This is really embarrassing & I'm not totally sure how I can describe this, but I'll give it a shot. There's something wrong with the small patch of skin between my breasts. It's gross. I'm not quite sure how to describe it but I suppose the best way I can put this is that is basically looks dirty. it's darker than any of the rest of my torso (& no, it doesn't just appear that way because of a shadow or tan). It's even kind of almost wrinkly-looking. It's NOT dirty because due to this issue, if anything, I scrub that area harder & pay more attention to it than the rest of my entire body when I shower, but it's been the same way for years now. It's really embarrassing; mind you, I don't even have to wear something slutty for it to show -- I have to make sure any top I wear shows NO cleavage, because even if you could see just the very top, it looks gross. Kind of the way that area would look on a much older woman or one with larger boobs, but I'm young & only a B-cup, so I don't understand what this could be... does anyone know what it could be? Or what I could do about it? (Scrubbing and exfoliating does NOTHING).
As you might be able to guess, it's kind of hard to ask about this because of the area, it's embarrassing, I can't exactly show you any pictures, & needless to say, Googling "dirty cleavage" wouldn't bring up the results I would hope for. :/ (link)
This could be a number of issues. My best advice is to see a doctor. It could be some sort of treatable skin issue, such as an allergy or pigment problem. So seeing a doctor would be helpful. Don't be embarrassed - doctors are medically trained professionals who have more boobs than you an imagine, and have seen much worse than this. So definitely see a doctor.
In the mean time, darker skin can sometimes be a cause of a lack of Vitamin K. You can take supplements, or have dark leafy greens such as kale, which are good sources. Google "vitamin k sources" for more.
Hope I helped! :)
so I bought my fist glasse and I was wearing it in school only when I was at grade 6|
and now I got more blind so I should wear it all the day ,but when I wear it all the day my eye
I have wrinkles under my eye and it's black (grey)
and I decied to have eye sugrey to fix my eye vision when I finished my education
but the question is will those wrinkles will gone by time when I don't use the glasse again
sorry about this bad English :).I am 16 (link)
They probably won't go, but you may wish to see a doctor if you are really worried, because it may be a skin condition. Eye glasses don't usually lead to this. You may be allergic to the metal, or they may be too tight, or sometimes, dark circles are a sign of an allergy to air pollution. So a trip to the doctors won't hurt.
Here are some things you can do in the meantime though, to help with general dark circles and wrinkles:
-Drink plenty of water. This will hydrate your skin.
-Get cotton pads, and pop them in cold milk. Then, shake off the excess, and put them on your eyes as you die down. This will help. You can also do used teabags (cold), cucumber, and cotton pads dipped in rose water
-Use an eye cream specifically for eyes
-Wear sunglasses/use sun lotion
-Eat a healthy diet of plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables, but also fatty fish.
There are tonnes more tips on line. Just google "dark eyes and wrinkles" .
Hope I helped!
So, im 20 f and my boyfriend is 21 m|
My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 2 years. I love him the death. Recently i havent been happy. He moved out of his house and money has been a huge issue. I do EVERYTHING for him. i do the dishes, i do his laundry, i clean everything, i mostly pay for A LOT. i understand he doesnt have money because hes paying for rent and tv etc. but i dont have the money either figuring im only a waitress. i pay for a lot of grocies and anytime we go out, i mostly pay.. So i was kinda getting fed up with it figuring i want to be his girlfriend not his mom. Our realtionship was PERFECT before he moved out. So since i was unhappy i wanted to tell him how i felt. i went to his house, he couldnt give me the time to sit down and talk about things, i started off as im tired of worrying about him before i worry about myself. I hate how i feel guilty going out because he is on his own for dinner. He got mad and walked away..so now im sitting here on the couch about to leave because i came over to talk. So i went to leave and he was like your really going to leave? and i was like yeah, i dont understand why you are being so cold. i honestly think we need a break from each other so we can appericate our time more. His response was honestly, i just dont want to see you at all. (that HURT my feelings so bad!) so i was like well if you change your mind, call me. This was the other day. Legit i have been crying my eyes out im depressed, he wont answer my texts. i dont know what to do. i feel like if i was ready to move on i wouldnt feel like this. did i make the right decision? i dont know what to do. i dont want to move on and im not even thinking about being with other people. i dont know what to do :( i am so regretting telling him my feelings. what hurt the most too, was when i left he didnt even run after me. didnt even want to save our realtionship i feel as if it was on a thread and he just cut it off... any response to this? thanks (link)
I think you should give him time.
