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im 27 years old mother of 2 kids why do i get angry
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probably because you are 27 and have 2 kids??? You are very young to have two kids, and therefore it might frustrate you.


I have a friend I've know for about a year. I was attracted to him instantly. But I didn't think he liked because I don't seem like his type and he doesn't seem like the relationship type. So I tried to get over my feelings. But then last night I had a dream that we out with 2 of mutual friends and when they weren't around he kissed me on the lips and we started making out and then when they came back we stopped right away so we wouldn't get caught. What do u think it means? (link)
They always say that whatever happens in a dream, wont happen in real life. You ever have those dreams of lets say, a close relative dying? Yeah, it normally means that it wont happen in reality. So, you get the message. But then again, anything can happen, and thats only what people say.


theres this guy in my school hes gr 11 and im gr 9
beginning of the year i had a bf and we had to break up cause he was going back to his country. but than after he went i realized that i actually love this guy . we talked only twice on facebook :(
i know he doesnt like me
my classmate is hanging out with him but my classmate is such a bitch . me and him we used to be friends but than we fought and now we have it each other obviously
in school he keeps screaming sayin bitch and all when the guy i love is beside him :( i know he doesnt love me what should i dooooooooo :( (link)
What? Who calls who a bitch? Be more clear please. From what you've wrote it sounds like you called a guy a bitch and he be screaming bitch at you?


ok i have to know whats it like to get your first kiss???? (link)
Im sure you will think its disgusting at first. I felt the same way when i had mine, but you will learn to like it. Honestly, at first, (since it is your first time ever) it literally feels like you are pressing your lips against a sponge. It feels really wet and it surprises you of how wet it is. Thats pretty much it.


Making out with my boyfriend is romantic and nice and all, but I'd like to know what can really drive him crazy and have him itching for more action. Any suggestions on what to do during? (link)
What I always loved when my girlfriend (past tense) was when she sat me on the couch and got on top of me, with her bare legs around me. It always got the heat rising. Also, sometimes i would put her up on the kitchen counter and make out, with her legs wrapped around me. Or i pushed her up against the wall. It dealt a little pain and discomfort, but sometimes thats a hot thing. What else you could try doing is with only your underwear, sit on top of his (you know) and lean back to kiss him with your fingers on his cheek. That always got to me when my old gf did it :)
Those are some things you can try, but dont make it become a habit, if you know what i mean.


are cigars addictive like cigerattes? are they AS addictive? will one have me hooked? thanks (link)
cigars are usually not addictive and normally dont do harm because you dont inhale any smoke. You just puff on it, and blow it out. The reason why Cigarettes are addictive is because they have nicotine in them, and when you inhale, you get addicted to that nicotine.
Cigars are not addictive... In fact, once you have one, you wont want another one. It just doesnt work like that, since the smoke on cigars burns your mouth for a short moment. But in general, i have never heard "quit cigars" ads... So smoking cigars is pretty okay.


so i know this is a dumb reason...but my boyfriend broke up with me. I really need something to do to keep my mind off things. I have a part time job and im taking a summer class..I'm staying in town where my college is, and I don't know too many people who are staying around here...any ideas of things to do? i know this is also dumb...but where are good places to meet people my age..about 21..but not at a bar? (link)
The gym. Best place to get over a breakup, and also make yourself feel better. Not only are you getting excercise, but you are surrounded by toned, fit, beautiful people who you can all meet. And plus the gym is always packed, so you never feel like you are alone.
You can also go to a park. If you live in a big city, there are parks where people go and relax and enjoy the weather. There are people there, but mostly old people.
Or if you have a local starbucks around, there are always college students there drinking coffee and trying to study. You can easily meet people there, buy them coffee, have a chat with them, and even study with them.
Overall, i think you're best bet to meet guys, is at the gym. But for friends, go to starbucks, or just let it come to you. There is no really specific place, you generally just meet people along the way. Hope I helped!


i havent liked a guy in 3yrs it there something wrong with me ..... thelast guy i liked was in the 8th grade. (link)
Personally, i give you props.
I am a guy, and i cant stop thinking of girls.
Its if great that you are so naturally able to not be distracted by the opposite sex, which means you are probably just not interested in guys at all. Which is what i am kinda jealous of. I wish i could be able to not think of girls at all, but its hard for some people.
you should not take this as a negative thing. If anything, it is a good thing since guys arent bringing you down or getting in the way. Focus on making yourself happy and concentrate on YOU, and in the future a guy will come to you, and he will be the right one.


