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Hi! So today I opened my legs and then a fart just came out.. Up front! It keeps happening everytime I open my legs!! Please help, I'm scared! Is there something wrong with me?? Does it have something to do with me not starting my period yet?! (link)
no. you are completely normal. off period or on period. its called a queef. not sure if thats how you spell it. but thats how its pronounced. and you cant stop it, but a suggestion would to be not to open your legs? but youre normal. (:

I take 30-20 minute showers for some reason. All I do is wash and condition my hair, wash the rest of me, rinse and get out. Nothing else. Do you have any ideas so I can take a shorter one? (I'm 12 by the way) (link)
Well, do you wash and condition your hair everyday? If you have long hair, it takes much more time to wash your hair because there's so much of it. You could wash it every other day, and keep your hair in a shower cap whilst washing. It also gives your hair time to recover.

Also, time your self and see how you could cut the time. Do you spend time just standing in the water when you don't have to? Maybe this is a way you could cut time.

But the best thing to do it to time yourself, and see where you waste time. Then try to cut it out.

Hope I helped :)

How accurate is that? She can't be over 50 in the film and she goes to Italy and buys a villa (which I'm sure you can do) but then she stays there and she never goes back to the USA. I have not found anywhere in the world that you can just go to and stay indefinitely, it's always like 90 days max unless you have a visa, and she didn't have a workers visa or anything. So how is something like this possible or is it pure theatrics, because I read that it was based off of a book where a woman actually did this, but I don't know how old the woman was, but either way, even if she was of retirement age, wouldn't she have to come back to the US at least ever 6 months? I mean, I know that it could have been just for the sake of telling the story without interrupting to go back and forth to the US, but I'd like to know if it's accurate. Can you do that the same way she did it somehow? After all she does say in the film, "I can't go back to San Francisco". Thank you. (link)
I should start by telling you that I've never seen this movie.

But often in movies, they don't show the whole process of getting a visa. Why would you want to see this? It's boring and long winded and unnecessary.

There are some other things to keep in mind. If she has nationality of an EU country, she can move and live freely within the EU, which Italy is a member of.

But the most likely thing, is that it was just for pure theatrics. The tiny details aren't worth thinking about

I wash, condition and oil my hair. But everyday my hair is dry and my scalp is sore and has dandruff. I use tea tree oil, carrot oil, morrocan oil, I don't think I use to much, I don't know why my scalp is like this. I'm african american and I'm transitioning from relaxed to natural hair. My hair is currently in braids. Should I put oil in my hair everyday or something?

I don't wash and condition my hair everyday (link)
It seems like you're doing all the right things.

If you wash your hair everyday, you also wash out the natural oils that make your hair and scalp soft. Hair oil products are very good, especially hot oil products (they're really just warm).

Because of this, it may be something like an internal chemical or hormonal thing. I had bad dandruff for a while and went to see a doctor. He prescribed me this oil based thick cream. It smelt and looked disgusting. I tried it though, and it worked. I was also given a prescription shampoo, which also helped.

A friend had *terrible* dandruff, and went to see a doctor. He was told he had too much testosterone, and this was the reason for his problem. Again, he was given a shampoo and it worked.

So basically, see a doctor!

Good luck!