It was the best thing to do, to speak to him and explain how you felt. A relationship is about being equals. You should both be allowed to express how you feel.
He was hurt, but maybe mostly embarrassed.
You should both be allowed to communicate with each other, without the other blowing up.
But like I said, just give him some time to think. He is probably hurting as well , and is contemplating what to say or do.
However, did you mean what you said regarding taking a break? If you didn't, then maybe you should contact him*. If you did, then maybe it is time for you to both take some time to do your own thing.
*If you do want to contact him, write him a nice email/facebook message/letter. Explain to him how you have been feeling. Tell him exactly why you did what you did. Don't sugar coat it. Explain that you didn't mean what you said (only if you didn't mean it), and that it would be really nice to meet up for a drink when he's free.
Let him mull over what you are saying. Don't keep texting him.
But you should keep in mind, that if he meant that he didn't want to see you again, then you may need to start the getting over him process. Keep yourself busy, go out with friends, and meet new people. It won't be easy. But don't make excuses. It's going to take time, and it may be very hard. But again, just keep yourself busy.
Hi! i dont have a serious problem, but i'd really like someone's opinions on this.|
I've always become the third party for my friends. Whenever one of my friends hang out with their boyfriends, they will always bring me along. It is okay if it is just one of them, but i've had this problem with nearly all of my friends, i greatly dislike this.
I dont mind hanging out with them, since i do get along well with the boyfriends (im a girl, btw) but it always happens like this. they invite me, pick me up from my house, insist i come, then ignore me the whole way through to be all lovey dovey towards each other.
i have never given the impression that im upset if they don't invite me or complained that i dont go out alot (i prefer staying at home actually). in fact, i berate them for always making me the third party, often jokingly so they may not take me seriously.
i just dont understand why a lot of my girlfriends go out of their way to invite me to hang out with them and their boyfriends alone, when they much prefer to spend their time alone. it's seriously AWKWARD for me.
*sorry, i am ranting because this has happened soooo many times and with different set of couples.* (link)
Well it could be because they THINK you may feel left out and lonely. They make think, that you get the impression that they are doing things without you.
It may also be because they don't feel comfortable alone with their boyfriends, especially if you are all young.
It may also be for someone to be there, so they have someone to speak to.
What should you do? Speak to them! Nothing serious is required her, but just a "You know, I've always wondered, wouldn't the two of you rather be alone? I don't want to intrude, or feel awkward or anything" or something similar.
Just let them know that you don't mind if they do things with their boyfriends. Say that you don't mind going, but surely they would want to be alone?
Speaking to them is the only way to solve it. Either that, or you could out right refuse to go. But then, you'd never really know why then always ask you, and they may get offended.
About 10 months ago I started seeing this guy. We had a "thing" for awhile and eventually started dating. We were only together for a couple months. He didnt treat me very well and actually did alot of really douchey things. I was really upset one night and brokeup with him in a text message. That was about 8 months ago. This guy is a huge jerk. He's extremely full of himself, he isn't very attractive, and he doesn't have very many friends. But for some reason I can't seem to get over him. No matter what I do I can't stop thinking about him and when I see facebook poasts about him and his new girlfriend it hurts so much. I know I shouldn't want to be with him but I cant help how I feel. I also have to see him frequently because we go to the same highschool. I don't know how to get over him. It's been 8 minths since we broke up and I still can't get over him. Any advice on how to get over him would help. Thanks! (link)
There is really only one way to get over someone.
That is to keep yourself busy, and meet new people. Well, two really. But they need to be done together.
Keep yourself busy by doing what you enjoy, i.e. hobbies. Read, exercise, write, take up a sport, study, etc. This will keep your mind off him.
Secondly, go out and meet new people. Spend time with your friends and family. Go to parties, clubs (night clubs and social clubs), etc. Make new friends. Eventually, you will find someone else. Someone who is much better.
