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My boyfriend currently has a smooth black leather bifold wallet. I'd like to buy him a new wallet but I'm not sure if I have to buy one identical to his old one. What do you think? He will also be going for important job interviews. Is a brown leather wallet too casual?

Thanks! (link)
A brown wallet seems like an excellent idea. That means he has one wallet of each colour. The brown goes well with a navy, or gray suit. The black with blacks, gray, and navy. But if he was wearing brow shoes with his blue suit, then the brown wallet will be the obvious choice.

It also depends on the condition of his wallet now. Is it worn and time to throw it away? If so, then maybe another black wallet is best, as it's more versatile. But if his current wallet is fine, then getting him a brown one will give him the option of which to use.

My everyday wallet is brown. It's amazing, and versatile, and I work in a professional environment. So a brown wallet is generally okay for any type of atmosphere.

P.s. Bi Fold is usually always the best option, so try to stick to that.

So Valentines Day is coming up. I'm starting to think of some ideas of what to do for my boyfriend. I was thinking the usual kind of thing like candy and a card, and some other little things a long with it. Then I saw the cute idea of the 52 reasons why I love you on a deck of cards.
I'm not sure what else or if there is anything better to do for him. I googled a little but not much was that great.
Any ideas would be appreciated.
We've been together for over a year if that helps. (link)
I always feel these types of occasions call for something personal and from the heart. So why not get a shoe box, or something similar. Decorate it how you will.

Fill it with all sorts of personal stuff. Things like:

- The 52 reasons I love you thing
- His favourite music on a CD
- Your songs, e.g. the music on your first date/dance, etc.
- His favourite candy bar/drink/etc
- A sample of his favourite Eau de toilette
- Cheap DVD of what you two enjoy watching
- A little time-map of where you both began and where you are now, e.g. at 4 months you said I love you, at 7 months we did this, etc.
- Photo's of the two of you, made into a little book, or in a frame.
- Things referring to personal jokes you have going on
- Home baked cookies/brownies/etc
- A home made card/or a shop bought one (I usually spend a bit of extra money on a nice shop bought card, especially as the whole gift is already home made

As you can see, the list is endless. Just think about it, and fill it with tissue paper, and little things that'll remind him just how amazing you are!

Good luck :)

Hi there, my friend said you gave them good advice so I wondered if you could help me?

Basically, there is the guy I really like, we get on really well - I consider him to be my best friend - but I'm afraid to tell him how I really feel as I dont want to ruin our friendship. Yet, I feel he might like me back. But then again, he might just see me as a friend. I'm not sure what to do, should I risk it and tell him how I feel, or just leave it so I dont make things awkward?
This is risky. Obviously, the problem is whether he does, or doesn't like you. Do you have a general idea, as to whether he likes you? Any clues? Any hints?

And how close friends are you? If you occasionally see each other, it's won't be as bad as if you see each other every day.

Saying that, I think the best option is to say how you feel. And then, if he doesn't want to take things forward, stress that you still want to be friends. But don't just say it. Still be sure, and make sure you remain friendly.

But brace yourself. You may not (or may, even) hear what you want. Not because he does not like you, but maybe he feels the same as you - maybe he doesn't want to ruin a good friendship. That can be just as risky.

Good luck, and hope I helped :)

anyone post here or link me to the lyrics of do it better by philthy rich ?
thank youu (: (link),mod=4&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Im 14 years old and from and a girl have unofficially started dating.she told me that she would give me a handjob and blowjob if i want but i have a 4" erect penis and a tight foreskin which i can only retract about a centimeter or maybe two scared she will laugh or tell people about my penis and will pull the foreskin too far far back does the foredkin go during blowjobs?anyway i really want to do this but am i too small or will my tight foreskin get in the way?thans for your help;) (link)
Hello. Here is some help:

1. Don't tell her how you feel. 14 Year olds are immature, and she is unlikely to take it seriously, even though it is

2. You shouldn't rush into these things. You're only 14. You have plenty of time to be an adult.

3. 4 inches is not a problem. No size is a problem, because there is nothing you can do to help it. It's just something you have to embrace, and accept. You may have not developed fully also, as you are still a child in puberty.

4. In regards to your foreskin, you should try retracting it a little every day, whilst in the shower. This is because the hot water, moisture, and heat will soften the skin, making it more elastic. It is then much easier to retract it. Do it as far as is comfortable, everyday until you can fully retract it.