I posted this picture of this girl with "semen" on her face on twitter to get her to contact me so I could find out if she was still doing things with my babys father because she kept ignoring me and no one would tell me the truth. She called me begged me to take it down and pretty much acted like we were cool and friends not actually hating eachother.
a couple of weeks later her friend is blasting me on facebook about the situation and my babys father threatened to post the pic again and she deleted everything and messaged us apologizing. that incident upset me but I let it go.
Then my friend ends up seeing her at school and feels she is mean mugging her (looking at her weird) and she said i saw your friend J today mean mugging
I replied you should of pulled the pic out on that ass or something to that effect and then I was like na but why didnt you text me this? were supposed to be cool but she be trippin.
I honestly knew she tweet watched me and she would be reading but didn't mention it
next thing I know she is texting my phone all crazy talking about fighting and she can talk to me however she wants cause i'm disrespecting her
and i tell her she is talking to the wrong person
and she misintrepted it saying oh i'm so scared of you
I was basically being nice and she was being really rude I left that conversation feeling really played and tried so the next day I reposted the picture
Now I am 19 years old and she text me saying come meet me somewhere so i can whoop your has
I already told her there was no reason to fight and I wasn't going to
I left the pics up next day her mom is calling my babys fathers mom and their both upset
his mom is telling me I need to take it down it isn't god like, all of this stuff and that her mom wants to contact my parents
I feel my parents have nothing to do with this so I want her mom to know she can talk to me
she tells me this is grown folks business I need to take it down there will be legal ramifications not letting me speak thinking she knows me saying i'm 18 but I not an adult.
I'm definitely 19.
Long story short I don't want to take it down, can I be sued? The picture is not a nude it is only of her face with white stuff on it she is smiling I found it in my babys fathers phone and sent it to my phone and my friends. And do you think I should take it down or not? (link)
I'm not a legal expert, but I'm pretty sure you can get into serious trouble for posting that. It's embarrassing, and not nice, and she can claim damages.

And why would you do something so stupid anyway? Do you seriously need to know WHETHER to should take the picture down?! Of course you should! You already have a child - you shouldn't behave like one. It's not a good example to set.

Take the picture down, apologize, make peace with this girl, and live an easy a life as possible.

What's it mean when you nut blood? (link)
This is certainly not normal, and requires medical attention as soon as possible.

Visit your doctor (as embarrassing as it may seem) and get it checked out.

Hi i am a sophmore in highschool and i play on My JV school team. i shouldnt say im not good because i know i am bubjust a lot of girls are better than me and its intimidating. I dont know how to get better because i love soccer with all my heart. i recently quit my intertown team because i want t join a travel team, ive wanted to for two years now but im not sure how to go about it and im scared the girls on the team im trying out for will be much better than me and i will embarrass myself. I feel stuck, i just want to improve. On JV towards the end i started my coach put me on stopper, even though i am an offender, i play my best up front and i just want to be on a team how do i go about this without chickening out and being intimidated? (link)
I think the only thing I can advise you to do, is to practice. Practice makes perfect, and so if you think that you could improve, try to.

When you have free time, take a ball to a park with a few friends and have a kick around. In this situation, winning is not so important because it's all about having fun. So this means you can practice without feeling that you've let other players down.

Good luck!

I didn't drink anything and I am peeing a lot. Is this a symptom of a period soon. Thanks! (link)
It could really be anything. May I suggest a doctors visit? This will help to clear up anything that may be wrong.

if i will do sex with girl and i will insert my cock into her vagina.. so will i face some problem. will my girl friend face some pain in her body...?? (link)


Has anyone gotten stretch marks reduced? Like, the appearance?

I know it's physically impossible to remove them... but I know there are several options for getting them to look better.

And of course every place says their method is the best..... =/

What has worked for YOU or someone you know?

I had a growth spurt in my early teens and got them on my upper arms... and I'm tired of not being able to wear things I like now that my body is back to normal! (link)
There are some things you can do:

1. Exfoliate when washing, using a body polisher/loofah/exfoliating glove. This will get rid of the dead skin, and help new skin cells grow. This can reduce the appearance. Do it gently, in circular motions.

2. Moisturize. Palmers cocoa butter is great, because it contains vitamin E, which promotes skin cell growth. Any cocoa butter, however, will work great.

3. Bio-Oil is great. It's a pink-ish coloured oil. You only use a little, and you massage it in. It's made to help with stretch marks and scars. It's quite pricey, but like I said, you only use a little and so it lasts a while. And it totally works.

Good luck, and I hope I helped! :)

I have known my fiancé for about 4 years now, in that time he has become my other half, my light, love, and joy. Sadly he had to move away due to work and it has become harder and harder to even talk. I feel torn apart because I miss him so much and it doesn't feel like it used to anymore, dating and all. I trust him, and know he would never cheat. I'm not worried about that. I'm scared of the loneliness I feel every night without him. I don't think about other men, just him. But it tears my heart apart knowing I can't reach him as easily as before. I know I would rather be lonely then not have him at all but I also feel caged. What can I do to get over this sadness? I feel like I've been trying to avoid it but now it's bubbling up... (link)
Well, it really depends on how long he's been away. If he has moved away recently, these feelings are normal, and will eventually go away. If he's been gone a while, then it may be something else.