But that can't happen unless you get over him. So do it. It won't be easy, and it'll take him. But it can be done!
There was this boy I've been crushing on for a time now and one day, my friend gave a note to him asking if he liked me. She didn't include that I liked him though. She just wrote a note asking if I liked him. She told me when he received it, he smiled blushed a little and ripped the note up. Does he like me? (link)
Honestly, there is no way for us to know. He could have ripped it up because he didn't want to say "no" or because he was too embarrassed to say "yes" or because he was too busy.
Just speak to him. Say hi. Ask how he's been. Talk about school. Then he may be a bit more relaxed in asking you out. Otherwise, you ask him if he wants to join you and your friends in watching a movie, or getting a bite to eat, etc. Do a friend thing, as it will be more relaxed, and it sounds like you're quite young too.
I desperately need $500 by September 8. I have applied for multiple loans at Banks and Credit Unions and I don't qualify for them. |
I can't afford the quick loan places cuz their interest is too high and Ive heard horror stories about how they rip you off.
I have already sold and pawned everything I can :'( That was really hard but I am desperate.
I don't have a car to sell.
What should I do?
I do have awesome credit and could probably qualify for a credit card. But I know nothing about them. What's the best and safest credit card? Where do I go to get one? Are their specific qualifications? And is there a way to get a safe one without going to a bank or credit union? What do you all think of Visa Credit Cards?
Is there something better that I can do to get the money fast?
The two things I refuse to do are: Sell sex and Apply for welfare or any other kind poor people program. (Nothing against those who do it).
PLEASE H5LP!!! (link)
If you have good credit, then a credit card may be a sensible idea.
But if you don't qualify for a loan, then you may struggle with a credit card. But it is worth trying.
It depends on where you live. Not only country, but state. I suggest you approach your bank, and ask if they do credit cards. But also research online. Check banks, visa, mastercard, etc, etc, etc. Just google "credit cards" and you'll get tonnes of info.
You want to make sure that whatever card you have, it's the lowest possible interest. So call around to various companies, and ask them what interest rate you will be charged.
The interest is of course, the amount they charge you for your outstanding amount. They charge you this usually every month on whatever is left. You then have to pay a MINIMUM amount every month. Of course, it is in their interest that you don't pay it all back at once, because that is how they make their money.
But before you do, ensure you can afford a credit card. Will you be able to make the payments?
And what do you need the money for? Can you ask them if you can pay it slowly, or can they give you extra time? Try to reason with them.
In short, search around. Loads of companies will offer you a credit card. But the key is to find the lowest interest. So start searching now, so you have enough time for the application, and for checking each ones fine print and details. Also be sure you can afford it, and try to reason with who you want to pay.
I have a past that would make anyone ashamed. I have done things that I am not proud of.I have had things done to me that I don't feel comfortable even writing down. My son was taken off me when he was a baby. (He is 2 now). My actions put me in hospital for nearly almost 6 months. I almost died. I wish I had. It would have been so much easier. I have changed though and I don't want to make the same mistakes as before. I want to be a good mum and be part of his life again. My family keep bringing up the past and throwing it in my face. They don't realise that this is starting to tip me over the edge. Is there any way that we can move on from the past and I can get forgivness for the past? I need to be forgiven or I cannot be at peace with myself. How do I show them that I have changed and want to be a better person? X (link)
The best way to show them you've changed, is to SHOW them you've changed. Let them see the difference. Be a good mother, a good member of society.
Talk to them also. Explain that you have changed, and that you're trying to start fresh. But with them bringing up the past all the time, it is very difficult. Do it calmly, and do it in person (away from the child. Don't let the children be caught up in situations like this).
Speaking to them will do wonders. It may seem uncomfortable and awkward. But it will certainly be worth it.
First of all, I am a desperate woman people.
You have no idea of the high level of desperation i find myself in. If I post this, there is a dangerously high chance someone will recognize it and know that its about me. If I dont I might actually go ape on myself. Yes, I am now fiercely camouflaging my actual doubt and desperation with humor.
About two years ago I found the love of my life. He is my first love, my first boyfriend, and I love him deerly. Let this be known, LOVE HIM -very important detail for rest of story-.