5. If this fails, you may wish to see a doctor.

How can I call 911??I am a Pakistani and I am in a big danger.I am 12.Please help me.Please.......... (link)
What country are you in?

Just pick up the phone, and dial:

911 - USA
999 - UK
112 - Pakistan, as well as many other countries.

See this article to see which countries use 112 as their emergency number:

18/f. I've stumbled upon somebody talking about guy and girl friendships. I read it and I disagree, due to personal experience, of course. I have two best guy friends. I hang out with the one more than the other but I can talk to the other about everything. I'm told all the time that I will wind up dating one of them. Some say that about the first guy, some say that about the second guy but everybody and I mean EVERYBODY thinks that I will date at least one of my guy best friends.

Anyway, the saying is "A guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point, they will fall for each other.. maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe to late or maybe forever."

The gist of this is basically: what do you think about this saying? Can guys and girls be just friends? Why? Why not? (link)
Many of my best friends are girls. Weirdly, they became my friends because I was once attracted to them, and wanted to pursue something 'romantic'. Then, once we got talking and got to know each other, we just became really good friends.

I too had the whole "are you two going out?" and "you two will get married to each other by 30, I'm sure of it" thing.

But I think guys and girls can be friends without there being anything there. I cannot possibly ever imagine being anything more than friends with one of my female friends. Not anymore, anyway. There's no particular reason - she's attractive, and is generally a nice person. It would just be odd though.

Sometimes it's easy for people to say things like "they can't be just friends" if they've never been in such a relationship, or if they've never experienced something like that. But once you've been in that situation, you can see why it is possible.

So in conclusion, I think men and women/boys and girls, can be friends with one another without romantic feelings taking over at any point. Maybe romantic feelings will be the reason why they are friends in the first place, but can you really count that? Because it was before they became friends.

For a few months now I've been unable to click the buttons list on Youtube:

-Thumbs up/down buttons on both video and comments
-Share button
-Add to button
-My channel button on the upper right (UNLESS I'm on the Youtube homepage. If I'm at someone else's channel or video I can't click on my channel without first going to the homepage.
Comments section, I can't click the box, it will not allow me to type any comment in any video.

I want to say these problems started when Youtube changed it's layout to that terrible new one a few months back but I'm not entirely sure. I just know this problem has been going on for at least 3 months.
I ignored it at first and thought it would go away but my patience is at it's limit. I tried contacting Youtube about a month ago but (shocker) they haven't responded.

I use Google Chrome as my default browser and I'm not willing to change it. My flash is also up to date, I update it every time I get the notification so I would this if the flash was the problem, it would be fixed by now. Can anybody help please?

I don't have any clicking issues like this on any other website, just Youtube. (link)
Have you tried using another browser to see if it is a browser issue? I too, use Chrome, and so I understand why you wouldn't want to switch. But see if it works with Firefox, Opera, or most likely Internet Explorer. Then, at least you know if it's a browser issue or not.

Apart from that, I can't be of any more use to you.

can i bleed again during sex after losing virgine. (link)
when you "pop the cherry" or break your hymen you do bleed. some more than others but it is supposed to be very little with some minor pain.

I've been dating this guy for nearly a year and a half. We have a great relationship. But what really bugs me is his mother. Now,I'm not stuck up or arrogant or whatever,but almost every adult I met says I'm a genius. I'm a graduate of Medical school and aiming to be a doctor someday. I'm one of the best students in my school. So yeah,I've got brains. And I've been recognized for that. But she,his mother,is the only one who thinks otherwise. Not just that,she never misses any opportunity to indirectly insult me. In a way that I can't exactly call an insult,but it's still pretty obvious. I'm really good at pretty much anything I set my mind to. And if I don't know something,it's because it doesn't interest me. Yet she always implies that I'm uneducated. She never even finished college and is unemployed,so if she's so educated and all,why didn't she? I have NEVER done anything to cause this behaviour of hers. If anything,I have always been really nice to her. What is her problem? Maybe someone can explain to me,because I just don't understand. (link)

Often, this is almost just jealousy from the mother. If your boyfriend has been close with his mother, or if she 'mothers' him, she may think you're 'taking him away from her', and that you're 'not good enough'. That's because often, no one will be good enough for her baby. You can try a few things:

1. Speak to your boyfriend, and see if he's noticed it. Is this just the way she behaves? What does he think you should do?

