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My swimming class has only women in it. Should I still take it?
I am 22 year old guy finally deciding to take a swimming lesson. I went on Saturday and the class looks to have only women in it so I will be the only guy. They all look in their 30s and maybe some younger but still older than me. I called my mom and said I can't go and to cancel the lesson. She said she will if I really want to. Is this a valid concern or am I worried over nothing?
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Sounds like someone is a little concerned that he may be caught doing something "girly" or female no??
not to pick on you at all here but usually these types of thoughts are based on the idea that the person thinks its not something thats "suitable" or appropriate to their gender. This could not be further from the truth. Takeing swimming lessons could save your life, and i think that covers all genders lol. so you needant be concerned with that. usually these classes arent that long and itll all be over with soon so after your done youll never have to tell anyone you dont want to know about it or if there was "a bunch of women" in the class cause they'll never know. ; )
this is about your safety not how many women are taking the class.
youll be fine.
; )
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If it was a womens only swim lesson and they made an exception to take you, I can see it feeling awkward but if its open to all, then it shouldn't be weird, just a fluke that this time around there just aren't other guys taking swim lessons.
The age of other students shouldn't prevent you from taking a class. I know a man who was 69 at the time I talked to him and he was taking classes at a community college to learn something new and so the majority of students were all in their 20s and a few in their thirties. I also know a women who recently went back to school and got her counseling degree and has a good job. She's in her late 40's compared to kids just out of high school or a bit older, who were studying the same thing.
When it comes to wanting to learn something new, it shouldn't be looked at as strictly a social venue. Yes, may you get a chance to chat with some of the women there. If you don't want to, don't. But they are all there for the same reason, to learn. I don't think the women took the class hoping to use it as a way to find eligible men. If you took the class hoping to find a girlfriend and thats your only reason, not learning to swim being the reason, then you shouldn't have signed up in the first place. But if you truly want to learn to swim, you're in the right place. It shouldn't be odd to be younger than most women there. There are quite a number of guys your age who actually like having older women for girlfriends, my husband being an example of that in his younger days. At your age he was consistantly dating women already once divorced who were in their thirties, maybe 40 who only wanted a boyfriend, not another marriage commitment, never again on that. They wanted to remain single so it worked out great for him and for the women.
At 22, I do wonder why you couldn't cancel your own lesson and had to call mom and ask her to do so. Perhaps the real issue here is a self confidence issue or social anxiety? I hope you understand how I can come to that conclusion by what I read from you, not that the intention is to pick on you. Even if mom was nice enough to have paid for your class and was the one to sign up, that doesnt' mean as the actual swim class participant that you can't cancel the class, just to let you know. So in the end to answer your exact question, is yours a valid concern that the other class participants are all female and older than you, No. thats not valid in itself and to worry over just that is not necessary. Howeever if it continues to bother you, you can take the easy way out and keep avoiding things in life that make you feel uncomfortable or be determined to get checked out and see if there are some hidden factors in you that might be the contributing cause making you feel this way to begin with.
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Unless you are of the Muslim faith and seeing women in bathing attire would be against your religion. I see no reason why you should not take the class.
You say they are 10 years older than you and some maybe younger. If you're 20 and maybe there is a 24 or 25 year old single woman taking the class this would be a great way to meet someone you might like to date. My mother in-law was five years older than my father in-law. There is nothing wrong with a male dating a woman a few years older than himself.
Short answer: There should not be anything to be awkward about. You all have a common goal. Go enjoy the class and learn to swim so you can have a great summer at the beach or lake.
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What are you worried about?
Look, you are all adult human beings. There is nothing wrong with learning to swim together. Nothing. At all. That is perfectly normal and healthy and it's great to want to learn to swim!
So what are you worried about? You haven't actually told us what your concern is - if it's just that they happen to be women, then no, that's not valid. Half of the pollution on the planet is women, that's not a reason to not do something cool with your time, like take swimming lessons.
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