Even though I am a very socially flawed person and I probably should talk to a professional for various reasons, he wanted me to be his first girlfriend. Note that we are not in high-school so its all a little more serious than puppylove. Despite my flaws, I would describe myself as a loyal friend, who tends to neglect herself a little bit when it comes to friends and family. People have taking advantage of that, I've been bullied a lot at school blablabla insecure yadiyadah you get the point. - this may seem very much but trust me it is poignant - I have a very good relationship with my dad who had me at 57. He's been married 3 times before my mom and has been cheated on by all previous wives and I have wished them dead on more than one occasion for that.
One day my boyfriends best friend threw a new years bash at her place. There was a fancy dress code involved and I reluctantly pressed myself into a dress and heels and tried to look well..presentable. As I mentioned I am socially awkward and I get nervous around new people. For some insane reason I decided a little wine (or vodka, tequila and maybe some malibu) was a good way to get loose and socialize. There was this one guy - yep, here we go! - who I thought was always nice to me, treated me like I was used to being treated before I got a boyfriend, as one of the guys. So I generally talked with him and goofed around a bit. Now, at this point I was a little drunk. I do not remember a thing about this but people told me afterwards that I was getting emotional so I had to go outside for a bit. He, allegedly, followed me outside and the bastard tried to kiss me while my boyfriend, HIS best friend, was inside!
I really dont remember this, from the bottom of my heart, theres nothing whatsoever in my brain that says: hey, you did this.
But he got caught by someone, who then told him not to hit on his best friends girlfriend and that he was being an arse for trying to kiss a drunk girl (this is aalll hear-say, I really dont know anything about this). Strangely though, it did not occur to him to HELP ME GET SOBER or TELL ME TO GO HOME. But this is something that I would have done. Not everyone gives a fuck (yes, I blame this guy a little bit too). My boyfriend was oblivious to all this as he, too, was intoxicated greatly. I guess I managed to get a grip and ask him to bring me home crying and sobbing and mascara-ing all over his shirt. I remember a toilet - him holding my hair - and being put to bed.
This is my memory so far. Nothing more. Had it been more, I would have told you (this to avoid questions).
The guy who tried to kiss me at the party followed us, because he was tired too. This, in my state, I did not realize. My boyfriend still didnt know he tried to grope me at the party, so naturally he left a little aggravated about my drunken behavior, and went back to the party. I fell into a coma only to wake up with someone on top of me feeling me up. I, still drunk as hell as it was probably a 2hour coma, made the stupid assumption that it was my boyfriend. Naturally I started doing a little touchy feely kissy of my own only to come to the conclusion that it was not my boyfriend, but that it was that gross perv of a best friend of his trying to sex me. I dont know why, had I not been drunk I am SURE, SURE SURE, I would have performed a very nasty castration. But I wasnt. And so I just laughed. Laughed it off. He told me things like that he was hot for me, and he wanted me blahblahblah. I just laughed and asked him what he was doing and why he was doing it and i remember just being very casual about it. As if he had just dropped a mug during a hurricane or something, it just didnt seem like a big deal. More like hilarious? I dont get myself on this. One thing I remember very distinctly though: that I REALLY wanted my boyfriend to come home at that point. I called him and he came home, found me happy and bouncy and I have no clue why I was. I just was. There's another gap as to what happened between calling him and him coming home. I was happy to see him, and I wanted to hold him and go back to sleep.
The next morning I had THE biggest WTF moment anyone ever had on this earth. I didnt know what happened I just knew something bad happened and it involved my boyfriends best friend. Who was freaking sleeping in the room. I really didnt have to think about telling my boyfriend or not, I knew I had to. It was a horrible moment. Before I had even mentioned his best friends name I could see in his eyes that he knew exactly what had happened. Turns out that guy always had been a big pervy arsehole. He just gets away with it. When he woke up he acted, or not I dont know, like he was surprised and he couldn't remember a thing. He uttered some apologies and another friend who was there also advised him to leave. When everyone was gone it was disastrous. I was crying, he was crying hysterically. You do not want to hear a guy cry like that, trust me. My heart broke into a thousand pieces because I knew I was responsible for it. He believed me without question though, and for that I am so thankful.