Either way, there is only one way to stop you feeling like this: keep yourself busy. Don't allow yourself to get bogged down with these thoughts alone. Spend time with, or make friends. Read a book, watch a movie, etc, etc. Eventually, these feelings will weaken. Of course you may always miss him until he returns - that's normal. All you can do is try to minimize this.

If it is harder to talk, try texting. You can't always have a telephone call all the time. But you can discreetly text. Don't over-do it though, because he will still have to work and may get in trouble for texting whilst at work.

Also put time aside everyday to talk to each other. This could be 30 minutes before bed. A simple telephone call will suffice, but Skype video calls are excellent to see each other. They are free to conduct, and easy to set up and use.

Finally, is it not an option for you to move closer? If not, regularly try to meet up during the weekend or so, to see each other.

Good luck! :)

Okay, so. I've just started having intercourse with a guy with a slightly shorter than average penis. I'm not very experienced when it comes to sex personally, so I am sort of clueless about this stuff. I love him and his penis, but I feel like he would maybe be more happy with his performance if we could work out some positions that work better than missionary.

So, which positions are advantageous for smaller guys? (link)
Doggy style and Cowgirl (girl on top, guy laying down on his back) are two of the best for less endowed gentlemen. Google more, or pick up a sex positions book.


Hey guys! Wondering if any twitter users on here wanna follow me ;) i follow back! cheers guys!! (link)
You are not asking for advice.

Using Advicenators for self promotion for your ego is vulgar, at best.

What do you think having more twitter followers will get you?

Stop worrying about getting followers, and just tweet quality, genuine stuff. That way, you will naturally build followers who are interested in what you have to say.

Is property business down in London/ UK and can I know the reason's behind it? I've a few plans in the future so I just want to know the current situation before getting into it.
London is one of the places that is immune from the property bubble bursting. When I say immune, I don't mean totally.

Like most of the world, when the financial crises hit, house prices went down. The UK is not as bad as say, Ireland or Portugal. But London is the best for property prices. When I say best, I mean it has the highest prices, and they're constantly rising.

Just this year, London prices increased by over 6%. In Northern Ireland however, they dropped by more than 12%.

The reason for property being so expensive in London, is because of various reasons:

1. It's the capital of the United Kingdom
2. It's the financial hub of the world. Loads of people work and live here.
3. Most importantly, there is a shortage of housing. Supply and demand is the reason for this. There is a high demand for housing here, and so prices are high. If more houses are created, then property values fall because the consumer has a choice.

So yes, there it is. Hope I helped :)

I just bought the fish less than a week ago from a pet store. It was in a tiny container, and then I moved it to my 1 gallon sized tank. I know it's better if the tank is bigger but tanks are expensive and I wouldn't have enough room in my dorm room. I've never owned a fish before, much less any animal, so I worry about my fish a lot.

The purple rocks are hermit crab gravel (which is anti ammonia), if that makes any difference. When I first bought the fish, the fins in the front (the reddest ones) were red, and the rest of the fish was blue, white, and purple. Then slowly I've noticed it develop the red on the fins and I'm starting to freak out. I've already changed the water once, and my friend told me that her fish is okay and she only changes the water once every 2 weeks, But I read online that when you have a smaller tank you have to change it more often.

I feed it 3 beta pellets a day and it's always enthusiastic to eat. and I would say it's moderately active, and it moves all around the fish tank, or stays in one spot (when it's sleeping, I guess?)

