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How to tell if a guy like you
There's this guy that I really like and I'm not sure if he likes me back. He's friends with the guys that are mean to me and just like to tease me about stupid things. If I tell him how I feel than he'll probably tell all his friends and it would be awkward for me. I really like this guy and I really need help !
Thank you,
Jenna
I'm from the U.S.
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I think the best thing to ask yourself is this...Does this boy act like the other boys he hangs out with? If the answer is yes, than maybe you should avoid dating him to protect yourself from getting hurt by him.
If he doesn't act like the boys he hangs out with, you should try to find out how he talks about you with his friends. If he joins in with the bullying, then avoid him.
If he doesn't, you should try to develop a friendship with him first.
- Shannon
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Not knowing the ages of people involved, makes this harder. If middle school, the boys all may be crushing on you and like you but guys can do the weirdest things and actually treat the girl they like in odd ways. Their way of paying attention to her, showing attention is to either tease, play pranks or be really mean. So you can't really count on that. It really depends on what these guys are actually doing whether it is just harmless teasing, or something more serious that needs to be brought to attention of school officials. If they attempt to destroy anything of yours or touch you in any ways you don't like, or sexually, that is wrong. Bumping into you on purpose, touching you, poking at you, slapping your bottom, etc.... can be sexual harassment.
Destruction of your property examples: ruining the papers you just turned in to the teacher, ruining your clothing by purposely spilling things on it, cutting/slicing your backpack , etc.
Once a guy is older high school age, he tends to figure out how to act a little better and will actually talk to a girl and attempt to befriend her if he's interested in her or sometimes simply asks her out.
If you wait for the guys to figure it out and mature on their own, you'll be waiting longer than I figure you care to. Girls really need to take the first step as they are often a little bit more mature at the relationship stuff than guys at this age, though we all make stupid mistakes simply due to little previous experience and being naive.
One way to know if someone likes you, or at least is attracted to you, is to watch to see how often he looks at you. If a guy smiles lots at you or greets you when anywhere near by or passing you, thats a good sign. Also, when a girl or guy is interested in someone, they want to be near that person and will try to find any excuse to go sit or stand near them, really near...like close enough that if you reached out with your arm you could tap them on the shoulder. This is called one's personal space. If the person who is approached, likes you, they will stand firm or step closer to you. If you stand near them and they don't like you, they will step backwards away from you to re-create a certain amount of space between you. This is not a conscious thought but a subconscious action all humans take. So find an excuse to walk up and talk to him. Its easiest to start a conversation pertaining to where you find yourselves situation wise. Lets say a game is coming up. You could ask, "hey are you going to the game, I've never been. Are they any good?" Maybe he's wearing something new clothing wise that really looks good on him. Walk up and say, 'Hey I just want to tell you that that shirt looks really good on you. Its one of my favorite colors", or "I like that brand too." Don't make anything up just to have something to say. It has to really be your favorite color for example cus he will remember it if he's into you and remember to wear it again just for you. Guys are vain too, love getting compliments and love to be needed or of help to females. It makes them feel good about themselves, and what feels good is likely to be what they choose to go after.
If you'd rather not try the route of starting up conversation cus you're afraid of freezing up, another way to make a start is to be honest in a way and walk up and say, "Hey I would like to ask a favor of you. I am choosing you cus you seem the friendliest even though you tease me. I want to learn how to understand guys and be able to talk to them. Would you be willing to help me learn?" Whether he secretly likes you or not, its very likely he may not feel awkward at all to spend time with you under the guise of 'helping you". Its a good way to break the ice and both of you can teach each other how to understand the opposite sex a little better especially in conversation, and different thought processes.
Good luck Jenna.
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