I felt so guilty, I really hated myself for drinking that much. I knew that if I hadnt, this wouldnt have happened. I would never do something like this, its just not in my capacity. His friends all think im a slut, probably. Even though its been so long I still feel so bad. I really dont want to ever meet this guy. And I didn't have to until a few weeks ago, when I heard he's going to be at a party I really wanted to go to with my boyfriend at a friends house. I cant really talk to anyone, I tried one time with a friend of his but she totally fucked me over on that and now I'm just afraid to bring it up. Meanwhile, my boyfriend still hangs out with this dude as he is "part of the click". He did tell me that he prefers not to be alone with him, and that he would never invite him to any social event he hosts. I believe him, though it took me some time as I could never, ever forgive someone for pulling shit like that. At this party, I know my boyfriend is going to be civil, or worse, nice with this guy. For the group. If I go, I will probably have to sit there and see people be nice to this kid, my boyfriend joking around with him. I dont think I can handle that. Its just wrong. I have been deserted by friends I had for a loooong time for a LOT less. Why is that little shit still being accepted?
Bottom line: is this considered, and this word makes me cringe, something like rape? Involuntary sexual encounter? Or whatever? Have I done something to instigate this? I’ve been invisible to most guys all my life. I don’t know what flirting is, hence the conclusion that I must be too socially inept to grasp these basic forms of communication. My boyfriend seems to be completely over it. He loves me, he tells me all the time. I’m good to him. But whenever there’s a party invite, I have to ask him: Is..HE coming? And whenever this occurs I re-live all of the drama. I have nightmares again, I cant sleep. I feel horrible. I just feel all this guilt. Could it be that I have done something unfaithful but just cant remember it? It seems so unlikely. Im really starting to doubt myself. I don’t feel like the person I was before, like suddenly Im just like the girl that your mom tells you to stay away from. Because I feel like an asshole, I start to neglect myself even more in the relationship, with little things. Paying for his drinks, movies and stuff while I really don’t have the means for it. But I do. Because I feel I have to. I’m sorry its so long, I guess I had a little venting to do also..I’ll probably regret posting this at one point, but some genuine input would be greatly appreciated. (link)
I have one issue with this question, "...because I knew I was responsible for it".
That part. I don't know why you're blaming yourself. Well, I think I do. Is it because you were so drunk, you're not sure if you led him on, or said "yes" or whatever?
Regardless, this is not your fault. When he tried to kiss you, you said no. THAT was when he should have gotten the message. That may be excusable. It certainly was not moral behavior, but maybe somehow he got the impression that you wanted to kiss him. Like I remember watching a movie once. The girl was drunk. She leans in, guy things she wants to kiss, but instead she vomits all over him. HILARIOUS!
But back to the serious business. When you woke up, and you found him on top of you, that WAS rape. You had already told him that you didn't want to kiss him. Instead, he was on top of you. And you had passed out.
Even if before you passed out, you said "yes" to sex (or fooling around. And I doubt you did), if you woke up with him on top of you AGAIN, it's still rape. He has to get consent every time.
But more technically, what was he doing with you? Because different countries class rape as different things. Some only see it as rape if the mans penis enters the vagina without consent. Others see if it any body part enters.
But it's clear he was TRYING to rape you. He was taking advantage of your state.
Now regarding your boyfriend, I'm not so sure why he is relaxed about seeing him. Maybe it's because he thought you were over it (because you were bouncy afterwards?). Either way, you should speak to him and tell him how you feel. It is not completely outrageous for you to ask him not to speak to him. If it hurts you to see him being friendly with the fellow, then tell him.
What should you do now? Well I suggest calling RAINN - a free, anonymous hotline for victims of rape. They will be able to speak to you personally, and give you advice. If you're uncomfortable, then it looks like they also have an online chat system, which is pretty useful.
Here is a link to the site: http://apps.rainn.org/ohl-bridge/
and their number: 1-800-656-HOPE
I suggest you contact them as soon as possible!
