to find me attractive, just a selective few for whom their taste runs in my particular looks. But if self confidence is lacking, even those few won't automatically notice you or be drawn to want to get to know you. If you try talking to her and she doesn't respond favorably at first, give yourself more time until you see yourself getting a more positive response from other people as well.
So choose a celeb you admire, another man you view as being sauve, self confident, handsome. Pick your best feature whether that be your hair, nose, your body shape and then choose a celeb who also has a great body shape, or nose, but it doesn't matter if it doesnt look like yours. All your doing is tricking your subconscious mind into gaining some self confidence. Then picture yourself lookly exactly like him, not at all like you several times a day. If you do this daily, you will begin to see a response in other people. You being male, I don't think other males will compliment you but you'll begin to see strange women who don't know you, staring at you in public, trying to watch you or the bolder ones giving you appreciative glances. THIS means it is working. Eventually some may make some comments even other female co workers like, "I don't know what it is but there seems to be something different about you lately." Or perhaps a simple, "Hey, looking good today John!" This is what you want, people noticing you. It means they've picked up on sensing the confidence. At some point, you automatically forget to do the visualization anymore because you realize you now have your own. good luck with that.
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