18/f
I dated this one guy on and off through out high school. He was a little older then me. So, after my junior year, he went away to college, three hours away. He ended the relationship with me almost immediately after getting accepted into the art school. He met some other skank, and I was really upset about it. They broke up after about 2 months. I didn't talk to him at all. For about a year and a half. Then, randomly, he called me again. And it was like everything was the same. And then we talked on occasion after that, and then all of a sudden his friends and family started adding me on facebook...? people i really never even met.

When we talked, he told me he was thinking about me, and a lot of things reminded him of me. he talked about our past.

OH. and then like about a year ago, he called me accidentally and he was talking about me, and saying how he loved me. i didn't know if he had been drinking or what, so i just never said anything..

what does this mean? what should i do?

he is back for the summer, but i haven't really asked him to hang out, because i want him to ask me, and i just began talking to someone else & i don't know how to handle this. ? (link)
Hes probably using you as a rebound. Im a guy myself, and i could say that ive done the same thing. Not something i am proud of. But hey, thats how guys are. We are assholes.
From what i hear so far, this guy is not sure of what he wants, and i suggest you forgetting him, because he seems like he acts different and he drinks and goes to sluts, and you dont want a guy like that. And plus, from what ive learned, ive learned that relationships cant get back together if everything is the same. Has anything changed with him at all? Has he changed for the better? Has his feelings changed for you? If nothing has changed, then getting back together can't work, in my opinion. You need to move on.


If you have sex slot do you get tired of it? (link)
I'm a virgin, so i can't relate to your question. But I CAN relate to the psycology of it, because im good with that.
Its kinda like masturbating. Before you masturbate, you are horny. All the horniness builds up, and when you masturbate, it goes away and you dont think about sex anymore.
If you have sex alot, i dont think you woudl get tired of it. You wont think of it that much since you are doing it often and you wont have to worry about being sexually frustrated. Plus, you wont want it as much, but i dont think anyone could possibly get tired of sex. That isnt human. In my opinion.


17/f

its been a while since ive hung with guys. i mean i always use to hang out with them so much and use to flirt so much but my ex broke up with me last year and i didnt want to put in effort to talk to guys. so recently i met a cute guy and i dont want to be lame and flirt the wrong way. i already added him on facebook because i wanted to tag him in some pictures but my friend said i should chat with him but i am not that bold. i posted a comment on one of the pictures because i made fun of his combover but then i deleted it cause i didnt want him to think i was weird or a loser.

any good ideas of how i can flirt and seem cute? (link)
I'm 17/ male. And personally, what always gets my attention is when a girl is confident. She doesnt have to flirt, because honestly, most guys are not into that kind of stuff. Especially flirting alot, because guys take that as kind of slutty.
I suggest just be confident. We as guys are lazy assholes, and we dont really like making the first move, especially since we are kind of obligated to. My last GF got my attention good by flirting non stop, asking for my number, facebook comments, touching me, scratching my back, whispering in my ear, that kind of stuff. But I beg you, dont make this flirty thing become a habit because you dont want guys to think wrongly of you.


How do you show your girlfriend you wont mess up anymore an that she can trust you? (link)
You can't. If a girl doesnt trust you, she doesnt trust you. Girls are insane and never give second chances to guys who really want it. It's unfair, i know, but thats just the way the are. You should find another girl who will trust you and isnt such an unfair and immature bitch, because from ive heard so far, this chick wont give you a second chance. Therefore she needs to grow the fuck up and stop acting like miss queen B and start realising that its okay to let a guy love them. Truth.


Hi im 14 and im 30 weeks pregnant , due in about 5 weeks. My boyfriend dumped me when i found out so hes out of the picture. But this guy ive been seeing for 2 months now says he is fully commited to my baby and is willing to be a father. Should i trust him? (link)
What you should do is trying to figure out how the hell you are going to take care of the baby... You are 14 damn years old. Forget about the baby having a father, thats not important. Whats important is finding the baby PARENTS. And kid, as much as you wanna believe that you are mature enough to care for the baby, you are not. I dont wanna suggest anything too intense, but adoption would be good because you're placing an innocent child in the hands of caring people who are older and more intelligent. The baby will not live a normal life having a mother who has the same mindset as them.