Now, my final thoughts. You shouldn't blame yourself. So often, the victim of rape is blamed. Like, if a girl is dressed showing "skin", and she is raped. People sometimes say "the girl should't have been showing skin..." ....THE HELL IS THAT?! Why shouldn't the girl wear what she wants?! Surely it's the CRIMINAL who should be punished, not the victim. And what is worse, is when the woman isn't believed. Every case of rape should be FULLY investigated.
But I think you should stop blaming yourself. The fellow is clearly a jerk, and that's not your fault.
Good luck, and I hope I helped! :)
heya, well im female im 18 and im currently studying ... basically im so tired of being single i wanna be in love , want someone to love me truly..|
im sick of waiting :/
maybe i sound too desperate but its how i feel , feel as if i aint happy that someone is mossing in my life.
dunna what to do :/ (link)
You should try to meet new people. Go out and do things you enjoy. You will meet new friends, and you will hopefully find a good partner for yourself.
It's as simple as that.
there is this guy i see from time to time over the last few months at first he would come by me all the time and look at me but never say anything then a few weeks ago he came up to and made some small talk with but it wasnt a long conversation i was surprised by it now when i see him he will say hi but the rest of the time he comes by he just stares at me without saying anything what is up with that and what should I do the next time i see him looking at me? (link)
It sounds like he has a crush on you! He also sounds quite shy. So my advice? Next time you see him looking at you, go over. Introduce yourself properly, and just make small talk. This will help him feel relaxed, and if he likes you, he will be more likely to ask you out (or you could ask him out) as he is relaxed.
hi. I use tampons and my bf has fingered me before so my cherry is deffinately popped but im wondering if having sex for the fisrt time will hurt. hes fingered me with 3 fingers before because i kinda like it rough and that does hurt but i like it so will sex feel the same??? (link)
It may hurt. Be sure to engage in foreplay, i.e. fingering etc, before sex. This will relax your body, and prepare it.
Use a condom, as it will prevent pregnancy, and also help the penis enter better. Use a lubricant also.
If you are fingered, the opening will be stretched enough to allow the penis to enter comfortably. But it may still hurt. Like I say, just relax.
I want to use a face primer to make my face less shiny and to help keep my makeup from coming off during the day. What is a good face primer to use? (link)
Here is a review of 12 face primers:
my body itchy me and there are red pimples (link)
You should see a doctor. It could be a skin infection or an allergy, or something even worse.
So, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and when he was working, he paid for some of my bills. He quit his job about a year ago due to the stress of the job and hasn't been able to find another one since. Since then I've been paying for his bills including his car insurance, internet, and phone. People often tell me that I shouldn't, or at least should cancel the insurance and internet. |
I feel like it's a loyalty thing. He paid for some of my bills when I wasn't working so isn't it the right thing to do the same for him?
Also, when I talk to him about it he gets upset because it's more stress that he can't find work, and feels that things will be tougher for us if I cancel some of the stuff or don't pay for it.
Any ideas as to what I should do? Should I keep paying his bills or is that wrong? Well, let me know what you guys think, and also what might be a good way to work this stuff out. Thanks! (link)
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Surely, he can re-start his insurance if and when he gets a job?
And how far does he live from the library/you? Do you have a computer that he can borrow to do job applications? Can't he move closer to local amenities? Or walk? Abraham Lincoln walked 4 hours just to get to school, so it's not completely unrealistic.
What I'm trying to say is, when you're unemployed, you have to make sacrifices. When you're employed again, sure, go crazy. Spend it all if you must (of course a ludicrous idea, but possible). But until then, you have to tighten your belt. The whole world is doing it. It may be hard, but its something that is necessary.
Well, this is tricky. Can you afford to pay his bills? Could he afford to pay your bills when he did? If you can't afford it, then you simply shouldn't.
And why can he not find a job? Has he tried collecting cans? Has he applied at McDonalds or KFC? They're always hiring. They're not the most glamorous jobs, but when you have responsibilities, not job is 'not good enough'.
And why does he get stressed if you simply speak to him? He's stressed IN work, and he's stressed OUT of work? Is he always stressed? He may need to see a doctor.
And why does he need a car if he doesn't work? Cars, Internet - these are luxuries. It may not seem like it in the 21st century, but you can actually live without these things. Tell him to use the library computers, and use public transport. If you can't pay your bills, then you don't need these things.