Could this color change be normal, or should I be worried? I checked the pH balance and it's at a normal range. I even used that water conditioner for my tap water, and even though I don't have a filter or heater, the temperature is in the 70s-80s where I live. At lowest it's in the 60s, but that's only at night, and my fish isn't near my window

I really hope I'm just overreacting, but if there are any problems, like ammonia poisoning, what could I do to fix it? Thanks so much, I'm already attached to my fish. If it died so quickly I don't know if I'd be able to have another fish again. Or do you think this fish is a goner and I should return my fish to the pet store? I have a 1 week store refund (link)
I'm certainly no expert, but according to online resources, it's perfectly normal for betta fish to change colour. They often turn red, or bright colours as they mature or when comfortable. They sometimes even instantly change colour.

But if you are worried, take it to the store you bought it from for advice. They are of course trained.

But have a read, to make sure it's nothing serious. I googled "Betta fish colour change" and loads of websites popped up with useful information.

Good luck!

I'm 25, and a girl - woman? Something. Because this may matter, I'm also 5'3" and about 117lbs. I'm a runner. I have essentially zero experience with dogs, as I've been afraid of them my whole life. A couple of years ago, I found something scarier, and my fear of dogs just... disappeared.
So, I know this dog. He belongs to my boyfriend, and I've taken him on walks and stuff. He listens to me, for the most part, but he's 2 years old, and VERY high energy for such a big dog.

Being in the field of psychology, I'm very aware at all times of what kind of energy I'm giving off. This dog picks up on vibes like crazy. If I calm down, so does the dog. If I get riled up, he does, too. If I'm upset, he noses my arm until I smile and pet him. What the heck is he gonna do when I'm giving off running energy?

Does anyone have any tips as far as getting him to keep pace next to me and not run after things like squirrels? He's just so spazzy, it worries me a little. I don't want to lose my hold on him and have him get hurt, or worse, someone else! He's a sweet dog, he's just... big and bouncy.

Thanks! (link)
My advice would be to keep the dog on a retractable lead. That way, if he is running too fast for you, you can retract. Otherwise, you can keep him on a long lead.

But generally, the key is to start off slow and see how he does. If he gets too crazy, take a rest. See how he is, and then start again.

Good luck :)

Last year, my mother took my grandmother from her apartment, and made her live with her in her.. I don't even know what to have called this house at the time. There was no heat, no running water, no anything. My grandmother ended up getting hypothermia, as well as third degree burns on her feet. As a result, my grandmother was no longer allowed to live with my mother, as the APS *adult protective services* told her. Recently, I found out that my mother and grandmother are again living together, albeit, not in the same house, but regardless. I honestly fear for my grandmother's well-being. I only know the town and state they live in, but NOT their address. Is there something I am capable of doing? Do I just call them and let them know what is going on, and that I fear for her safety, and give them the town and state, or what do I do? I am genuinely worried that my grandmother may end up being taken advantage of, and may not be getting the proper care that she needs for a woman her age. My mother is irresponsible, and gambles ALL the time. She has no job, and I feel that she is blowing my grandmother's money, and they may end up in the same situation that they were previously in. Do I call APS, and fill them in on what is going on, or what? I don't know what to do. Any suggestions, advice, help anything would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time. (link)
I would call APS. Like you say, it sounds like you are genuinely worried. Keep in mind that they may have removed this restriction on their living together - there is no way of fully telling.

But in short, yes, do call them. Give them as much information as possible, and hopefully they will be able to do something.

Good luck!

hi i am from India i am a Muslim girl my boy friend belong to schdual caste we love each other and want to marry but problem is our caste so we can do court marriage? is it fine? (link)
Yes, in the courts, it is fine.

India banned caste related discrimination many years ago. So a court marriage will be okay.

ERMAHGERD hi guys. So I just heard that the Rolling Stones are touring again and they'll be in New Jersey. Is this true??? Thanks (link)
You do realise that you can easily Google this?

According to the Rolling Stones website:

"...the rock icons will play to thousands of fans at London’s O2 Arena on November 25 and 29, and then across the ocean to perform at the Prudential Center, Newark, near New York, on December 13 and 15."

Here is the link, where you can book tickets:

I'm always tired and have been getting sleepy so alot earlier than i used to. I used to be able to stay out until 2 or 3 in the morning and now I can't really go past 10. What can I do to make myself less tired? I'm only 20. (link)
You should see a doctor if you worried. It may be diabetes, or something. But it worth getting checked out.

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