I need some tips on how to quit smoking? (link)
Quitting smoking is one of the hardest things to do, but it is very much possible.
You are addicted to smoking. So, how to get rid of an addiction? Get addicted to something else, something better.
Start working out, this gets your mind off smoking, and it betters your health. Find another hobby and invest in it. Whenever you feel the need to smoke, take a jog around the neighbourhood.
Try smoking the electronic cigarette. Try nicotine patches. Or nicotine gum.
There are many ways to help, but in the end, it is all you... Good luck!


What is the best way for me to show my girl friend that she means the world to me and that i fully trust her and love her with all of my heart? (link)
Go to her and say "I love you."
If she dont believe that, then book it.


I dated this guy for 2 months. We weren't official, but he told me he never liked anyone as much as he liked me (he's 18), never found a girl like me, lost hope in relationships until he met me, etc. He gave me every compliment in the book. We had really deep conversations I was never able to have with ANYONE else.

But, excuse the expression, I was out of his league, on many levels, but I still really enjoyed spending time with him: texted him all the time, hung out with him on a regular basis, etc.

6 weeks into our dating, he says he's not ready for a relationship. I'm obviously confused, because HE has been pursuing/wooing ME all this time -- I'm out of his league, remember, so this is SO STUPID of him, since he almost had me -- but I'm okay and we're still as close. Exactly 1 week later he says, "I was so stupid, I know what I want now, I want you." I think about it for a week and tell him for sure I don't want a relationship.

We were still pretty close that week. I saw him a few days after and he's still the same as always, flirty, clingy, "you look so beautiful," etc.

FIVE DAYS LATER: He's official with another girl on facebook, a girl he's been friends with all along.

It was a week before I found out. He wasn't talkative during that week, but not unfriendly.

As soon as I found out, I stopped texting him. It was a d!ck move. Not exactly to me, but definitely to the new girl. She doesn't know me and probably doesn't know he had this two-month-long enrapture with me. And I feel like what we had is just cheapened. I wasn't expecting him to get into a relationship this quickly. Like, we hung out one-on-one a lot and obviously we can't do that anymore. That pisses me off, because we were so close, as friends, and he said he wanted to continue being like that, but now its gone.

Sticky situation is, we're co-workers. I haven't replied to any of his texts and have no desire to. But I'm not sure how to act towards him in work. Pretend nothing happened and be normal?, but I don't think he deserves that. Or just be civil upon contact? Or ignore him?

And why/how do you think he got with that other girl so fast?? I just don't understand. I'm shocked. He was SO into me, he told me so all the time. He said I was the only one who ever made him happy and that he wanted to recreate a world with just me in it. Then... new girl? Wtf???

I miss him as my friend. But I feel like nothing can be the same now. What should I do? :(
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We as guys are interesting creatures as well as girls are.
I am pretty sure that he never really liked you in the first place. Here is how you should know: when he talks to you, does he talk about casual stuff instead of deep stuff? Obviously only casual, because hes not that connected to you yet, and therefore can willingly leave you anytime and not feel guilt.
Guys lie, girls lie. Hes an 18 year-old guy, hes not ready. i mean, who is? At 18? Dont get me wrong, there are some people who want a long relationship whent they are 13! But from what i hear, this guy isnt that. He sounds like a ladies man. So if he can get all the girls, why do you think he would stay with you? Out of all people.
And dont be jealous, because most likely, he will treat his new girlfriend just as bad as he treated you, maybe even worse. It sounds like this guys isnt worth it and you should worry about having options instead of attaching yourself to someone and getting hurt in the end. Just think of guys as casual things. Im not saying become a slut, but you know? Just dont take guys so seriously next time. You wont have to be serious until you are in your mid 20s or late 20s.


I recently found my dad and he agreed to take a dna test. But then never has. Is there any laws or anything that will make him take the test? I have all his info. (link)
Take hair from his comb, make him seal and envelope with his tongue.


Me and my girlfriend want to have sex. I'm 17 and she's 18. How do we do it ? (link)
You take your penis and stick it into her vagina... But make sure you wear a condom, unless you want a child. Yep, seems pretty simple.