And how, POSSIBLY would things be tougher if you cancelled things? Surely it would be less of a burden. Unless that is, he NEEDS the internet to survive. In which case, there is a serious problem there straight away.
My advice? Stop paying the bills. It sounds like he is making excuses and freeloading. Don't get me wrong: I've been through that long period of unemployment. I know it can be demoralizing and hard to find work. But this "stress" of not having the internet seems bogus.
Speak to him. You are not obliged to do anything. If you can't afford, or are struggling with his payments, then you have to ask him to cut down.
But try to speak to him rationally about it. Without the whole "boohoo, If you cut my internet then our relationship will become strained and I'll become more stressed". Tell him to read a book whilst taking the bus.
Good luck, I hope I helped!
P.S. let me know how it goes? :)
Hi, I am in an interratial relationship and it's proven more that once to be a hard one. Not becuase of the race difference as such but the challenge is in the type. He is Indian and they are known for their jealousy and infidility. The one I am dating, well, I am not sure if he is just being that,a hypocrite, narsisitic, selfish or a womanizer or all in one. He pretends to be something he is not with other women, yet back home he will be abusive, mentally and thank goodness for long now not physically. He drinks only over weekends and then all is said, he admits he makes me feel small, provokes me, say things to hurt me but it is to keep me on my toes. He has met 3 women,he chats on a social site with another 20, he sent nude pics, they sms and call. He accuses me of doing the same. He is allowed to make assumptions but not me. I am not allowed to chat on social sites with other men. When we go out he watches me like a hawk and will say men talk to me to get to me. I am not cheap or easy. I told him I am stronger than him because I allow him to control me while I pretend not to know all his scemes, vain excuses and pretentious ways. I know this is one of those pack your bag and dump the duchebag situations. I do love him though. He knows and admits that he uses me at times and preys on my kindness. He is manipulating and controlling but I know and see all this. When I tell him who and what he is he gets angry. When he picks a fight like now I know it's because he did something wrong and wants to fight and put the attention and blame on me for what he did. I know he won't change, I give him the benefit of the doubt and he knows that. He demands trust and honesty but he lies about things, hide them and acts dumb when confronted when I do find out. How do I handle this man? How do I make him see that I am not the enemy but he is. All I do is be good, be quiet, be faithful and loyal...he does not say thanks you or please. Today he told me to take my words, make them into a stick and go f... myself. He does not even bother to buy chips or juice or do anything I want to do, yet he will offer ,then the offer turns into options, then the options turn into he's preference and then we do what he wants to do. He wants me to tone my legs and get my body into shape but he never give me any support or comfort in any situation, like the two miscarriages I had. He was having a phone fling during the first one by the way. I am just so confused, I read up as much as I can about his personality but it seems he has too many. He does whatever he wants too but I am not allowed to do what he does yet he accuses me of it...thank you for reading me out.|
"I know this is one of those pack your bag and dump the duchebag situations"
You've hit the nail on the head there, my dear. So, the inevitable question is, What's taking you so long?
Usually, I will go into the detail of why this person is not right for you. But you have already done that for me. You've picked out all of his bad qualities, and so it's clear you're not blinded by love.
Do you watch Judge Judy? She has a saying, "Don't try to teach a pig to sing. It doesn't work, and it annoys the pig". I.E. Don't try to change someone. They won't change. I hear of people going into a relationship, wanting to change their partner. They think that they have the ability to do that. They don't.
Why would you waste time on trying to change someone to your image, when you can find someone who fits your criteria, and tops it? Why stay with a jerk, when there is someone out there who will love you for you, and cherish you?
I don't know. Maybe it's this "love" thing. You must be a saint to love him. But it's clear he doesn't love you. He may say he does, or you may think it. But that isn't love.
So what now? Speak to him. Tell him how you feel. Then, if he doesn't listen, leave.
That is your only option. And even then, I'm not sure about the speaking to him. If you've already explained how you feel to him and it hasn't worked, then it won't work again. So your only option may be to leave. Leave while you can. One day, he may get physically abusive. Then it will be too late to leave. Saying that, you may leave: in a stretcher. Do you want to see that? Of course not.
So don't hesitate. Don't put off talking to him.