2. Speak to her. This will be awkward, but it may be necessary. Be careful though - if it gets unpleasant, your boyfriend may feel the need to choose between you two.

3. Spend some quality time with her. Get her to like you by doing things you both enjoy. Go out to lunch. Go shopping. Go watch a film. Something, where just the two of you can spend time together, talk, and just relax. Maybe, she will say something about how she feels.

But yes, they are the 3 obvious choices for you. I think the 3rd is the best.

Good luck!

could you please temme that? itll really help me in appriaching a guy who is 5 11. plleasse? where do you reach him? (link)
I don't understand your question. What do you mean, "reach" your boyfriend?

I'm 15/f.
I want my ears gauged,but my parents will say no if I ask them.
I'm thinking about doing it anyways,since I know how to do it.
How do I get my parents to agree,and let me gauge my ears? (link)
They won't agree.

The reason they are not letting you get your ears gauged is not because they want to be mean, or because they just don't understand what is cool. They're doing it because they know what is in your best interest. And having a huge hole in your ear, that flops every time you move, from the ages of 15-83 is not in your best interest.

It's not very professional looking. You will struggle to find a respectable job with that type of thing in your ear. It's a shame, maybe. All people should be treated the same, irrespective of the way they look. But in the real world, it's not like that.

So don't get it done. If at 18, or 21 you still want to, do it. It's won't be the best of ideas, but you'll be old enough to do what you want. So wait until then.


Why are thirteen year olds allowed to use this site when over 50% of the questions are to do with sex and intimate sides of peoples relationships.
Sureley it's not right that someone who's 13 (or in some cases younger) is exposed to the kind of stuff you read on here at such a young age.

Seeing as it's not fair to not help these people when advice givers like myself have been up to now, I think the age limit should be increased, cos it's not fair kids learn about that kinds stuff off of strangers on here. Does anyone agree? :) (link)
umm fuck no. okay, kids as young as like 3rd grade know all the shit about sex. this is a soght for advice. the ONLY way you can see sex questions is if YOU look them up.n13 year olds ALREADY know about sex. i dont knowwhat effin generation ur living in, but at age 9, they know bout dis shit. there isnt nothing we can do about that. ok? 13 is a teenager, so geez. when do you expect your kids to learn about sex? 30?? i think 13 is actually reasonable, or if anything, late. i think this site should be open to anyone who has access to it, because some people have questions that they might not feel comphertable talking to their families about. or someone in their family. it is much easier to talk to someone who doesnt know you, and you dont know them.

Ok. I'm Male/17. And today my friends were being D-bags. And because of this I ended up setting up a movie date this Friday. I don't even know this girl much, I met her today. She's kinda cute etc. So how can I make sure it goes well? I don't want any weird/awkward feeling. Plus I've never really been on a date before. (link)
do all the things that ali022 said and girls love it after a date; a kiss on the cheek.

ok i am a teenage girl and me and this guy have been making out, he was my first kiss, and i even noticed that i am a bad kisser. we have had like three make out sessions but i still cant get the hang of it. he is much taller than me and that might be some of the problem, but what can i do to improve my make out ability's in general? (link)
you can practice on a mirror, or you both could sit down and you could ask him how bad you u sucked and if hes got pointers, get a friends advice, or a friend to “help” out. or something along those lines

12, F

Hi! So today I opened my legs and then a fart just came out.. Up front! It keeps happening everytime I open my legs!! Please help, I'm scared! Is there something wrong with me?? Does it have something to do with me not starting my period yet?! (link)
no. you are completely normal. off period or on period. its called a queef. not sure if thats how you spell it. but thats how its pronounced. and you cant stop it, but a suggestion would to be not to open your legs? but youre normal. (:

I take 30-20 minute showers for some reason. All I do is wash and condition my hair, wash the rest of me, rinse and get out. Nothing else. Do you have any ideas so I can take a shorter one? (I'm 12 by the way) (link)
Well, do you wash and condition your hair everyday? If you have long hair, it takes much more time to wash your hair because there's so much of it. You could wash it every other day, and keep your hair in a shower cap whilst washing. It also gives your hair time to recover.

Also, time your self and see how you could cut the time. Do you spend time just standing in the water when you don't have to? Maybe this is a way you could cut time.

But the best thing to do it to time yourself, and see where you waste time. Then try to cut it out.

