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why could i be holding myself back from dating
i went on a date with a guy i really like today. he was so sweet to me and kept putting his arms around me and holding me and stuff. he asked me what i would say if he asked me out, and like last time i responded by bein so sorry saying idk if im ready and i get so unsure. i kissed him today and he flipped out so happily and his face was so red i couldnt calm him down..
a reason may be hes never had a girlfriend, is younger, and i just got out of one of over a year relationship, over a month ago by my ex cheating on me but im over him.. i really like this guy but i have not a clue whats holding me back.. what could it be? also is it bad that i like him so much but i wont go out yet?
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Hi there,
Well the first thing that popped into my head when reading about your situation is maybe you're still hung up on what happened with your ex. I understand that you're over your ex and that's great. However, even though you're over him you might NOT be over what had actually happened (him cheating on you). In relation to the new guy, maybe you're a little worried that something similar might happen again. If not, maybe since your ex cheated on you it kind of left you feeling a little uncomfortable about getting into the whole dating scene.
As for your other question, it's not a bad thing that you don't want to start dating him yet. Ultimately it's your decision whether or not you're ready to date. It would be better for you to do this ONLY when you're ready for it. Otherwise, you might actually cause yourself some problems if you force yourself to date the guy.
It seems like you really like this guy and from what you've said about him, he seems like a good guy. So I hope everything works out. Don't stress, you'll be fine. :)
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Cheating is a very hurtful thing. You might of moved on physically but it is still there mentally. A month ago is not a long time, The situation is still somewhat of a fresh issue.
Healing takes time, Breakups take time and what takes even longer...is moving on. It's great that you are attempting to date again but ask yourself one question..Are you really ready? Cheating is not only extremely disrespectful but depending on the person who is being cheated on it's like a stab to the heart. Open wounds don't just heal over night, Sometimes they don't even heal in a month. It takes time, You can't spit your knee open get stitches and then take them out in 30 minutes because the pain is gone. You need to heal first, Why do you feel like something is holding you back? Maybe you aren't ready just yet.
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