I'm an 125 lbs 11 year old. I'm 5 ft 7 inches. How can I loss weight? I want to be slimmer before school or at least on the road to be. I don't want to be skinny but just a healthy weight. Help! (link)
You're very young to be worrying about your weight.
You shouldn't diet, or do strenuous exercise, because you are still growing. Your body needs nutrients, and you shouldn't starve your body of what it needs.
But you should still be healthy. Remember, avoid fatty, sugary, junk foods. Eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables. Don't forget protein and healthy carbs too. And do plenty of exercise. Remember, around 30minutes a day. Take a walk, walk the dog, run, jog, skip, play sport, etc.
But yes. Be healthy (common sense), but don't do anything dangerous!
I was just wondering, how much looking would be considered over the top in a realtionship? Because my boyfriend is very attentive to the way other girls look physically. He told me he likes to "appreciate". At first i was like, he's a guy. Obviously he is going to look. But he was full out staring at all the girls in their bikinis when we went on vacation together. I love him with every aching bone in my body, and I know he would never ever cheat or do anything to hurt me. But the way he stares like that can be really suggestive sometimes and might give the wrong idea. He recently went off to college and he has been making a lot of friends that are girls, and i just asked him how much looking he actually does and he told me openly that he does it a lot. We are best friends as well, which is why he tells me all these things haha. But i still can't help but feel like it's a slap in the face to my self esteem. It's not like he would ever do anything, all he does is look. But sometimes he even does it in front of me and i have to admit, it really hurts. Sometimes he'll even talk about it, which is kind of worse in a way. I understand he's comfortable with me, as i am with him. But even though were close doesn't mean i want to hear everything. Some things are better left unsaid.
I just need opinions on whether what he's doing is over the top or not. Thankyou! (link)
How much is over the top? As soon as it starts to bother you.
There is no scale. Sometimes, it bothers people. Sometimes, it doesn't.
But if it bothers you, then speak to him about it. Communication is key, and although it sounds like an awkward prospect, it has to be done.
Just sit him down, and explain how it makes you feel.
17/f. I've always been attracted to girls, for as long as I can remember... But I never realized it was sexual until I became a teenager. I have never acted on these feelings. I think I'm finally ready now... But how do I find other girls like me? |
How will I know what to do once I do? (link)
This is really difficult, because it depends on how comfortable you are with your sexuality.
If you are open about it, and have told friends, you can ask them if they know anyone. Do you have any friends that have said that may be curious?
One good way for adults is gay bars/clubs. Either that or dating sites. But bars/clubs are usually people just looking for sex (both straight and gay), and online dating can be a bit risky, especially if you are meeting them.
But the best way is just to take up hobbies you enjoy. You will meet people who have similar interests, and of course make new friends. Then, eventually, you may meet someone.
When you find someone, just ask them if they would like to go out. You will be able to sense it, if it's right. It is of course difficult to know whether you are out as friends, or on a date. But that's something you just pick up through experience, the atmosphere, and language.
Good luck :)
I am from India.
I am 40 years old and have 3 kids.
I am in deep love with a girl who is also married. I love her so deeply.
Our relationship has been very close and we have had sex very often.
I very sincerely love her to the extend that if she talks with a young male or shares a laugh with a guy I am very much annoyed
I am quite sure that I am wrong. I know very well that she doesnt belong to me. One day or other we have to depart.
But I cant forget and cant give up her for anything. She is my collegue in our office.
I have been deeply loving her for 1 year. Now she realises that she is wrong and she believes in sentiments and she thinks that if she continues our relationship god will punish us by doing something bad for her kid. She too has a daughter.
But I can never forget her. But my inner consiousness says that if our relationship continues, then it is too difficult for us to get seperated.
So I very badly need an advice (link)
The only thing you can do is go cold turkey.
Don't speak to each other. Don't meet. Avoid each other.
You are both married. You both have families. If you really want to be together, then you have to leave your respective partners. And you have to deal with divorces, and make arrangements for children.
Keep that in mind, every time you are tempted.
But you just have to go through it. Discuss it with each other: how you will avoid each other.
But that's all you can do. Take lunch at different times and placed. Keep to your own circles of friends. Delete the numbers from your phones.