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My almost boyfriend wants to have sex... Idk what to do!
Okay well first off, we aren't dating yet. We dated for a while and broke up. We worked out our differences and are almost 100% sure we are getting back together, just not yet because we wanna be friends for a little while. But we still kiss. We both have never done more than that. He wants to have sex but I don't feel like I am ready for that because of a few reasons. First off we are both 15, I am almost 16. Second, I don't want to risk getting pregnant, I have my whole life left to live! Third, we aren't dating yet, I don't want to have sex with someone unless I love them and they feel the same. I REALLY like him but idk if I love him yet. I feel like sometimes I do but I am 15 I don't know what love feels like. I feel like if I did end up having a kid, I would be able to take care of it but I don't want one now. Most of my and his friends have had sex and he feels like we are both missing out on it. But anyways my question is, what should I do? I don't think I am ready and I told him that but I feel bad because he really wants to. But that's also my choice to make, not his. Help!
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well firstly you are very young to have sex , but who am i to judge? Babe if he really likes you or anything he will respect your feelings and thoughts, plus you two aint even dating so whats his problem?! he needs to start re- evaluating his life and start thinking of the consequences having sex can bring, its not even the fact your not ready its that he aint respecting you and thats the most important thing that he treats you like a woman.
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I found the website, shown at the end, while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible adults. Sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than a partner would at your same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman most always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
My advice is to wait a few more years, let you and your body matures a bit more so that you can fully enjoy a sexual relationship. Don’t let pear pressure force you to do something you may not be fully ready for.
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tell him tht ur not ready and if he loves u he will respect tht decision and if he still insist hes nitworth it
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Hello! You ask whether or not you should have sex with your almost-boyfriend, but it seems to me that you already know the answer. You know that physically and emotionally you just are not ready to make that kind of commitment, and your boyfriend should respect that. This sounds like the "everybody's doing it" thing, and I know it seems like it, but NOT EVERYONE is doing it! And when you see those girls who are suppossedly "doing it" with babies at 16 years old, then you'll know you made the right decision. Good for you for knowing that you really can't understand the complexities of true love at 16 years old! :) You seem to understand more about yourself and what you're comfortable with than a lot of other girls. Believe me, you may feel like you're missing out on sex, but when you wait and have sex with the person you know deep down inside you really love, it's simply magical. So my advice to you: Don't feel badly for saying "No" to your boyfriend. If he really likes you and respects you, he will wait for you! I personally think that you already know this,:), you just didn't want to make your boyfriend mad at you. (which is completely understandable!) :D You're right, it IS your choice! Don't let him or anyone else walk all over you. You're too awesome for that!
Good Luck!
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Let me tell you this, you are very smart to realize all those consequences of having sex. At fifteen, you are not ready. DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM! You don't want to risk getting pregnant at such a young age, and the minute you open your legs, you need to be prepared for every possibility. Getting pregnant is a real possibility.
Remember that sex is never the answer. Sex is the question and yes is the answer. Your answer is no, and he should respect that. Wait until you are older and the right guy comes along, and you'll be so happy and proud of yourself that you waited. Having sex at fifteen is always something you regret later on in life.
I know that in today's world it's hard to resist, but remember that being a virgin shows that you're the one in control. That's something to be immensely proud of!
Just as a side note, the fact that he wants sex before you two are even back together shows that something is wrong with him. I wouldn't date such a guy. Where's his dignity?
Good luck :)
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Tell him your not ready and dont have sex until your married trust me :)
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