Hope I helped :)

How accurate is that? She can't be over 50 in the film and she goes to Italy and buys a villa (which I'm sure you can do) but then she stays there and she never goes back to the USA. I have not found anywhere in the world that you can just go to and stay indefinitely, it's always like 90 days max unless you have a visa, and she didn't have a workers visa or anything. So how is something like this possible or is it pure theatrics, because I read that it was based off of a book where a woman actually did this, but I don't know how old the woman was, but either way, even if she was of retirement age, wouldn't she have to come back to the US at least ever 6 months? I mean, I know that it could have been just for the sake of telling the story without interrupting to go back and forth to the US, but I'd like to know if it's accurate. Can you do that the same way she did it somehow? After all she does say in the film, "I can't go back to San Francisco". Thank you. (link)
I should start by telling you that I've never seen this movie.

But often in movies, they don't show the whole process of getting a visa. Why would you want to see this? It's boring and long winded and unnecessary.

There are some other things to keep in mind. If she has nationality of an EU country, she can move and live freely within the EU, which Italy is a member of.

But the most likely thing, is that it was just for pure theatrics. The tiny details aren't worth thinking about

I wash, condition and oil my hair. But everyday my hair is dry and my scalp is sore and has dandruff. I use tea tree oil, carrot oil, morrocan oil, I don't think I use to much, I don't know why my scalp is like this. I'm african american and I'm transitioning from relaxed to natural hair. My hair is currently in braids. Should I put oil in my hair everyday or something?

I don't wash and condition my hair everyday (link)
It seems like you're doing all the right things.

If you wash your hair everyday, you also wash out the natural oils that make your hair and scalp soft. Hair oil products are very good, especially hot oil products (they're really just warm).

Because of this, it may be something like an internal chemical or hormonal thing. I had bad dandruff for a while and went to see a doctor. He prescribed me this oil based thick cream. It smelt and looked disgusting. I tried it though, and it worked. I was also given a prescription shampoo, which also helped.

A friend had *terrible* dandruff, and went to see a doctor. He was told he had too much testosterone, and this was the reason for his problem. Again, he was given a shampoo and it worked.

So basically, see a doctor!

Good luck!

I posted this picture of this girl with "semen" on her face on twitter to get her to contact me so I could find out if she was still doing things with my babys father because she kept ignoring me and no one would tell me the truth. She called me begged me to take it down and pretty much acted like we were cool and friends not actually hating eachother.
a couple of weeks later her friend is blasting me on facebook about the situation and my babys father threatened to post the pic again and she deleted everything and messaged us apologizing. that incident upset me but I let it go.
Then my friend ends up seeing her at school and feels she is mean mugging her (looking at her weird) and she said i saw your friend J today mean mugging
I replied you should of pulled the pic out on that ass or something to that effect and then I was like na but why didnt you text me this? were supposed to be cool but she be trippin.
I honestly knew she tweet watched me and she would be reading but didn't mention it
next thing I know she is texting my phone all crazy talking about fighting and she can talk to me however she wants cause i'm disrespecting her
and i tell her she is talking to the wrong person
and she misintrepted it saying oh i'm so scared of you
I was basically being nice and she was being really rude I left that conversation feeling really played and tried so the next day I reposted the picture
Now I am 19 years old and she text me saying come meet me somewhere so i can whoop your has
I already told her there was no reason to fight and I wasn't going to
I left the pics up next day her mom is calling my babys fathers mom and their both upset
his mom is telling me I need to take it down it isn't god like, all of this stuff and that her mom wants to contact my parents
I feel my parents have nothing to do with this so I want her mom to know she can talk to me
she tells me this is grown folks business I need to take it down there will be legal ramifications not letting me speak thinking she knows me saying i'm 18 but I not an adult.
I'm definitely 19.
Long story short I don't want to take it down, can I be sued? The picture is not a nude it is only of her face with white stuff on it she is smiling I found it in my babys fathers phone and sent it to my phone and my friends. And do you think I should take it down or not? (link)
I'm not a legal expert, but I'm pretty sure you can get into serious trouble for posting that. It's embarrassing, and not nice, and she can claim damages.

And why would you do something so stupid anyway? Do you seriously need to know WHETHER to should take the picture down?! Of course you should! You already have a child - you shouldn't behave like one. It's not a good example to set.

Take the picture down, apologize, make peace with this girl, and live an easy a life as possible.

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