Sorry this is long...hope you like novels :P
I was going out with her for 9 months but it was the slowest relationship ever! We enjoyed each other’s company but we were so shy. We hardly ever went on dates and never got very far, it was a bit pathetic really. By the time we got to the point where we could have had a normal, awesome relationship she’d lost interest and we broke up a couple of months ago. Of course we said “we’ll still be friends” but that’s always just the nicest way of saying “I want to break up with you”. Stupidly I took this to mean that we both just wanted a break (that’s how I felt anyway) so it was pretty heart wrenching when she got a new boyfriend about a month ago. I’ve spent the last 2 months trying to get over her, forget her etc but I can’t seem to do it. I spend every moment at home trying to convince myself that it’s over, it’s for the best and I don’t love her anymore etc but as soon as I see her again at school that all goes out the window. I’m always daydreaming about her coming back to me or about how I could have done things better and stuff and then I realize how pathetic it is that I’m still doing this after 2 months, snap out of it and get really angry with myself. Then 10 minutes later I’m doing it again, it’s tearing me apart and becomes a huge distraction (I’m meant to be doing an art assignment right now :P) I love her but I guess I have 2 options:
a) use advice from you guys to move on (realistic)or
b) use advice from you guys to get her back (desired)
Thanks soo much :)
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Hey man, im a 17 year old guy, and i can say, ive recently went through THE SAME EXACT THING haha.
I went out with my gf for a month or two, and even though it was a short time, it was great. We connected and felt like we knew each other for years. But then, overnight, she transformed into a total biznatch.
What is so much worse is that i dont even know the real reason why she broke up with me, so its still a big mystery. And it happened a month ago, and im still not over it.
Im probably not the best guy to give you advice, since im searching for this advice myself lol. But what i can say is that jealousy is a total bitch, even worse than your ex-girlfriend.
It is MORE THAN normal to be jealous, you are human, and it shows that you still care for her.
As for trying to get her back, im sorry to say, you need to move on. Relationships dont get back unless there has something that has changed, and from what ive seen nothing has changed between you two. You gotta move on, man. Plenty of girls out there, especially in college:).
Getting over her? That is hard. YOu have to give it time. It wont take weeks, or even months. It might even take a whole year, but time will heal it, time heals everything.
Other things that can help is cutting off contact. Cause think about it, you can't quit smoking but at the same time still look at smoking and still be friends with smoking and still watch smoking and think of smoking. If you see her at school, take other routes so that you dont see her. If she is in one of your classes, ask the teacher if you can switch because you are distracted by her. Your teacher will definitely understand. If she has the same friends, avoid some of those friends for the time being. Make it so that you literally dont even see what she looks like in a week, or even to a month. Hey, im doing that right now with MY ex, and its working, im finally healing. BUt then again, she is always in the back of my head. But dude, you will get over it. You can find a girl whos 10x hotter and 10x nicer, she is out there somewhere...
You may think you love her, but i think you are just loving the pressence of a girl. Its not her that you love, its your desire for a girl to be around that you love. You are just remembering all of the good stuff. And next time you look back, look harder, and then you will know that she wasnt that special.
You cant let this chick slow you down. Occupy yourself. Find a parttime job to make some money and have satisfaction. Study more, get ahead in classes you are behind in. Invest in a new interest, habit. Start working out (That always helps for me:) And one thing you SHOULD NOT DO, NEVER DO: is to look sad when you are around her. That is the biggest mistake ever, because if you walk around her with your head down and looking all sad, she will only talk to you again out of pity, and you dont want that. IF you just happen to be around her, look nice, shave, dress nice, smile, laugh with your friends, that way, she will realise how handsome and great you were and she will possibly come back to you (not that i suggest it)
I hope i helped, and sorry this was long advice, its just that i can relate to you. And please, ask me anything, anytime man. Hang in there.


I'm the girl that cuts and thinks about suicide too often. I know there has to be something wrong with me mentally and that I need help. But I have no friends that I can trust, no one that even likes me. The teachers all look away whenever I come by. My parents are the type that are obsessed with image. If I tell them anything that could damage their image, they ignore it and pretend like it's not even there. So what do I do? I don't want to do it, but some days are harder to ignore than others. Who do I turn to? (link)
STOP CUTTING YOURSELF. IM BEING SERIOUS.
you are not being cute, you are not being funny, you are not going to get attention, so stop it. Im being blunt here, but inflicting pain on yourself is not only wrong, its inhumane, and you are stupid for doing it. Im telling you the truth, im not gonna lie to you and say that "its okay to express by killing yourself"
You have problems? You think so? Think about starving kids in Africa and people with AIDS in southeast Asia. THEY HAVE PROBLEMS. You think you have if bad? Get the hell over it.
Turn to a friend, a parent, a teacher, a counselor, your principal, a doctor, a psycologist. Anybody. There are billions of people in the world, pick one to help you and stop cutting yourself. Its not going to help.




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